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Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by meerak54: 9:05pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
The most important is to pray about it |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 9:06pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
babyosisi:Yes, the girl lives there. |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 9:07pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
GlorifiedTunde: But again that text may not have come from him |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by FOREXMARTS: 9:07pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
Herzumpther: Am surprised none of the two people she directed the question to have replied. Or have they? 1 Like |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 9:10pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
delightful1: Hmm I was thinking maybe a room mate playing pranks Then ask him point blank if they are dating ,seeing one another and who sent the text? Who he suspects sent the text It came from his phone so It must be from someone with close access and familiarity Your first hunch is usually right Like the other poster said,this man is not your husband if you feel strongly about this,you can back out and move on This is the best time |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 9:12pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
GlorifiedTunde:My intention is not to fight for the relationship. For some weird reasons, I just feel like talking with him and at least know Why he did what he did. I don't know Why I feel there's a need to 'talk.' |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by edwife(f): 9:14pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
babyosisi: I don't think its matters at this point,the guy obviously does not want to go ahead with the relationship.Se needs to move on and stop any communication with him. Even if it's the mutual friend who is now her ex's girl friend,he will still deny it. 1 Like |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by cococandy(f): 9:14pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
possible that the girl sent you the message. Now how serious is his relationship with this girl? I will never give a man who has another girl in his life a chance. But that's just me. counting on him to come back soon and do right by you may be a mistake on your part. Nobody really knows how these things work. He may wiggle back into your heart and make you believe all will be well only for you to spend the next 5yrs waiting for him to come back meanwhile he will be giving you myriads of excuses. If you see someone better,pls move on delightful1: |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by GlorifiedTunde(m): 9:15pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
babyosisi: Girl, that's possible. But again, how do you explain the "no calls"? If he had been trying to communicate with you well enough, you both would have caught the lady playing pranks. Well like babyosisi said - confront him about it. Ask him boldly if he's seeing anyone. If he says its complicated - sister pack your things and leave! 2 Likes |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 9:16pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
babyosisi:Thanks for the response so far, It's good having people to tell this and hear their opinion as it has been bothering me for a while now. I asked if it was his girlfriend and he said she can't be the one, because, she was miles away then. I strongly suspect It's him cos of the familiarity in the post, the style of writing and all, but he outrightly denied it. |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 9:17pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
babyosisi:So I decided to see him as you all advised me to. I called him in the morning and immediately he picked said ,"Herz what ever it is we can work it out. Have I offended you this much? I said no and he asked we meet at any place of my choice and I chose a field not too far from my house........we eventually met by 2. |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 9:17pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
cococandy: Any girl that has a fiancé going to Obodo Oyibo will wait an average of 5 years minimum to get here I wish I could write this on a bill board Even if he gets a green card same day he steps in it ( which is hardly the case) he will take about 3-5 to get citizenship 1 Like |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by cococandy(f): 9:18pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
delightful1: Lol that's like waiting for the lotto. Guys never actually say why they mess up. Except he caught you cheating and tells you to your face that's why he doesn't want to go ahead anymore,the average guy will never be straight forward about why his attitude is changing. He may feign ignorance at best. You go tire to wait for answer. Just move on already. ![]() 4 Likes |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Amuga(f): 9:18pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
moca:I dont either. My husband called him this evening but he claimed he is moving to another country soon and he is coming to pick his wife. Even claiming legal action if the baby is aborted |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 9:18pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
Herzumpther: And... |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 9:19pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
FOREXMARTS:Yes they have. |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 9:19pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
Amuga: 419 husband I know a girl that waited 5 years and eventually married someone else Another 6 years,shame no gree her return to Owerri,she was stuck in Lagos waiting I know another that has two kids still waiting Another 3 kids and later died in a car accident in naija never came here There are tons of similar stories 1 Like |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by edwife(f): 9:20pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
delightful1: You need to move on ! Why if the girl did that to let you know that they are dating and you are dancing to her tune.Leave them alone and carry on with life,it is not easy to break up with someone you once love but it is necessary for your sanity in order for you to have a life. Relationships are broken,and count this as one of them.Please stop looking for his attention,you don't need this at this point. Use the dignity left and break any liaison you have with him. 5 Likes |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by GlorifiedTunde(m): 9:22pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
delightful1: So what do you want to do? You wanna speak with him I guess. Well that's OK. But know this, if he's not denying he still has a girlfriend somewhere, and also cannot trace the sender of those messages, call it quit babe. I know its gonna be hard for you, especially considering your contributions to where he is today, but you may have to let go. don't sink trying to fall for a floating guy. 4 Likes |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by cococandy(f): 9:24pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
babyosisi:there's this saying that the lady who went to see him off to the airport will hardly be the same he goes to receive at the airport on his own end. Very true. 3 Likes |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by cococandy(f): 9:25pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
Amuga: ![]() All to seem serious? 3 Likes |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by queensmith: 9:25pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
chisom101: I'm trying hard not to laugh, this isn't meant to be funny. . . . . |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by GlorifiedTunde(m): 9:30pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
queensmith: Better tell her to first breathe in and out. She needs to relax at all cost first 1 Like |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Amuga(f): 9:34pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
cococandy:Just imagine... i am really not happy and my hubby have warned me against hitting her. I just feel like slapping her every secound |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Chipeculiar: 9:34pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
Goodevening everyone here, i av bin following up on this thread and i find it particularly interesting and expository. I need help on this issue....I'm in a relationship with a guy i met around august last yr....we've bin friends for a while now but communications have mostly being on phone. At first, I enjoyed the chats and calls but i later noticed some little things about him that i dont really like.....am more of an exposed person than him....from his igbotic voice to how he walks nd how he comments on some issues, i really dont appreciate. I understand that there's alot to give up for a rlship or marriage but now i feel that am going to have to teach him or complain abt many things abt him and he is already seeing me as one who is hard on him even tho he claims he is open to learning.....as at now....we quarel over little statements and all dat..my question is that, are all these normal when two persons are getting to know eachoda? ofcos he plans on getting marrid |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 9:37pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
babyosisi:And I told him everything. I told him dad has said I he won't let me marry him......I told him the way it is. He was speechless for over an hour before asking if I've given up already that made me run away the other day and I said no. He blamed me for not opening up all this while and said its alright. He said he will be coming to see my dad on Sunday and he just kept encouraging me not to give up on us, everything will be fine and one day we will look at today and laugh. Even though I was seeing the confusion/sadness in his eyes, he didn't want me to notice..........as usual he gave me the ice cream he bought for me before asking me to at leat collect the ring but I told him to wait till dad agrees. Please he wants to come on Sunday o, should he come or wait a bit...dad.....I'm already scared of dad's reaction. Should I talk to dad again before Sunday? I don't want to offend my dad. ![]() |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by GlorifiedTunde(m): 9:41pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
Chipeculiar:Is the bolded still so? How much physical contacts have you made and how frequently? |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 9:42pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
cococandy:I don't know how serious their relationship is but that doesn't even matter to me. Like I said, I'm not intending to fight for the relationship cos there's clearly nothing to fight for. Considering all that has happened, fighting for it will be foolishness on my part. He clearly isn't worth it (even though I love him). I just wanted to know if It's right to want to have a talk with him, at least let me have/get the reason why we are breaking up? Weird? I just feel like venting cos all the while I never said anything about it. |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 9:47pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
edwife:Thanks for this, I guess my desire to talk with him is as a result of the bitterness in my heart. I wonder why I am feeling that now after I have moved on for more than a year now. |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by edwife(f): 9:53pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
delightful1: That's probably because you received a text from him which might have rekindle whatever feeling left in you,then you find out that he must have broke up with you because of the mutual friend. It will pass,just keep yourself busy.... ![]() 3 Likes |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 9:53pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
Delightful1,no be when he spell it out u go know say he has moved on. Most guys won't ever tell u they hv moved on especially if u also contributed to their success. What r u talking with him for? Save ur face and dignity joor. Don't ever let him see ur downcast face. If it's me,i for don gbaa ya booth long time ago. There is never a one Mr Right for every woman. The way men see and fall in lv with one or two at a time also apply to ladies. That's why they can marry more than one. So u can zero ur mind on one side and open it again on d other side. That side might even be d best. Wish that ladies know this. 3 Likes |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by thorpido(m): 10:04pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
delightful1:I think you should still discuss it with him.However,have it at the back of your mind that he might not be sincere with you.Being abroad and having a fiance in Naija can get complicated except you are very disciplined. |
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