Please nairalanders I need opinions on this matter.

I have a fiancée whom I've been dating for almost a year now. We know much about ourselves, to some extent though, and we've been a perfect match right from day 1.
The complaints I get from her recently is that I act like I don't care, stating examples like I don't check her phones, ask about guys disturbing her, protect her from talking to guys when we're in the same environment, etc, and I'm not jealous enough and she doesn't like it. On my part I think I'm giving her some degree of freedom because we're not yet married.
Please, to the experienced males & females, what degree of jealousy should I show for her to know that I truly care & how far is too much?

Then do to her wat she is asking 4, if dat's going to please her. But some girls sha, she get time!

izaray:
Then do to her wat she is asking 4, if dat's going to please her. But some girls sha, she get time!

Agreed

marieclare:


Agreed

Abi oo, let her guy keeps checking her phone, and if he sees anytin funny, let him wooz her a dirty slap, its den she will now realize wat she used her mouth to asked for.

izaray:
Abi oo, let her guy keeps checking her phone, and if he sees anytin funny, let him wooz her a dirty slap, its den she will now realize wat she used her mouth to asked for.

I get that she wants to feel "owned" but the things she's asking for are not going to help in the end. I no support the woozing slap though! Lool

At the poster, one thing though is if you wait till you marry her before showing all that jealousy ur storing up, she will say that u have changed and that you never used to be like that before. Another wahala.

marieclare:

I get that she wants to feel "owned" but the things she's asking for are not going to help in the end. I no support the woozing slap though! Lool

But babe, any relationship witout a little jealousy, is always sum how bored

izaray:
But babe, any relationship witout a little jealousy, is always sum how bored

Yea but going through phones and all? Haba. She should just say she wants a monitoring spirit. My only thing with what the poster said is that he's waiting for marriage first before...he should show that concern now so she can feel better

If bae is not jealous ... then bae is not bae.

I learnt it's not wise for a guy to be jealous of a his girlfrnd or else she will use it against him.

marieclare:


Yea but going through phones and all? Haba. She should just say she wants a monitoring spirit. My only thing with what the poster said is that he's waiting for marriage first before...he should show that concern now so she can feel better

I get ur point but I'm not waiting till marriage b4 I exhibit jealousy. I do now but she feels it's not enough, like monitoring her calls, msgs, etc

OROZONE:
If bae is not jealous ... then bae is not bae.

Dat's 2ru bro but I believe to some extent......

izaray:
But babe, any relationship witout a little jealousy, is always sum how bored

Hmmmmmm, very true @Izaray & I do but not enough according to her because I don't ask many questions about her calls & check her msgs.

Segse:


I get ur point but I'm not waiting till marriage b4 I exhibit jealousy. I do now but she feels it's not enough, like monitoring her calls, msgs, etc

in my opinion, that doesn't just show jealousy; that would show a man that does not trust his girl and borderline obsession. You should try and make her understand that some of the things she's asking of you wouldn't help you guys. What if you're going through her phone now and see something that doesn't go down well with you (not that she's messing around but you know how it is), then headache will be nonstop. At the end of the day, it's between you both and what works for y'all. Just keep in mind that it's all about having a healthy relationship, a little of this and that.

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marieclare:


in my opinion, that doesn't just show jealousy; that would show a man that does not trust his girl and borderline obsession. You should try and make her understand that some of the things she's asking of you wouldn't help you guys. What if you're going through her phone now and see something that doesn't go down well with you (not that she's messing around but you know how it is), then headache will be nonstop. At the end of the day, it's between you both and what works for y'all. Just keep in mind that it's all about having a healthy relationship, a little of this and that.

The same thing I'm thinking my sister & I knw d implications of doing what she wants. I appreciate ur advice ma'am

Ipledge:
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Ipledge:
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Op, sometimes a mild degree of realistic jealousy is necessary and may serve to protect a relationship, but the other edge of the sword is that individuals consumed or obsessed with jealousy may become destructive of themselves, the relationship, or their partner and the problem arises when aggression and/or violence accompanies the jealousy. Once you've reached this stage, you obsessively begin questioning her loyalty to you, and that sends you into a rage, maybe even causing you to use physical force. Just try to talk things with her.. She needs your time but has no clue how to pass the message to you man.. Ladies- very funny beings

Charles4075:
Op, sometimes a mild degree of realistic jealousy is necessary and may serve to protect a relationship, but the other edge of the sword is that individuals consumed or obsessed with jealousy may become destructive of themselves, the relationship, or their partner and the problem arises when aggression and/or violence accompanies the jealousy. Once you've reached this stage, you obsessively begin questioning her loyalty to you, and that sends you into a rage, maybe even causing you to use physical force. Just try to talk things with her.. She needs your time but has no clue how to pass the message to you man.. Ladies- very funny beings

I get u bro, tanx a lot