fem29:


The most you should have done is slap her back then drag her out of your house! Instead you beat her to a stupor, Kai. What if you had killed her , what then?

fem29:


Okk oo, . each to their own

Dyt:


Iyamu more than a burning faya

U must like the alternative S&M

FolarinLondon:


No, I didn't beat her oooo oo, perhaps the way I made it sound in my previous post. Let me xplain what happened on dat fateful day. Prior to our meeting, they have told her all sort of rubbish about me in terms of me being a randy guy by one of her elder sister's friends whom i have dated before and as result of all this info, she was xtremely vigilant.

What happened was that she has been suspecting that something wasn't right. Yea!! She was right but there wasn't no time for me to see the new girl despite her effort to see me after couple of dates(met in town) and I honestly speaking, I didn't intend to have any relationship with the new girl; it was just smting I couldn't lay my hands on. However, my attitude didn't change toward my girlfriend despite there was a new girl in d bloc cos I loved my girlfriend to bit then but she started suspecting cos I hardly missed her calls

On that fateful day, we were on my bed gisting, playing and laughing when a call came through, I looked on the screen of my phone to see who the caller was but realised that it was d new babe. I ignored the calls but she insisted that I must picked it but told her it wasn't an important call. I finally decided to pick the call but while I was saying Hey! Hey! I can't hear you(The caller), i looked up and my girlfriend's eyes were like Shekau eyes; red like blood but as I was about to cut the line due to bad network. She gave me a massive slap nobody has ever given me even my parents.......

Chaiii!!! I was like am I watching European or American movies or dreaming? Tokunboh wake up now if you re dreaming. I remember saying to myself while growing up back in d days after watching American movies that if a woman slap me like the way American ladies slapped American men in those movies that I ll kill the lady. Luckily, Nigerian ladies are well brought up in Nigeria and I never went through this until I got to western world.

So I didn't attack her immediately; out of anger cos I might end up committing murder. I just sat there looking like zombie, thinking that Tokunboh, u r finished. This babe just slapped you and you re here mumuing yourself but while I was lost in thought, she was already begging and I said it was ok.

She went downstair to make noodles and came back. By then, I have already decided to give her two hot slap in quick succession and that was exactly what I did. She pretended to have fainted but later came alive.....

babygirlfl:


If this story is true, then she is one woman with very low self esteem. Imagine cooking for and relaxing on the bed of a boyfriend who you have just discovered is cheating on you.

fem29:


Lol ok oo very descriptive, I am just very anti violence and I cannot fight. I can never hit a man, if dem slap me once with their strong hands na die be dat. Ladies oo, control your temper men can inflict so much more damage to you than you can do to them.

cococandy:
and he's proud too.

fem29:


As in ehn, babygirl we really need to do a lot of work to make sure our girl child has a healthy sense of self. As in she must feel like she is nothing without a man . Sad

CityNG:


If all of us Nigerians can maintain this stance then we'll coexist very well and peacefully.

No need to second guess each other, put each other down (at least try to anyways) or require anyone yo confirm to s perceived right way of doing things.

FolarinLondon:


No I should be crying

delishpot:


Na you type this? When did you become a rational person? You wey before person makes a comment, you will use insults and abuses to tell them you do not agree with them?
I thank God o. I pray you continue to live like this from now on.

delishpot:


Perfect wife for naija men!
This is not to insult you o. But you are too cheap. You prolly are staying for money. I cant work with a pastor that lives in sexual sin and here is a woman comfortably furcking him.
How do you forgive yourself? Going to chursh, smilling, encouraging people to say amen when he prays, act and lie your church that all is well? God will judge you too.
See you see STD and HIV
Be wise ko, be smart ni! You are not wise, if you still got pregnant by him after the 1st baby, You were not wise. You opened your gate to be flooded by potential STD carrying Semen. You are just lucky to have escaped.

stonecoldcafe:

You are too meek for my liking. Be careful so you don't get infected with HIV or some other STD.

By d way did u snatch him 4rm d girl? Cos it seems u hv accepted ur fate!

FolarinLondon:



Channel your eeffort/prayer towards 21st century ladies.

stonecoldcafe:

I'm sorry bout d snatching part but I saw tons of people liking dt ur comment n I felt bad. At d end of d day its ur marriage n u run it as u deem fit. But d gullible need not accept that.

Women need to know n realize they deserve better in life n marriage. How each woman chooses to go about that is her business.

By d way did u c d Hanks Anuku thread dt hit front page yesterday? That sort of ish is my major concern!! Goodluck

damiso:


Not holding brief for a 'lady' to slap you but by your own hands you typed 'you gave her blows and she fainted' then you packed her bags and when she came round (you people were not even scared if she had a concussion ) she knelt down and started begging you...

Seriously (and this includes her intial slap that started it all) if that was my daughter I would feel that I had failed as a parent. that failure is one that would even haunt me more than for example she not getting admission into a top tier uni.It would mean she has no respect first for herself and in turn others cos slapping you is not the way to handle cheating suspicions.

That's why my prayer was for us to raise children (note I did not say a specific gender) who have a healthy sense of self.

delishpot:


But o, why do some women think slaping a man is okay? If my daughter sef slap a man and he slaps her back, I wont even tell her sorry.I will say good for her.
Shuo, as long as he did not attack her or try to attack her, she has a right to keep her hands to her sides.
I tire for this trend abroad sha. Woman go just land man a slap and expect him to just smile.
Unless she heard a bad news and then I try to hold her from running or killing herself and she slap me, will I not take it as a bad thing.

CityNG:


You're still doing this follow follow thing of following me around NL you dimwit?

Go get a girlfriend or a hobby dipshyte.

Racoon.

Closetoheart:


Lol. Staying cos of money? I earn 3x my husband's salary, i am not bluffing, i just need to let you know not all women are money freak. What I stated is my opinion and you have no right to judge me. Share your opinion too and I ll see if I can learn from it. Desist from insulting pple.

delishpot:


Typical! Classic! Thats the CityNG I knew. I knew you were lying when you typed that ish! You just slithered out of your den in your true color
I hope people understand now the other side of You. You are not the sweet live and let live personality you are trying so hard to portray. Lair lair pants on fire.
Will leave you to grow up some more. Before mod ban me here now.

FolarinLondon:


Yes I agreed with you. I didn't see all these things while growing up in Nigeria until I got to western world where it's a norm for ladies to slap their boyfriends but forget story, I m exceptional to this trend.

But guess what!!! White girls don't even do all these things; it's only my sisters from motherland and their carribean counterparts that indulge in this barbaric and repulsive attitude. Typical example was what you saw Solange doing to Jay Z in the lift. You need to date white girls to see how respectful and hard working they are. The only shortcoming of white girls i know is that they are too emotional and childlike (not childish ). However, my submission or personal observation doesn't represent all white girls.

CityNG:


Go find another userid to hump.

I'm immune to your deranged tactics.

Oponu Ode, take your meds too while you're at it.

delishpot:


Cheiiii, this ya mouth is bad oooo. You win, I give up.
NL abuser of the year. You win. No picture requests?

Since you know my meds, biko get them for me
When you go to refill yours.

Anyhoe. I dey avoid ban.

delishpot:


OK o, Sorry if I insulted you o. E just dey pain me say you dey go through all that wahala in the name if marriage.
Sit him down and draw the line, this ya sidon look attitude will only make him not even notice your feelings.

Melahou:
Its obvious she has seen something damaging so defending yourself is out of it
cos its glaring...
she`s your wife for Christ sake...that you dont check her phone does not mean
she cant check yours especially when you have created room for suspicious...

ask for forgive and tell her you wont "misbehave again"

Closetoheart:


Thanks delishpot. I have spoken to him and he promised to change.

seangy4konji:


COUPLES should learn to respect privacy as what you dont see you dont get angry about it...Nor try am with me ooo,you wont enter the house again and if you will,you will stay in your parents house or wherever you are for a while as if kids are not involved?i will lock up the place and go continue leaving a stress free life in another state or hotel for a month...i will never beg you back no matter what you saw on the phone

seangy4konji:

you women are like devil and only a foolish man will let his wife,mother or anything woman know all about him because no matter how a woman have asked you to trust her?a day will come when that secret that she knows or little she knows will be turned into your weakness and you will be caught off guards...respect your wife but not a foolish way...Just like having a joint account with a Nigerian woman...The moment she goes to a party with her friends envious of her and she takes a bottle of origin just to cool off and they discuss,she says and my husband has 60 million naira in our joint account she you know,those ones will say and he is driving a range rover and bought this rickety corrola sport for you then wahala have started knowing that that money is your retirment pension funds...

temmym4:
@Op. Sorry about that, but i have you to blame. It appears your wife caught you doing something not right and unfortunately for you, she is hot tempered. u know your wife more than anyone else, if you know you v got some incriminating stuffs anywhere including your phone, be smart enough to wipe them, better still avoid creating a room for devil in your marriage by bn faithful.

Firstly, I dont get the basics of people hiding their phones from their spouse, why will you do that if your conscience is clear? As a matter of fact, the more you stop hiding those gadgets, the less you commit infidelity and any kinds of dirty habits you feel isnt right.
Doesn't it feel so sweet when she checks your phone and she couldnt find anything incriminating? when that natural smile and self confidence hits you naturally?
You are a Man, u v grown up, you decided to get married, no one forced you into doing so. U eventually did. Now u decided cheating is your next agenda. Madness. Am sorry but was your brain on holiday when you were planning marriage earlier and you knew you haven't had enough fun yet? Or is it something u saw on the other lady? Probably the way she packages herself, her makeups or what she wears? Why not get the same materials for your own. Help her & make her exactly what you want in a woman, am sure there are still some understanding wives out there who would understand you.

I found some comments on the thread which i found quite uhmmm, oh well...




Like seriously?! Why? Cos you are the husband? cos you own the right to do whatever you like without being questioned? Dude, easy. If she catches you cheating on phone and she gets upset, it s her right. U owe her an explanation and an apology. It s left for her to determine if she will forgive you or not. You ll lock up your house and continue living a stress free life in another state/hotel for a month? Lolz. You watch too much movies dude, where the actor owns his own company and resources, decides to chill and enjoy life in an hotel out of his city because something went wrong and he couldnt fix it. This is reality dude. your family, your life, imagine yourself as an official worker and u were absent for a whole month. And what happened afterwards? You come back to the situation you ran away from right? You just wasted ur time for a whole month and threw away your career plus your family all in the name of not admitting you are wrong and reefusing to apologise because u felt u are the boss. A Simple problem that can be avoided turns complicated.

That is one major Nigerian disadvantage of marrying your little sister instead of your friend, yeah..when you marry someone 10yrs younger than you and after some time, her opinions doesn't seem to matter anymore and you begin to act bossy, treating her like your little Kid and at the long run beating her. Shame!




Some Men can be so funny, A woman you live with, sleeps with on the same bed and have intecourse with, cooks your food, Knows almost everything about your existence day by day and you really feel you can outsmart her. I laugh in Hindi. A woman who has the tendency to murder you will definitely do regardless of how smart you think you are.

Bn in Marriage is one thing, bn intelligent enough to make it a success is another thing. Everyone has got their own shares of problems, trials and tribulations in their own marriages, but the ability to turn those crises around successfully without a third party's consent is what makes a successful home. Pray for the Lord's guidance and never to end up with the wrong choice. A good woman will do anything to make you go higher, cos she knows when u reach the high places, she is automatically there as well by default settings.

Marriage is one sweet thing that can ever happen to anyone except you make it a complicated institution yourself.