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Re: She Went To My Phone, Now She Is Threatening A Divorce. by sherrylo: 8:47pm On Feb 13, 2015 |
mutter: Thank you! no mind dem so a woman should leave her home because her is seeing someone else? then 95% of children will he leaving with single parent. |
Re: She Went To My Phone, Now She Is Threatening A Divorce. by seunmsg(m): 8:47pm On Feb 13, 2015 |
charles009: OP, I had a very similar experience with you last year december. I live in abuja and was about travelling to lagos for a friend's wedding. I have this female friend that I used to know back in lagos before I moved to abj and got married. Its been a while that I saw her so I pinged her that I will be in lagos and we agreed to meet. Unknowingly to me, my wife has breached my phone security so she had access to my bbm. A day to when I will be travelling, she read my conversation with this lady without me suspecting. On getting to lagos, I pinged my friend but "luckily" for me, her subs expired so my pings did not deliver. On getting back to abj, my wife read my pings without my knowledge as usual but all she saw was the undelivered pings. She was very uncomfortable afterwards but the hard evidence to confront me wasn't there. She suspected I might have called her and we would have seen but that's not enough evidence. Eventually, I noticed something was wrong so I pressed her to tell me what's the matter. She confronted me and I was really shocked with her findings cos I never suspected she could breach my phones security. I quickly explained that she was an old friend and I did not even see her as she must have seen that my ping dint deliver. We eventually settled the matter but I learnt a great lesson from that incident. I use the same password for my phones and ATM. She do withdraw for me from the ATM and that explains how she breached my phone security. Since then, I never used the same password again and I even made it a duty to change my phone password regularly. I also made it a point to clear out any message that could be implicating on my bbm, sms and whatsapp immediately after reading. No matter how careful you are with your phone security, your wife may still breach it cos she's your wife, the closest person to you. Never underrate a woman's ability to get whatever she wanted. Finally, don't be mad with your wife. Apologies and try to explain away the sms as best as you can. You have no right to be exchanging implicating messages with another lady so you are the wrong party here. That she breached your phone security doesn't make what you've done right. There should be no privacy between married couples anyway. 1 Like |
Re: She Went To My Phone, Now She Is Threatening A Divorce. by Nobody: 8:51pm On Feb 13, 2015 |
bbjummy:...the truth is couples must avoid prying each other's phones. If one must avoid ones spouse's phone,please do avoid it. Though it's not easy,still the gain outweighs the pain. |
Re: She Went To My Phone, Now She Is Threatening A Divorce. by lastpage: 8:51pm On Feb 13, 2015 |
charles009: That woman would ruin you beyond imagination! I just thank God for you for TWO THINGS! 1.) She showed her hand very early..... so you have time to adjust and recover ![]() ![]() 2.) You have not committed the mistake of taking her abroad ![]() ![]() ![]() A woman that has the audacity to SMASH HER HUSBANDS PHONE ..... for whatever was bugging her, is an accident waiting to happen. Thank God "Your Parents Prayers on you were not in vain". I suspect you dont have kids yet so PLEASE, for your own "Long Life", chuck out this violent woman that you mistakenly married. Take your time to look for a proper wife, one who will show understanding and decorum, even if she is unhappy with any action of yours. I am all for respecting one's wife and sticking together ....... but l am against this "man-manipulation and violence on men" as well Lastpage! 5 Likes |
Re: She Went To My Phone, Now She Is Threatening A Divorce. by Tonason: 8:51pm On Feb 13, 2015 |
Ladies don't look into your husbands phone. It would s a warning note. Beware of reading his sms . |
Re: She Went To My Phone, Now She Is Threatening A Divorce. by Sacramento4real(m): 8:54pm On Feb 13, 2015 |
Hey!Listern.I give you from now till tomorrow even to go beg her and bring her back to the house,if not........... |
Re: She Went To My Phone, Now She Is Threatening A Divorce. by Karlovich: 8:57pm On Feb 13, 2015 |
Abeg ignore her until she comes back to her senses. She smashed ur fone bc of ordinary text message not minding if there were other important documents or files on the fone. Again she expects u not to chat with other ladies simply bc u are married. Nonsense |
Re: She Went To My Phone, Now She Is Threatening A Divorce. by lastpage: 8:58pm On Feb 13, 2015 |
seunmsg: Are you for real or just having a Nightmare? Where in the Op's post did you find the phrase IMPLICATING MESSAGES? Or so because he is married now, talking with the opposite sex has suddenly become Taboo? If his wife has a sense of insecurity .... which is something some people have and there is virtually nothing anyone can do about it, does that mean she has to SMASH HIS PHONE? ...and here you are asking him to "apologize because he is the wrong party? Abeegi, "woman wrapper" no be Love! Lastpage! 1 Like |
Re: She Went To My Phone, Now She Is Threatening A Divorce. by sherrylo: 8:59pm On Feb 13, 2015 |
Optimall: then wait till you are married with atleast 3kids then you come back and tell us howfar |
Re: She Went To My Phone, Now She Is Threatening A Divorce. by ChynoBEATS: 8:59pm On Feb 13, 2015 |
Re: She Went To My Phone, Now She Is Threatening A Divorce. by ChynoBEATS: 9:05pm On Feb 13, 2015 |
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Re: She Went To My Phone, Now She Is Threatening A Divorce. by fireforfire: 9:08pm On Feb 13, 2015 |
publicenemy: Its official! Ur a home breaker. 1 Like |
Re: She Went To My Phone, Now She Is Threatening A Divorce. by Badgers14: 9:09pm On Feb 13, 2015 |
Melahou: Assuming Op's story is true. The ladies reaction was too harsh, what happened to benefit of the doubt, she should have heared him out maybe he is lying, infact by smashing the phone, she damaged the evidence. Op could even accuse her of litany of stuffs to make the case swing his way. Don't misunderstand me, am not saying cheating is fine but we don't really know what happened, op said " certain girl " with no further elaboration . In summary, me thinks the wife overreacted she should have asked questions first ![]() |
Re: She Went To My Phone, Now She Is Threatening A Divorce. by janejive(f): 9:12pm On Feb 13, 2015 |
@Charles009 I have read all ur post since you joined nairaland, its obvious you are a chronic womanizer who sleeps with almost every available woman he comes across. U had sex with a cameronian and ur condom broke, she later told you she was HIV +, u had a sex with a girl at ur house days before your intoduction october 2014, same u was married in may 2013 and just had anal sex for d 1st time with ur 1st wife. Same u got two girls pregnant at the same time. Please your present wife is better of without u. 4 Likes |
Re: She Went To My Phone, Now She Is Threatening A Divorce. by solla22: 9:16pm On Feb 13, 2015 |
charles009: 4 things 1. You got married just last december and you are already having such text messages on your phone - You should be asking yourself some questions as well. 2. What would you do if you were in her shoes - 3. What do you expect from someone that wants to spend the rest of her life with you seeing such messages in just a few months of marriage. 4. I blame her for over reacting - she should have at least asked some questions. 1 Like |
Re: She Went To My Phone, Now She Is Threatening A Divorce. by uboma(m): 9:21pm On Feb 13, 2015 |
charles009: She's your wife and YES she has every right to pry into your private life especially when she suspects something is amiss. Whatever she saw from your phone must have annoyed her, hence her actions. If you love your woman, you should go after her. 2 Likes |
Re: She Went To My Phone, Now She Is Threatening A Divorce. by peedeeasobie(m): 9:26pm On Feb 13, 2015 |
charles009: Mr. man, are you OK? Are you married or dating? Why shouldn't she go through your phone? what are you hiding? Where you forced to marry? The day you decided to marry, you gave up your right to any sort of privacy to your wife. Go and apologise to your wife, STOP THAT AFFAIR and bring that innocent woman home. 3 Likes |
Re: She Went To My Phone, Now She Is Threatening A Divorce. by publicenemy(m): 9:31pm On Feb 13, 2015 |
fireforfire: You must be a lady. |
Re: She Went To My Phone, Now She Is Threatening A Divorce. by cococandy(f): 9:40pm On Feb 13, 2015 |
candygosh:really? @bold |
Re: She Went To My Phone, Now She Is Threatening A Divorce. by bbjummy: 9:40pm On Feb 13, 2015 |
Tonason:Only look into it after he might have succeeded in infecting you with HIV or hepatitis B ko. |
Re: She Went To My Phone, Now She Is Threatening A Divorce. by Onegai(f): 9:41pm On Feb 13, 2015 |
bushdoc9919: My sister said that during Housemanship was her very first time having to tell an older woman who was a wife, with children in secondary school, that she was HIV positive. The way that woman nearly died, screaming and crying when the news was brought to her, cursing her husband in their language, brought her to tears. The 2nd HIV positive wife she treated threw up blood in her office. They had to fumigate/disinfect it. After that, she and her female colleagues swore that they would never tolerate cheating husbands. Women, go to LUTH, go to their HIV support group. Go and see housewives and working women, respectable, bad o, temper o, quiet o, all in anguish, living with HIV. How they are scared of dying and leaving their children unprotected. Go and find out how high the number of them got it from cheating husbands. I can tell you from experience that children of cheating husbands rarely make good marriages and have healthy relationships, they are so emotionally scarred. Sons and Daughters. Then come and tell me to ignore my husband's cheating and focus on my kids. 6 Likes |
Re: She Went To My Phone, Now She Is Threatening A Divorce. by Dubemkelly(m): 9:41pm On Feb 13, 2015 |
elantraceey:You can be nosey af but here's the thing, know ur partner, appreciate the similarities and respect the differences... Too much details seeking could be detrimental, learn to give ur man his space. |
Re: She Went To My Phone, Now She Is Threatening A Divorce. by sweetgala(m): 9:43pm On Feb 13, 2015 |
thorpido: She did say protecting herself and her children , what did you think she meant. Men change , I've seen hardcore guys go 360 degrees , I hope her husband turns a new leaf before it is too late. |
Re: She Went To My Phone, Now She Is Threatening A Divorce. by Nobody: 9:49pm On Feb 13, 2015 |
cococandy: We can't all feign to be perfect! I might be doing something wrong he doesn't like. It also still doesn't mean he's the right one like I said in that same paragraph. If I'm not d wrong one n he's just unrepentant then I can choose to walk away before I get Stds or worse still hiv I hope u get where I'm coming from |
Re: She Went To My Phone, Now She Is Threatening A Divorce. by Nobody: 9:54pm On Feb 13, 2015 |
Onegai: Pardon my asking so what will u do when u find ur husband cheating on you and he just doesn't care? I'm curious |
Re: She Went To My Phone, Now She Is Threatening A Divorce. by coolviv: 9:59pm On Feb 13, 2015 |
Sis what if he gives you hiv? Will you ever forgive yourself for rendering your innocent children orphans? Marriage is tough though but one needs to think things through. mutter: 1 Like |
Re: She Went To My Phone, Now She Is Threatening A Divorce. by oputa1000(m): 10:01pm On Feb 13, 2015 |
oga go n apologize to ur wife. u passworded ur phone for ur wife not to have access to it. Very unfair n insincerity. Ppl like u dont allow singlers to enjoy demselves. Go n apologize to her before it gets late....... |
Re: She Went To My Phone, Now She Is Threatening A Divorce. by cococandy(f): 10:01pm On Feb 13, 2015 |
candygosh: Now that I can relate to ![]() |
Re: She Went To My Phone, Now She Is Threatening A Divorce. by thorpido(m): 10:03pm On Feb 13, 2015 |
Melahou:He must show a willingness to change and take action or else the serial forgiveness will turn to indulgence. |
Re: She Went To My Phone, Now She Is Threatening A Divorce. by cococandy(f): 10:07pm On Feb 13, 2015 |
During my nysc, I volunteered for our local HiV awareness group and the things I saw. The things I saw ![]() One guy was even on drugs and didn't tell his wife. The woman was so sick she nearly lost her pregnancy. After she tested positive,she was made to bring her husband for couple's counseling and the man was lying that he didn't know he could infect her since he was on drugs. I thank God she didn't commit suicide because she was at that point already. That's what turning the blind eye to an unrepentant cheat can lead to. I wonder if she can ever forgive herself for bringing a HIV positive baby into this world to suffer because she couldnt leave the man who's penis was perpetually on adventure. Onegai: 5 Likes |
Re: She Went To My Phone, Now She Is Threatening A Divorce. by torpedodaezy(f): 10:07pm On Feb 13, 2015 |
Melahou:good advice |
Re: She Went To My Phone, Now She Is Threatening A Divorce. by thorpido(m): 10:11pm On Feb 13, 2015 |
sweetgala:I know but we all know there are times we all let our guards down especially in a marriage. It's true some guys make a 360 degrees turn around but there must be a willingness to change.It's important that irreparable damage is not done before then. |
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