No guy likes to hear “let’s just be friends “
from a woman who he is interested in
romantically. But many guys have this frustrating experience that repeats itself over
and over – they meet a woman, start going out
with her, things seem to go really well and then,
at a certain point, a woman tells them
something to the effect of “I really like you as a
friend” or “lets just be friends” or “I don’t like
you “that” way.” Those words can hurt more
than an actual rejection because they often
leave a man at a loss: he is wondering – “If she
really likes me, as she says she does, why does
she only want to be friends?”

Understanding why women just want to be
“friends” with some guys and want to be
“more” than friends with other men is crucial to
your ability to avoid the friends zone.
My observations suggest that there are five
main reasons that a guy may end up in a friend
zone with a woman who he has a romantic
interest in:

1. The first and the most common reason for
ending up in a friends zone with women is
being too nice, two sweet, and too
accommodating.

It is essential that you understand that there is a
huge difference between being sweet and nice
and being attractive . Think about your
interactions with your co-workers or other
people who you are not very close to – what
makes those interactions formal? – Well, it is
your polite, courteous communication, free of
sarcasm, teasing and inappropriate humor /
jokes. This is exactly what distinguishes a plain,
stiff conversation with no romantic interest or
potential from that communication which
evokes romantic interest – flirting. Flirting is
teasing, laughing, being sarcastic, and dishing
out all kinds of playful innuendos. Sarcasm is
that spice in a conversation which gives it that
romantic flavor that makes a woman look at
you as much more than just a friend.

A guy who talks to a woman by primarily
saying “Oh, yeah, exactly, totally, I completely
agree” – is not going to be an interesting,
attractive, stimulating company to a smart,
confident and otherwise desirable woman. If
she wanted constant approval of what she is
saying, she would be talking to her girlfriends
or … she might just as well talk to a wall – after
all, a wall never disagrees – right?
Do you want to be a wall? I bet not!
So, stop, stop, stop – stop being “neutral,” stop
walking on “eggshells” when you are talking to
a woman, stop being afraid of offending her
with what you say. If she is so sensitive that
she can’t handle a joke or a sarcastic comment,
she is probably a waste of time down the line
anyway, so you might as well find that out as
early as possible.

The next time a woman texts you “I will be
there in a few minutes,” don’t reply with “Sure,
no problem, take your time.” Instead, say: “You
better. I am charging by the minute.”
The next time a girl tells you that she is stuck
in traffic, don’t tell her: “I am sorry, I hope it
clears soon…” – instead, tell her: “Well, you are
a woman, you shouldn’t be driving in a first
place.”
Ironically, both you and the woman will enjoy
this kind of interaction much more and it surely
will keep you miles away and out of the friend
zone.

2. The second most common reason for ending
up in a friend zone with women is being too
eager to get into a relationship.
You should understand and remember that
generally it takes women longer to develop
attraction and romantic interest in a guy than it
takes a guy to develop emotions towards a
woman, and as a guy – you don’t want to be
“ahead” of a woman. You must never be the
first one to ask the woman you are seeing
where you two stand and whether you are
exclusive. Ideally, you should not even tell a
woman you love her until it’s really obvious to
you that she is crazy about you, that she
expects to hear it from you and that she will
even be upset if she doesn’t hear that “L” word.
Further, asking a woman how she feels about
you is pointless and even harmful to your image
as a confident and attractive man in her eyes.

First, it conveys your insecurity and your
concern about how she feels about you which
is never attractive. Besides, if she is eager to
see you and spend time with you and she
makes herself available to you, then you have
your answer and you should let HER ask you
where the two of you stand first.

So, avoid asking the “status” questions. Make
the most out of your time with the woman you
like and be the most attractive, confident and
interesting guy she has ever met, and she will
surely be the first one asking you if you are
seeing anyone else and how serious you are
about her.

3. The third common reason for falling into the
friends zone with women is not being
aggressive enough when the time is right.
Some guys make the mistake of being overly
aggressive with women. Ironically, however,
other men often get into the friends zone
because they are not aggressive enough. It is
important to remember that there is a window
of opportunity when you first meet a woman
during which you must make it clear that you
are interested in her romantically and not
through your words but through your actions. If
you don’t, she will unconsciously “give up” on
thinking of you as a romantic prospect and you
will be permanently classified as a “friend.” So,
if you want to make a move, do it promptly and
this will help you a lot in avoiding the friends
zone! So, what is a good way to be aggressive
and do it promptly? After you establish some
comfort and get to know each other. Flirt –
subtle sexual jokes and innuendos are fun,
especially if the girl seems to be open minded
and receptive. Do not hesitate to touch her
casually, lightly but with affection. Whether
stroking her hair while you tell her that you like
her hair, picking up her hand while your cross
the street, or putting your palm on her back
when she walks inside a restaurant in front you
– those little cues suggest your confidence and
comfort with who you are and they also show
that it’s normal for you to do that and you have
no hang ups about showing basic signs of
physical attention. And, of course, being
aggressive promptly means kissing her when
the time and place are right.

4. Another sure way toward ending up in a
friends zone with girls is talking about the
dating process itself.
It doesn’t really make sense why talking about
love and dating has such a negative effect on
the chemistry between the two people, but it
certainly does. “What are you looking for in a
partner?” “How long was your last
relationship?” “What do you usually enjoy doing
on dates?” “What’s your favorite romantic
movie?” and alike are seemingly harmless
questions, but their harm is immediate and
often unknown, even to the woman herself. The
simple explanation for this phenomenon is this:
dating/relationship issues is what friends are
usually talking about – it’s what girls discuss
over coffee or dinner. Once a woman has a
similar conversation with a guy, she starts
relating to him on the same level as she would
relate to her girlfriend. This, in turn, pushes out
and away that sexual attraction and all other
non-platonic elements of the interaction
between the two people.

5. Lastly, even if you do everything right, some
women will just not see you as a romantic/
sexual partner and you will fall into a friends
zone no matter what you do or say.

This says nothing bad about you or any given
woman. Like with every other guy, not every
woman will want you and be attracted to you,
but that’s perfectly fine and it’s part of the
game. You should recognize it, accept it and
move on toward those women who will feel
attracted to you on all levels and see you as
more than a friend. If you do end up in a
friends zone, the chances of getting out of there
and going back into the “romance track” are
usually low, and thus it’s better to learn how to
avoid getting into a friends zone in the first
place, as building romantic interest is usually
easier than rebuilding your interaction with a
girl.

And, of course, an essential element of avoiding
the friends zone with women is not treating
them or talking to them like you would with a
friend. That is, flirting the right way is essential
for creating chemistry and romantic tension
that we all want to experience.

Get a Range rover.....
Only a mad woman will friendzone u...

iceberylin:
Get a Range rover.....
Only a mad woman will friendzofne u...

eheheheheheh!

iceberylin:
Get a Range rover.....
Only a mad woman will friendzone u...

I agree to disagree.
what if she owns fleets of cars and your very own range is the least expensive in her garage?

Ejisz:

I agree to disagree.
what if she owns fleets of cars and your very own range is the least expensive in her garage?

Na Bill Gate Piken

iceberylin:

Na Bill Gate Piken

lol.
so you don't see it as a possibility?
don't forget you have to consider all odds.
lol