babyosisi:


Herzumpther ,9 suitors just last year alone
From all geopolitical regions kwa
That is why I always laugh at these girls that tell us how scarce husbands are
Na dem sabi what they are looking for
The eligible babes are still being sought after
I am not surprised sha
If I were a man and single I would marry you too

Lol @ entering bus and running away
That was funny

ichidodo:
Worse,worster,worstest...You shouldn't have delayed your man,infact you shouldn't have pre-informed your dad...I believe the fervour or konji or momentum or sheer force of your man's love would have won over your dad if the news hits him straight from the blue...The best we can do is to salvage the situation by allowing a face to face meeting btw the duo..hoping your man stands his ground trying to convince your dad of his true intentions and your dad giving him audience. If nothing comes out of it then it is for the best seeing that your dad wants the best for you and ofcourse "what the elders see seated the youth cannot see even though they climb trees to look at"...

Herzumpther:
Yes o 9. I even went for a one week deliverance program at mfm thinking its abnormal until mum told me its normal for them to come at this my age.

babyosisi:


Hahahahaha
Deliverance kwa
Before I got married I had tons of suitors,some didn't even come to me first,some went straight to my parents like you see in Nollywood movies.

babyosisi:
Cococandy happy Presidents' Day
I am so enjoying this day off

ichidodo:
You see am...If na me, i won't hear pim from you. Infact because of the excuses you make for him i would show you my red eye if ever u broach that subject and prepare my cutlass if dat guy stands near my domot. But i could be impressed if a young man walks up to me (not behind the excuses of my daughter),lays out plans he has for my daughter, calms my fears and wins my trust.Infact if he serenades me any longer...Im go marry me. Tell your man your dad's fears and urge him to go talk to him -even though we cringe at the thought- but if your man won't stand up for himself and you,who will??

laykhorn:

Ahhhh! I didnt see it as an issue but I'm beginning to think its the real picture. Thanks a lot.

Herzumpther:
I go just faint. They all came to me but my was dey the awka and Yoruba guy.

cococandy:
same to you adannne

there's something so good about not having to go anywhere or do anything on a Monday morning

babyosisi:


This is your best time to prayerfully make a choice from the lot
As one grows older the pool will dwindle
You don't want to get there
I know women who did shakara and waited to get a dream man in their heads and now they are in churches fasting and praying and wishing some wives die so they can inherit their husbands
Don't allow marriage to be a prayer and fasting point
This is your best opportunity

babyosisi:


Herzumpther ,9 suitors just last year alone
From all geopolitical regions kwa
That is why I always laugh at these girls that tell us how scarce husbands are
Na dem sabi what they are looking for
The eligible babes are still being sought after
I am not surprised sha
If I were a man and single I would marry you too

Lol @ entering bus and running away
That was funny

babyosisi:


That is it
Subconsciously there is this dislike for women because of what this girl did and if you don't deal with it now and get married ,you won't treat that woman right.

One of the ways I advise ,if you still know where that woman is ,would be to find her and go face to face to tell her she hurt you when you were a helpless little boy but now you are grown and able to defend yourself and you will not allow what she did to you control you any longer.If you don't do it face to face,get a phone number and call and say everything you wanted to say.
Many people confess that this is therapeutic and freeing.
If you can't find her write a letter as it were to her ,expressing all the bottled in anger and what it has done to you and how you will not allow it control you anymore from this day forward.
If you are a Christian,you pray about it too ,forgive her and release it and healing will come.

I will start a thread someday on sexual abuse and dealing with sexual abuse and it's effect
Some insecurities and problems adults have stem from the pain of sexual abuse
Many promiscuous girls were sexually abused
Many women haters and misogynists were also sexually abused
Many women who have a problem committing were also sexually abused
It is a big problem in our society that nobody wants to talk about because of the shame

bukatyne, moca, babyosisi

laykhorn:

a step forward. Indeed, a problem shared is half-solved.
I dont know where she is, I dont think I can face her. I also dont have her contact but when I get to my parents neighborhood, I'll try to get her contact. I'll also see a psychologist and seek spiritual help too. Do inform me when you start the thread.


I have to thank you sisters for your help. I should start coming around to this family section. I want to say an appreciable Thank You to y'all.
BTW, there is this amazing sister that once helped me on an issue but she no longer comes around here. I've tried to ask why but I guess she has made up her mind. Ivynwa is the username. She is one woman I admire so much for her help, guidance and advice.

Herzumpther:
Yes o 9. I even went for a one week deliverance program at mfm thinking it was abnormal until mum told me its normal for them to come at this my age.

moca:

Enuf ikworkirikwor

cococandy:
we are reading bible and singing praises

That's all.

cococandy:
*dies

Nne it is normal.
In my part of Igboland, we call it 'ahia di'
Meaning 'husband market'

That's when you're very young and still quite fresh. Guys keep thronging like moths around a light bulb. You can't go out then especially if you're pretty without getting hit on from all corners.
With some very serious to catch you 'young and Unspoilt' (fallacy )

They say if you don't choose one then,it may be hard later on to get one that really suits your taste.

I don't believe them sha.

cococandy:
*dies

Nne it is normal.
In my part of Igboland, we call it 'ahia di'
Meaning 'husband market'

They say if you don't choose one then,it may be hard later on to get one that really suits your taste.

I don't believe them sha.

edwife:


It is true my dear,my sister is a very beautiful and hard working woman.She is so gentle and quiet.
When she was 20,she had many suitors but 3 of them were very known and kept coming for her for 3 years-she liked one but my parents did not like him because he was in the security services,always in black suits.

She then decided not to marry any,and she went on like that for many years until no one was coming again -then our last born got married.
Choi , the next guy that came her way,na so the woman marry in her mid thirties by then you don't have many choices,you take the available.

Herzumpther:
Hmmm....no wonder my mum will say time passes for ladies.

babyosisi:


It does
There will come a time the men sef will be wondering say if she was that good how come no one has married her yet
This is reality
Go to Abuja and see senior girls looking for small boys to marry them and take away their shame
I am not saying it is shameful to be single but there are women in their 40s just looking to answer Mrs and sponsor the wedding including pay their own bride price
It's a terrible place to be
Many of them are girls who wasted their youth running with sugar daddies and turning down every young man who didn't have the wealth they were used to.
Suddenly all their mates are married and they have acquired wealth and are miserably single looking to settle with anybody
I have seen it with my eyes

prissyluv:

My dear,thanks for this.
He is the best fitting for me. If I am letting go,it is becos of my parents disaproval not becos of any scary faults. As you said,I might end up not seeing that my fitting. I am a bit complicated in nature and not all will know how to handle me.
He understands and cope well with my sex drive. My dear,I dont want to regret my actions later,each time I think of letting go,its tears all through and my mind keep telling me that I will regret it.
Thanks dear.

babyosisi:


Maybe you should start a thread about how to overcome abuse or change an abuser or live within an abuse and share from experiences.
That is not the message in this one,that's why your message is not bring received.

babyosisi:
I had an assistant ( African American ) at work that told me that when she went to introduce her boyfriend to her father as an intended
Her father excused himself and went into his bedroom and came out with a gun and placed it on the table
The father proceeded to tell the suitor that he lost his beloved sister in the hands of her husband and if he dares lay a hand on his daughter,he will be looking down the barrel of that gun
I laughed so hard ,I thought it was extreme but that is how much men love their daughters
And every husband ought to know that you are very loved by your family and that they didn't throw you away when they gave you away in marriage.
That is very very essential
Every husband ought to get that picture
There is a level of respect he accords you when he knows he wasn't a life saver