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Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Fhemmmy: 1:48pm On Feb 04, 2015 |
pickabeau1: I cant see you not reading me at all, sir..... let us take a example of 2 couples. Mr and Mrs Joe.... oth working, husband making 100k $ a year, wife only 35k a year Mr and Mrs Ada... husthusband making 50k$ a year and wifey maing 45k $ Tell me if both have been married for 10 years with 3 kinds ages 10,7, and 3. Things fall apart and divorce happens. Be the judge, how should things be..... woman did not commit adultery oh 2 Likes |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by bukatyne(f): 1:52pm On Feb 04, 2015 |
pickabeau1: My question is very simple Who owns the baby in standard Nigerian society? 1 Like |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Fhemmmy: 1:54pm On Feb 04, 2015 |
rman: Here is a scenario for you... Ada and John are fresh graduate, got a job, married and start life together from nothing, Ada making 100k Naira a month while John making 150K Naira a month.... they have 2 kinkids ages 2 and 3.... yawa gas and have to go separate ways......they have buildbuilt a nice house... Ada gets home before John daily and cooks while getting kids ready for bed. Who should take the house Who should take the kids to take care? 2 Likes |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by pickabeau1: 1:56pm On Feb 04, 2015 |
rman: I still do not understand the frankly He is patronizing women as the weaker sex yet they are debating daily against men taking them as such This is an opportunity for women to show they are equal and not bogged with traditionalism After all we went to the same schools, do the same jobs bukatyne: Should a woman be compensated for having a child, her own child |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by pickabeau1: 1:58pm On Feb 04, 2015 |
Fhemmmy: Answer the question yourself she is working and has a source of imcome yet she wants to latch on the man for more money? |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Fhemmmy: 2:01pm On Feb 04, 2015 |
pickabeau1: Now i see your stand, the woman should walk away with nothing and the man takes the house and the kids I guess according to your "she has an income" theory..... if you're the man, you would sleep at peace in such home? Lemme guess, you probably throw those kids out too for her to sort them out and you do big boys in club at night, while kids that are used to family income of 135k$ per year will now have to depend on 35k$ per year..... I hail, sir... na you biko. 6 Likes |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by pickabeau1: 2:04pm On Feb 04, 2015 |
Fhemmmy: i never said such. you are inputting that yourself is it fair that a woman is entitled to wealth she did not participate in Should assets pre marriage be shared No need to be sensationalist to impress our ladies here 2 Likes |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Nobody: 2:06pm On Feb 04, 2015 |
ferdimako: Gosh Begging jennykadry to let my brother marry who? Are you so daft that you can't tell a joke from real issues? If I were making marriage arrangements for my brother do I sound to you like someone that would do it on a public forum where fools and eediots read and contribute ? 4 Likes |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by bukatyne(f): 2:08pm On Feb 04, 2015 |
pickabeau1: Answering my question with another question? |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by pickabeau1: 2:09pm On Feb 04, 2015 |
bukatyne: it is your right to answer or not |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by rman: 2:10pm On Feb 04, 2015 |
Fhemmmy: You can not use the exception as the norm. The norm is girls always want to marry established guys. And that is a fact. 1 Like |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Fhemmmy: 2:10pm On Feb 04, 2015 |
pickabeau1: Chairman, I am not here to impress NO one, I have a mother and the only boy in my family.... I dont wanna raise my son to thinknit is fair to kick his wife into the cold with nothing, and if you are worried about losing the house you built before marriage, sign a prenuptial agreement BUT pal, I just gace you a scenario and your response tells it ALL, she has income of 35k $ a year compared to the man who is making 100k$. like i sail, I hail you..... AGAIN, I dont go fpr cheap publicity, but I stand behind what is right and fair..... U know you one of people I respect on this forum and trust me, it wont change.... only that I won't allow anyone I cared for to marry you...., but still love and respect you. 4 Likes |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by bukatyne(f): 2:11pm On Feb 04, 2015 |
pickabeau1: My right to answer? LOL! Answer my question if you want to and if you don't want to, exercise your right to do so Cheers 3 Likes |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Fhemmmy: 2:13pm On Feb 04, 2015 |
rman: Always in your statement is not true, you could say MOST and we wont argue, but I dont even have to argue sef, cos you said "girl" a girl is too young to understand marriage, try and say "lady" then we could talk of many that dont need your money cos they just want a happy home 2 Likes |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Nobody: 2:14pm On Feb 04, 2015 |
Amhappy: The cases we have read in America haven't been more than ten In just one LGA in Nigeria,you can easily find ten cases of men killing their wives or vice versa There is no killing spree here so let's not blow it out of proportion I have lived in America for years and it is not at all common Many bad marriages end in divorce and the people move on,the psychopaths who go ahead and kill are few and far between,there is no epidemic 3 Likes |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by pickabeau1: 2:16pm On Feb 04, 2015 |
You know i respect you too bro.. Thanks for the hailing You still dont get the point This is the fundamental issue here You are talking of sentiments and what sounds good I am talking of what is logical afterall modern marriage is not about what is nice but based on logic You are saying a working woman should still be placed on crutches because she had the fortune of marrying you She is equal to you That is insulting to our empowered ladies Except you now say you believe in male headship in marriage Then i support you Fhemmmy: |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by bukatyne(f): 2:17pm On Feb 04, 2015 |
rman: How many 'established' guys do we have around What is your definition of 'established'? 1 Like |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by rman: 2:17pm On Feb 04, 2015 |
Chillisauce: You completely missed my point. Make your own money. If you feel having a husband and babies will prevent or limit your ability to make it, do not go into marriage or have babies. Asking to be compensated for being married and having kids is what I do not understand. Build your own house, buy your own car....forcing a man to part with his wealth because of marriage or kids is extortion in disguise. It is quite simple. 1 Like |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by jaybee3(m): 2:18pm On Feb 04, 2015 |
bukatyne:Plenty |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by bukatyne(f): 2:20pm On Feb 04, 2015 |
jaybee3: LOLS! The ones selling pepper or the ones that are on low level employees? Where are the 'established' guys that all girls want to marry? |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by damiso(f): 2:20pm On Feb 04, 2015 |
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Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Fhemmmy: 2:21pm On Feb 04, 2015 |
pickabeau1: If you were logically looking at the scenario, you would see that, it is not about the fortune, it is about the right and wrong which is what law is all about..... the woman is not parting with no fortune cos 100k $ a year is no fortune.... they probably still paying mortgage, car finance, kids still in school. .. bro, that money is nit enough to be called wealth. so the logic here is, in that scenario, she will need more than what she is making to make ends meet and look after YOUR children, or should she take up second job? 1 Like |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by rman: 2:23pm On Feb 04, 2015 |
bukatyne: He already has his house, car and job before you marry him right from under your parents in most cases with nothing. Yes, that is what is in the majority. Most ladies are deliberately ignoring the age factor that gave men the advantage. They marry men 5yrs,6yrs, 7yrs sometimes 15yrs older than them. Unless a man lacks ambition, that age difference would probably have given him an advantage from start in the relationship in terms of what each party brought to the table. |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by pickabeau1: 2:24pm On Feb 04, 2015 |
Fhemmmy: At the bolded.. i rest my case She does not see the kids as hers' but the man's Simple |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Nobody: 2:24pm On Feb 04, 2015 |
rman: If you dont want to part with your small money. Don't get married or sign a pre-nup. It's that simple. 3 Likes |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by jaybee3(m): 2:26pm On Feb 04, 2015 |
bukatyne: Being established is relative. Your definition and classification is always going to be different from others and there really isn't any yardstick one can use to measure Being established simply means you are independent and pepper sellers or those on low level income also fall within that category so long as they don't run to daddy/mommy bank at the end of each month |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by rman: 2:29pm On Feb 04, 2015 |
Fhemmmy: So definition of girls and ladies matters...lol Chai! I think this guy is wired like a lady. I love your mentality sha. It is perfect for the big marriage scam ladies are trying to run. You will live and die a happy man. Men like me, Pickabeau1, Coogar that apply logic are only looking for a life long of worries. It will never make sense to you and the women involved. 1 Like |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by rman: 2:36pm On Feb 04, 2015 |
Chillisauce: Then you agree with me women see marriage as a business investment. |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by rman: 2:38pm On Feb 04, 2015 |
pickabeau1: I love the way you make your points man. 1 Like |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Moana(f): 2:42pm On Feb 04, 2015 |
Chillisauce: They would rather rot in jail where they will not have mortagages and bills to pay.well, somewhere they basically wont have a life. |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Moana(f): 2:43pm On Feb 04, 2015 |
rman:and the men who kill their wives over money issues see marriage as what? 1 Like |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by rman: 2:44pm On Feb 04, 2015 |
pickabeau1: The bolded is what your entire engagement with Fhemmy is about. What is logical is different from what is good or sentimentally correct. |
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