softysparky:
Still looking for my Johnny.

Will you ladies ever agree that u have a man in ur life? Always searching!

ogawisdom:


Well tot out n balanced article. Any good lady dt is worth anything good is usually married b4 25yrs at worst 28yrs. Ladies above 30yrs r usually bad market in marriage with d exception of less than 5percent who r career minded professionals n u see success n oversized ego written all over them. This kinda of ladies r very promiscous n neva believe a man is good enuf for them n mostly end up as single parent bc they feel they dnt need a man to submit to

Ummm... 65% correct: not entirely correct but sensible and thoughtful

softysparky:
Still looking for my Johnny.

Baby am here now. I just discharged Uche & Nene but lost ur pin.

No 2 is so true.

hapy BUHALENTINE in AVDVANCE

delugadou:


Baby am here now. I just discharged Uche & Nene but lost ur pin. Mine is 23c061c6

when u don give them belle msteew.

Very true.

Good stuff. Here's another similar analysis - http://thenakedconvos.com/why-you-are-single/

Woged2005:
6 Reasons That Keep Nigerian Ladies Above 30yrs From Marrying. Please Avoid Them!


This is a Sista -to-Sista Talk. If you like take the advice or leave it, it won't change a thing. I listened, I found

1. Acting Immaturely: When you are above 30, you are not in the the same category with ladies below 27 anymore. Except you have things to show for your age such as solid career, fat bank account, strong investments, impressive academic accomplishment, etc the odds are stacked against you in competing with a younger lady. Men who will look for you are mostly men seeking for the above qualities and perhaps also some maturity. Therefore if you have none of the above and still behave like a teenager, you are going to stay in your papa's house for a longer time. Please be different and bring some maturity into your relationships to gain some advantage. Reduce your playing 'hard-to-get' games. If you see what you want, got for it, and nail it koi-koi! Shekina!

2. The Feminist Scare: African men are trying in their intellectual accomplishments, but honestly majority of them still don't accept feminism. At 30 +, a lady is most likely to have formed her core believes and ideologies. Unfortunately, most African men still can't draw any difference between an argumentative lady, a highly-opinionated lady and a feminist. They lump them all up together as feminists and hate them equally. Therefore, sista you will do yourself a favor to be less argumentative, be flexible in your opinions and reduce unnecessary negative energy that scare men away. African men are still scared of feminists. One day they will get there, but for now sheath your sword!

3. Talking About Your Ex: Everyone knows that at 30+ plus you probably have had a couple of failed relationships. Please can you stop bringing them up in your current relationships? Stop talking about how one Ex loved you, cherished you, spoiled you with gifts, how the relationship was a bliss, etc. The bottom line is the Ex didn't marry you; he didn't find you good enough. He left you and married another lady. So stop praising him. It's foolish to hear some ladies say "he tells me he regretted not marrying me; wishes he can get a 2nd chance" .. . Pleeaaasssee! that's an old trick for men who dumped you to get into your pants again as a side chick. Get real! he's someone's husband now.

4. Unnecessary Shakara: This one is a relationship blunder No.1 for ladies above 30. DON'T give a man any reason to believe he's only one of your options. What are you thinking? , What's the shakara for? You want to be married and you met a matured man who wants to marry without delay.You have tested him and he is good to go, then you begin shakara, like there's a long queue out there for you? Once you do that, then you give him reasons to check out other girls too. Relationships go south from there. Abeg, once he is inside your territory, lock the exit pam! .

5. "My Pastor Said..": Please leave your pastors and spiritual advisers out of your relationship. Pray to God for guidance. Nothing is as annoying as seeing a matured grown 30-something year old 'mama' going to ask her pastor to see if a man is her God-approved husband. Is your pastor God? How will he know? Pastors can counsel you and put you through marriages courses, educate you on how to be a better christian wife but not to choose a husband for you. Abeg! wise up.

6. Pay For Your Own Stuff And Be Content : At 30+ you should have your own things. Stop begging for money and gifts like you are still in school. That's for students. Stop fantasizing about celebrity cars, dresses, shoes, jewelries, houses, bling-bling like you are a teenager. It makes you look either too childish or like a cheap materialist. Serious men pay attention to all those clues. At 30+ you should have saved some money to buy things you want for yourself. But if for some reason you haven't, be modest and feel content with what you have.

I Pray May This Year Be Your Breakthrough Year On Marriage!

softysparky:
Still looking for my Johnny.

I can be your 'Johnny", WDYT?

softysparky:
Still looking for my Johnny.

i will marry u.

softysparky:

when u don give them belle msteew.

Remember the story of 2face & Annie? After evrytin, na u still be firstlady......am waiting for the ping

so much advices just to get ladies behave well and be able to secure a man's interest, it is very unfortunate that the african woman dosent have the nessacary skills naturaly endowed to women to keep a man. their very stiff,nagging and unloving nature scares many men away' they should go and learn from the white ladies how to love a man..cos i can see they lack those vital skills badly..

pwerrymansion:
You write like being 30+ and unmarried means the world has come to an apocalypse. I also think that at that age,women have a well defined goal and know exactly what they want.

and that want is what?

softysparky:
Still looking for my Johnny.

Do you know Johnny?

Seems you are 35? Well everyone can't be like u.... quote author=Woged2005 post=30437915]6 Reasons That Keep Nigerian Ladies Above 30yrs From Marrying. Please Avoid Them!


This is a Sista -to-Sista Talk. If you like take the advice or leave it, it won't change a thing. I listened, I found

1. Acting Immaturely: When you are above 30, you are not in the the same category with ladies below 27 anymore. Except you have things to show for your age such as solid career, fat bank account, strong investments, impressive academic accomplishment, etc the odds are stacked against you in competing with a younger lady. Men who will look for you are mostly men seeking for the above qualities and perhaps also some maturity. Therefore if you have none of the above and still behave like a teenager, you are going to stay in your papa's house for a longer time. Please be different and bring some maturity into your relationships to gain some advantage. Reduce your playing 'hard-to-get' games. If you see what you want, got for it, and nail it koi-koi! Shekina!

2. The Feminist Scare: African men are trying in their intellectual accomplishments, but honestly majority of them still don't accept feminism. At 30 +, a lady is most likely to have formed her core believes and ideologies. Unfortunately, most African men still can't draw any difference between an argumentative lady, a highly-opinionated lady and a feminist. They lump them all up together as feminists and hate them equally. Therefore, sista you will do yourself a favor to be less argumentative, be flexible in your opinions and reduce unnecessary negative energy that scare men away. African men are still scared of feminists. One day they will get there, but for now sheath your sword!

3. Talking About Your Ex: Everyone knows that at 30+ plus you probably have had a couple of failed relationships. Please can you stop bringing them up in your current relationships? Stop talking about how one Ex loved you, cherished you, spoiled you with gifts, how the relationship was a bliss, etc. The bottom line is the Ex didn't marry you; he didn't find you good enough. He left you and married another lady. So stop praising him. It's foolish to hear some ladies say "he tells me he regretted not marrying me; wishes he can get a 2nd chance" .. . Pleeaaasssee! that's an old trick for men who dumped you to get into your pants again as a side chick. Get real! he's someone's husband now.

4. Unnecessary Shakara: This one is a relationship blunder No.1 for ladies above 30. DON'T give a man any reason to believe he's only one of your options. What are you thinking? , What's the shakara for? You want to be married and you met a matured man who wants to marry without delay.You have tested him and he is good to go, then you begin shakara, like there's a long queue out there for you? Once you do that, then you give him reasons to check out other girls too. Relationships go south from there. Abeg, once he is inside your territory, lock the exit pam! .

5. "My Pastor Said..": Please leave your pastors and spiritual advisers out of your relationship. Pray to God for guidance. Nothing is as annoying as seeing a matured grown 30-something year old 'mama' going to ask her pastor to see if a man is her God-approved husband. Is your pastor God? How will he know? Pastors can counsel you and put you through marriages courses, educate you on how to be a better christian wife but not to choose a husband for you. Abeg! wise up.

6. Pay For Your Own Stuff And Be Content : At 30+ you should have your own things. Stop begging for money and gifts like you are still in school. That's for students. Stop fantasizing about celebrity cars, dresses, shoes, jewelries, houses, bling-bling like you are a teenager. It makes you look either too childish or like a cheap materialist. Serious men pay attention to all those clues. At 30+ you should have saved some money to buy things you want for yourself. But if for some reason you haven't, be modest and feel content with what you have.

I Pray May This Year Be Your Breakthrough Year On Marriage![/quote]

Woged2005:
6 Reasons That Keep Nigerian Ladies Above 30yrs From Marrying. Please Avoid Them!


This is a Sista -to-Sista Talk. If you like take the advice or leave it, it won't change a thing. I listened, I found

1. Acting Immaturely: When you are above 30, you are not in the the same category with ladies below 27 anymore. Except you have things to show for your age such as solid career, fat bank account, strong investments, impressive academic accomplishment, etc the odds are stacked against you in competing with a younger lady. Men who will look for you are mostly men seeking for the above qualities and perhaps also some maturity. Therefore if you have none of the above and still behave like a teenager, you are going to stay in your papa's house for a longer time. Please be different and bring some maturity into your relationships to gain some advantage. Reduce your playing 'hard-to-get' games. If you see what you want, got for it, and nail it koi-koi! Shekina!

2. The Feminist Scare: African men are trying in their intellectual accomplishments, but honestly majority of them still don't accept feminism. At 30 +, a lady is most likely to have formed her core believes and ideologies. Unfortunately, most African men still can't draw any difference between an argumentative lady, a highly-opinionated lady and a feminist. They lump them all up together as feminists and hate them equally. Therefore, sista you will do yourself a favor to be less argumentative, be flexible in your opinions and reduce unnecessary negative energy that scare men away. African men are still scared of feminists. One day they will get there, but for now sheath your sword!

3. Talking About Your Ex: Everyone knows that at 30+ plus you probably have had a couple of failed relationships. Please can you stop bringing them up in your current relationships? Stop talking about how one Ex loved you, cherished you, spoiled you with gifts, how the relationship was a bliss, etc. The bottom line is the Ex didn't marry you; he didn't find you good enough. He left you and married another lady. So stop praising him. It's foolish to hear some ladies say "he tells me he regretted not marrying me; wishes he can get a 2nd chance" .. . Pleeaaasssee! that's an old trick for men who dumped you to get into your pants again as a side chick. Get real! he's someone's husband now.

4. Unnecessary Shakara: This one is a relationship blunder No.1 for ladies above 30. DON'T give a man any reason to believe he's only one of your options. What are you thinking? , What's the shakara for? You want to be married and you met a matured man who wants to marry without delay.You have tested him and he is good to go, then you begin shakara, like there's a long queue out there for you? Once you do that, then you give him reasons to check out other girls too. Relationships go south from there. Abeg, once he is inside your territory, lock the exit pam! .

5. "My Pastor Said..": Please leave your pastors and spiritual advisers out of your relationship. Pray to God for guidance. Nothing is as annoying as seeing a matured grown 30-something year old 'mama' going to ask her pastor to see if a man is her God-approved husband. Is your pastor God? How will he know? Pastors can counsel you and put you through marriages courses, educate you on how to be a better christian wife but not to choose a husband for you. Abeg! wise up.

6. Pay For Your Own Stuff And Be Content : At 30+ you should have your own things. Stop begging for money and gifts like you are still in school. That's for students. Stop fantasizing about celebrity cars, dresses, shoes, jewelries, houses, bling-bling like you are a teenager. It makes you look either too childish or like a cheap materialist. Serious men pay attention to all those clues. At 30+ you should have saved some money to buy things you want for yourself. But if for some reason you haven't, be modest and feel content with what you have.

I Pray May This Year Be Your Breakthrough Year On Marriage!

God bless you for this!

@Op you are so right...Thats why i am trying to stay away from Ladies in their 30's .....They wont stop gisting you about how their ex bf twisted their legs and so on...I dont wanna hear all these damn shit!

excellentmomma:
You nailed it girl.
Addition: Stop the glue to your brothers and find your square root. A romance with your brother or father will affect your own relationship and keep you glued to ur papa's house much longer. The more you keep finding fault in your brothers' wives and nose around into your brothers' relationships, the more you leave your own life unattended, and by extension your relationships might go south all the time and you are back to square one. Be wise.

And sisters, too. Both married and unmarried; senior and junior. Making them (including those that had divorced their own husbands etc) the final judge in your relationship, making their opinion your guide in matters pertaining to your relationships and even sheepishly doing things in and to your relationship that they outrightly ask or hint you to, are no-brainers!

Ok

Most Important reason: LESBIANISM!

gbam!...75% of Nigerian ladies are bisexual, I am talking out of experience. They would think that they will ever remain in their 20s, but before they realised it, their beauty have started to fade away,they have wastd their precious years into clubbing & Nonsense. At that age, they are not even good enough to be a mother or someone's wife! Now look out through ur window, u will see many of them with wrinkles all over their bodies claiming to be 21 looking for a man to rope into marriage! women are confusing most times...God help them!

softysparky:
Still looking for my Johnny.

good looking!

I'm agree with everything but your second argument. I need a man who can challenge my believes and opinions just like I will challenge his. I would lose myself in the relationship if I have to keep my mouth shut just to keep him by my side and no man is worth that. I'm not even a feminist but I believe that couples should be able to discuss/disagree on stuff in a respectful manner.

I not 30 yet but I will in a couple years, I be checking out white guys if I still can't a compatible African by then

.....don't form hard to get 2015!

Woged2005:
6 Reasons That Keep Nigerian Ladies Above 30yrs From Marrying. Please Avoid Them!


This is a Sista -to-Sista Talk. If you like take the advice or leave it, it won't change a thing. I listened, I found

1. Acting Immaturely: When you are above 30, you are not in the the same category with ladies below 27 anymore. Except you have things to show for your age such as solid career, fat bank account, strong investments, impressive academic accomplishment, etc the odds are stacked against you in competing with a younger lady. Men who will look for you are mostly men seeking for the above qualities and perhaps also some maturity. Therefore if you have none of the above and still behave like a teenager, you are going to stay in your papa's house for a longer time. Please be different






and bring some maturity into your relationships to gain some advantage. Reduce your playing 'hard-to-get' games. If you see what you want, got for it, and nail it koi-koi! Shekina!

2. The Feminist Scare: African men are trying in their intellectual accomplishments, but honestly majority of them still don't accept feminism. At 30 +, a lady is most likely to have formed her core believes and ideologies. Unfortunately, most African men still can't draw any difference between an argumentative lady, a highly-o
pinionated lady and a feminist. They lump them all up together as feminists and hate


them equally. Therefore, sista you will do yourself a favor to be less argumentative, be flexible in your opinions and reduce unnecessary negative energy that scare men away. African men are still scared of feminists. One day they will get there, but for now sheath your sword!

3. Talking About Your Ex: Everyone knows that at 30+ plus you probably have had a couple of failed relationships. Please can you stop bringing them up in your current relationships? Stop talking about how one Ex loved you, cherished you, spoiled you with gifts, how the relationship was a bliss, etc. The bottom line is the Ex didn't marry you; he didn't find you good enough. He left you and married another lady. So stop praising him. It's foolish to hear some ladies say "he tells me he regretted not marrying me; wishes he can get a 2nd chance" .. . Pleeaaasssee! that's an old trick for men who dumped you to get into your pants again as a side chick. Get real! he's someone's husband now.

4. Unnecessary Shakara: This one is a relationship blunder No.1 for ladies above 30. DON'T give a man any reason to believe he's only one of your options. What are you thinking? , What's the shakara for? You want to be married and you met a matured man who wants to marry without delay.You have tested him and he is good to go, then you begin shakara, like there's a long queue out there for you? Once you do that, then you give him reasons to check out other girls too. Relationships go south from there. Abeg, once he is inside your territory, lock the exit pam! .

5. "My Pastor Said..": Please leave your pastors and spiritual advisers out of your relationship. Pray to God for guidance. Nothing is as annoying as seeing a matured grown 30-something year old 'mama' going to ask her pastor to see if a man is her God-approved husband. Is your pastor God? How will he know? Pastors can counsel you and put you through marriages courses, educate you on how to be a better christian wife but not to choose a husband for you. Abeg! wise up.

6. Pay For Your Own Stuff And Be Content : At 30+ you should have your own things. Stop begging for money and gifts like you are still in school. That's for students. Stop fantasizing about celebrity cars, dresses, shoes, jewelries, houses, bling-bling like you are a teenager. It makes you look either too childish or like a cheap materialist. Serious men pay attention to all those clues. At 30+ you should have saved some money to buy things you want for yourself. Bu
t if for some reason you haven't, be modest and feel content with what you have.

I Pray May This Year Be Your Breakthrough Year On Marriage!

Amen oh OP God bless you right left and center

passionate88:
We are not scared of "African feminists" we just want them to also do what we did to get them.. Eg, pay groom price, etc

Pay what? U be goat?

2. The Feminist Scare: African men are trying in their intellectual accomplishments, but honestly majority of them still don't accept feminism. At 30 +, a lady is most likely to have formed her core believes and ideologies. Unfortunately, most African men still can't draw any difference between an argumentative lady, a highly-opinionated lady and a feminist. They lump them all up together as feminists and hate them equally. Therefore, sista you will do yourself a favor to be less argumentative, be flexible in your opinions and reduce unnecessary negative energy that scare men away. African men are still scared of feminists. One day they will get there, but for now sheath your sword!

oh boy !

Sensible Article by the way. On point.

Edusouls:
it is very unfortunate that the african woman dosent have the nessacary skills naturaly endowed to women to keep a man. their very stiff,nagging and unloving nature scares many men away' they should go and learn from the white ladies how to love a man..cos i can see they lack those vital skills badly..

U are very wrong. Among us are the very best of women left in the world.
When we talk of good traditional women; Africa women first! Asian women second, Latin American & Eastern European at the same level.
Core Western women have nothing to write home about.

Yareey:
I'm agree with everything but your second argument. I need a man who can challenge my believes and opinions just like I will challenge his. I would lose myself in the relationship if I have to keep my mouth shut just to keep him by my side and no man is worth that. I'm not even a feminist but I believe that couples should be able to discuss/disagree on stuff in a respectful manner.

I not 30 yet but I will in a couple years, I be checking out white guys if I still can't a compatible African by then

Ehey! so u like arguments! God Don catch u o.
Chai! dia ris gwadooo!

softysparky:
Still looking for my Johnny.

Post is for ladies above 30.

ogawisdom:


Look at her pic n u may nt ask dt question

do I need to,okay let me look

freecocoa:
Good points.

hmm

i expected you to counter the list