safarigirl post=30h820941:
I was watching one of Chris Rock's comedy shows recently where he made a valid point that women cannot go back materialistically.

What he meant by this simply is that women just won't fancy dating any guy who is less financially buoyant than their last boyfriend and if they do, they won't be 'feeling' the other guy s much.

I've had conversations with two of my female room mates whose idea of their 'best boyfriend ever' was the guy who spent on them, who got them the expensive stuff and provided them with their heart's desires without them having to even ask. There is nothing any female loves more than when her man gets her some item (be it a shoe, a handbag, a phone etc) she's been pining for without her having to utter a word about it to him. Example, if she's been posting a pic of a pair of shoes on her IG or DP and her man asks why she's so interested in the shoe followed by her shoe size, trust when I say the Shoki the babe will be dancing that day in anticipation of the arrival of the shoes will be enough to send Lil Kesh out of business

Fellas, if you're looking to date a woman whose ex is responsible for half the shiiit in her closet, plus the Samsung galaxy/Iphone she's currently using and you're not loaded, I regret to inform you that you don enter one chance. As in, your own don kpafuka. Like, she most likely will have the same interest in the relationship as the average straight man has in an episode of The Kardashians

This ain't no Dr.Phil so imma give you some straight-talkin' , you want the truth? Well, here it is. You may love her more than that ex did, you may be ready to sell your father's land in the village to provide for her, but all of that will most likely pale in her eyes in comparison to what the mofo ex has done for her.

Women tend to place their wants above their needs. Forget Nollywood movies bro, you're not Ramsey Noah and she's not Genevieve, if she's with you despite the fact that you're 'poorer' than her ex, then know that she's most likely just hanging around until either the ex is released from whatever spiritual bondage that caused him to break up with her or the Lord directs some other rich dude to her stable.

So I explained to one of the two girls that her ex isn't necessarily the best guy she'll ever meet, he just happens to have the funds to express his love as opposed to some other guy who may respect her more and generally be more loving, but is unfortunately, not financially buoyant enough to show he's a better catch. In such situations it's left to the woman to decide what she really wants in a relationship and if she can survive with a man who may not be financially gifted, but possesses other traits that in the long run would be much better than wealth

So on that note, I will agree with emusmith, that love isn't always enough in any relationship, but not necessarily based on the terms he listed in his write-up, which in all honesty, I found some vapid, petty and somewhat shallow (no offence ). Sometimes the psychological make-up of a gender will come into play.

And before the men cry foul, Chris Rock also stated that men on the other hand, can NOT go back Sexually....but I believe that's a topic for another day. Ciao

cherryice:

Boy stfu, am done with you..no need to be nice

safarigirl:
I was watching one of Chris Rock's comedy shows recently where he made a valid point that women cannot go back materialistically.

What he meant by this simply is that women just won't fancy dating any guy who is less financially buoyant than their last boyfriend and if they do, they won't be 'feeling' the other guy s much.

I've had conversations with two of my female room mates whose idea of their 'best boyfriend ever' was the guy who spent on them, who got them the expensive stuff and provided them with their heart's desires without them having to even ask. There is nothing any female loves more than when her man gets her some item (be it a shoe, a handbag, a phone etc) she's been pining for without her having to utter a word about it to him. Example, if she's been posting a pic of a pair of shoes on her IG or DP and her man asks why she's so interested in the shoe followed by her shoe size, trust when I say the Shoki the babe will be dancing that day in anticipation of the arrival of the shoes will be enough to send Lil Kesh out of business

Fellas, if you're looking to date a woman whose ex is responsible for half the shiiit in her closet, plus the Samsung galaxy/Iphone she's currently using and you're not loaded, I regret to inform you that you don enter one chance. As in, your own don kpafuka. Like, she most likely will have the same interest in the relationship as the average straight man has in an episode of The Kardashians

This ain't no Dr.Phil so imma give you some straight-talkin' , you want the truth? Well, here it is. You may love her more than that ex did, you may be ready to sell your father's land in the village to provide for her, but all of that will most likely pale in her eyes in comparison to what the mofo ex has done for her.

Women tend to place their wants above their needs. Forget Nollywood movies bro, you're not Ramsey Noah and she's not Genevieve, if she's with you despite the fact that you're 'poorer' than her ex, then know that she's most likely just hanging around until either the ex is released from whatever spiritual bondage that caused him to break up with her or the Lord directs some other rich dude to her stable.

So I explained to one of the two girls that her ex isn't necessarily the best guy she'll ever meet, he just happens to have the funds to express his love as opposed to some other guy who may respect her more and generally be more loving, but is unfortunately, not financially buoyant enough to show he's a better catch. In such situations it's left to the woman to decide what she really wants in a relationship and if she can survive with a man who may not be financially gifted, but possesses other traits that in the long run would be much better than wealth

So on that note, I will agree with emusmith, that love isn't always enough in any relationship, but not necessarily based on the terms he listed in his write-up, which in all honesty, I found some vapid, petty and somewhat shallow (no offence ). Sometimes the psychological make-up of a gender will come into play.

And before the men cry foul, Chris Rock also stated that men on the other hand, can NOT go back Sexually....but I believe that's a topic for another day. Ciao

safarigirl:
now, here lies my main problem with Nairaland guys. Why must it always be about Nigerian women?

An American comedian made a statement that WOMEN generally, NOT Nigerian women or American or Mexican or British or Kenyan women. Women the world over can not go back materialistically.

But as usual, once it's viewed as negative, it's a trait that must exist only in Nigerian women. Please read my post again

MzNelly:
Okay.

ronald4lif:


Whoever wrote that is a troll, he's impersonating someone else. Ignore biko

rolletj:
@OP would you like to return to primary school again??

#iWillCommentWhenYouAnswerMe

Owliver:
your still young and priti and sexy that's ur problem. You won't remain like this for long you know. Go to "meet up zone" and cry for ladies hustling for "serious relationship" better get ur head straight. No offence #Peace

kelvinnn:

Hi

safarigirl:
wherever did I say it was a law? You misunderstand me.

Anyone who downright refutes this fact is being delusional...there is truth in everything, and I'll tell you this, having met with many females and known of their relationships, as an insider, I can tell you that this statement is a fact

Just look around you....any sane girrl who breaks up with her man always feels the need to date someone better than her ex. Someone better-looking, nicer, sweeter and yes...richer. After all, the aim is to show him that you can do better, now why would I go from a Bugatti to a Keke when I'm tryna show the Bugatti that I should've been chilling in a Lambo when I was wasting time with him?

It's not positive, it's just how the world is

DollyParton1:
Safarigirl please face your books. Ladies who actually know what they want and how they want it in life do go back materially. Your epistle is for the broke, ebinna and I never chop girls.
Till you have seen life beyond the four walls of your University, u cannot categorically post that ish u just posted.

naijaboiy:
Safarigirl...I hope you know thats not me

naijabioy:
Rubbish thread
Op you can go to hell for all I care

All I have to say is get a real and functional life

But if you can't do that then here is a solution

safarigirl:
yeah, don't worry. I haven't blacklisted you . Good morning