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Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by tpiah11: 10:32pm On Feb 03, 2015
pickabeau1:
Hmmm..


men and irrigation factor

Deep......


Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Fhemmmy: 10:32pm On Feb 03, 2015
coogar:


and that would explain why 70% of all divorces are initiated by women, isn't it? why do they embark on a process that doesn't favour them like you put it?

fhemmmy, stop reaching.....

So cos it doesnt favor them, they should put up with abuse and allow their kids to see that on a daily basis? only for the kids to now think it is normal for MOM to slave for papa?

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Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by SirShymexx: 10:33pm On Feb 03, 2015
sukkot:
mi breda, you hafi go erritrea or ethiopia to marry. em women over there know how to act. they measure people by dignity on that side of the continent and not by the weight of ya pocket. and you in london so i know you see so many somalians ethiopians erritreanns grin

Bredrin, a lot of these are decepticons beneath the angelic faces, and it cuts across all races. They have mastered the art of pretending, till you get in too deep, put a ring on it, and can't fall back - before they start showing their true colours. Loyalty doesn't exist in their dictionary - it's about being opportunists. Like my Uncle always tell me: "women always love you cos you've something they can benefit from, once that thing goes, you're on ya own - so always remain steadfast for all eventualities." Coupled with manipulative friends.

However, I hate to say this, but I'd say based on ratio, white women still remain the most loyal in terms of family structure. The horn mofos are nuts as well. In Africa, I'll probably say Ghanaians are the most loyal. And Caribs are alright to an extent as well.
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by manny4life(m): 10:35pm On Feb 03, 2015
bukatyne:


Walk away with What?

Exactly!

Walk away with everything you brought before and after marriage... I will do the same.

If we bought a house together, then the sale proceed should be split. If we bought cars together, same should apply.
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Fhemmmy: 10:36pm On Feb 03, 2015
sukkot:
[b] brah, you trying too hard to be on the ladies side. it is a honorable thing to do and i am sure a few of the ladies will PM you their phone numbers lmao. however you are not being truthful with yourself. listen, nigerian women have egos the size of dangotes bank account. HUGE EGOS. see a nigerian woman is like a see-saw, you are either rich and paying for her or she is rich and dont want you around. no inbetweens . thats just how it goes. nigerian women have this thing called ' IRRITATION FACTOR' and one of the things that trigger that factor is a broke man or a man who earns less than them. these women are easily irritated. heck have you seen what they do to their housegirls and houseboys ? they treat their housegirls and houseboys like that because they are irritated that such a lowly despicable poor creature is in their presence. lmao. naija women hate people who they perceive as lowly or lower than them. now you can peep game and try to adjust or you can be stubborn and go marry some naija woman who earns more than you. next week we would be reading about how you got so angry you strangled her to death after you got tired of her disrespecting you. this will be frontpage topic next week[/b] grin

Lol . . . I am not trying to be on the ladies' side . . . I am just saying it as it is, my brother.
MEN hates poverty with a passion too,. . . like someone mentioned, how come most of the men that are involved in this case married nurses and doctors, that tells you that, they want a free meal ticket too . . .
There is nothing wrong if a woman is irritated by poverty, cos we all do have phobia for poverty

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Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by manny4life(m): 10:37pm On Feb 03, 2015
babygirlfl:


These men specifically marry nurses/doctors/pharmacists. What does it tell you? They want a working wife and not a house wife.

No, the men did not marry them before they were nurses, it was after they became "career women" that trouble started. Most were married from Nigeria. Besides, it's majorly nurses... You barely hear about pharmacists let alone doctors.
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by manny4life(m): 10:38pm On Feb 03, 2015
Fhemmmy:


Man and woman are greedy, as long as you are human, you are greedy only the level are different tongue tongue tongue

Well, the greed in women should be at normal level to where you honor your husband and not trying to compete with him. If a woman comes to the U.S. and takes her family as no.1, she has no business working 12hrs/day just to make $500
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Idowuogbo(f): 10:38pm On Feb 03, 2015
wingman:






Aisha2
you are poorly bred. You didnt need to insult to pass ur point across.
She b confirm agbero!!! Blawwdy block head!

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Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Fhemmmy: 10:38pm On Feb 03, 2015
Kedam:
enlighten me more using Nigerians in usa as an example

I know a dude that was single, went back to Nigeria married a lady, they came back to USA and they are happy, they still have not much, God forbids things goes wrong, and the court told the guy to carry the couch while the woman carry the computer and the kids, who lost? Jokes apart, my guy, it is not about loss, if the couple so much in love, they could while apart work at their relationship and be happy and be back together . . tongue tongue tongue
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by coogar: 10:39pm On Feb 03, 2015
Fhemmmy:


So cos it doesnt favor them, they should put up with abuse and allow their kids to see that on a daily basis? only for the kids to now thing it is normal for MOM to slave for papa?

and what exactly happens to children of divorce if i may ask? do you even bother to check at all?

children of divorce are nine times more likely to commit a crime than those brought up in standard families.

as you can see, divorce isn't good for the kids.
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by manny4life(m): 10:39pm On Feb 03, 2015
Fhemmmy:


Gbam! but you forgot to add that the man should love her wife regardless of what she is as well . . . Yippeeee, i am loving this. tongue tongue tongue

There is nothing wrong in that as well, my point is that this unhealthy competition is common to women. undecided
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Fhemmmy: 10:39pm On Feb 03, 2015
coogar:


he could be the step father? where's the real father? a woman committed an act of paternity fraud. husband discovers he's not the real father and went to court with his facts - and the family court insists he must pay, that's fair to you?

how come women are never forced to pay for a child that isn't theirs?

fhemmmy, i reiterate.....stop reaching. grin


Show me one case where there was paternity fraud and the court proves it and yet they made that man's life a living hell, show me one . . .
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Idowuogbo(f): 10:40pm On Feb 03, 2015
edwife:
@Mutter i have to say this,you have won my respect over again,for you to have handled the attack with grace shows how mature and a lady you are.
Gbam! smiley

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Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by manny4life(m): 10:41pm On Feb 03, 2015
CFCfan:

grin cheesy
But it's very serious sha. Divorce is waay too messy.

It is too messy so why should women be involved with such anyway?
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Fhemmmy: 10:41pm On Feb 03, 2015
pickabeau1:


And pay Child support for another man's child that you and the cheating wide know it's not yours?

Come on bro...

Na wa oh, so you marry a woman that already had a child before and things no work out, all of a sudden the child that was calling you Daddy, that knew and see you as role model is to the dogs? you really wanna make me cry with such comment, you could be as bitter as you wanna be with the mother, but the child is ONLY a child and should be treated as one..... Nigeria will change when we start to see a woman with a child as human and not a second class citizen
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by raumdeuter: 10:42pm On Feb 03, 2015
Fhemmmy:


If you wife wanna leave and asking for NOTHING, i will ask you to quick beg her to take call . . cos a hen's will make noise but what the dove would do is within the dove.


Beg say wetin? When I take care of the kids we have together and she too has her own income.

I wont marry a leech in the first place. Or a woman with zero earning potential who sees marriage as a break from poverty
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Fhemmmy: 10:43pm On Feb 03, 2015
manny4life:


Well, the greed in women should be at normal level to where you honor your husband and not trying to compete with him. If a woman comes to the U.S. and takes her family as no.1, she has no business working 12hrs/day just to make $500

I thot we have agreed on this that as long as the man could take care of all the money needs and give her allowance, no prob

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Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by babygirlfl: 10:44pm On Feb 03, 2015
manny4life:


No, the men did not marry them before they were nurses, it was after they became "career women" that trouble started. Most were married from Nigeria. Besides, it's majorly nurses... You barely hear about pharmacists let alone doctors.

Most of these women were nurses before they married them and the few that were not went to study nursing. I think the trouble is as a result of men who hold on to old culture that is not fair to women.

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Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Fhemmmy: 10:44pm On Feb 03, 2015
coogar:


and what exactly happens to children of divorce if i may ask? do you even bother to check at all?

children of divorce are nine times more likely to commit a crime than those brought up in standard families.

as you can see, divorce isn't good for the kids.


And children in a home that is not stable are 9 in 10 likely to kill their spouse as well, chairman, i am not a supporter of divorce but sometimes, it is the only choice once violence is involved.
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by sukkot: 10:44pm On Feb 03, 2015
SirShymexx:


Bredrin, a lot of these are decepticons beneath the angelic faces, and it cuts across all races. They have mastered the art of pretending, till you get in too deep, put a ring on it, and can't fall back - before they start showing their true colours. Loyalty doesn't exist in their dictionary - it's about being opportunists. Like my Uncle always tell me: "women always love you cos you've something they can benefit from, once that thing goes, you're on ya own - so always remain steadfast for all eventualities." Coupled with manipulative friends.

However, I hate to say this, but I'd say based on ratio, white women still remain the most loyal in terms of family structure. The horn mofos are nuts as well. In Africa, I'll probably say Ghanaians are the most loyal. And Caribs are alright to an extent as well.
well you do know that marriage is not a necessity in life right ? this is 2015, you shouldnt let anyone pressure you into marriage. truth be told you are better off marrying when you are in your fifties and the woman is in her fifties. at that age women dont have anything to prove. they are looking for genuine companions. thats when you can truly enjoy a woman. when she is over 50. below 50 ? forget it amigos lmao. but yeah i know you may want children ? you can adopt right ? lmao

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Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by coogar: 10:45pm On Feb 03, 2015
Fhemmmy:

Show me one case where there was paternity fraud and the court proves it and yet they made that man's life a living hell, show me one . . .

there are plenty of them.....
have you been following this topic from the start? where do you want them? usa or canada?

tanner pruitt is a victim of a flawed system.

http://www.nytimes.com/2009/11/22/magazine/22Paternity-t.html?pagewanted=all

Fhemmmy:

And children in a home that is not stable are 9 in 10 likely to kill their spouse as well, chairman, i am not a supporter of divorce but sometimes, it is the only choice once violence is involved.

there's no such statistic anywhere. children from stable homes cope quite well. obesity, suicide, child abuse, health problems, etc are common issues with children of divorce. they suffer it more than kids living with both parents.
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Fhemmmy: 10:45pm On Feb 03, 2015
manny4life:


There is nothing wrong in that as well, my point is that this unhealthy competition is common to women. undecided

Human competes and men are one too . . . we all do, that is why we are still on this thread, cos you wont agree and neither would i . . . and we are both men . . . . competition is normal, but we have to make it healthy, that is ALL
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by SirShymexx: 10:45pm On Feb 03, 2015
Fhemmmy:


Chairman, do you know that not only abuse are physical?
You have a misunderstanding with your wife and cos of the heat in argument, one person must leave the house, you as a man without being told to leave the house that DAY, would you allow your wife to leave the house and you will be able to sleep comfortably that night without bad dreams, be real

Sir, I know, but it's rare to see a normal guy initiate verbal abuse - maybe emasculated and emotional guys do. However, at the end of the day, whoever makes the first call gets the automatic right. And that's enough to get restraining order. You know how calculative and fraudulent women are when it comes to achieving a desire goal...you'll fall into that trap without knowing it.

I've got a couple of experiences as well. I'm not even married - I just locked off on my ex on time cos she was pissing me off. This girl drove all the way to my house, and cos it was late, I had to open the door to let her in. Boom, she started screaming - and I left her in the living room, went upstairs to my room. She just kept banging the door, and before I knew what was going on, the police were outside. True story. However, the PC that came was a decent chap, who had similar experiences in the past. And she didn't even press any charges when they came over, she just lied to them that I locked her in the house. grin
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by oshaosha2014(m): 10:46pm On Feb 03, 2015
Timbuktou:
Please stick to facts. The only man that would marry a younger woman in Nigeria and kick out his old wife is one who has been in the shoes of the man in this story because the environment enables it. No Nigerian man will kick out a respectful bread-winning wife. Let's not lose forthrightness in a bid to score points.

If a Nigerian has been disrespected and/or feel short changed with his hag of a wife, he within his rights to get her replaced. If she wants to keep her home, she would do well rto be the submissive temperate wife.

I repeat: NO NIGERIAN MAN WILL KICK OUT A RESPECTFUL BREAD-WINNING WIFE. I have never seen that happen.
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Fhemmmy: 10:47pm On Feb 03, 2015
raumdeuter:


Beg say wetin? When I take care of the kids we have together and she too has her own income.

I wont marry a leech in the first place. Or a woman with zero earning potential who sees marriage as a break from poverty

A leech, she has kids for you, took care of you and all that, and now she is a leech . . . check the meaning of a leech Pal, and then, we could talk about it again, later

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Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Fhemmmy: 10:48pm On Feb 03, 2015
coogar:


there are plenty of them.....
have you been following this topic from the start? where do you want them? usa or canada?

tanner pruitt is a victim of a flawed system.




there's no such statistic anywhere. children from stable homes cope quite well. obesity, suicide, child abuse, health problems, etc are common issues with children of divorce. they suffer it more than kids living with both parents.

I will read when less busy . . .
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Kedam(m): 10:49pm On Feb 03, 2015
Fhemmmy:


I know a dude that was single, went back to Nigeria married a lady, they came back to USA and they are happy, they still have not much, God forbids things goes wrong, and the court told the guy to carry the couch while the woman carry the computer and the kids, who lost? Jokes apart, my guy, it is not about loss, if the couple so much in love, they could while apart work at their relationship and be happy and be back together . . tongue tongue tongue
lol see wetin u use answer me. Just an assumption . God dey oooo
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by raumdeuter: 10:49pm On Feb 03, 2015
Fhemmmy:


A leech, she has kids for you, took care of you and all that, and now she is a leech . . . check the meaning of a leech Pal, and then, we could talk about it again, later

A leech is who wants to make a living where they didnt work, Having a child is not a source of income. Only the child deserves to be taken care of

In the same token maybe women should be paying men who impregnate them too

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Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Fhemmmy: 10:50pm On Feb 03, 2015
SirShymexx:


Sir, I know, but it's rare to see a normal guy initiate verbal abuse - maybe emasculated and emotional guys do. However, at the end of the day, whoever makes the first call gets the automatic right. And that's enough to get restraining order. You know how calculative and fraudulent women are when it comes to achieving a desire goal...you'll fall into that trap without knowing it.

I've got a couple of experiences as well. I'm not even married - I just locked off on my ex on time cos she was pissing me off. This girl drove all the way to my house, and cos it was late, I had to open the door to let her in. Boom, she started screaming - and I left her in the living room, went upstairs to my room. She just kept banging the door, and before I knew what was going on, the police were outside. True story. However, the PC that came was a decent chap, who had similar experiences in the past. And she didn't even press any charges when they came over, she just lied to them that I locked her in the house. grin

No need for us to get into that anymore, if you have a wife and there is a problem and one has to leave the house that day for peace to reign, and you will sit in the house to see your wife pack a bag and leave the house for the night and you able to sleep well, then, bro, you are not a husband but a co-tenant with such woman . . . you ought to protect her as a wife and when she is HOT, you cool her down, if MOST men could get off their high horse and reason with their wife, so many wahala could be averted.

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Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by coogar: 10:51pm On Feb 03, 2015
Fhemmmy:


I will read when less busy . . .

BWAHAHAHAHA - there were 2 different cases in that article of defrauded fathers forced to pay for a child that isn't theirs.

yea right, the system isn't flawed! cheesy

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Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by ladygogo: 10:52pm On Feb 03, 2015
pickabeau1:
Ladygogo

So is money the reason why a woman should choose a mate since you don't see a correlation between a woman in Mobil and a care worker

Its not about the dollars signs but about being on the same wave length. I dont see money here.
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Fhemmmy: 10:52pm On Feb 03, 2015
raumdeuter:


A leech is who wants to make a living where they didnt work, Having a child is not a source of income. Only the child deserves to be taken care of

In the same token maybe women should be paying men who impregnate them too

She married you.
Cooks for you
Warm your bed
Made your house
Make your house be a home
Yet, she has not worked?
Bro, i hail you oh

You cant never pay a woman her true worth, never, pay her for carrying your child in her womb for 9 months and disfiguring her own cute body to make YOU a father, pay her for those sleepless nights that she is in pain in that labor room, pay her for those days she burns herself to cook your favorite meal and tell you if you have what it takes to pay her. . . . We as MEN dont have what it takes to pay them, so let us show them love and appreciate them.

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