edwife:
@Mutter i have to say this,you have won my respect over again,for you to have handled the attack with grace shows how mature and a lady you are.

Fhemmmy:


This man, leave this argument. ... most of the ladies wants kids cos she knows without one, you might kick hernout anyways or with one when you decides to leave, she has a friend.... lol, all I am telling you is that value of a woman cant be overemphasized.

raumdeuter:


So most women wants kids and yet want to be paid because they have kids they desired

Not only a woman has value, every human has value and to seek to monetize these value shows another motive entirely

raumdeuter:


So most women wants kids and yet want to be paid because they have kids they desired

Not only a woman has value, every human has value and to seek to monetize these value shows another motive entirely

soulglo:



So how did a cop get his wealth? Wealthy cop. That's funny. Can we just tell these stories the way they happen. Wealth cop rotflmao. Tell us that the woman was cheating, that she was abusive and lied in court and got away with it. That I might even believe but when you start off by saying wealthy cop I just SMH at the desperate measures people go to just to believe that something is the way it's not

coogar:


i am starting to think fhemmmy's cameo appearance here tonight is to advertise his chain of exotic cars.

surely, he can't be serious.

cococandy:
the part where the woman spent sleepless nights working shifts and coming home to the unkempt house to begin a different shift as the house maid is usually conveniently forgotten.
Even the taxi drivers will claim that half their wealth was taken by the same woman who probably makes 4times what he makes.
Yet it was all his wealth that was shared in the divorce. The woman didn't contribute to it.

Fhemmmy:


I am more than serious, when you're martied with daughters, you willl think twice. ...

sukkot:
[b]well first of all, we all do not have a phobia for poverty. i dont have a phobia for poverty. so long as i have a roof and some clothes and food, i am cool. with regards to those men who killed their wife ? well truth be told these men are mentally unbalanced. if it wasnt their wives, they would have killed someone else. i have encountered nigerian men like these. they are mentally unstable. the mental instability is usually caused by overt racism. many of our people are all over the mental institutions in england. they have gone crazy. stark raving lunatics. they couldnt handle the racism and being a second class inferior citizen. so many give up and end up institutionalized. i know many people like this. i suspect in the case of these men, they didnt want to give up. they decided to play their last trump card. suffer indignity but work hard and then make enough to bring a nurse from nigeria so she can come to america and earn good money and i can rest and retire from society where i am classed as inferior. so this is their last trump card. and they play that hand succesfully and end up bringing the girl over. keep in mind these men are mentally unstable. then the girl turns on them when she starts making that cheddar. then the man just finally loses it and kills em. thats my psychoanalysis on the whole issue. his last trump card end up being a dud so he lost it and had nothing to live for. [/b]

cococandy:

If that's the case why then must the men insist the women do their duties for them which is to provide for the family?

He married her for her wifely roles, what did she marry him for? To be a house ornament? Since he won't do his part and won't help wifey with her part.

Clear case of wanting to eat his cake and have enough to save and sell.

Fhemmmy:


Man or woman, no one like to be ignored. ... u seems to know much about what they dont like, so why not practice them and you will be in your wife's good book

coogar:


i would teach my daughters to be self-reliant. they would not take anything that does not belong to them.

donpeey22:
Lorrie, would you like to be a full-time housewife? I asked this question because most of you ladies when asked would claim you don't want to housewives, only to turn around and make statements like yours above.
This kind of gets me confused as to what ladies really want.

PS: I won't have a problem with the idea of my woman being a housewife while I make all the money but she should be happy with that and not complain.

sukkot:
[b]old heads ? lmao. nigga i aint old. well i have lived with a coupla women as if married. so technically i have been married without getting married. co-habitation. yeah naija parents. lucky for me i am the last born so all that expectation was dead on arrival when it got to me. plus my parents broke up when it got to me so my home became unconventional. unconventional home = no expectations. its like if it didnt work for both of yall why are you asking me to do it kinda scenario. but the point is that to enter marriage you need a wholesome mindset and zero expectations. thats the only way it will work. you cant go into a marriage expecting se--x cuz it will never work. you cant go into it expecting someone to complete you. you need to already be complete before you get into it. it is a very hard institution and you both have to be independent types. people with dependency issues will have a problem. i guess all am trying to say is that you got the right idea when you said someone with the same basic outlook[/b]

Fhemmmy:


I am sure the wealth he is talking about is a house that is yet to be paid off and maybe couple of cars that are still on finance....

SirShymexx:


Sir, but can you ever please a woman?

A lot of folks are still looking for the formula to solve the women Fermat's Last Theorem, and how to make them happy. If you can help, that will be a great achievement.

cococandy:
the part where the woman spent sleepless nights working shifts and coming home to the unkempt house to begin a different shift as the house maid is usually conveniently forgotten.
Even the taxi drivers will claim that half their wealth was taken by the same woman who probably makes 4times what he makes.
Yet it was all his wealth that was shared in the divorce. The woman didn't contribute to it.

Fhemmmy:


They are married to the man and invest their life into that relayionship, so they are entitled to all that was made while in that relationship.

mutter:


The men married them because when before they got out they acted all humble or probably even where, but then their eyes opened.
I see some when they come newly "sir, daddy" and after a few months, "useless man".

How does a man become the kind of man that commands respect? Every human being commands respect. In accordance with our tradition every man commands respect from every woman and men have a different status in society. Did the woman not take a vow to submit to him or better for worse?
When you do the wine carrying why do you go down on your knees? Is that just a show, a body movement. It is a promise to the man made before your family and his that you would submit to the man and go down for him. The man does not have to command his respect it is your duty as his wife.

Divorcing them would mean loosing everything, even custody of the kid`s. That is how it functions. The man would loose everything he built up. He not only looses it but looses it to someone he built up who turned around to destroy him.

coogar:


what did they invest?
if the man got his house before she married him & she never contributed one cent to the mortgage repayment then she's got no right to remain in his house if she wants a divorce.

you don't want him then she should leave his properties alone.

Fhemmmy:


She invested time, emotion, so much of her.

coogar:


so why walk away from her investment? who is pushing her to walk?

You as the man pushed her out with your pride and abuse

soulglo:



It's rare to find a Nigerian woman especially those fresh from nigeria who want to sit and home. The man would have to be pretty rich for that to happen and when I say rich I don't mean lawyer rich or medical doctor rich either.

Fhemmmy:


The question should b, can you satisfy human, man or woman?

aisha2:
What happens here is what happens abroad.

Woman works with man to build a life, marries him poor, invests her money her youth her energy. Man hits it big, she suddenly isn't good enough, he throws her out and marries younger lover, she has nothing, old and tired she watches a younger woman enjoy the fruits of her labor and dies in misery and heart break.

Abroad, man hustles for years, makes enough money goes home picks a young " submissive" bride. They go abroad she sees the system goes crazy, kicks him out she doesn't need him, she earns a lot more, gets younger man, he is out in the cold, everything he works for gone with the wind, he is starting all over at 60 while pne young man is enjoying all he worked for all his life.

Its the same situation only difference is we hardly see headlines of " increase in rates of wives murdering their husband's " down here while the second one has loads of reports with people applauding and defending it

SirShymexx:


Hence I asked the question cos human wants are insatiable.

However, what makes women an exception is that: majority of them have this sense of entitlement with the belief that they can do no longer. And cos you're the man, ya existence has to be about pleasing them and catering to them. But on the flip side, they also want equality and being being the "man." So, no matter how you look at it, you can't win no matter what you do, and the best you can do is just play ya part and do what's best for you.

Men aren't perfect - but women also need to start taking responsibilities for their own failures, and stop being all over the place.

Fhemmmy:


I am more than serious, when you're married with daughters, you willl think twice. ...

Moana:
i find it funny how many clueless people always take out the "western laws favour women" card to justify everything. You get a man who does not even know how to change a diaper, cook and pack a lunch box for a child, screaming give me custody of my children during divorce and you wonder to yourself what in the hell he wants to do with those kids when he cannot even cater for their basic needs.

Let it be his mother or sister that dies the same way and see if he they will get up and applaud a job well done.

SirShymexx:


Hence I asked the question cos human wants are insatiable.

However, what makes women an exception is that: majority of them have this sense of entitlement with the belief that they can do no longer. And cos you're the man, ya existence has to be about pleasing them and catering to them. But on the flip side, they also want equality and being being the "man." So, no matter how you look at it, you can't win no matter what you do, and the best you can do is just play ya part and do what's best for you.

Men aren't perfect - but women also need to start taking responsibilities for their own failures, and stop being all over the place.

Fhemmmy:


And a msn residing in 2bd apartment or still owing 70% on his mortgage and cars not paid off, yet saying he lost everything to the woman

raumdeuter:


First lesson I teach both sons and daughters is don't seek to take another mans possession for yourself, that's being a thief.

From toys to money don't take what is not yours, Anything you want, work for it that's why I am sending you to school