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Should A Woman Lie About Having A Child Outside Wedlock?? by BreezyRita(f): 4:25pm On Feb 05, 2015 |
In most parts of the East, having a child oitside wedlock is frowned on. The young girl is deemed wayward. She lives with this stigma. And it becomes difficult for her to get a husband. Who wants a certified "second hand" wife?? Most suitors, on finding out she's had a child, either deserts her on his own or us pressurized by family members to do so. Now, she realizes time is not on her side and decides to do something. My question: Should a young woman who's had a child outside wedlock, lie to her suitor about it. Lying could be by not saying anything about it to him. I know what'll happen if he finds out but I need your opinions here. . |
Re: Should A Woman Lie About Having A Child Outside Wedlock?? by ammyluv2002(f): 4:38pm On Feb 05, 2015 |
NO! No single mum should ever lie to her suitor about that, its better you tell him the truth and if he wants to stay then fine! Love covers all 'sin' and being a single mum doesn't change anyone's personality. Having a child is a thing of joy not that i encourage having a child outside wedlock but it has happened so embrace the child and love him/her dearly. The child should come first when choosing a life partner, look for a man who's even willing to accept the child as your own and not as an outcast 5 Likes |
Re: Should A Woman Lie About Having A Child Outside Wedlock?? by freecocoa(f): 4:43pm On Feb 05, 2015 |
You should tell your man you have a child, wouldn't it be best he accepts you and all you are? |
Re: Should A Woman Lie About Having A Child Outside Wedlock?? by Bisjosh(f): 4:47pm On Feb 05, 2015 |
IT ACTUALLY PROVES THAT YOU ARE FERTILE 2 Likes |
Re: Should A Woman Lie About Having A Child Outside Wedlock?? by BreezyRita(f): 4:47pm On Feb 05, 2015 |
freecocoa: Yes. But when it seems like no one is willing to accept you? What happens? |
Re: Should A Woman Lie About Having A Child Outside Wedlock?? by BreezyRita(f): 4:48pm On Feb 05, 2015 |
Bisjosh: |
Re: Should A Woman Lie About Having A Child Outside Wedlock?? by freecocoa(f): 4:53pm On Feb 05, 2015 |
BreezyRita:Those who don't accept you aren't made for you, you shouldn't be desperate about it. It shouldn't be just about getting married, who you are going to marry is very important, what do you think would happen after getting married and your hubby finds out and rejects you then? A man who loves you whole heatedly will come. |
Re: Should A Woman Lie About Having A Child Outside Wedlock?? by soulglo: 4:54pm On Feb 05, 2015 |
BreezyRita: A woman who would deny her child should not get respect from anyone. 5 Likes |
Re: Should A Woman Lie About Having A Child Outside Wedlock?? by ammyluv2002(f): 4:55pm On Feb 05, 2015 |
BreezyRita:Wait for that someone who will and prayerfully ask God to send him to you |
Re: Should A Woman Lie About Having A Child Outside Wedlock?? by elantraceey(f): 4:58pm On Feb 05, 2015 |
Re: Should A Woman Lie About Having A Child Outside Wedlock?? by ammyluv2002(f): 5:01pm On Feb 05, 2015 |
elantraceey:Nne, there's nothing God cannot do! There are cases of single mums that got married to great guys, do they have 2 heads? God's grace 1 Like |
Re: Should A Woman Lie About Having A Child Outside Wedlock?? by freecocoa(f): 5:05pm On Feb 05, 2015 |
elantraceey:Why think so? Even if they don't come, you live your life and love yourself. You are never going to win by denying your child. 1 Like |
Re: Should A Woman Lie About Having A Child Outside Wedlock?? by Nobody: 5:07pm On Feb 05, 2015 |
elantraceey:So she should lie about it? P.S: any relationship/marriage founded on lies will definitely crumble sooner or later |
Re: Should A Woman Lie About Having A Child Outside Wedlock?? by ammyluv2002(f): 5:08pm On Feb 05, 2015 |
AgapeCharis:Exactly! |
Re: Should A Woman Lie About Having A Child Outside Wedlock?? by ammyluv2002(f): 5:09pm On Feb 05, 2015 |
soulglo:Thank you |
Re: Should A Woman Lie About Having A Child Outside Wedlock?? by cococandy(f): 5:10pm On Feb 05, 2015 |
And what happens to the child? She will be abandoned for the sake of a man who could still mess up tomorrow? No pls. Never deny your child. 5 Likes |
Re: Should A Woman Lie About Having A Child Outside Wedlock?? by Nobody: 5:11pm On Feb 05, 2015 |
ammyluv2002:ur head dey there jare |
Re: Should A Woman Lie About Having A Child Outside Wedlock?? by Nobody: 5:15pm On Feb 05, 2015 |
cococandy:I can see your preference 1 Like |
Re: Should A Woman Lie About Having A Child Outside Wedlock?? by cococandy(f): 5:16pm On Feb 05, 2015 |
AgapeCharis:lol I guess. Always loved baby girls sha. |
Re: Should A Woman Lie About Having A Child Outside Wedlock?? by elantraceey(f): 5:19pm On Feb 05, 2015 |
AgapeCharis: lool , i never met she should lie about it , i only asked the question based on her statement . By the way if she even lies for how long is she going to keep up with it ? At the end the truth will surface and she'll be the one at the losing end. All in all save yourself the stress and keep yourself till marriage simple. |
Re: Should A Woman Lie About Having A Child Outside Wedlock?? by Nobody: 5:20pm On Feb 05, 2015 |
cococandy:I can see. May God bless you with 7 of them. |
Re: Should A Woman Lie About Having A Child Outside Wedlock?? by cococandy(f): 5:21pm On Feb 05, 2015 |
AgapeCharis:2 is enough thank you. I give you back the remaining 5 |
Re: Should A Woman Lie About Having A Child Outside Wedlock?? by Nobody: 5:23pm On Feb 05, 2015 |
elantraceey:Now u'r talking but what if she couldn't keep herself till marriage? |
Re: Should A Woman Lie About Having A Child Outside Wedlock?? by Nobody: 5:24pm On Feb 05, 2015 |
cococandy:Come on!!! 7 is a number of perfection. You should wholeheartedly embrace it. |
Re: Should A Woman Lie About Having A Child Outside Wedlock?? by elantraceey(f): 5:25pm On Feb 05, 2015 |
ammyluv2002: Not everyone is that lucky , there's this family friend of mine who had a child out of wedlock now her child is a graduate but she's yet to get married. She's enjoying her life tho. |
Re: Should A Woman Lie About Having A Child Outside Wedlock?? by elantraceey(f): 5:28pm On Feb 05, 2015 |
AgapeCharis: Lol , a male friend once told me it's only foolish girls that gets pregnant out of wedlock this days except those that did it intentionally , don't know if he's correct though. |
Re: Should A Woman Lie About Having A Child Outside Wedlock?? by Nobody: 5:28pm On Feb 05, 2015 |
elantraceey:Maybe she chose to remain single |
Re: Should A Woman Lie About Having A Child Outside Wedlock?? by Nobody: 5:28pm On Feb 05, 2015 |
I would not keep MY CHILD secret. A mother should be proud of her child. I can understand that it is sometimes difficult for women in this part of the world to live with the stigma and the consequences but to keep your child secret won't solve your problems. Be PROUD of your child and cherish motherhood. |
Re: Should A Woman Lie About Having A Child Outside Wedlock?? by elantraceey(f): 5:30pm On Feb 05, 2015 |
AgapeCharis: Na she didn't , she dated after having her child but none led to marriage then i guess she gave up. |
Re: Should A Woman Lie About Having A Child Outside Wedlock?? by cococandy(f): 5:30pm On Feb 05, 2015 |
AgapeCharis:no thanks |
Re: Should A Woman Lie About Having A Child Outside Wedlock?? by bennyrazz: 5:38pm On Feb 05, 2015 |
I don't understand why a woman should have a child outside wedlock but I can understand her having a child before wedlock. Keeping or lieing about your own child before the man you intend to marry is bad. You should let him know you have a child and if he loves you, he will go ahead. If he doesn't, he will withdraw. But going outside marriage to have a child for someone other than your husband is quite insane, wicked and selfish. What type of infidelity or adultery is that? |
Re: Should A Woman Lie About Having A Child Outside Wedlock?? by Nobody: 5:39pm On Feb 05, 2015 |
elantraceey:He is not correct |
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