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Interracial Relationship: Does He Really Love Me???? by littleduck(f): 6:56pm On Feb 16, 2015 |
Dear All, Ii took me a while to drop these two lines, but I need your opinion! In August I met on the internet a truly handsome Nigerian young man. We started exchanging mails and phone calls. Things were not that smooth at the beginning, but our "relationship" turned in something (maybe) more serious beginning of December. He is very nice, funny, I like to speak with him, and I feel "only too good" when he calls me and he wants to hear from me. Honestly, I think I am in love with him like a teenager ![]() I started to learn about his culture as much as I can, beyond what we get in our newspapers: I discovered a wonderful country, an incredibly fascinating culture, delicious food (I cooked my first Egusi soup a couple of weeks ago, I am very proud!). I have also learned a couple of Yoruba words. I am really trying to learn/understand as much as I can (music, cinema, history…). Of course, I also discovered this absolutely nice forum ![]() I am not famous, but I am a public person. I am a scientist, if I would give you two/three keywords about my work, you would find immediately my official homepage and know everything about me. So…Where is the point? I am European (white), older than him (I look pretty young but numbers are numbers), and I can't have children because of a past illness. Thus, when he says that he has true feelings for me and he would like to marry me if our relationship develops in the future, I feel uncomfortable. Although I would love that all this could become true. I told him I have never married anybody before. He said it is because it is destiny. I had to wait for him. Why destiny put the “supposed to be” man of my life so far away from me, it is certainly puzzling ![]() I really have feelings for him and care a lot about him, but I do not see any perspectives for this "relationship". Plus, I am not sure he really likes me, maybe I am only a toy for him, or even worse ![]() So….just tell me what you think….I would really appreciate your opinion! THX ![]() |
Re: Interracial Relationship: Does He Really Love Me???? by Rapsainot(m): 7:08pm On Feb 16, 2015 |
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Re: Interracial Relationship: Does He Really Love Me???? by Nobody: 7:14pm On Feb 16, 2015 |
if indeed the story is true as you are, i will suggest you post your write up in the family section for better feedback. Now, i dunno any full blooded african male, in this case a nigerian who would not want a child. Be-very-ware! 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Interracial Relationship: Does He Really Love Me???? by littleduck(f): 7:24pm On Feb 16, 2015 |
blublahd: Dear blublahd, thank you! I am "very true" and the story is true. I have not given all details (it would take a book... but it is a 100% true story) This is right the kind of answer I need. I need to understand but I do not have enough knowledge. I am still learning. However, one of the first things I understood is exactly the "child thing" you mentioned and this worries me a lot. This is also why I specified that point. |
Re: Interracial Relationship: Does He Really Love Me???? by Nobody: 7:28pm On Feb 16, 2015 |
I have seen four different female monikers that joined nairaland today... Op the picture of your egusi or Adonbiliv |
Re: Interracial Relationship: Does He Really Love Me???? by Nobody: 7:28pm On Feb 16, 2015 |
Yahooo on remix... 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Interracial Relationship: Does He Really Love Me???? by Nobody: 7:31pm On Feb 16, 2015 |
littleduck:whats your type of scientist? And what knowledge do you need? I never knew they sell egusi ingredients in europe btw. |
Re: Interracial Relationship: Does He Really Love Me???? by littleduck(f): 7:36pm On Feb 16, 2015 |
Ipledge: here we go, my camera is not that great but I was so proud that I took a picture. I have watched all possible youtube video on egusi preparation, and there is an African shop that sells Nigerian food in my city, thus, I got all ingredients. I wrote I am a scientist, I cannot lie, sorry, it is a professional influence. 3 Likes
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Re: Interracial Relationship: Does He Really Love Me???? by Nobody: 7:40pm On Feb 16, 2015 |
littleduck:wait let me do forensic analysis of this picture and even d egusi |
Re: Interracial Relationship: Does He Really Love Me???? by littleduck(f): 7:42pm On Feb 16, 2015 |
blublahd: I am a physicist, I study new materials for electronics I need cultural knowledge, in my country no man has problems with the fact I cannot have children, adoption is seen as a good way to have a family since in my case not even the most advanced medicine can help. Regarding Egusi, I can buy Nigerian food in my city and look below my picture ![]() |
Re: Interracial Relationship: Does He Really Love Me???? by littleduck(f): 7:44pm On Feb 16, 2015 |
Ipledge: Please you are very welcome ![]() anyway it is not that I wanted to speak about my cooking abilities.... ![]() |
Re: Interracial Relationship: Does He Really Love Me???? by dokunbam(m): 7:46pm On Feb 16, 2015 |
So you guy communicate only through phone and Internet? If that's case be watch out and study his moves, Also give it sometime and learn more about NAIJA. You will find NAIJA ![]() Which candidate do you think would drive the most improvement in Nigeria healthcare services? Vote and stand a change to win cinema ticket or recharge card Vote Here |
Re: Interracial Relationship: Does He Really Love Me???? by Nobody: 7:50pm On Feb 16, 2015 |
littleduck:sorry oo,not that am too inquisitive,how many maggi did u use...I no won make u see me as ijay,but ur egusi no get much oyel |
Re: Interracial Relationship: Does He Really Love Me???? by littleduck(f): 7:51pm On Feb 16, 2015 |
promsman12: I am sorry if I bothered you but it was not compulsory to read what I wrote not even to comment on it... |
Re: Interracial Relationship: Does He Really Love Me???? by littleduck(f): 7:56pm On Feb 16, 2015 |
Ipledge: nooooo, you are not too inquisitive ...... ![]() I have cooked the stock by myself I am not saying that my Egusi is perfect, i have done my best and I was proud, that's all I followed step by step a youtube video, after I watched 100s of them to understand exactly what I should buy and do... |
Re: Interracial Relationship: Does He Really Love Me???? by Nobody: 7:56pm On Feb 16, 2015 |
littleduck:you have possibly met all men in your city who arent bothered by it? ![]() and just because they are not, does not apply to an african man, a young one at that. I can bet you, any african mother wants to, at some point, carry her grandchild. Like i suggested earlier, this page would be better off in the family section. Your cultural knowlege could be best served there too. |
Re: Interracial Relationship: Does He Really Love Me???? by Nobody: 7:59pm On Feb 16, 2015 |
Maga about to pay ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Interracial Relationship: Does He Really Love Me???? by littleduck(f): 8:05pm On Feb 16, 2015 |
blublahd: I'll try to see how to move this there, I am not sure I know how to deal with it... anyway, "no man" was meant as you mean "any african mother wants to....." Also "any" European one likes to have grandchildren, but it is not a problem. Do you think it was funny for me when the doctors said that I had to undergo surgery and I would not have any children? I cried all my sorrow for years and it still hurts, but there are things that cannot be changed. |
Re: Interracial Relationship: Does He Really Love Me???? by delishpot: 8:05pm On Feb 16, 2015 |
OP, he may be real or wants to get some cash out of you or wants to use you to get foreign passport. So. Just watch out and be careful if he starts asking for money to treat his relative or himself or if he starts pushing for you to invite him and take him over even when you dont feel its time to do so. Watch his reaction when you say No to his cash or visa request and dont let love blind you. For all we know, he could be a girl posing as a guy. 3 Likes |
Re: Interracial Relationship: Does He Really Love Me???? by Nobody: 8:08pm On Feb 16, 2015 |
If he really loves you, you wouldn't be wondering at all if he does. But since he doesn't, you're left wondering the whole time if he do. 2 Likes |
Re: Interracial Relationship: Does He Really Love Me???? by littleduck(f): 8:11pm On Feb 16, 2015 |
imas: you know I told him I do not have money, just to avoid misunderstanding, as, unfortunately, your country is well known here because of that problem. I live on my own work that is very fascinating but nobody becomes rich with science as it belongs to the human kind, and so on .... but you are right, a greencard, for example, maybe always seen as a kind of reward... |
Re: Interracial Relationship: Does He Really Love Me???? by littleduck(f): 8:13pm On Feb 16, 2015 |
Aprime: I think you got the point ![]() |
Re: Interracial Relationship: Does He Really Love Me???? by littleduck(f): 8:16pm On Feb 16, 2015 |
delishpot: no he is a man he calls me on skype on video, I can call him when I want He has shown me his house, his things... when he goes to the beach he calls me on video because he knows I like the see. I was born on a island but now I live on the continent, in the mountains ![]() |
Re: Interracial Relationship: Does He Really Love Me???? by Nobody: 8:17pm On Feb 16, 2015 |
Re: Interracial Relationship: Does He Really Love Me???? by dnawah(m): 8:21pm On Feb 16, 2015 |
littleduck:my dear u really tried for that soup o!some girls here cannot do it.but next time add plenty palm oil ok, ![]() |
Re: Interracial Relationship: Does He Really Love Me???? by Nobody: 8:22pm On Feb 16, 2015 |
Did he tell you about his oil wells and his dad's money that was seized by the government? |
Re: Interracial Relationship: Does He Really Love Me???? by delishpot: 8:23pm On Feb 16, 2015 |
littleduck: Ok. Wishing you the best. Truth is we cant tell you how he feels about you. Its you that will know through his actions as time passes. |
Re: Interracial Relationship: Does He Really Love Me???? by littleduck(f): 8:24pm On Feb 16, 2015 |
dokunbam: |
Re: Interracial Relationship: Does He Really Love Me???? by Nobody: 8:26pm On Feb 16, 2015 |
@littleduck, who made the first contact? |
Re: Interracial Relationship: Does He Really Love Me???? by Nobody: 8:27pm On Feb 16, 2015 |
littleduck:pardon my bit of insensitivity there. I brought that bit of granny to show where such pressure may arise even if he is a brother who would not mind and something paramount in culture also. 1 Like |
Re: Interracial Relationship: Does He Really Love Me???? by ivyy(f): 8:27pm On Feb 16, 2015 |
Don't fall blindly. I'd advice you to be really careful here I don't believe his story. Try reason whth your head and not your hrt pls. |
Re: Interracial Relationship: Does He Really Love Me???? by littleduck(f): 8:29pm On Feb 16, 2015 |
dnawah: Thank you for the tip! really? more than what I used? I though it was even too much. OK I left most of it inside the pan when I served the Egusi soup.... |
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