babyosisi:


I was joking
Go in there with him and after you serve them drinks and fried fish
You disappear and allow them to talk

OK ooo.
Maybe I should fast in advance.

If I miss this man it will pain me o. Good men are many but hard to come by.

Hmmmmmm... I hv rily gained a lot here tankx 2 does dat contributed.... Still waiting 4 more

Herzumpther:
Do you think he should just wait a bit? Maybe when he returns from his trip in April as hr intends traveling next week? Do you think my dad will be disappointed in me if he should come? I mean on Sunday? Do you think I should talk to dad again? The thing is I'm scared, maybe I should wait a bit.

Calm down dear and take it easy,ok?
Leave this young man to come. Stop the postponement pls.
My man would ve come to my place just that my dad made it clear that he doesnt want to see him.

Herzumpther:
I am expecting a visitor or .......but he is not coming to see me. I'm not sure I will want to be at home when he comes, I will just stay in church.

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Chipeculiar:
Goodevening everyone here, i av bin following up on this thread and i find it particularly interesting and expository. I need help on this issue....I'm in a relationship with a guy i met around august last yr....we've bin friends for a while now but communications have mostly being on phone. At first, I enjoyed the chats and calls but i later noticed some little things about him that i dont really like.....am more of an exposed person than him....from his igbotic voice to how he walks nd how he comments on some issues, i really dont appreciate. I understand that there's alot to give up for a rlship or marriage but now i feel that am going to have to teach him or complain abt many things abt him and he is already seeing me as one who is hard on him even tho he claims he is open to learning.....as at now....we quarel over little statements and all dat..my question is that, are all these normal when two persons are getting to know eachoda? ofcos he plans on getting marrid

you're not proud of him. You think he might be an embarrassment to you later on.

If you find faults with even the way he walks and the sound of his voice, is there anything you like about him? Why are you with him?

He might eventually start resenting you if everything he says is subject to correction by you.

prissyluv:

Calm down dear and take it easy,ok?
Leave this young man to come. Stop the postponement pls.
My man would ve come to my place just that my dad made it clear that he doesnt want to see him.

Hmmmm okey then,.I will let him come.
Thanks dear.

cococandy:
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Sometimes the answers we seek are right there... *singing* all u got 2 do is look me in me eyes
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FOREXMARTS:


Lol there are plenty few good responsible men oh. The thing I noticed in courtship is that most ladies prefer the bad Guys, they see the nice ones as weak and probably timid, they friend-zone the good guys and date the bad guys, 99.9999% of good men are always at the receiving end of the relationship and even when they decide to date or marry him they make his life a living hell.

Imagine a lady telling me "I am sorry I prefer us to be friends, I can't start a relationship with you cos your too nice to a fault, so nice to a fault that I prefer to look up to you as a brother". AHHHHHHHHHHH!, I died and woke up 7 times that evening. Another one told me that the relationship is boring because we don't quarrel about anything and I always let her have her way making her feel guilty, my sister make i stop here cos una matter plenty too(no disrespect intended to the good ladies oh).

Hard truth.

*goes back to spectator mode*

Herzumpther:
Hmmmm okey then,.I will let him come.
Thanks dear.

Let him come
The worst that can happen is your dad telling him not to come back,which may not even happen
Assurance to your man that you love him greatly and will work with him to change your dad's mind is what he needs more than anything.
Also assure him that not receiving the ring at this time is not because you don't love him or are not sure but because you want to sort through this first and be able to wear his ring proudly.

@all the people trying to contact me by email,please share your stories here,it could help someone and you will have others to chip in and may give the better advise
But if you insist on an email my email is babyosisi@hotmail.com

Herzumpther:
And I told him everything. I told him dad has said I he won't let me marry him......I told him the way it is. He was speechless for over an hour before asking if I've given up already that made me run away the other day and I said no. He blamed me for not opening up all this while and said its alright. He said he will be coming to see my dad on Sunday and he just kept encouraging me not to give up on us, everything will be fine and one day we will look at today and laugh. Even though I was seeing the confusion/sadness in his eyes, he didn't want me to notice..........as usual he gave me the ice cream he bought for me before asking me to at leat collect the ring but I told him to wait till dad agrees.



Please he wants to come on Sunday o, should he come or wait a bit...dad.....I'm already scared of dad's reaction.

Should I talk to dad again before Sunday? I don't want to offend my dad.

My dear do not tell him before hand or u want him to rehearse 101 why he cannot marry you,
when he comes to the house, just tell him dad some one came to see you.
U can pray and fast about the meeting, there is nothing God cannot do oh.
My dear as u and hubby to be play ur own path physically, u can also follow it spiritually with prayers.
Another suggestion might be for him to meet ur mum first when ur dad is not around so she can know him and make her own judgement.
Any decision u make, i wish u all the best

Herzumpther:
Do you think he should just wait a bit? Maybe when he returns from his trip in April as hr intends traveling next week? Do you think my dad will be disappointed in me if he should come? I mean on Sunday? Do you think I should talk to dad again? The thing is I'm scared, maybe I should wait a bit.

I think you should not bring the issue up till ur man comes for the first time.

Herzumpther:
OK ooo.
Maybe I should fast in advance.

If I miss this man it will pain me o. Good men are many but hard to come by.

I have a very good feeling about this. You won't miss him. I think after His first meeting with ur Dad subsequent meetings should follow, with a short time ur Dad will warm up to him. Am able to have long conversations with old people cos am very vast, I hope he is to cos from the little u have said about ur Dad i see ur Dad quizzing him directly or indirectly, Prep ur man before sending him to the front.

chisom101:
Pls Anty babyosisi,I saw this massage in my husband phone last week my eyes have seen my ear,been crying since then .see the message below.

(My dalin how are u,start comin I miss ur hot dick can't wait to suck ur lovely dick ,this time I will cum inside ur mouth , ur tongue can do a lot of wonders, I want u to suck my pussy like never before. then I will Bleep u till u cum.am wet pls start comin)

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Wives checking their husbands phones and reading his messages are liable to die young

Wives of Naijas. Season One!

Hunwa:
@Sashafm
Just had to say something to you after reading your post. Please don't make the mistake of ever under-estimating anyone. I was in your shoes some years back and I also thought the guy in question wasn't focused enough and had no concrete ambition, I actually left him because of that, as I felt we were not moving at the same pace. But today, he is miles ahead of me in terms of academic qualifications and is now a professional in his chosen field and even got a job outside the country. My point is, a man not been vocal about his long and short term goals doesn't mean he doesn't want to amount to someone great in life, he might just still be processing the plans in his mind. Don't give up on him based on that alone as you might end up regretting it.

Thanks so much for this wonderful advice, you said what was actually on my mind. i just wanted an assurance that with time, things will work.

Funjosh:
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Wives checking their husbands phones and reading his messages are liable to die young

In this case are liable to long life sans HIV

babyosisi:


In this case are liable to long life sans HIV

Aunty shouldn't u be asleep by now? (smiles)

FOREXMARTS:

Aunty shouldn't u be asleep by now? (smiles)

Slept and woke up 10 pm
It's 11.40
Let me close my eyes and see if sleep will come

babyosisi:


In this case are liable to long life sans HIV

Lolz.... But honestly their are some husbands that their wives shouldnt just bother checking their sms or rushing to pick their calls.

FOREXMARTS:


I have a very good feeling about this. You won't miss him. I think after His first meeting with ur Dad subsequent meetings should follow, with a short time ur Dad will warm up to him. Am able to have long conversations with old people cos am very vast, I hope he is to cos from the little u have said about ur Dad i see ur Dad quizzing him directly or indirectly, Prep ur man before sending him to the front.

Good morning.

Just like ma'am kimoni suggested I wrote a letter before I slept I then dropped it in his car. He left for work by 4 because he has some suspect he is taking to court this morning. He sent me a text saying "Herz, I don't hate you or your friend, just remove your mind from there and go for a man from the east or somewhere else. I am your father and I want the best for you. You don't know the Yoruba's. I dont want to see him but if you insist I see him then no problem, I will see him but it really won't change anything. We will talk more when I return and please cook banga soup and pounded yam for me".


I think I'm beginning to understand his fears/why he is saying a big NO........now I understand.......well people can't be the same but it will take a long time to make dad see that.

Good morning everybody.

Herzumpther:
Good morning.

Just like ma'am kimoni suggested I wrote a letter before I slept I then dropped it in his car. He left for work by 4 because he has some suspect he is taking to court this morning. He sent me a text saying "Herz, I don't hate you or your friend, just remove your mind from there and go for a man from the east or somewhere else. I am your father and I want the best for you. You don't know the Yoruba's. I dont want to see him but if you insist I see him then no problem, I will see him but it really won't change anything. We will talk more when I return and please cook banga soup and pounded yam for me".


I think I'm beginning to understand his fears/why he is saying a big NO........now I understand.......well people can't be the same but it will take a long time to make dad see that.

Good morning everybody.

I suspect the civil war, a lot of wounds haven't healed till now. Most Yoruba's are scared of giving off their daughters to igbos and vice versa. Will wait for u to discuss with him then will take it up from there. Hope ur night was good?

Herzumpther:
Good morning.

Just like ma'am kimoni suggested I wrote a letter before I slept I then dropped it in his car. He left for work by 4 because he has some suspect he is taking to court this morning. He sent me a text saying "Herz, I don't hate you or your friend, just remove your mind from there and go for a man from the east or somewhere else. I am your father and I want the best for you. You don't know the Yoruba's. I dont want to see him but if you insist I see him then no problem, I will see him but it really won't change anything. We will talk more when I return and please cook banga soup and pounded yam for me".


I think I'm beginning to understand his fears/why he is saying a big NO........now I understand.......well people can't be the same but it will take a long time to make dad see that.

Good morning everybody.

Let him see him first.He said it might not change anything but it can.
Of course he has his fears and a generalized opinion about the yorubas but his generation is not the same as now.
I'm sure your guy can give him a good impression.He's surely going to quiz him.

Cook him the banga soup and pounded yam first make him body cool down.
Don't forget to seek your mother's support.

FOREXMARTS:


I suspect the civil war, a lot of wounds haven't healed till now. Most Yoruba's are scared of giving off their daughters to igbos and vice versa. Will wait for u to discuss with him then will take it up from there. Hope ur night was good?

Also his friend's daughter married a Yoruba man who eventually turned her into a punching bag. He would beat her till she sometimes faints. He did it to the extent that he killed his baby in her womb and she had to go through major operation twice and to crown it all, he was an armed robber unknown to everybody until he went for a robbery mission and was caught.....I also think its part of it but like I said everybody can't be the same. The Igbo's he wants me to go to, I tried this awka guy but the communion was zero, in fact if I don't move then no communication. I see people's relationship too and I know how it goes. Again everybody can't be the same.

For me I will say its character, who we are and not where we come from.

My night was good thank you.

thorpido:
Let him see him first.He said it might not change anything but it can.
Of course he has his fears and a generalized opinion about the yorubas but his generation is not the same as now.
I'm sure your guy can give him a good impression.He's surely going to quiz him.

Cook him the banga soup and pounded yam first make him body cool down.
Don't forget to seek your mother's support.

Mum suggested I do a village square meeting she knows I'm not that kind anyway but my dad is saying no even when she brings up the ish.

I will allow him come surely......hmmm lakes will have to defend his CVE 599 in front of my dad o. I know dad won't shout, he doesn't shout as he is not that kind, he picks his words and listens carefully. I won't tell lakes to prepare but to allow it flow naturally. He is an only son so I believe he should be able to flow naturally.

All I know is I can't start searching for an Igbo man, abi them get Igbo men tree I should go pluck my choice from?

Herzumpther:
Mum suggested I do a village square meeting she knows I'm not that kind anyway but my dad is saying no even when she brings up the ish.

I will allow him come surely......hmmm lakes will have to defend his CVE 599 in front of my dad o. I know dad won't shout, he doesn't shout as he is not that kind, he picks his words and listens carefully. I won't tell lakes to prepare but to allow it flow naturally. He is an only son so I believe he should be able to flow naturally.

All I know is I can't start searching for an Igbo man, abi them get Igbo men tree I should go pluck my choice from?

Bia nwanyi oma i never chop this morning and u cracking a brother up. Lol@Igbo tree. It's just like my place where no one voted for obj cos he was the commander in charge of the battalion that took our place(Oguta) during the civil war with the help of our Ijaw neighbours. They killed and raped and committed all sorts of war time atrocities and the young generation then are parents now so imagine a babe telling her father that she wants to marry a Yoruba man or worst from ogun state,"Ogutaeeeeeee! i ra nshi" is the first reply she will get. But it happens, my cousin married a Yoruba man from ibadan.

I'm think I'd rather keep my distance from marriage...


Tis not meant for everyone, not with these awful things people that once claim to love each other are doing to each other.

I'll adopt... I rest my case.

I can't now come and die young.

Herzumpther:
Mum suggested I do a village square meeting she knows I'm not that kind anyway but my dad is saying no even when she brings up the ish.

I will allow him come surely......hmmm lakes will have to defend his CVE 599 in front of my dad o. I know dad won't shout, he doesn't shout as he is not that kind, he picks his words and listens carefully. I won't tell lakes to prepare but to allow it flow naturally. He is an only son so I believe he should be able to flow naturally.

All I know is I can't start searching for an Igbo man, abi them get Igbo men tree I should go pluck my choice from?

What if you find the igbo man and you end up not happy with him?
Let him meet your dad first.He will flow naturally with him.

FOREXMARTS:


Bia nwanyi oma i never chop this morning and u cracking a brother up. Lol@Igbo tree. It's just like my place where no one voted for obj cos he was the commander in charge of the battalion that took our place(Oguta) during the civil war with the help of our Ijaw neighbours. They killed and raped and committed all sorts of war time atrocities and the young generation then are parents now so imagine a babe telling her father that she wants to marry a Yoruba man or worst from ogun state,"Ogutaeeeeeee! i ra nshi" is the first reply she will get. But it happens, my cousin married a Yoruba man from ibadan.

Lol. Oguta men are proud I've heard so much about your oguta lake o, dad has served around there too.

Lol @ Ogutaeeeeeeee! I ra nshi make my mama interpret this for me abeg.

Darteyyyy:
I'm think I'd rather keep my distance from marriage...


Tis not meant for everyone, not with these awful things people that once claim to love each other are doing to each other.

I'll adopt... I rest my case.

I can't now come and die young.

Marriage is beautiful if consummated properly. Marriage isn't meant for everyone but do you have the consecration to remain chaste all your life ? You might be scared because of all you have heard but its not always that way.

Good morning

thorpido:
What if you find the igbo man and you end up not happy with him?
Let him meet your dad first.He will flow naturally with him.

OK thanks.

If only my dad understands how my mind is, if I miss this one eh, any man that will end with will have to work a lot to even gain my smile.