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Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by thorpido(m): 10:07pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
Amuga:No need hitting her.I'm sure she's an adult and has made her choice.She will live with the consequences whichever way it turns out. |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by GlorifiedTunde(m): 10:09pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
delightful1: You should listen to these ladies. Somehow, when there's a breakup, ladies wanna ask why, they wanna talk and know what happened. This to me can be dangerous though - because useless guys know how yo capitalize on this softness of ladies. My advice is to try not to see him on a second thought. Reason is because you still have feelings for him and I know you know it. Seeing him eye to eye may make unwanted flames come up. He's probably gonna feel sorry for you, but that doesn't mean he will be faithful to you ever. 4 Likes |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 10:11pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
babyosisi:for now,no intimacy b/can afraid of HIV or any stds His behavior towards me is very bad,let me tell u the truth he don't love me simple I have my own shop ,but also in school No he has never hit me before b/c he know my family will not take that. 1 Like |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 10:12pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
T3Amo: ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by thorpido(m): 10:19pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
Herzumpther:Your dad will be angry but no matter what,the issue will be resolved at the end.Brace yourself for your dad's anger but it will fizzle eventually. Your fiance should meet with your dad.Let him know he might not be well received at first but he's got to be a man meeting another man.He should leave a good impression too. I have the feeling it will turn out well at the end. 2 Likes |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 10:25pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
thorpido:Do you think he should just wait a bit? Maybe when he returns from his trip in April as hr intends traveling next week? Do you think my dad will be disappointed in me if he should come? I mean on Sunday? Do you think I should talk to dad again? The thing is I'm scared, maybe I should wait a bit. |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by thorpido(m): 10:29pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
Chipeculiar:Are you Igbo too?Is your communication still mostly on the phone? |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by thorpido(m): 10:31pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
Herzumpther:Your dad might be angry or disappointed but I believe his anger or disappointment will fizzle out. What do you do presently?I can't remember if you mentioned it. |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Chipeculiar: 10:38pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
GlorifiedTunde: we see mostly on weekends...its just abt few hrs to talk....datz an issue 'cos i dnt knw hw he can physically react to issues....and because of our denomination, we are nt allowd to be too close(even to hold eachothers hands is nt allowd) |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 10:39pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
thorpido:I'm presently serving. Maybe we should wait a bit. |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Chipeculiar: 10:46pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
thorpido: mostly yes..bt we see on weekends mostly. am an igbo but grew up in yoruba land |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by GlorifiedTunde(m): 10:47pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
Chipeculiar: What denomination? You need to know how he really reacts to issues. You shouldn't even be talking about marriage yet. You need to understand a lot about each other. Even eye contact is necessary, you need to read him, he needs to read you. Dunno about these doctrines that hinder proper knowledge about each other. 1 Like |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by thorpido(m): 10:47pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
Herzumpther:Okay,I just wanted to know that you are not a student and in a good position to have a man visit your home.Let him meet with your dad now.Don't worry about your fear.You guys won't be the first in this kind of situation.You can just tell your dad you will be having a visitor. |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 10:50pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
delightful1: He even agrees he has a girlfriend It is already over then 1 Like |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 10:51pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
thorpido:I am expecting a visitor or .......but he is not coming to see me. I'm not sure I will want to be at home when he comes, I will just stay in church. |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by thorpido(m): 10:52pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
Chipeculiar:There are people who say they can't marry someone with a deep accent and they walk from such relationships. You will have to ask yourself if it is something you can live with. Apart from the constant arguments,how is his character? I think you both need to know how to have discussions and listen more rather than just reacting. |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by thorpido(m): 10:54pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
Herzumpther:Be at home.When he comes,introduce him to your dad as your friend. 2 Likes |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Kimoni: 10:54pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
Herzumpther: Herz, good move. I just thought of something now. Can you write a letter to your your dad? Pour out your heart to him in that letter. Start by telling him how much you love and respect him and will never want to offend him as he is ur hero bla bla Then tell him the hood qualities of this guy and how you much you believe he will make him(your dad) happy by taking care of you. Be detailed about his good qualities. You have sold the guy to everyone here with a few lines, write much more in the letter and sell him to your dad. Lastly, beg him for a chance to at least meet with the guy on Sunday and let the guy prove himself to him. I won't want a situation where the guy will bump into your dad on Sunday and things will get very nasty. This might just deter the guy, to stay away completely, not because he doesn't love you but because he loves you enough not to be a stumbling block between you and your dad. He will rather live with the pain of losing you than cause trouble in your family. Some guys are like that and I will probably do the same too. All the best love. 5 Likes |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 10:56pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
Herzumpther: Talk to your dad first Prepare the ground well by telling your father about this man,how responsible he is how respectful,about his family his faith etc Sell the man to your dad as it were But he should still come whether your dad is ok with it or not but let the man know the exact picture,that he may not be well received.Your dad may feel offended if he insists the man should not come and he comes There is also a chance he will see how serious you are about this man if he comes I think it is time you take the bull by the horns,you are a big girl now Your dad loves you greatly,tell him you have never disobeyed him and you are very sorry if he feels offended by this action but that you just wanted him to meet Lekan face to face and get to know him and that you know he wants the best for you.Stroke his fatherly ego . Just assure your bobo your dad may not receive him well but that you love him and will work to make this happen Tell your mother to do some behind the scenes pleading on your behalf too Mothers are usually easier to appeal to 3 Likes |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Kimoni: 11:01pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
Herzumpther: Hehehehhehe This my babe sef, you too funny. Where are you running to? Why will you want to stay away in church? You should be in your room skabasshing while the talk is going on. You will most likely not be present during the discussion actually. |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 11:01pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
Kimoni: ![]() ![]() I didn't even think of this. I will write it tonigh then put it in his car.I'm sure he will see it tomorrow on his way to work. Thank you so much. ![]() 3 Likes |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 11:03pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
babyosisi:Okey. Thanks a lot ma'am. ![]() Hmmm okey. Then I will have to cook him catfish pepper soup, he listens to me very well and he is always happy when ever I cook him pepper soup. ![]() ![]() 5 Likes |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 11:06pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
chisom101: Do you have that text and other texts forwarded to your phone You need it because he will deny it when asked and brand you a crazy woman If he checks your phone,forward it to your mother's phone |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 11:07pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
Kimoni:Yes I wouldn't want to be present. I might faint out of fear. ![]() |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 11:08pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
Herzumpther: Yes Have this discussion when he is in an excellent mood.start very apologetically and then lay out your points You must project this man as the best man out there This may just melt his heart and he will agree to see the man even if reluctantly,that will be good |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 11:09pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
Herzumpther: You must be there o You can't be absent,incase your father decides to bring out his shotgun ![]() Your presence will make him leave it in the holster |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 11:09pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
babyosisi:Awwww...body don dey sweet me already. ![]() |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Kimoni: 11:11pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
babyosisi: ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() As forceman concern! 1 Like |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 11:12pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
babyosisi:Hahahahaha. Dad is not that harsh. The highest he will do is tell him to go and he will hear from from me or the him peaceful to go and never return but dad will finish him with questions, that I'm sure of. 1 Like |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 11:13pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
Amuga: What she needs is your love and support not abuse |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 11:15pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
Herzumpther: I was joking Go in there with him and after you serve them drinks and fried fish ![]() You disappear and allow them to talk |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 11:18pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
Chipeculiar: I don't see any thing loving about this man in your eyes The burden seems heavy and yoke hard at this early stage He will be good for someone else not you 2 Likes |
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