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Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 8:04pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
Hunwa: Thanks for this Many men don't go blabbing about their plans ,what they are doing or intend to do step by step We bought a piece of land in the village and dug the foundation,fenced it with a gate Next time I saw the picture the house was about to be roofed,the next time I heard about the house it was totally done with all the amenities I had in the USA This took some years in between btw and when I didn't think anything was going on work was going on,I just never heard about it That is how men operate 3 Likes |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 8:06pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
After 23 pages we enter FP? Hehehehehe 1 Like |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by bukatyne(f): 8:09pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
Sunshinny: Please read Frank317's the perfect couple story in the sexuality section 2 Likes |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 8:09pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
moca:[size=18pt] For the girls planning to marry Americana,to make sure this is not a man still married or waiting for papers ,that will keep you in Nigeria for years while you carry belle at his visits and born pikin in your father's house,ask him to do a fiancée visa for you[/size] [size=18pt]If he is unable to file a fiancée please run far away[/size] 2 Likes |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Kimoni: 8:10pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
But do the owners of the real life issues on this thread really want their personal details on FP? I don't think so ![]() 3 Likes |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 8:15pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
babyosisi: ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 8:15pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
chisom101: Forward the message to your phone as evidence. Don't say anything yet and just check periodically and save more evidence and play cool,it is hard but try as much as you can. You need an airtight ammunition,before they accuse you of being crazy and paranoid When you have gathered at least three or four,I will tell you what to do at that point Meanwhile protect yourself from HIV How long have you been married? Any kids? 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 8:16pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by bukatyne(f): 8:17pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
Kimoni: I agree with you I Don't think FP is okay for this RoyalRoy, Please assist. 4 Likes |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 8:18pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
Front page?? Mods please hide my every post as I don't want my story viewed by the whole world. Please. ![]() |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 8:20pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
tchidi:My sister after reading her Post I became scared of even getting married or pushing my own ish forward. ![]() See that of Sunshinny ![]() ![]() 2 Likes |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 8:21pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
There r threads that shouldn't make front page from family section. This is one of them. Some issues here r very sensitive. Even though it's public forum,some will feel at home if it remain in homepage. Lalasticlala,seun, whoever,abeg bring this down. 3 Likes |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Harbeesolar: 8:24pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
He drinks and snor,I dt really know to handle dat.Any advice on dat |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 8:25pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
Oh Lord and I was quoted, I can't even modify. Please mods hide my every post. |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 8:28pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
Sunshinny: Warning :A little too explicit Women almost always outgrow men sexually when both people Marry as virgins I can't imagine how frustrating this must be Your man has a lot of learning to do,he seems very inexperienced obviously Tell him to be gentle and teach him what you want him to do including the caressing and kisses before the actual do Most women respond well to the man gently cupping and kissing the nipp.les ,the neck and nibbling the ears while his hands are down there Teach him to do that ![]() You also do same and also kiss him down there ![]() ![]() Every man enjoys that. ![]() As for the orgasm question Most women do not reach orgasm at intercourse so let that be a consolation ![]() Most women out last the man If the man can come the second time almost immediately then she may get there that second time if not ,he doesn't just roll over to sleep That is not allowed His fingers are not just for eating eba,he should use it and send you where you got to go A combination of his electric fingers plus kissing on the nippl.es will work Also most women reach orgasm quicker when they are in the cowgirl position Try that You can start with that then end in other positions ![]() He is your husband and you should satisfy one another totally 4 Likes |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by cococandy(f): 8:33pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
Pls the MOD who put this on fp should kindly remove it. Haba. Is it everything that must go to fp? So this nice thread will fill up with trolls? 7 Likes |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 8:34pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
Seun,Royalroy,mukina2 Please take this off FP This is a serious thread 8 Likes |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 8:38pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
cococandy:Even If they take it down it will Still be filled up because it has already been seen by many. Abeg mods hide all my post. Just when I wanted to give update on how I went today and ask for further advice. ![]() |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 8:38pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
babyosisi:yes been married for six years, with two kids a boy and a girl |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 8:40pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
Herzumpther: Go ahead and give your update please.i am dying to know how things went |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Idowuogbo(f): 8:41pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
chisom101:Chai!!!! Jesus!!!! ![]() ![]() ![]() 4 Likes |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 8:42pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
chisom101: I don't want you to think of leaving yet Let us see if this marriage can be salvaged Are you still having intimacy with him? How is his behavior towards you? Are you working? Any physical abuse? Does he leave home and disappear? |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 8:49pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
We are off FP now Thanks mods 2 Likes |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 8:53pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
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Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 8:53pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
Been following silently and I must commend all the ma'ams on this thread for the encouragement, advice and lessons. Babyosisi, EfemenaXy, Cococandy, edwife, mutter, bukatyne, moca, kimoni and every other person, well done. I have a complicated issue, single at the moment tho. Like three years ago, I was dating this Igbo guy. We were so in love and nothing else mattered. He was into fashion designing and was also a goalkeeper for a club then. On the 1st of January 2012, he came to my house and asked that I marry him ![]() He had to travel out of the country in search of 'greener pastures', he wanted to go international with his football career. I was there for him, gave him all the support he needed before traveling. Months passed and no call or text from him, eventually, he sent me a text after five months or so. I would spend lots of money to buy airtime so I could talk with him, we would exchange sms and mails. Things were not rosy and there was a time I even sent him some money. A year and few months later things changed, he began finding faults and making excuses for his annoying behavior. Little did I know he was already planning for me. He just sent me a message saying I shouldn't bother to wait for him if I'm getting impatient ![]() Recently I got a message from him asking what happened to our love, said he misses me and would like to talk. Time came to talk and he feigned ignorant of the whole message, he said he didn't send the message that he has no record of the message sef ![]() ![]() My question is, should I just let go like we never existed? I feel like I at least deserve to know Why he did all that to me. God knows I loved him with all my heart. |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Kimoni: 8:54pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
Wheeew Thanks mods |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by GlorifiedTunde(m): 8:56pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
@ babyosisi, thanks for this beautiful thread. God grant u a blissful home. Although I'm not yet married, but God engraced me with little wisdom built over the years from real lifer scenarios on dating and marriage. A lot has been said on this thread but I'll quickly drop something for the "not yet married" as that's what my experience covers so far. 1) Picking a future partner should be taken as serious as picking a career. Pay attention like your life depends on it because it actually does. You may cope with a bad job, but its hell coping with a wrong spouse. 2) You have to know that once the foundation is bad, you'll keep patching your marriage till it finally collaps. This is responsible for about 90% of marital problems - wrong choices. 3) You have been advised on this thread to shun frivolities, pay less attention to material things - look for behavioral values in your desired partner. Beauty fades, a good character doesn't; money finishes, intelligence doesn't diminish. 4) Make yourself good for the good partner you want. You need to work on yourself also. Don't just want a ready made or prepared partner - groom yourself too. 5) When you finally make a choice, let your courtship be open. Don't pretend about what you don't like about your partner. Do not conceal any issues. Resolve all you can during courtship. It is during courtship you build trust, tolerance and chemistry. What you won't take in marriage, trash it out during courtship. My fiancée and I have gone through thorough times, just to smoothen the edges. I'm not OK with her numerous boy friends and the touchy touchy. Yes! I told her, and that was it. She doesn't want certain girls around me too - had to let them go. Before marriage you should have talked about salient things in courtship - raising kids, treatment of inlaws, finances etc. I'm ammused at the way people treat each other and say they'll be getting married soon. Your fiance is holding different girls on his DP everyday and you say its not a big deal? ![]() In courtship, start killing all other crushes or flings - value your partner and let him or her know it. That's how to build trust. Once infidelity sets in during courtship, your partner will find it difficult trusting you in marriage even though he/she has forgiven you. With these few lines and prayers, you can get a good foundation. Once you have a good foundation (partner and understanding), every other issue that comes up will not be enough to destroy the foundation u built. Thanks 12 Likes 6 Shares |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by thorpido(m): 8:56pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
Amuga:Well she is pregnant and has to go ahead with having the baby.She should prepare herself for the worst.She might end up as a single mother here in Nigeria(or what they call the Naija wife) or just wait a long time before she unites with her hubby.She ought to have waited for a proper marriage before getting pregnant too. Young girls need to always set their priorities right and be more logical about things like this rather than just emotional.Except if he is a guy you know so well before he travels and his mission abroad is well set out,don't just hook up with a guy going abroad.It can get real messy. 3 Likes |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 8:59pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
delightful1: Give him the benefit of the doubt,he may be telling the truth Does this girl live in the same country he travelled to? |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 9:04pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
GlorifiedTunde: I agree 100% And if it doesn't feel right at courtship.it will never be resolved in marriage!that is the mistake girls make "As soon as we marry or as soon as we have a baby everything will change" Never It will become ten times worse. 1 Like |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by GlorifiedTunde(m): 9:05pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
delightful1: There! You answered your question already @ bolded. In as much as it is good to keep your relationship at all cost, don't lower your self esteem. Most ladies have been emotionally damaged because they insist on loving a guy who won't love them back equally. I'm of the opinion that one should only fight for a lover whom you're already married too. A lady is as important as a guy in relationships. If he valued you and all you have done, he shouldn't have reasons getting another. Real men don't dump quality girls. Just let him go already and save yourself from imminent emotional breakdown 4 Likes |
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