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Pls I Need Your Opinion On This! My Fiancé Is Very Secretive / Is He Secretive Or I'm Being Nosy? (2) (3) (4)
She Is Too Secretive by saints2(f): 5:20pm On Feb 19, 2015 |
Hello my wonderful aunties and uncles, I have been a silent disciple of this section for quiet some time, all posts here are full of wisdom and ground breaking from the OPs, may the good Lord bless your homes. I have a Lady that am dating, she is wonderful, beautiful and mature even though we are 5 years apart, but I had a problem with her, she is too secretive, I am of the open type. It takes me 6months to know that her mom was late, she hardly open up even when she knew all about me and my family, I didn't know any about her, even her sister number that she gave recently was because I made it an issue. What can I do? I know she loves me and I do love her too, but this attitude is killing me, I want a lady that will be free and open up to me. I have discussed it with her several times and she said she will change and it hurting me and killing me softly, I don't want to leave her yet. |
Re: She Is Too Secretive by Nobody: 5:44pm On Feb 19, 2015 |
Try to accept her as is. 1 Like |
Re: She Is Too Secretive by saints2(f): 5:55pm On Feb 19, 2015 |
andromida: Thanks for your post, but her secretiveness is killing me as I open up to her even before she asks me. |
Re: She Is Too Secretive by mutter(f): 5:59pm On Feb 19, 2015 |
Many women are careful and secretive because they don`t want to get hurt. Besides a woman is meant to be secretive, like a book you can only read a few pages at a time.Most women are secretive. You might think that some women are vey open but they are just telling you things they tell every one. |
Re: She Is Too Secretive by KanwuliaJara: 6:01pm On Feb 19, 2015 |
A major incompatibility factor. Even where opposites may attract, INTROVERTS and EXTROVERTS seldom get along. As you get older, the less you would have in common. She is gonna make one HELL of a borrrrring soul-mate, bed-mate or ROOM-MATE!!! Any how SHA-SHA. . . . I see LIMPOPOLYGAMY in your future o. Pele ma dia! 1 Like |
Re: She Is Too Secretive by thorpido(m): 6:02pm On Feb 19, 2015 |
She obviously has some issues in her past that has made her withdrawn.Maybe something to even do with her late mother. You can only draw her out more with love and build that trust with her.You might not be able to push her. 2 Likes |
Re: She Is Too Secretive by saints2(f): 6:08pm On Feb 19, 2015 |
mutter: Hello Ma'am Thanks for your post. I quite understand that some female folks may be secretive but not to a guy that you profess to love. I don't want to go into details, but my worry is that her secretiveness is really tearing us apart slowly as I hardly know her plans and when to come in, she really don't have time for us again that we only talk for 30mins in a day, why? I don't know her plans or mood. Its really annoying |
Re: She Is Too Secretive by saints2(f): 6:12pm On Feb 19, 2015 |
KanwuliaJara: Ose padi mi... It's not as if she is not the cheerful type or kinda boring, she is smart and lively, but too tight even her sister hardly knows her plans. Thanks for your input |
Re: She Is Too Secretive by saints2(f): 6:16pm On Feb 19, 2015 |
thorpido: You just got the point... Her excuse was her mum died when she was a teen and its kinda difficult for her to trust people cos mom is not there and so that she won't be taken for ride. Yes she had trust issues which I have tried in my own way of assuring her of true love, but it gets worse daily. |
Re: She Is Too Secretive by Nobody: 6:22pm On Feb 19, 2015 |
If it's killing you this may be the end of the relationship. Somethings you can't fix if you can't accept as is. On the other hand maybe it's you that wants to know more and she is not ready for that level of sharing. If this be the case you have to be patient with her. Some women like to take their time. |
Re: She Is Too Secretive by cococandy(f): 6:25pm On Feb 19, 2015 |
thorpido:this @OP |
Re: She Is Too Secretive by saints2(f): 6:31pm On Feb 19, 2015 |
Alright... I will give her more of love and time. Thanks folks |
Re: She Is Too Secretive by mutter(f): 7:55pm On Feb 19, 2015 |
saints2: Then it might be that she is hiding something from you. That is also a possibility. Sorry you need to follow your instinct. Things hardly every get better, they very often get worse. 1 Like |
Re: She Is Too Secretive by Chidonc(m): 10:35pm On Feb 19, 2015 |
Trust would be the watch word here, get her 2 have more trust and confidence in u, am sure she would be more open wit time 1 Like |
Re: She Is Too Secretive by charismaticdave(m): 11:28pm On Feb 19, 2015 |
Maybe that's just the person she is how old is the relationship? how old are you guys? Sorry for getting personal here Immaturity might be a problem here, you can't really blame her, Build the relationship first, build the trust, and she will become a chatty bird in no time, 2 Likes |
Re: She Is Too Secretive by saints2(f): 6:40am On Feb 20, 2015 |
charismaticdave: We are both mature... I am 29 and she is 25 The relationship is 12months old. Thanks for your input. |
Re: She Is Too Secretive by Meringe(m): 7:08am On Feb 20, 2015 |
Pretend as if that's nothing to you. Act responsible with love. When she is assured of your love and respect, you might be begging her to stop telling you things. Some people are very careful sha 1 Like |
Re: She Is Too Secretive by Nobody: 7:12am On Feb 20, 2015 |
Ain't life a biatch? We that offload everything on our minds you call us chatter boxes. Now this madam that is very economical with her tots and experiences has gotten a name too Just messing with you... You will have to keep telling her you want all cards on the table until she hears. The success of your relationship depends on it. I wish you luck. 1 Like |
Re: She Is Too Secretive by KanwuliaJara: 9:11am On Feb 20, 2015 |
saints2: Like I STATED earlier. . . .wait till you get older. Life is complicated with just one individual involved, not to mention 2! |
Re: She Is Too Secretive by saints2(f): 10:12am On Feb 20, 2015 |
Thanks folks, you guys are amazing, Moreeni, thanks I appreciate every of your input. God bless your homes. |
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