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Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Nobody: 1:04am On Feb 04, 2015 |
mutter: Your write up is sound but terribly unbalanced First of all the marriage you describe is one of convenience The girl was looking for a ticket to the west,the man is looking for a presumed naive and pretty young wife he can mold into an image of his choice including choose her career. Respect goes both ways It is not unilateral or it becomes servitude I tell women all the time that I have absolutely no problems being submissive or being labelled a submissive wife.submission is not a dirty word to me and the reason is because I am married to a man who loves and respects me and treats me like a full grown adult with a thinking faculty,if it were not so,I wouldn't submit to him,period. You are telling a one sided story and one sided stories are dangerous stories. Just as much as no man goes to do trado and ask for the hAnd of a woman in marriage with a Plan of killing her somewhere down the road,no woman also goes into marriage with plans of making her marital home a living hell for herself and all the inhabitants. The sort of acrimony that can lead one into killing their spouse doesn't occur overnight and in these cases there is something each of the party involved could have done differently. If a man feels he has the right to kill a woman he made to become somebody ,then he is sick and that fundamental mental illness hasn't been addressed by you in your write up Nobody owns another and nobody has the right to feel that way about a wife or anyone. Some of these men you are making excuses for ran their homes like military camps and when they said jump the woman needed to say how high. Do you sincerely want to tell me you haven't heard of men who demanded their wife's paycheck as soon as she received it? Or those who recorded the odometer nightly and will question her movements when it was off his estimated calculations. Beaters and batterers plus those who forbade their wives from associating with friends and family? I know a man that followed his wife around suspecting she was cheating and she would catch him trailing her,so she should keep quiet because he brought her to America? I know another that planted secret cameras to keep an eye on his young wife while he was at work There are men with frank mental conditions and personality disorders out there and these men do get married you know,and many times the women realize who they married and bail.Do they now deserve to pay with their lives? I happen to know a little detail on the first family in the original post The woman had left and returned numerous times,each time wanting to stay because of their children She had just returned from burying her father and same day she was murdered by this man Do you want to know more about the case? The man was a pharmacist who had tried unsuccessfully to get a license as a pharmacist because he couldn't pass his board exams ,the wife was a registered nurse,he was laying carpets and doing other odd jobs to survive. Men usually don't do well emotionally when they are underachieving or when their wives are more successful than they. Earning more gives a man confidence and boosts his manhood Mr Emeruwa couldn't handle his frustrations and took it out on his wife ,police had come to their residence in burtonsville Maryland numerous times and he eventually murdered her There was another case in Virginia,similar scenario The Atlanta case of the man who owned a grocery store years ago,same thing Infact another Atlanta case the man Mr Akeredolu drove from Houston texas to Atlanta Georgia to murder his ex wife on her 40th birthday after she had divorced him. That is how psychopathic many of these men can be Please stop making excuses for killers 13 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by raumdeuter: 1:08am On Feb 04, 2015 |
Fhemmmy: Its when you start doing oju-kokoro to whats not yours thats how armed robbers start. ANything you want you work for it. If a woman wants anything she works for it, SHe has the same brain as the boy/husband |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Moana(f): 1:09am On Feb 04, 2015 |
raumdeuter:lets apply common sense he still owes 70% so there is no way he will lose it to the greedy woman because the same "greedy woman" will have to pay for the missing 70% otherwise the bank reposseses the house. The point you made hardly makes sense im sorry to say. No one gains anything from if it the 70% isnt paid off i guess you didnt think about that part. 2 Likes |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by raumdeuter: 1:12am On Feb 04, 2015 |
Moana: Sorry you are the one who isnt applying common sense here WHat happens to the initial 30% he has paid if the woman fails to pay the mortgage and the house is lost? WHen you get a house where someone has already paid 30% of it How is no one gaining from it? The house cost e.g 100k, Someone has paid 30k remaining 70k. In essence you are getting a 100k house for 70k. Thats the effect of half education on people like you. Not thinking things through properly 3 Likes |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by ZUBY77(m): 1:13am On Feb 04, 2015 |
coogar: Tell the bitchhh. It's bitchessss like her that get killed because they suddenly read somewhere that Government protect women in western world. No matter where you are in this World, always remember where you come from and keep their Standard traditions. Any attempt to become what you are not will certainty give you what you never expected. |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Moana(f): 1:14am On Feb 04, 2015 |
raumdeuter:THE BANK TAKES BACK THE HOUSE IF THE MORTAGAGE ISNT PAID OFF!!! neither the wife or the husband wins. THE BANK GETS IT ALL. Like i said apply common sense Did the 30% not cover the time he was staying in that house? so why act as if he was staying under a bridge the whole time he paid for the 30% for the woman and the children to enjoy the house by themselves? 2 Likes |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by raumdeuter: 1:16am On Feb 04, 2015 |
Moana: If she continues to pay the mortgage, The wife gets a 100k property for a discounted price of 70k. If she fails to pay the mortgage, she has nothing to lose but the man loses his initial 30k investment in the house Thats the problem with Mgbekes like you, If an analogy isnt made with brazilian hair you wont understand 3 Likes |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by raumdeuter: 1:18am On Feb 04, 2015 |
Moana: The 30k was part payment for owning the asset, which he would end up losing the entire 30k if the house is foreclosed By the time he was kicked out, if he had sold the house, he would have 30k in his own bank account rather the greedy wife took it |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Moana(f): 1:18am On Feb 04, 2015 |
raumdeuter:there is something called unjustified enrichment, he can always claim for what he was imporverished by. My brazilian hair wearing self still has more common sense than you do! 2 Likes |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Nobody: 1:20am On Feb 04, 2015 |
edwife: I do not agree with her posts, most times Even though I saw the point she made here...she was making a case, not justifying murder People really are mercenary and would do anything to get married to a guy living outside of Nigeria and then show their true colours....maybe they married an old "mgbeke" man to escape, and on reaching wherever would realise that they could be rolling with younger hotter dudes instead...etc...it happens , not all the time but does....they certainly do not deserve to be killed, but some humans are weak and can snap more than others That said, as much as I do not always agree with her, in fact some leave me gasping for air...but there is something classy about the lady True story I noticed it more on one thread where a woman was berating a ? tramp who dared to make a meal in her kitchen while she was asleep... 1 Like |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by raumdeuter: 1:21am On Feb 04, 2015 |
Moana: Claim from where? Where can he claim from? The same court who took his partly paid for property and gave it to another person? Stick to watching Osuofia and Patience Ozokwor 2 Likes |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Moana(f): 1:23am On Feb 04, 2015 |
Sophyrocks:funny enough these are the same scenarios that make it harder for earnest Nigerians to live and work abroad and yet some are here applauding and encouraging such things. The same people are the ones always complaining about stereotypes against them in foreign countries. I tire sef People supporting the same things that destroys them. How ironic. 2 Likes |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Moana(f): 1:26am On Feb 04, 2015 |
raumdeuter:you seem to know quite a whole lot about Osuafia and Patience Ozokwor. Do something intelligent with your life for once and pick a book on Unjustified Enrichment, before coming here to talk anyhow. When someone dies that's the end of it, you can always take a mortgage on another house. Sometime you wonder where black men place their priorities. Its sad even after 20yrs plus of school someone would place priority on replaceable property over the life of a human being. Clap for yourselves. She dies you rot in jail, your children will be too embarrassed to be associated with you, what will you have gained? Of what use will your ego be when you are locked up for life? 3 Likes |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by rman: 1:38am On Feb 04, 2015 |
raumdeuter: I read all posts from page 1 and I am highly impressed at how you and Coogar apply logic to each scenerio. Unfortunately, majority of the ladies on the thread lack capacity for logical reasoning and you can deduce their approach is from an emotional point of view always. Respect! 2 Likes |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Nobody: 1:40am On Feb 04, 2015 |
Aisha2 and sophyrocks come and see American wonder No wonder Igbos say when a funeral procession is going by ,to onlookers,they might as well be carrying a log of wood All this from a woman who educates us on how some women deserved death at the hands of their husbands Na wa o Down memory lane mutter: mutter: https://www.nairaland.com/mutter/posts/42 8 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Moana(f): 1:42am On Feb 04, 2015 |
mutter:lets say the woman sticks to her primary duties. Who and what will pay the bills if the man is not making enough to pay all the bills by himself? Na holy ghost abi? 2 Likes |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Nobody: 1:46am On Feb 04, 2015 |
cococandy:And when the both of us work, but she earns more than I do thanks to her training as a Nurse which I bankrolled, she now has the right to get mad at me? Like I forced her into taking up the nursing job? And even when I still do my fair share of house chores? I am asking all these because I found out that when most married women work and make financial contributions in their homes, they tend to think they doing the man a favor or that they are slaving for the man like some would put it. Not really that they are fulfilled from doing that. This is not even a problem of the man not helping out in house chores, because even he helps out with chores, some ladies will still assume that he is doing that just so they could keep working their a5ses off, and not really that it's a normal thing to do. Such mentality is common among Nigerian- bred women, and they retain that mind set even when they go abroad. This makes me want to conclude that A TYPICAL NIGERIAN-BRED WOMAN SEEMS TO LOSE RESPECT FOR HER MAN WHEN SHE BEGINS TO WORK AND MAKE FINANCIAL CONTRIBUTION IN HER SUPPOSED HOME. Because she was raised to believe that the man is to provide for her while her duty is to keep the home. So, when they see themselves working and contributing to the upkeep of the house, they consider it an anormally and begin to humiliate their men. When such humiliations linger for a long time, hatred builds up, the next thing is divorce where the man is made to lose almost all what he has laboured for in life. This makes me wonder if it's better for Nigerian women to remain in the kitchen while the men go out to win the bread until they realize that it is not abnormal for them to work and contribute to the household, and that it is also not unmanly for their men to help in domestic chores. I know that some of you pretend that you don't want to be housewives, but it seems you inwardly crave to to be. So, damn the pretence and say what you really want. 2 Likes |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Moana(f): 1:54am On Feb 04, 2015 |
coogar:so you feel its better to lose irreplacable human being lives than losing assets that can be regained when lost? 1 Like |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Nobody: 1:56am On Feb 04, 2015 |
For those who care to be more analytical,go and dig into the stories of many of the murders,,majority of those men are underachieving Just like the one that hacked his banker wife into pieces in lagos sometime ago Perhaps it is time to warn the women about getting hooked up with underachieving men especially those you hardly know In this age of internet with info at your fingertips no woman should be deceived into marrying a man just because he is abroad Check him out Check out his credit history Bankruptcy records His marriage and divorce record His criminal records For a small fee you can find all these out ,get a trusted friend to pay that fee if you are in Nigeria and you get to know a little about the man Just because a man is in America or UK doesn't make him a good spouse Date a man a while and know him before marrying him,that way you are likely to weed off undesirable men,these psychopaths and men With borderline personality Of course they will go on to marry someone else,but at least not you 7 Likes |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Moana(f): 2:08am On Feb 04, 2015 |
babyosisi:aunty if you dont hook up with an underachiever you will be called a gold digger, which ever route you take they will always be a name waiting for you at your destinaton. 9 Likes |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by pickabeau1: 2:12am On Feb 04, 2015 |
Fhemmmy: Don't make it a naija thing No man wants to raise another man's kid, especially a product of adultery |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Nobody: 2:13am On Feb 04, 2015 |
Moana: That is where period of courtship comes in Nobody should marry a stranger and nobody should shut their eyes to what they see at courtship People don't hide their faults too long I have written it here numerous times,there is nothing about my husband that I wish I could change that crept up on me I saw the entire man at courtship Girls please date and court your future spouses and get to know them and decide what you can handle and what you cannot A psycho at courtship will be an ultra psycho in marriage And this goes both ways A man who was the other man in the background sleeping with a girl in a relationship with another man should not be shocked if he marries her and finds out his wife is sleeping with other people while in her matrimonial home. Same with women If your man was sleeping around and you were the mistress,don't expect that he will turn faithful when he marries you 1 Like |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Fhemmmy: 2:14am On Feb 04, 2015 |
pickabeau1: How do you know was product of adultery. ... besides, do you punish the child for the crime of the mother? |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by pickabeau1: 2:15am On Feb 04, 2015 |
Digging up posts Women....smh Meanwhile not everyone is clean... They use mods to clear their own indiscretions 6 Likes |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Moana(f): 2:16am On Feb 04, 2015 |
Fhemmmy:if you are married im guessing you live in a happy and peaceful home, if not i pray you find a woman who is as loving and understanding as you are. 3 Likes |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Fhemmmy: 2:16am On Feb 04, 2015 |
raumdeuter: Have you been laid off without package before? I am sure you will agree it hurts. |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Fhemmmy: 2:16am On Feb 04, 2015 |
Moana: Thanks ma'am 2 Likes |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by pickabeau1: 2:17am On Feb 04, 2015 |
Fhemmmy: The DNA showed he's not d fada They were still married but separated a long time Na by adulterated? |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by pickabeau1: 2:19am On Feb 04, 2015 |
ladygogo: Do men use this wavelength to choose Are d sexes not equal again |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Moana(f): 2:20am On Feb 04, 2015 |
babyosisi:best advice ever. Instead of spending half the courtship period figuring out how you will dance shoki on top of him and how glamorous your wedding day should be. Be attentive and discover more about the person you intend to spend the rest of your life with. And instead of looking for a replica of Miss World, who will beat your best friend's wife/ gf spend more time learning about your partners strengthens and flaws. |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Fhemmmy: 2:21am On Feb 04, 2015 |
pickabeau1: Did the woman lied that the man was the father till DNA show otherwise? |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Nobody: 2:22am On Feb 04, 2015 |
ahhh where was i when all these things were happening? I really missed this show! |
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