mutter:
When you have nothing to live for, then you have everything to die for!

The fact that it keeps happening shows that the men are not all suddenly going mad.

A man that had worked so hard brought his much younger wife here to Germany, when they come to church the wife was so rude to the man, perhaps because she was better educated. I quickly grabbed hold of her and drew her aside. I warned her that her husband was respected in this community and if she ever tried it again where I was I would shred her to bits. Foolish girl!

These greedy bitches accept a man they do not love and are ashamed of just to get out of Nigeria and then they want to ruin the man.
Do you know that these men have worked so hard for so many years! Received all kinds of insults from society and then you bring this young girl and she gives you the final insult to let you know you are = 0.
How many of them come here with nothing and soon the man is out of his own home on the streets and having to pay maintenance.
When the study in America, they are able to do so because the man brought them there.
Nursing is not even a good paying job, like any menial job you can gather money if you work enough hours. While they are at work they cannot perform as wife`s so of what use is the work if it does not benefit the family?

No matter how educated or how much money they have a woman must humble herself and treat her husband with the utmost respect in all situations. That is not just good for the man but also for the children. The children are raised in an environment where the learn respect and manners.
That is what you get when a man that has struggled for years gets dragged into the mud in his own home. A man that has struggled and faced discrimination and abuse outside. Treat him like a king at home so that he can feel like the man he is, that will give him the strength to keep struggling.
Instead these women get rude, function like they don`t have a family, neglect the welfare of their husbands and homes and go running after the dollars.

Fhemmmy:


Teach them too to know more about what is happening around them and for the boy to have a heart and don't see woman as a object

raumdeuter:


Yes he has paid all his life savings into the 30% of the house and the payment he has been making on the car. He lost everything he doesnt have to be Dangote to lose everything

If all he has is $1,000 and he loses it to his greedy wife then he lost everything

Moana:
lets apply common sense he still owes 70% so there is no way he will lose it to the greedy woman because the same "greedy woman" will have to pay for the missing 70% otherwise the bank reposseses the house.

The point you made hardly makes sense im sorry to say

coogar:


do i need to subtitle my last reply to you or something? you don't have to talk to me to call out your idiöcy - my freedom of speech guarantees that.

when they say women are their own worst enemies, you scream like a rhesus monkey. you are using another woman's past ugly ordeals against her in public just to make yourself feel cool?

how could you stoop so low?

raumdeuter:


Sorry you are the one who isnt applying common sense here

WHat happens to the initial 30% he has paid if the woman fails to pay the mortgage and the house is lost?

Moana:
THE BANK TAKES BACK THE HOUSE IF THE MORTAGAGE ISNT PAID OFF!!! neither the wife or the husband wins. THE BANK GETS IT ALL. Like i said apply common sense

Moana:
Did the 30% not cover the time he was staying in that house? so why act as if he was staying under a bridge the whole time he paid for the 30% for the woman and the children to enjoy the house by themselves?

raumdeuter:


If she continues to pay the mortgage, The wife gets a 100k property for a discounted price of 70k.

If she fails to pay the mortgage, she has nothing to lose but the man loses his initial 30k investment in the house

Thats the problem with Mgbekes like you, If an analogy isnt made with brazilian hair you wont understand

edwife:
@Mutter i have to say this,you have won my respect over again,for you to have handled the attack with grace shows how mature and a lady you are.

Moana:
there is something called unjustified enrichment, he can always claim for what he was imporverished by. My brazilian hair wearing self still has more common sense than you do!

Sophyrocks:


Have women here not gone through worse in Nigeria? Did these women go on shooting spree like their male counterparts abroad? Please you are clearly justifying murder by constantly pointing at the women. I wonder what the views here would be if it were women doing the killing. No matter what a woman does to you, no matter how acidic her mouth is to you, you dnt commit MURDER madam!! You dnt!! stop with the justification!!

raumdeuter:


Claim from where? Where can he claim from? The same court who took his partly paid for property and gave it to another person?

Stick to watching Osuofia and Patience Ozokwor

raumdeuter:


The 30k was part payment for owning the asset, which he would end up losing the entire 30k if the house is foreclosed

By the time he was kicked out, if he had sold the house, he would have 30k in his own bank account rather the greedy wife took it

mutter:
I believe and have faith that God approved my divorce.
I prayed very long about it and God knows I endured. To avoid divorce I found myself even praying for God to take his life and set me free Then I would quickly pray to God to forgive me for even thinking such a thing. But I know now it was wrong to have believed that the marriage would work out. It only got worse. That is why I cannot honestly say that I believe that one must stay in a marriage at all cost. What did my divorce add to me? It gave me back my life, my sanity,
I really hope and pray that Nigeria would one day be so developed that women do not have to be trapped in marriages for financial or other reasons when it becomes unbearable.

mutter:
I think there are some vows that should no be made like till death do us part, for better for worse.
My first marriage was a nightmare, a total disaster. I wish I had had the sense to run away much faster. I would have spared myself years of agony and humiliation. I think it is so terrible when one is scared to leave a marriage because of family or societal pressures, even worse when one stays because one has no where to go. Even after so many years I am still traumatised.

mutter:


Aisha please, the woman was married to perform the duties of a wife. To submit and love her husband, take care of his home and family. They live in a system where you have to consider if the pay you get is worth employing a nanny or paying for child care.

It is the duty of the woman to cook and do the house work and she can thank God when she has a man who helps her.

Why leave your duty to do something else? First cope with your assigned duties before venturing into others.

The main issue here is that the man and kid`s are suffering neglect and the woman is sending the money home to her family or building her own empire in Nigeria.
Is that what the man married her for?

cococandy:

No I won't like to be a full time house wife.

All ladies don't want the same thing, so learn to take each person you meet by their own preference and not what you think to assume they should like based on generalizations

If your wife becomes a house wife at your request or insistence, she's entitled to half the money you make.

coogar:


and the ones who are scared of prison life go the whole 9 yards to kill the wife, the kids and themselves.

they would rather be a dead man than let an obnoxious greedy wife walk away with their assets.

babyosisi:
For those who care to be more analytical,go and dig into the stories of many of the murders,,majority of those men are underachieving
Just like the one that hacked his banker wife into pieces in lagos sometime ago
Perhaps it is time to warn the women about getting hooked up with underachieving men especially those you hardly know
In this age of internet with info at your fingertips no woman should be deceived into marrying a man just because he is abroad
Check him out
Check out his credit history
Bankruptcy records
His marriage and divorce record
His criminal records
For a small fee you can find all these out ,get a trusted friend to pay that fee if you are in Nigeria and you get to know a little about the man
Just because a man is in America or UK doesn't make him a good spouse

Date a man a while and know him before marrying him,that way you are likely to weed off undesirable men,these psychopaths and men With borderline personality
Of course they will go on to marry someone else,but at least not you

Fhemmmy:


Na wa oh, so you marry a woman that already had a child before and things no work out, all of a sudden the child that was calling you Daddy, that knew and see you as role model is to the dogs? you really wanna make me cry with such comment, you could be as bitter as you wanna be with the mother, but the child is ONLY a child and should be treated as one..... Nigeria will change when we start to see a woman with a child as human and not a second class citizen

Moana:
aunty if you dont hook up with an underachiever you will be called a gold digger, which ever route you take they will always be a name waiting for you at your destinaton.

pickabeau1:


Don't make it a naija thing
No man wants to raise another man's kid, especially a product of adultery

Fhemmmy:


She married you.
Cooks for you
Warm your bed
Made your house
Make your house be a home
Yet, she has not worked?
Bro, i hail you oh

You cant never pay a woman her true worth, never, pay her for carrying your child in her womb for 9 months and disfiguring her own cute body to make YOU a father, pay her for those sleepless nights that she is in pain in that labor room, pay her for those days she burns herself to cook your favorite meal and tell you if you have what it takes to pay her. . . . We as MEN dont have what it takes to pay them, so let us show them love and appreciate them.

raumdeuter:


Its when you start doing oju-kokoro to whats not yours thats how armed robbers start.

ANything you want you work for it. If a woman wants anything she works for it, SHe has the same brain as the boy/husband

Moana:
if you are married im guessing you live in a happy and peaceful home, if not i pray you find a woman who is as loving and understanding as you are.

Fhemmmy:


How do you know was product of adultery. ... besides, do you punish the child for the crime of the mother?

ladygogo:


Its not about the dollars signs but about being on the same wave length. I dont see money here.

babyosisi:


That is where period of courtship comes in
Nobody should marry a stranger and nobody should shut their eyes to what they see at courtship
People don't hide their faults too long
I have written it here numerous times,there is nothing about my husband that I wish I could change that crept up on me
I saw the entire man at courtship
Girls please date and court your future spouses and get to know them and decide what you can handle and what you cannot
A psycho at courtship will be an ultra psycho in marriage

pickabeau1:


The DNA showed he's not d fada
They were still married but separated a long time

Na by adulterated?