It took me so much courage before I could come out here to share my problem.

It all started in 2012 when I met my ex in Lagos and we kicked it off in a relationship but little did I know that he was still keeping a girl he claimed to have left, along the line we started having issues about the same girl to the point of him beating me.

This guy in question was once married but lost his wife after childbirth and so with this my parents refused me marrying him because he was talking about marriage. So after like 10 months he was still treating me bad I decided to quit the relationship but he begged that he will never do it again. Months later he travelled abroad and I also got a job in another city and left.

We still kept in touch but I met another man in the new city and decided to give him a chance. Though this new guy has no child but his problem is that he gets angry too much and wants to control everything about me but he is very generous . He doesn't even care if I'm sick or not, unlike my former guy who is more caring and always want to pet me.

Now I'm at a cross road because the one here has gone to see my parents and has set a date for the wedding and preparations are on top gear while the one abroad has come back to marry me like he promised. I'm really not happy with the one here because of his attitude and i'm contemplating on running away with the one from abroad because he understands me better.

Please is love enough in marriage?? Help me as your sister

Don't do anything stupid
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OK so what is it about your ex that has changed? He left you for another girl before and even beat you because of that girl.....
Babes you can't have it all ,all men have flaws you just have to weigh if his flaws are swallowed by his strengths
Not everyone will be able to show you care the way you'd like it but if in other ways he makes up for it then stick it out
Plus a man that lays his hands on his woman for whatever reason(except she beat up his mother) is a no no for me ........

None of your suitors love you IMHO. The former was a consistent cheat and the new guy is controlling,does not cherish your feelings. Why would you want to marry any of them. Gal you deserve better.

Like they say life is not always a bed of roses, sometimes we all make compromises. I wouldn't advice you marry someone who doesn't care about your well being...but then maybe that's just what you conjure up cos you wanna go see the Queen. I know ladies can be like that when they wanna jump boat, they'll start seeing flaws in the man.

Anyways, in the end you alone can decide who you believe will give you happiness

Pls run away but make sure you don't run away with his money..

Well what actually made me to consider marrying the one here is because my I seeked for spiritual help from two men of God that said the one here is my husband and that he is better than the one abroad, and I also has a convincing revelation about the one here too unlike the one abroad

andromida:
None of your suitors love you IMHO. The former was a consistent cheat and the new guy is controlling,does not cherish your feelings. Why would you want to marry any of them. Gal you deserve better.

dossypretty:
Well what actually made me to consider marrying the one here is because my I seeked for spiritual help from two men of God that said the one here is my husband and that he is better than the one abroad, and I also has a convincing revelation about the one here too unlike the one abroad

so why did u still run away,I believe in prophesy,if you do then stay

dossypretty:
It took me so much courage before I could come out here to share my problem. It all started in 2012 When I met my ex in lagos and we kicked it off in a relationship but little did I know that he was still keeping a girl he claimed to have left, along the line we started having issues about the same girl to the point of him beating me . This guy in question was once married but lost his wife after childbirth and so with this my parents refused me marrying him because he was talking about marriage. So after like 10 months he was still treating me bad I decided to quite the relationship but he begged dat he will never do it again. Months later he travelled abroad and I also got a job in another city and left. We still kept intouch but I met another man in the new city and decided to give him a chance, though this new guy has no child but his problem is that he gets angry too much and wants to control everything about me but he is very generous . He doesn't even care if am sick or not unlike my former guy who is more caring and always want to pet me.
Now am at a cross road because the one here has gone to see my parents and has set a date for d wedding and preparations are on top gear while the one abroad has come back to marry me like he promised. Am really not happy with the one here because of his attitude and am contemplating on running away with the one from abroad because he understands me better. Pls is love enough in marriage! Help me as your sister

go 4 deliverance and accept christ.

Quite a dilemma...

They both sound... unique, I think your issue isn't that you want to go back to the first guy but that you don't wanna marry the 2nd one because he is too controlling, which personally I can't stand BUT if you love him and he's kind and generous and faithful and isn't abusive like the last guy then my opinion is you should go ahead with the marriage, it's normal for brides to get cold feet really normal just pray over it and try and spend more time with him to remind yourself of why you even started dating him in the first place.

As for the 1st guy he sounds like a douche I have no comment on him

I FEEL YOUR PAIN

half bread is better than pufpuf. there's no perfect man anywhere. we all have our baggage. @op are u saying that u are perfect? what of ur own shortcomings. abi u never cheat b4. go ahead n get married or elop n ruin d rest of ur life. if u be my sis enh I for d whip u koboko till ur sense come back. Abi him levels 4 yonda d over sweet u days y u wan run?

HARD TALK.

Before I give my advice; Does Home BF knows Abroad BF exist?

I dnt even know wat to say, marriage is for better for worse nobody can advice u in or outta it it's a personal cross... Listen to ur hrt swthrt . Buh if I were u I will run away from both men

dossypretty:
Well what actually made me to consider marrying the one here is because my I seeked for spiritual help from two men of God that said the one here is my husband and that he is better than the one abroad, and I also has a convincing revelation about the one here too unlike the one abroad

Forget the one abroad he was a cheat. He didn't value you before i doubt he values you now.

The one that was revealed to you for goodness sakes he does not treat you well.

dossypretty:
Though this new guy has no child but his problem is that he gets angry too much and wants to control everything about me but he is very generous . He doesn't even care if I'm sick or not, unlike my former guy who is more caring and always want to pet me.
Now I'm at a cross road because the one here has gone to see my parents and has set a date for the wedding and preparations are on top gear while the one abroad has come back to marry me like he promised. I'm really not happy with the one here because of his attitude and i'm contemplating on running away with the one from abroad because he understands me better.
Please is love enough in marriage?? Help me as your sister

This attitude you don't like, have you ever talked to him about it? A man makes you unhappy why do you want to spend say 30 to 50 years with him all things being equal.

Story

Chai

We are nothing but pencil in the hand of the creator..........................this is super story

we should kill your "EX"

Please dont do that

u can wait another 3 decades......






......love will find u.

Habatically Gbege!
..I wish ♈όϋ journey well in Ūя̲̅ sojourn!

marry none of them

Take a coin and name the two sides. One LOCAL and the other ABROAD. Flip the coin. Easy peesy.