11 Reasons A Good Man Won’t Cheat On You by Islie: 11:41am On Feb 09, 2015 |
Cheating in a relationship is, of course, not monopolized by either gender. Men cheat, women cheat, and according to studies, they have different reasons for doing so.
I don’t think we can necessarily just say “men cheat for this reason, and women cheat for this reason,” though. Each individual person and scenario brings about a reason or reasons of its own. That being said though, I think we need to be careful of blanket statements like all men cheat or all women cheat. As a man, I can only speak on behalf of my own gender. I have never cheated and would never cheat — but when I say this to people they always ask how I can say I would never cheat?
There are plenty of reasons why a good man would never even have the thought cross his mind…
1. A good man appreciates what he has.
Obviously, this is a big reason. The more you appreciate your partner, the more valuable they are to you, and the less you are willing risk losing them or hurting them. When a good man truly loves and appreciates the woman in his life would never act in ways that put his relationship with her in jeopardy.
2. A good man has evolved beyond his primal urges.
We all have biological urges instilled in us by billions of years of evolution. The desire to reproduce, s*xual attraction, so on and so forth. This is often used as an excuse for cheating because “we are not built for monogamy.” While monogamy isn’t necessarily natural to humans, a good man understands that being natural is not the point.
Monogamy is a choice. It is a pledge to the person you love to commit yourself to them, and only them. A good man has the ability to resist his basic urges for the sake of a more important choice he has made for himself.
3. A good man values love over a fleeting experience.
When you are in a loving, committed relationship with someone, there are far more layers of fulfillment than just s*x. A relationship based solely on s*xual attraction is a flimsy one that could fall apart at the first challenge; but when two people genuinely love and respect each other, they can weather any storm.
Some people spend their lives searching for that kind of connection. Some find it quickly, some take longer, but when a good man does find it – the thought of throwing it all away for a few minutes of s*xual satisfaction doesn't just makes no sense to him
4. A good man has a conscience.
A simple reason, yes – but a strong one nonetheless. The constant guilt associated with cheating on a woman you love and then having to pretend everything is great when you are around her; I would imagine, is impossibly difficult.
5. A good man respects the woman in his life.
Cheating is disrespect. It is casting someone else’s feelings aside because of something temporary you want. But not just something you want; something you want at the expense of your girlfriend/wife, and your relationship. Cheating is lying to someone, it is breaking their trust, and those are not things you do to someone you respect.
6. A good man has grown past adding notches to his bedpost.
A man who is secure and confident in himself no longer has a need to validate his manhood or self-worth by proving he can ‘get the girl.’ Men who are insecure often times need to continue achieving conquests in order to feel like men. Anyone in this position would be better served to simply stay single and sew their wild oats before they choose to commit to someone exclusively.
7. A good man respects himself.
Integrity is doing the right thing, even when no one is watching. I think some men stop themselves from cheating simply because they are afraid of getting caught – but good men would stay faithful even if it were guaranteed that nobody would find out if they weren’t. Why? Because he respects himself. He holds a certain standard for the way he lives his life and the character he has worked so hard to build and maintain.
8. A good man doesn’t take the easy way out.
Cheating is the easy way out. It’s the easy way out of a bad relationship. It’s the easy way to escape. It’s the easy way to avoid responsibility for a breakup by doing something stupid and having her end it instead. It is a way to avoid facing your problems rather than standing up and dealing with them like a grown adult.
Not all relationships are meant to last. Breakups happen every day and for all different reasons — but a good man will understand that and take it in stride. If he is in a relationship he knows isn’t going to work, or if the time comes he has fallen out of love and knows he shouldn’t be stringing his girlfriend on any longer, he will sit her down and have an adult conversation with her about his feelings. He will not start acting single while he is still in a relationship.
9. A good man values his reputation.
In an earlier point we discussed the concept of integrity and how a good man still wouldn’t cheat even if he was guaranteed to get away with it. The reality of it is though, that he is not guaranteed to get away with it. Some do, and some don’t – but the ones who don’t find themselves with a ruined reputation and behind the 8-ball when it comes to trustworthiness.
Being labeled as a cheater is not just about your romantic life, it permeates your entire character and makes people look at you differently. If you would turn your back and betray the person you ‘love,’ how are people with lesser connections with you supposed to take your word for anything?
10. A good man will never turn his back on a friend.
In a happy, healthy relationship – you are not only lovers, but friends. Best friends. You are each others support systems, teammates, and confidants. A good man will never betray a friend, let alone a best friend.
11. A good man doesn’t even have time to cheat.
You might be thinking to yourself — that’s not a very good reason…am I saying that if he was less busy or had more time he would be hanging out at the bar trying to pick up women? Absolutely not — if he was less busy or had more time he would be using that time to find new ways to love the woman he already has.
That’s why a good man doesn’t have the time to cheat, because the time he does have is dedicated to the woman he loves. The woman he has committed himself to. The woman who he spends his life trying to make happy. The woman he sees as an extension of himself. The woman he has tied his emotions to. Hurting her would be hurting himself — and that is something no good man would choose to do.
Cheating is not an accident. It is not something you slip and fall into. It is not an immediate event that nobody saw coming. It requires the same process that any seduction would — an initial meeting, flirting, maybe some exchanging of information, an invitation, an acceptance of said invitation, and then finally the act itself. You can surely add yours |
Re: 11 Reasons A Good Man Won’t Cheat On You by iceberylin(m): 11:50am On Feb 09, 2015 |
A Good man is impotent |
Re: 11 Reasons A Good Man Won’t Cheat On You by Jeromejnr(m): 11:52am On Feb 09, 2015 |
There are many "good men that still cheat".
And that number 2- Is that possible. It only takes one that fears God. |
Re: 11 Reasons A Good Man Won’t Cheat On You by Nobody: 11:54am On Feb 09, 2015 |
Some good men are born as a cheater! |
Re: 11 Reasons A Good Man Won’t Cheat On You by falconey(m): 11:55am On Feb 09, 2015 |
I HAVE 11 Reasons why good men should cheat |
Re: 11 Reasons A Good Man Won’t Cheat On You by Islie: 11:56am On Feb 09, 2015 |
falconey: I HAVE 11 Reasons why good men should cheat Can you come up with those reasons |
Re: 11 Reasons A Good Man Won’t Cheat On You by Islie: 11:57am On Feb 09, 2015 |
prettythicksme: Some good men are born as a cheater! What then makes a man good when he is a cheater and heart beaker......... Or..... Are you mixing the word good with something else |
Re: 11 Reasons A Good Man Won’t Cheat On You by Islie: 11:59am On Feb 09, 2015 |
iceberylin: A Good man is impotent Just because he is faithful....... That makes him impotent in your dictionary..... These shows that to be a cheat has being program in your system 1 Like |
Re: 11 Reasons A Good Man Won’t Cheat On You by Redoil: 11:59am On Feb 09, 2015 |
Too every woman the defination of a good man is relative to them so ur own defination might not be up to the defination of another person. And what is wrong for been a cheat when a woman can hardly satisfy our sexual desire. |
Re: 11 Reasons A Good Man Won’t Cheat On You by iceberylin(m): 12:01pm On Feb 09, 2015 |
Islie:
These shows that to be a cheat has being program in your system Are you talking about your dad |
Re: 11 Reasons A Good Man Won’t Cheat On You by major466(m): 12:03pm On Feb 09, 2015 |
Waiting for article on; 11 Reasons Why Bad Men should stop cheating. |
Re: 11 Reasons A Good Man Won’t Cheat On You by Islie: 12:04pm On Feb 09, 2015 |
iceberylin:
Are you talking about your dad Never knew I was talking with a juvenile..... Is this how you bring your dad to trivial issues 3 Likes |
Re: 11 Reasons A Good Man Won’t Cheat On You by Islie: 12:07pm On Feb 09, 2015 |
Jeromejnr: There are many "good men that still cheat".
And that number 2- Is that possible. It only takes one that fears God. That's the major element that makes one good.....God |
Re: 11 Reasons A Good Man Won’t Cheat On You by asadike(f): 12:24pm On Feb 09, 2015 |
I pray I find 'the good man'. |
Re: 11 Reasons A Good Man Won’t Cheat On You by temitemi1(m): 12:48pm On Feb 09, 2015 |
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Re: 11 Reasons A Good Man Won’t Cheat On You by jmoore(m): 12:56pm On Feb 09, 2015 |
I represent. 4 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: 11 Reasons A Good Man Won’t Cheat On You by dre11(m): 12:59pm On Feb 09, 2015 |
asadike: I pray I find 'the good man'. Your prayers are answered |
Re: 11 Reasons A Good Man Won’t Cheat On You by dre11(m): 1:00pm On Feb 09, 2015 |
major466: Waiting for article on; 11 Reasons Why Bad Men should stop cheating. You can as well start it |
Re: 11 Reasons A Good Man Won’t Cheat On You by Nobody: 1:09pm On Feb 09, 2015 |
I'm just glad my man doesn't cheat.. Lolxxx |
Re: 11 Reasons A Good Man Won’t Cheat On You by dre11(m): 1:27pm On Feb 09, 2015 |
Bisolarh: I'm just glad my man doesn't cheat.. Lolxxx Because you haven't caught him |
Re: 11 Reasons A Good Man Won’t Cheat On You by Nobody: 1:29pm On Feb 09, 2015 |
soooooo true
but a good man no longer exist.
we have manageable men tho |
Re: 11 Reasons A Good Man Won’t Cheat On You by Islie: 1:36pm On Feb 09, 2015 |
temitemi1: I am the Good Man proving it isn't by words but by actions because actions speak and carries the message that just letters here |
Re: 11 Reasons A Good Man Won’t Cheat On You by Islie: 1:39pm On Feb 09, 2015 |
diddydiva: soooooo true
but a good man no longer exist.
we have manageable men tho maybe you need to widen your search area because where you are now might not accommodate the Goodman |
Re: 11 Reasons A Good Man Won’t Cheat On You by Islie: 1:40pm On Feb 09, 2015 |
dre11:
Your prayers are answered what are you doing there |
Re: 11 Reasons A Good Man Won’t Cheat On You by Nobody: 1:41pm On Feb 09, 2015 |
Islie:
maybe you need to widen your search area because where you are now might not accommodate the Goodman give me the location of the good man I will gladly change where I am |
Re: 11 Reasons A Good Man Won’t Cheat On You by MisterLongman(m): 2:00pm On Feb 09, 2015 |
Islie:
What then makes a man good when he is a cheater and heart beaker.........
Or..... Are you mixing the word good with something else It depends on one's perspective. In some instances, the so called good man might have pushed the wall by the woman in his life and therefore left with no choice but to resort to having another relationship.The man does not necessarily become evil in this kind of scenario. Men cheats for reasons best known to them, which is either good or bad and not bad alone |
Re: 11 Reasons A Good Man Won’t Cheat On You by yemicoal(m): 2:01pm On Feb 09, 2015 |
asadike: I pray I find 'the good man'. hi dear |
Re: 11 Reasons A Good Man Won’t Cheat On You by yemicoal(m): 2:02pm On Feb 09, 2015 |
I was a good man, but ladies spoilt me |
Re: 11 Reasons A Good Man Won’t Cheat On You by asadike(f): 2:03pm On Feb 09, 2015 |
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Re: 11 Reasons A Good Man Won’t Cheat On You by yemicoal(m): 2:07pm On Feb 09, 2015 |
asadike: hey baby How is the day going? |
Re: 11 Reasons A Good Man Won’t Cheat On You by dre11(m): 6:51pm On Feb 09, 2015 |
jmoore: I represent.
Gracias man That's some truth you did speak there |
Re: 11 Reasons A Good Man Won’t Cheat On You by elantraceey(f): 6:54pm On Feb 09, 2015 |
asadike: I pray I find 'the good man'. It's better to pray 'the good man' finds you. 1 Like |