naijabioy:
Rubbish thread
Op you can go to hell for all I care

naijabioy:
Rubbish thread
Op you can go to hell for all I care

emusmith:
Nigeria Women cannot go back "materialistically". ( Emphasis Mine )

What you implied here is:

1. Women are materialistic- palpably.

2. They depend on what their guy is worth.. This is unlike one of your threads I read months ago about how Nigeria ladies need to start doing something with their lives other than just "depending" on their guy's substance.

I believe strongly "without misconstruing your points" that A lady can date a guy earning less than his ex. I believe so.

We are in Nigeria, young lady. , not in Beverly Hills or California. If tomorrow something happens to his business, you would run away right? This might happen with a CAPTION like yours.

True love has "something", not everything to do with money.

Just that most Nigeria n ladies wanna be like Kourtney Kardarshian and Scott...

Make your own cash and love him with your will power of choice, please...Chris Rock ain't a Nigerian.


Just a suggestion.


About my points being petty...I dunno know what to say

Sanchez01:

This is uncalled for! Haba, it was only her opinion coupled with that of her friends and a comdey show. That it's her opinion doesn't mean it must be so.

Safarigirl, I'd say you got it quite wrong. I have seen ladies leave the comfort of a guy's money to settle for a guy who has less, and this is not Nollywood.

The problem is that girls of today sell their loves for sums. And that explains why most of them are dumped like bags of potatoes. A girl who places money above all things in a relationship is blind and cannot see afar off. Money is needed in a relationship, yes, but the absence of key ingredients such as respect, understanding, trust and love itself, in the face of money is pure waste.

Well, again I believe it depends on age and geographical location. A girl between 19-24 could trust so much in money and would leave her average man to be with a richer dude. And as touching location, it could cause a girl to chase the rich guys alone so as to remain relevant and competitive in the dating market but that does not mean a reasonable lady would do such.

I have female friends who would say love, trust and respect is all they need from a guy, and they wouldn't let go once they find these things in one. Why They've seen life from some other perspective.

Sheesh! I'm sounding like an old man!

Cc
ammyluv2002 - Your summation.

Enegod:
Women have always been attracted to a
man's ability to provide.
Men have always looked for instant
gratification in sex. That's why women are
smarter and men are more satisfied . . .
until the next erectīon. #uglytruth

naijabioy:
Rubbish thread
Op you can go to hell for all I care

safarigirl:
I can go to hell abi? Ode! See, better go and ask Abpatrick and Beenkumar on how to act when you're Mr. Nairaland instead of posting as if the burukutu has not digested from your system.

Lemme just assume your uncouth roomie got hhold of your phone

ronald4lif:


Word brother!

Sanchez01:

This is uncalled for! Haba, it was only her opinion coupled with that of her friends and a comdey show. That it's her opinion doesn't mean it must be so.

Safarigirl, I'd say you got it quite wrong. I have seen ladies leave the comfort of a guy's money to settle for a guy who has less, and this is not Nollywood.

The problem is that girls of today sell their loves for sums. And that explains why most of them are dumped like bags of potatoes. A girl who places money above all things in a relationship is blind and cannot see afar off. Money is needed in a relationship, yes, but the absence of key ingredients such as respect, understanding, trust and love itself, in the face of money is pure waste.

Well, again I believe it depends on age and geographical location. A girl between 19-24 could trust so much in money and would leave her average man to be with a richer dude. And as touching location, it could cause a girl to chase the rich guys alone so as to remain relevant and competitive in the dating market but that does not mean a reasonable lady would do such.

I have female friends who would say love, trust and respect is all they need from a guy, and they wouldn't let go once they find these things in one. Why They've seen life from some other perspective.

Sheesh! I'm sounding like an old man!

Cc
ammyluv2002 - Your summation.

safarigirl:
now, here lies my main problem with Nairaland guys. Why must it always be about Nigerian women?

An American comedian made a statement that WOMEN generally, NOT Nigerian women or American or Mexican or British or Kenyan women. Women the world over can not go back materialistically.

But as usual, once it's viewed as negative, it's a trait that must exist only in Nigerian women. Please read my post again

safarigirl:
I was watching one of Chris Rock's comedy shows recently where he made a valid point that women cannot go back materialistically.

What he meant by this simply is that women just won't fancy dating any guy who is less financially buoyant than their last boyfriend and if they do, they won't be 'feeling' the other guy s much.

I've had conversations with two of my female room mates whose idea of their 'best boyfriend ever' was the guy who spent on them, who got them the expensive stuff and provided them with their heart's desires without them having to even ask. There is nothing any female loves more than when her man gets her some item (be it a shoe, a handbag, a phone etc) she's been pining for without her having to utter a word about it to him. Example, if she's been posting a pic of a pair of shoes on her IG or DP and her man asks why she's so interested in the shoe followed by her shoe size, trust when I say the Shoki the babe will be dancing that day in anticipation of the arrival of the shoes will be enough to send Lil Kesh out of business

Fellas, if you're looking to date a woman whose ex is responsible for half the shiiit in her closet, plus the Samsung galaxy/Iphone she's currently using and you're not loaded, I regret to inform you that you don enter one chance. As in, your own don kpafuka. Like, she most likely will have the same interest in the relationship as the average straight man has in an episode of The Kardashians

This ain't no Dr.Phil so imma give you some straight-talkin' , you want the truth? Well, here it is. You may love her more than that ex did, you may be ready to sell your father's land in the village to provide for her, but all of that will most likely pale in her eyes in comparison to what the mofo ex has done for her.

Women tend to place their wants above their needs. Forget Nollywood movies bro, you're not Ramsey Noah and she's not Genevieve, if she's with you despite the fact that you're 'poorer' than her ex, then know that she's most likely just hanging around until either the ex is released from whatever spiritual bondage that caused him to break up with her or the Lord directs some other rich dude to her stable.

So I explained to one of the two girls that her ex isn't necessarily the best guy she'll ever meet, he just happens to have the funds to express his love as opposed to some other guy who may respect her more and generally be more loving, but is unfortunately, not financially buoyant enough to show he's a better catch. In such situations it's left to the woman to decide what she really wants in a relationship and if she can survive with a man who may not be financially gifted, but possesses other traits that in the long run would be much better than wealth

So on that note, I will agree with emusmith, that love isn't always enough in any relationship, but not necessarily based on the terms he listed in his write-up, which in all honesty, I found some vapid, petty and somewhat shallow (no offence ). Sometimes the psychological make-up of a gender will come into play.

And before the men cry foul, Chris Rock also stated that men on the other hand, can NOT go back Sexually....but I believe that's a topic for another day. Ciao

emusmith:


I am sure you saw "emphasis mine" meaning, I'm redirecting it back to my country of which YOU are a citizen.

I don't take in hook, line and sinker every information I read or . They said and so? What makes it stand as a Law?

Are they epitomes of positive values?

safarigirl:
I can go to hell abi? Ode! See, better go and ask Abpatrick and Beenkumar on how to act when you're Mr. Nairaland instead of posting as if the burukutu has not digested from your system.
Lemme just assume your uncouth roomie got hhold of your phone

safarigirl:
wherever did I say it was a law? You misunderstand me.

Anyone who downright refutes this fact is being delusional...there is truth in everything, and I'll tell you this, having met with many females and known of their relationships, as an insider, I can tell you that this statement is a fact

Just look around you....any sane girrl who breaks up with her man always feels the need to date someone better than her ex. Someone better-looking, nicer, sweeter and yes...richer. After all, the aim is to show him that you can do better, now why would I go from a Bugatti to a Keke when I'm tryna show the Bugatti that I should've been chilling in a Lambo when I was wasting time with him?

It's not positive, it's just how the world is

Tymax:
Hungry women think like this. Anyway, they are up for sale to the dude who can afford.

safarigirl:
hungry women don't think...they're hungry

Sanchez01:

This is uncalled for! Haba, it was only her opinion coupled with that of her friends and a comdey show. That it's her opinion doesn't mean it must be so.

Safarigirl, I'd say you got it quite wrong. I have seen ladies leave the comfort of a guy's money to settle for a guy who has less, and this is not Nollywood.

The problem is that girls of today sell their loves for sums. And that explains why most of them are dumped like bags of potatoes. A girl who places money above all things in a relationship is blind and cannot see afar off. Money is needed in a relationship, yes, but the absence of key ingredients such as respect, understanding, trust and love itself, in the face of money is pure waste.

Well, again I believe it depends on age and geographical location. A girl between 19-24 could trust so much in money and would leave her average man to be with a richer dude. And as touching location, it could cause a girl to chase the rich guys alone so as to remain relevant and competitive in the dating market but that does not mean a reasonable lady would do such.

I have female friends who would say love, trust and respect is all they need from a guy, and they wouldn't let go once they find these things in one. Why They've seen life from some other perspective.

Sheesh! I'm sounding like an old man!

Cc
ammyluv2002 - Your summation.

ammyluv2002:
U've said it all..1000 likes from me jare and for the records you're sounding very real and not like an old man dis shows you have seen what life is and what it should be through Christ that strengthens you. I'm really impressed with your post *kudos *

Sanchez01:

safarigirl:
so na that one you dey eye for here abi? We go dey catch una one by one

Sanchez01:

Lolz, Dearie. It's not what you're thinking oo