FOREXMARTS:


Lol am happy at least that even tho there was a hidden message in what I said you understood that I was just being funny on purpose. Babyosisi took it the other way (smiles). Anyways what I said is still an option tho.

No one teaches a sailor what to do with the natives of a new land he discovers, that's why it's called exploration lol, adventure. Explore yourselves then the one you don't understand you ask the"professionals". Babyosisi no vex oh. Love you all and God make yall bigger.

Amen Thanks!

I am Happy to meet you all.

Good morning Babyoku ,Baby Herzumpther ,Baby Cococandy ,Baby EfemenaXY ,all the Babies in the building ..

This is like the best thread I'v read in a long while.
I have had to love and love babyosisi more over time. Efemenaxy, alutacontinua, bukatyne, cococandy, bellong and many other people av done really well on this thread. Will stay tuned and learn more.

This ghost guest mode really pays.

MojAyo:
tanx for understanding what I really meant,I hate broken marriages or single parenting,my mum is divorced and a single mother,the thing dat I hate about dis is the fact dat,she can't talk to my younger brothers,they will never listen to her,there is always confusion in d house,no understanding,okay,lemme make an example,my younger brother was going to a birthday bash,my mum suppose to tell him nt to go,bt she just kept mute to avoid disgrace by him at d midst of his friends,on his way coming back home frm the birthday bash,some thugs came up to him,with him being drunk and rude,they beat d daylight out of him and use broken bottle to stab him 3 places at d back,he was all covered in blood,imagine us all about to sleep at the dead of the night,some women came rushing banging our gates dat my brother ve been stabbed,if u see,my mother almost got hypertension dat day crying,on reaching there,she start lamenting ,to cut the whole story short,she spent a good amount of money at d hospital with her nt having the chance to go to her shop,as yoruba always say,enii bimo oran ni o pon,like if my father is still with my mother,he will ve a iron hand to train those boys which they will never go d wrong path,our last born-she is vry rude,she dnt knw how to talk to elders,bt when I tell mymum about dis ehn,she will insult me and ever her daughter also joining in to insult me,which she will never tell her to stop,which if I beat her,it will cause trouble for me infront of her(mum),so on my two younger brothers,they behave the way they like becos mum never ve d action to tell them she dnt want dis in her house,the one dat got stabbed love partying,the other one,my immediate is vry rude and proud,talks to me anyhow,irrespective dat I'm d elder,and even d so called manfriend of my mum( a married man which d wife never knw her husband is sleeping with another woman outside there)will come to our house to sleep with my mum which d guy is nt even okay than my mum,and I'm suspecting mummy giving him money,so with all dis ,I see single parenting as rubbish,I prayed never to be in one,I want a father dat will join in with me to train d children in a good way,so society won't abuse us tomorrow,u see my dear,the pain of being d first born,and what I seen,go through while I was young,was it my father beating my mum,or the fact dat,my father will be insulting my mum,then she will reply back,and it leads to him beating her,sometimes my dad will kept silent and my mum will be insulting him,being vry aggressive which will later leads to beating,I dnt pray to ve my mothers character,becos of all the wahala ,my father went to marry another woman ,she ve kids for him,and its dis vry woman daat throw my mum and d kids outside d house,my dad and mum were married before I left home for south africa,bt me being there for three years,I heard they were no more living together(divorced)and then I came to visit frm south and came into my mum house,then I noticed all my younger siblings to be vry rude and saucy,which they dnt ve respect for each other,though I love my mum,bt I dnt pray to ever be a single mama,becos the pain and the calamity there,it just takes the grace of God to help someone out,so I never want my life to also be ruled out like dis,even if its for me to behave myself with my husband for the future of my kids,I won't mind,and as u can see,though we fight,and he physically abuse me,we still love each other,seriously,me and him can't help it being away frm each other,if its me nagging him dat makes him beat me,I'm gonna stop dat

no lady prays to end up as a single mum. pray u dnt meet a man like my ex hubby,even ur not nagging wunt stop him from hitting u. he wil look for sometin to fight u for.hez a saddist nd trouble maker. i cant love such a man that wil raise his hands on me

u know within u that we all have our limits as humans.there ar certain levels of enduring pain xcept if u want to end up 6 feet below.

i cant love a man that wil hit me at every slightest provocation. we all have our choices


u allowed ur life experiences to pollute ur mentality on marriage when u were supposed to use them as lessons to guide u in ur own path.

marriage is meant to be enjoyed not endured.

i also grew up witout my dad .my mum loved my siblings more than me nd even made me serve them dispite being d eldest but it made me stronger nd wiser today.

my parents ar divorced but it dosnt change my mentality of settling for less. ur story is almost similar to mine but Even at that i stil believe there ar few good and responsible men out there.

ephee:




no lady prays to end up as a single mum. pray u dnt meet a man like my ex hubby,even ur not nagging wunt stop him from hitting u. he wil look for sometin to fight u for.hez a saddist nd trouble maker. i cant love such a man that wil raise his hands on me

u know within u that we all have our limits as humans.there ar certain levels of enduring pain xcept if u want to end up 6 feet below.

i cant love a man that wil hit me at every slightest provocation. we all have our choices


u allowed ur life experiences to pollute ur mentality on marriage when u were supposed to use them as lessons to guide u in ur own path.

marriage is meant to be enjoyed not endured.

i also grew up witout my dad .my mum loved my siblings more than me nd even made me serve them dispite being d eldest but it made me stronger nd wiser today.

my parents ar divorced but it dosnt change my mentality of settling for less. ur story is almost similar to mine but Even at that i stil believe there ar few good and responsible men out there.

Lol there are plenty few good responsible men oh. The thing I noticed in courtship is that most ladies prefer the bad Guys, they see the nice ones as weak and probably timid, they friend-zone the good guys and date the bad guys, 99.9999% of good men are always at the receiving end of the relationship and even when they decide to date or marry him they make his life a living hell.

Imagine a lady telling me "I am sorry I prefer us to be friends, I can't start a relationship with you cos your too nice to a fault, so nice to a fault that I prefer to look up to you as a brother". AHHHHHHHHHHH!, I died and woke up 7 times that evening. Another one told me that the relationship is boring because we don't quarrel about anything and I always let her have her way making her feel guilty, my sister make i stop here cos una matter plenty too(no disrespect intended to the good ladies oh).

keppyy:
Madam EfemenaXY,


Well-detailed Response.

God Bless you ma.

Thanks, and God bless you too, dear.

Yadoctora:
This is like the best thread I'v read in a long while.
I have had to love and love babyosisi more over time. Efemenaxy, alutacontinua, bukatyne, cococandy, bellong and many other people av done really well on this thread. Will stay tuned and learn more.

This ghost guest mode really pays.

Thanks a lot and welcome to the thread

Really loving Efemenaxy's comments on here.... quite motivational

Thank you op for creating a thread like. My younger sister is my major concern for now, someone may say this is a thread for personal issue, but since she is not an active member on nairaland i had to write on her behalf.
Her fiance happen to be in southAfrica and he came in november last year. They did their introduction that same month and the wedding is to take place in july.
The bone of contention is a lady tagged him on facebook that both of them are engaged and from her name she is a southAfrican lady. my sister confronted him and he agreed he knows the lady but want to use her to get something but they are not married. my younger sister and i that know about this and to make matter worse she is already pregnant for him. Hope he is making her his Nigeria wife?

Yadoctora:
This is like the best thread I'v read in a long while.
I have had to love and love babyosisi more over time. Efemenaxy, alutacontinua, bukatyne, cococandy, bellong and many other people av done really well on this thread. Will stay tuned and learn more.

This ghost guest mode really pays.

welcome

@Sashafm
Just had to say something to you after reading your post. Please don't make the mistake of ever under-estimating anyone. I was in your shoes some years back and I also thought the guy in question wasn't focused enough and had no concrete ambition, I actually left him because of that, as I felt we were not moving at the same pace. But today, he is miles ahead of me in terms of academic qualifications and is now a professional in his chosen field and even got a job outside the country. My point is, a man not been vocal about his long and short term goals doesn't mean he doesn't want to amount to someone great in life, he might just still be processing the plans in his mind. Don't give up on him based on that alone as you might end up regretting it.

Amuga:
Thank you op for creating a thread like. My younger sister is my major concern for now, someone may say this is a thread for personal issue, but since she is not an active member on nairaland i had to write on her behalf.
Her fiance happen to be in southAfrica and he came in november last year. They did their introduction that same month and the wedding is to take place in july.
The bone of contention is a lady tagged him on facebook that both of them are engaged and from her name she is a southAfrican lady. my sister confronted him and he agreed he knows the lady but want to use her to get something but they are not married. my younger sister and i that know about this and to make matter worse she is already pregnant for him. Hope he is making her his Nigeria wife?

Orisirisi.
Your sister's fiance is playing a dirty game.He's doing what he's doing because he wants a SA passport but is your sister ready for this kind of arrangement?She's pregnant for him already too.
Except your sister doesn't have anyone else she can marry,I don't know what she will still be doing with him.

Most mistakes our gal make with this oyinbo marriage eeh,will I call it desperation?
Sharp sharp,she done get belle.
Oga o.
Welcome to second wife's club and lonely days and nights in nigeria.

If an away guy wee wan marry u is desperate to give u bellee b4 he goes back,ehn ehn,think twice o.
There r many deserted at home already.
Be wise and secure ur future.
Unless u r among those obodo oyibo dey spin their head.
Half of my class gals that married away guys, people I know r in nigeria. When u see them, enuf excuses for their staying back home for the meantime.

My love never blind reach to marry an away guy that I didn't scrutinize very well.
I don't want story that touch the heart abeg.


Contact guys u know in SA to investigate what the relationship is all about.

Amuga:
Thank you op for creating a thread like. My younger sister is my major concern for now, someone may say this is a thread for personal issue, but since she is not an active member on nairaland i had to write on her behalf.
Her fiance happen to be in southAfrica and he came in november last year. They did their introduction that same month and the wedding is to take place in july.
The bone of contention is a lady tagged him on facebook that both of them are engaged and from her name she is a southAfrican lady. my sister confronted him and he agreed he knows the lady but want to use her to get something but they are not married. my younger sister and i that know about this and to make matter worse she is already pregnant for him. Hope he is making her his Nigeria wife?

@ the bolded- Who is the she you are referring to here? Your sister or the South African lady?

thorpido:
Orisirisi.
Your sister's fiance is playing a dirty game.He's doing what he's doing because he wants a SA passport but is your sister ready for this kind of arrangement?She's pregnant for him already too.
Except your sister doesn't have anyone else she can marry,I don't know what she will still be doing with him.

She is already married abi trado no count as marriage?
And most times,its gals that's supposed to be educated and intelligent that fall into this shyte.

I met lots of them. They always want to go down with u fast fast.
Wooing u with assorted foreign gifts and money(we call that love).
Carry u at d front seat of their spots and flashy car always.
Whatever u demand for,he is at ur service.
Love nwantinti.
Infact,I know uncountable number of gals in her shoe.
I wish her luck joor.
It is well.

God bless Nairaland...

God bless babyosisi for creating such a beautiful thread...

God bless women..



I have learnt a whole lot , and still willing to learn..

Pls Anty babyosisi,I saw this massage in my husband phone last week my eyes have seen my ear,been crying since then .see the message below.

(My dalin how are u,start comin I miss ur hot dick can't wait to suck ur lovely dick ,this time I will cum inside ur mouth , ur tongue can do a lot of wonders, I want u to suck my pussy like never before. then I will Bleep u till u cum.am wet pls start comin)

moca:

She is already married abi trado no count as marriage?
And most times,its gals that's supposed to be educated and intelligent that fall into this shyte.

I met lots of them. They always want to go down with u fast fast.
Wooing u with assorted foreign gifts and money(we call that love).
Carry u at d front seat of their spots and flashy car always.
Whatever u demand for,he is at ur service.
Love nwantinti.
Infact,I know uncountable number of gals in her shoe.
I wish her luck joor.
It is well.

She said they just did introduction.
I'm confused here,who is pregnant;the Op's sister or the SA lady?

Amuga:
Thank you op for creating a thread like. My younger sister is my major concern for now, someone may say this is a thread for personal issue, but since she is not an active member on nairaland i had to write on her behalf.
Her fiance happen to be in southAfrica and he came in november last year. They did their introduction that same month and the wedding is to take place in july.
The bone of contention is a lady tagged him on facebook that both of them are engaged and from her name she is a southAfrican lady. my sister confronted him and he agreed he knows the lady but want to use her to get something but they are not married. my younger sister and i that know about this and to make matter worse she is already pregnant for him. Hope he is making her his Nigeria wife?

Am sorry oh my dear, most of my comments are blunt and direct but I must tell u the hard truth.
1. Your sister had to find out through the Facebook tagging meaning he never wanted her to know (Nigerian wife proof number 1).
2 The fact that he didn't tell her about the plan means he had no respect whatsoever for her talk less of love (side chick proof).
3 He said he wants to use the SA girl to get something, that something no get name? (permanent VISA hunting proof)
4 Why does he want a permanent visa? So he won't return unless maybe when him mama kaput(runaway nyugguh proof).
5 Is ur sister his wife? (ur guess is as good as mine proof). She's a Patsy.

#SINGING "TOO LATE TO MAKE A CHANGE" by Journey. Don't worry if u no be old school like me you won't know the song.

Last bullet: If it's the SA girl that's pregnant then it's not too late for ur sister to press ctrl +z . (this my mischievous attitude is killing me). You get my point tho.

chisom101:
Pls Anty babyosisi,I saw this massage in my husband phone last week my eyes have seen my ear,been crying since then .see the message below.

(My dalin how are u,start comin I miss ur hot dick can't wait to suck ur lovely dick ,this time I will cum inside ur mouth , ur tongue can do a lot of wonders, I want u to suck my pussy like never before. then I will Bleep u till u cum.am wet pls start comin)

Where do I start from now? Caught in the act, walk out of the marriage if you don't have kids, forgive him if you can forget it and if you can do that still add a sanction/probation period. Sometimes i wish Charles Dickens and Jane kitty were detachable,.would have adviced you seize it whenever he is going out. Well start with s sanction, no confrontation, be a boss, be in charge and read out ur verdict. Finally, u got kids for him?

chisom101:
Pls Anty babyosisi,I saw this massage in my husband phone last week my eyes have seen my ear,been crying since then .see the message below.

(My dalin how are u,start comin I miss ur hot dick can't wait to suck ur lovely dick ,this time I will cum inside ur mouth , ur tongue can do a lot of wonders, I want u to suck my pussy like never before. then I will Bleep u till u cum.am wet pls start comin)

Ahhhhh.....

[quote
author=FOREXMARTS post=30855083]

Am sorry oh my dear, most of my comments are blunt and direct but I must
tell u the hard truth.
1. Your sister had to find out through the Facebook tagging meaning he
never wanted her to know (Nigerian wife proof number 1).
2 The fact that he didn't tell her about the plan means he had no
respect whatsoever for her talk less of love (side chick proof).
3 He said he wants to use the SA girl to get something, that something
no get name? (permanent VISA hunting proof)
4 Why does he want a permanent visa? So he won't return unless maybe
when him mama kaput(runaway nyugguh proof).
5 Is ur sister his wife? (ur guess is as good as mine proof). She's a
Patsy.

#SINGING "TOO LATE TO MAKE A CHANGE" by Journey. Don't worry if u no be
old school like me you won't know the song.

Last bullet: If it's the SA girl that's pregnant then it's not too late
for ur sister to press ctrl +z . (this my mischievous attitude is
killing me). You get my point tho.[/quote] its my sister that is pregnant. i appreciate your blunt advice

chisom101:
Pls Anty babyosisi,I saw this massage in my husband phone last week my eyes have seen my ear,been crying since then .see the message below.

(My dalin how are u,start comin I miss ur hot dick can't wait to suck ur lovely dick ,this time I will cum inside ur mouth , ur tongue can do a lot of wonders, I want u to suck my pussy like never before. then I will Bleep u till u cum.am wet pls start comin)

chineke lee

[quote
author=thorpido post=30853156]Orisirisi.
Your sister's fiance is playing a dirty game.He's doing what he's doing
because he wants a SA passport but is your sister ready for this kind of
arrangement?She's pregnant for him already too.
Except your sister doesn't have anyone else she can marry,I don't know
what she will still be doing with him.[/quote] Hmmmm, my concern is not him, how i wish she is not pregnant

moca
post=30853305:
Most mistakes our gal make with this oyinbo marriage
eeh,will I call it desperation?
Sharp sharp,she done get belle.
Oga o.
Welcome to second wife's club and lonely days and nights in nigeria.

If an away guy wee wan marry u is desperate to give u bellee b4 he goes
back,ehn ehn,think twice o.
There r many deserted at home already.
Be wise and secure ur future.
Unless u r among those obodo oyibo dey spin their head.
Half of my class gals that married away guys, people I know r in
nigeria. When u see them, enuf excuses for their staying back home for
the meantime.

My love never blind reach to marry an away guy that I didn't scrutinize
very well.
I don't want story that touch the heart abeg.


Contact guys u know in SA to investigate what the relationship is all
about.

she asked from three people, one is even her friend in school and they told her its a contract wedding.

Kimoni:


@ the bolded- Who is the she you are referring to here? Your sister or the South African lady?

My sister

.

Amuga:
Thank you op for creating a thread like. My younger sister is my major concern for now, someone may say this is a thread for personal issue, but since she is not an active member on nairaland i had to write on her behalf.
Her fiance happen to be in southAfrica and he came in november last year. They did their introduction that same month and the wedding is to take place in july.
The bone of contention is a lady tagged him on facebook that both of them are engaged and from her name she is a southAfrican lady. my sister confronted him and he agreed he knows the lady but want to use her to get something but they are not married. my younger sister and i that know about this and to make matter worse she is already pregnant for him. Hope he is making her his Nigeria wife?

It is a reality that most nigerian males in foreign countries marry the citizens to get legal papers.
This is why I say never marry a stranger
It is very risky
In many of these countries the authorities check periodically to see that they live together
We all know what will happen when they live together ,many end up with babies
In some occasions it is an arranged plan for a fee and in others the wife doesn't even know she is only for papers and the man marries someone back home and is still figuring out how to de-entangle from wife here to marry wife in naija and years go by
The naija wife carries belle during the visit and remains at home,some will born 3 sef while bobo is still away and only visiting
With wives he services at both ends
It is very messy
I feel sorry for your sister

Amuga:
she asked from three people, one is even her friend in school and they told her its a contract wedding.

And she believed that?

babyosisi:


It is a reality that most nigerian makes in foreign countries marry the citizens to get legal papers.
This is why I say never marry a stranger
It is very risky
In many of these countries the authorities check periodically to see that they live together
We all know what will happen when they live together
In some occasions the wife doesn't even know she is only for papers and the man marries someone back home and is still figuring out how to deee tangle from wife here to marry wife in naija and years go by
It is very messy
I feel sorry for your sister

And she is already pregnant.
That is my problem else she should kick his asss off.

chisom101:
Pls Anty babyosisi,I saw this massage in my husband phone last week my eyes have seen my ear,been crying since then .see the message below.

(My dalin how are u,start comin I miss ur hot dick can't wait to suck ur lovely dick ,this time I will cum inside ur mouth , ur tongue can do a lot of wonders, I want u to suck my pussy like never before. then I will Bleep u till u cum.am wet pls start comin)

U know what to do.

moca:

And she is already pregnant.
That is my problem else she should kick his asss off.

She should have the baby and prepare her mind for the worst.
I hope she advises her sister not to confront the lady on Facebook or the young may be killed by the South African babe