roselynbas:


The op didn't tell us you were part of the organising committee, I guess he missed that part.

ratatis:


Thank for sharing, bro.

FolarinLondon:


Women are hypocrites. If the husband happens to be the one who looked through his wife's phone, women ll start calling him names; they ll say that the husband is possessive and insecure

BuddhaPalm:


Ratatis my main man.

I go tell your madam. Wire money enter my account and I'll keep mum

gofyourself:


id rather live honest painful life than being fooled around with some slutts

Blitz888:
this same principles you mentioned above were the very same principles I lavishly bestowed on my Ex and she didn't just rubbish it but took it that I was weak. I can never thread that path again.
Back to topic!
Op, its your wife we're talking about here and not a gf. You must have really effed up big time.. Apologize to her with a promise never to do such again.

I used to be an advocate of 'full disclosure' in rship but I am gradually beginning to review that stand cos experience has thought me to.

I'd be a tad bit insensitive to dismiss all you've said outrightly.

I say this because even though I've not openly told my story to the world, I've seen my love for a guy rubbed in my face, I've been spoken to in a very harsh and controlling manner, and even though I'm actively recovering, I was damaged psycho-emotionally.

I used to be in support of full disclosure too, like you I'm still reviewing that aspect (especially in a dating r/ship context).

However Bro.
Whether it is dating o
Whether it is marriage.

In this aspect of cheating/opposite sex, disclosure is a must.
Loyalty is un-negotiable.
Not because the person deserves it or not, but because it's my character, my person, that's the only way I can sleep peacefully at night.


At this stage of my life, if I consider a person good enough to date me and VICE VERSA, depending on his level of security, (because I know I'm very prone to the attraction of the male folk) I will do my best to clear his doubts, should he present them.

If it means full disclosure in that area, then so be it.

I'm doing it mainly for myself, sanity and peace of mind

Do unto others......

Closetoheart:
Forgiveness is a choice. My husband cheated on me with his long time gf barely two months into our marriage. I saw the messages... I wanted to commit suicide. I was pregnant at that time. I felt abused, disappointed and bad. He apologised and I forgave him. Eight months later, I saw him send his unclad picture to the same girl. I threatened to pack out of the house, he apologised again, and promised not to do it again.

Now, you know what? I don't care any more. Whether he is still seeing the girl or not is his problem. He is answerable to God. He is a xtian, he ministers in church now. So if he still indulges in such acts, he will have God to answer to.

Do you why I kept on forgiving him? Because he apologised. It still pains me, but I have promised myself that the forgiveness will stand, and I will continue to forgive him, even if he does something worse. Because I cannot continue to bear grudge in my heart. I want to make heaven.

The best I can do is to be wise. When I say being wise, it means protecting myself and my children from whatever inactions or actions of their dad that might want to cause harm to us.

yebo:

honestly i so Much love your comment, You have Saïd it all, i told m'y husband That ces cheating on me but He denied but Just to prove it i went through hes phone n i saw his chat with a lady, asking m'y husband to take hip out That she Is bored at home

ratatis:



well, not necessarily b'cos of her, but a phone may be stolen & fall in the wrong hand.

Joshuadon:


She acted childish...... But remember the very oat:for better for worse

Dyt:
............................

U are lucky u got urself a calm woman, shey na only phone she smash, she for smash ur balls with her heels.

cococandy:
During my nysc, I volunteered for our local HiV awareness group and the things I saw.
The things I saw . Hmm

One guy was even on drugs and didn't tell his wife. The woman was so sick she nearly lost her pregnancy. After she tested positive,she was made to bring her husband for couple's counseling and the man was lying that he didn't know he could infect her since he was on drugs.

I thank God she didn't commit suicide because she was at that point already.

That's what turning the blind eye to an unrepentant cheat can lead to.
I wonder if she can ever forgive herself for bringing a HIV positive baby into this world to suffer because she couldnt leave the man who's penis was perpetually on adventure.

BuddhaPalm:


Aha, someone doesn't want to get very famous

janejive:
@Charles009 I have read all ur post since you joined nairaland, its obvious you are a chronic womanizer who sleeps with almost every available woman he comes across. U had sex with a cameronian and ur condom broke, she later told you she was HIV +, u had a sex with a girl at ur house days before your intoduction october 2014, same u was married in may 2013 and just had anal sex for d 1st time with ur 1st wife. Same u got two girls pregnant at the same time. Please your present wife is better of without u.

chibic:
my guy you nailed it!
I remember a thread where a guy went through his wife's phone and noticed her flirtations with another man.the man was calling her "my love" and she was calling him sweet heart.the husband found out and threatened to end the union.you need to see the comments from useless nairaland women.they called him all sorts of name..some said he's not ready for marriage,some said it was just an endearment,infact,they threw the whole blame on the husband even asking him to work on himself.honestly,nairaland have made me to have a more negative opinion of women because what they write here is exactly from the depth of their hearts.the thing even made me to know that I shouldn't even kill myself over woman.just let her go and move unto the next one.

Naavah:

What my eyes have seen for some weeks now eh. We give drugs to nothing less than 60 pple per week. I gave this beautiful woman n her 7yr old kid ARs today and I almost cried. Very beautiful woman

candygosh:


Op is just a troll. Only he did all of what was in his posts and topics haba.
But thing is someone else might be going tru somehing similar he posted today n can learn a thing or two

mutter:


If all cheating men were made to face the consequences of "cheating", how many cheating husbands will still exist.

Closetoheart:
Forgiveness is a choice. My husband cheated on me with his long time gf barely two months into our marriage. I saw the messages... I wanted to commit suicide. I was pregnant at that time. I felt abused, disappointed and bad. He apologised and I forgave him. Eight months later, I saw him send his unclad picture to the same girl. I threatened to pack out of the house, he apologised again, and promised not to do it again.

Now, you know what? I don't care any more. Whether he is still seeing the girl or not is his problem. He is answerable to God. He is a xtian, he ministers in church now. So if he still indulges in such acts, he will have God to answer to.

Do you why I kept on forgiving him? Because he apologised. It still pains me, but I have promised myself that the forgiveness will stand, and I will continue to forgive him, even if he does something worse. Because I cannot continue to bear grudge in my heart. I want to make heaven.

The best I can do is to be wise. When I say being wise, it means protecting myself and my children from whatever inactions or actions of their dad that might want to cause harm to us.

Omotolu:
...the choice one makes is primarily his. I won't influence your choices. Some stuffs are not worth the pains and time, prying ones spouse's phone is one of such. I will rather be called a fool than to live in pain over worthless issues. Vanity upon vanity.

gofyourself:


U feel pain once and than u move on with your life. i dont believe that u would be living happily ever after if your wife would be cheating on u, and one day your neighbour ( or smbd else) tells u- bro i feel so pitty for u ( because such things ALWAYS come out eventually). u confront your wife and she says well yeah its been happening for 4 years of 5 years of marriage. And than u think i invested in u money, effort, was by your side when sick, gave all my self etc. So basically wasted 4 years if not more of your life )) fooooool muahhahajaha. I wish u that

FolarinLondon:

You can imagine a lady slapping guys cos she beautiful and guys ll tell her "babez, don't do that again pls, I don't like it". Chaiii!!!! Real story bro but she met her Waterloo d day she tried that stunt with me cos she found out that I was cheating, I allowed her to cook and relax on the bed before giving her a well deserved slapsss and blows and she consequently fainted for about 15mins but wasn't bothered. She woke up to see her well packed bag on the table for her unceremonious departure. She went on her kneels and started telling me how she had been spoilt by her useless exs who wouldn't say anything abt this repulsive attitude......

chibic:
hahahaha this is very funny.but don't be surprised that she may also have another boybriend that you doesn't know.they always want to eat their cake and have it.