ladygogo:


You dey mind am. Men like him are languishing in maximum security prisons abroad.

Fhemmmy:


And the woman not losing all she has worked for?

Fhemmmy:


Ha ha ha ha . . . Cos she challenged you, now she has turned into a man? Na wa oh, you will be surprised that you will go and come back to meet the girl in Nigeria that is not just a man, but would have turn into a monster for leaving her for so long . . . chose one.

SirShymexx:


Say no more, bredin. Errthing bless. Deya.

What are we going to do about these new generation of women? - they're a pain in the ar.se!

A nyggah gotta marry one day, but I ain't finna wife up a sket I'll end up killing, once I get to that breaking point where anything goes. These plonkers need to change the darn law asap for me. Else, I might go on baby mamas spree.

Kedam:
I hope u went through what I wrote. The truth is when a relationship doesn't work as one want after a lot of efforts divorce is the easiest and best way out. So when the settlement is made husbands loose much to their wife both financially and on child care . I know ur thought is about a woman loosing her marriage she has been keeping for long lol.

oshaosha2014:


Nna, gimme the monster in Nigeria abeggi.

Fhemmmy:


Please if this is done against you, check well, you MUST have done something wrong . . . Sir, i dont have to leave Nija to know what is real out there . . . I am a man and we most times wanna eat our cake and still have it, and it does not work that way, they will not inflate child support on you, it is based on your income and what your kids are used to, they wont tell you to pay alimony if you have no been flxing for the woman while together.... if the woman has always been working while together and now you are no more together, they will look at both incomes and conditions of things and support and all that.....
Please read more on family law.

Fhemmmy:

Most average joes are told to pay child support but most are dead beat dads, so pray you are not an average Joe, if you making good money and stuff happens which makes you to go your ways, no need to be chased after to support your child, that is your child . . . but i know you are as a responsible man, so i am not referring to you as one . . . But it is all good.

pickabeau1:



Thank you for a post of reason
A lot of people move on but some snap both male or female

The point is actually about wilfully pushing the partner to snap

Fhemmmy:


Please if this is done against you, check well, you MUST have done something wrong . . . Sir, i dont have to leave Nija to know what is real out there . . . I am a man and we most times wanna eat our cake and still have it, and it does not work that way, they will not inflate child support on you, it is based on your income and what your kids are used to, they wont tell you to pay alimony if you have no been flxing for the woman while together.... if the woman has always been working while together and now you are no more together, they will look at both incomes and conditions of things and support and all that.....
Please read more on family law.

SirShymexx:


Shut ya mouth about Yorubas. You mean the same Yoruba women who are like the most promiscuous on the streets of London - especially with the bums they run after at those useless owambe parties all over London Town? - GTFOH. Freaking married women fvcking around like skets with no shame.

It's a Nigerian thing. And I'm super Yoruba.

Fhemmmy:


No one lost anything, the court only help you guys to settle the property and money to be fair to both parties, women MOST times lose out more when a divorce happens . . . .

damiso:


When there is no love in the first place why won't there be 'pushing to snap' and 'snapping'..I know people say there is a thin line between love and hate but I honestly can't get the kind 'love' that even when it goes south will actively seek to destroy or kill the other party.

I agree that some women overdo the whole 'women have rights in the west' thing but in a way I also think it serves some of our brothers who think 'all these abroad born girls are not submissive' and then go to import a wife without actually knowing her right abit (and I am saying this as a partially imported wife ).

Hubby knows someone who actually went to naija to marry (MARRY not see MARRY) someone he had never met all cos he believed 'he can't marry someone that will be proving rights and arguing with him'..like seriously .Except you marry w mannequin how on earth do you expect to live with another human being and never argue or have divergent opinions.

I don't think some people realise that sometimes a persons character is a culmination of orientation, values,life experiences etc and not necessarily location or where you live. Some of the most well mannered calm and easygoing women I know were born or raised in the west from relatively well to do families.


All these saviour ' I saved her from poverty and brought her to america' complex does not seem to be worth the hassle of 'not marrying all these ones that will be proving right'

Fhemmmy:


Not true, all depends on who makes more money . . as of May 27, 2014 – When a female celebrity making big money paid out spousal support, it made headlines: Jennifer Lopez, Jane Fonda, Janet Jackson, Jessica Simpson. Now the trend is trickling down . . . so it is case by case.....By the way, if you know you cant handle a woman coming here and now changed, marry the one you see here . . . easy and no need for wahala

Febup:
Naija men, Naija men, Naija men, in Europe and America, how many time have I called you now. If your wife makes you feel like committing *****, don't let any pastor deceive you, that God does not like divorce. Get out of that house fast and God will give more than what that wicked, ungrateful woman has stolen from you.

1 Corinthians 7:15
NET Bible
But if the unbeliever wants a divorce, let it take place. In these circumstances the brother or sister is not bound. God has called you in peace.

coogar:


that doesn't mean i cannot point out your gross stüpidity. if you want to talk to yourself, there are various sanatoriums in your city.

koyyess:
If the foreign life is too hard to experience, what's the point of remaining there?

Fhemmmy:


I am sure a lot of them are better of single than being seeing as an object . . . when a man could say only compensation is a huge 3rd leg when a woman is making more, that bothers and scares me . . . NOTHING wrong in wife making more than the hubby, as long as they could work together, it is the pride of the man that is the issue not the woman making more

coogar:


and in some cases where the man isn't even the biological father of the child, should the courts force him to pay as we have seen in many cases in the west??

SirShymexx:


Say no more, bredin. Errthing bless. Deya.

What are we going to do about these new generation of women? - they're a pain in the ar.se!

A nyggah gotta marry one day, but I ain't finna wife up a sket I'll end up killing, once I get to that breaking point where anything goes. These plonkers need to change the darn law asap for me. Else, I might go on baby mamas spree.

SirShymexx:


Sir, it's not as simplistic as that, especially with restraining order. For example: with the police, if you were to get in a normal argument with ya spouse - whoever calls first gets the priority, and they'll always go with the first complainant - albeit the same sees women as more vulnerable compared to men. So, basically, if it's just an argument, without you touching the woman - and she reported it before you with a web of lies. That's enough in most cases to get a restraining order against. Also, you know due male ego, it's very rare to see men report inconsequential things.

I honestly don't think it's a case of eating ya cake and having it - it's an open secret that the justice system is fundamentally flawed, and more favourable to women out here. It's synonymous to rich vs. poor. Women have more rights, and you've to salute what they've achieved thus far with excessive blackmail. However, men aren't getting a fair shake. Do you even know how many men have ended up with acute depression after going through divorce battles and custody issues? The back-drop of that is the reason why there are so many bitter men out there today. Also, they manipulate child support all the time, and that's easy to do since they have more access to free legal help than men.

soulglo:



You are a lucky woman. I would have slapped the madness out of your head for daring to interfere in what has absolutely nothing to do with you. Tear her to shreds lol. You must have sized her up and thought she would put up with your crap. If she's as crazy as you want to paint her she would have been the one to tear your nosey ass to shreds for interfering in her marriage. If anyone needs yo check her, it should be her husband. Concentrate on your own husband and stay out of people's marriages. I'm seriously not kidding. I would have kicked you in the head for even pulling me aside and trying to talk to me about my husband. You have lost your mind

coogar:


shymexx isn't fibbing.
the family court favours women more than men. it's not even disputable - i can churn out many links stating this. read this one.....


The percentage of lone parent households that are mother-headed in the UK is 91% [General Household Survey]. There are some 40,000 disputed custody cases every year which are decided by family court judges.

These judges will listen to recommendations from court welfare officers who visit the family and write 35,000 reports every year. The welfare officers work in the probation service which deals with mostly male criminals, this makes it difficult to see fathers in a positive light. The result is that family courts award mothers sole custody in 71% of cases and fathers sole custody in 7% of all cases, joint custody is awarded in the remaining 21% of cases.

Many fathers report giving up an expensive custody fight for their children after advice from lawyers who say they can't win. It is very common for mothers during custody battles to receive state funded legal aid. A custody battle is therefore a very unequal war of attrition.

Many fathers report that efforts to have contact with their children are blocked by mothers, and the courts will not enforce the right of children to have contact with their fathers.




and in some cases where the man isn't even the biological father of the child, should the courts force him to pay as we have seen in many cases in the west??

coogar:


what if the believer wants a divorce? is there a passage in the bible that caters for us born again brothers?

Fhemmmy:


No one lost anything, the court only help you guys to settle the property and money to be fair to both parties, women MOST times lose out more when a divorce happens . . . .

Fhemmmy:


Just cos he is not the biological father does not mean he is not the father...... you could be step father, na pikin we talking about here, nothing wrong with being there for them or be a father t them.

tpiah11:


return ke?

not in the dictionary.

Fhemmmy:


Just cos he is not the biological father does not mean he is not the father...... you could be step father, na pikin we talking about here, nothing wrong with being there for them or be a father t them.