CHM11:

Delta/Urhobo
Served in a PPA with 15 corpers, 11 were igbos and it was hell for the 4 of us non igbos.

My Dear is a personal thing but it's very unfair to treat people of unlike Tribe that way. Am from Anambra and I married Urhobo Girl, my People cherish and adore her too. Regards.

enkay4love:
I wrote u off since!! When I discovered u're notoriously annoying,exemplifyd by others'mentions/replies of ur poo. Go to hell,fool. If u quote me again,I'll realize u're not only stupid but a roaming mad man,then I'll salvage ur situation by coming to bundle u to Yaba left.

Hahahhhahaha Stay away from me woman!! I aint gonna marry you for christ sake!! Look for another IGBO guy to rope in and when you fail again,come back here and cry foul imp.

Next time you will think twice before you come here and display your uncouth nature. Now swerve!!

CHM11:

Oh so sorry we are not in the court of law and I am entitled to keep my experiences locked up or exposed, which in this instance I choose the latter. Hope you will respect that?
You yourself said tribalism, racism and religion is a thing that is a global issue. So why is my being tribalistic an issue?
So its now ok that an igbo can be tribalistic and choosy but another tribe cannot be tribalistic...

I've never said tribalism is bad, neither did I condemn the igbos for marrying amongst themselves more (I said its better for them, because they tend to have more favourable homes when they marry from their tribe because other tribes find it hard to understand them except the really exposed ones).

Igbos marry your beautiful adamma's and give birth to many beautiful kids that will marry igbos..it favours you more!!!!!!......

As for me and my house, if you are not from Edo, Delta, Bayelsa, Rivers, Akwaibom, Cross rivers..... It will take the love of God before I even develop feelings for you.... This is me...don't hate my orientation, respect my choice because there is a reason for it....

but all these states have indigenous igbo.

J12:


If 60 percent of Igbos marry from their tribe and the remaining 40 percent marry from other tribes, I wouldn't call that a norm.
I don't know if you've read the comments of Igbos of this thread but majority of them have refuted the OP's claim by stating that they have various relations married to non-igbos.

Nnewi is just a negligible excuse for your claims, the population of Nnewi people are not more than 1 percent of the total Igbo population. There are bigger Igbo sub-groups that are very open to inter-tribal marriages like the Mbaise and Ngwa people. Hence, the idea of using Nnewi as a reference point makes no sense.

ok, don't even go too far please read the comment of waternogetenemy, bigfrancis1, PoorUgly and so many others like him, before you come back here to start reciting your "it is not a norm" jingle.....

So because a few folks in your family married outside Alaigbo, you want to now prove that this is the standard practice for the remaining 30 million Nd'Igbo that live in Nigeria....hehehe... You should be trying to convince your fellow Igbo brothers that have sworn not to marry people from other tribes, not me.

I am laughing in Greek!

Mrbigman1:



It's a pity

That you can't communicate but stoke a fight... I beseech you to speak up or hold your peace forever.

My cousin dated this anambra Guy for 6 yrs,she dated d guy wen he had nothing,yet she was still with him only for this guy to get money he told my cousin dat "my mother said I shud marry from my tribe".meanwhile he claimed he loved her.y didn't he define d relationship from d onset instead of wasting her time. Come to think of it y will a Man not be able to make his own choice nd decisions for a life partner,I believe he knows nd understands her better than his mother does to know if she'll make a good life partner.it's high time grown up men not boys or babies speak for themselves.Any man who does this kind of thing will face God's punishment for life.

Thank u but can u swear that no guy from ur tribe has ever done this kind of a thing? Z dat y you should come here nd say rubbish abt a whole tribe? sometimes I don't blame the igbos the truth z simple other tibes re always afraid of them I don't knw y its something I noticed in sch

D Aamabra,understand demselves. Dey ar somtin eles. D don't kw hw 2 love,dey have other tins 2 love and its best understood within demselves infact d ar comfortable with it.

squaddy:


Hahahhhahaha Stay away from me woman!! I aint gonna marry you for christ sake!! Look for another IGBO guy to rope in and when you fail again,come back here and cry foul imp.

Next time you will think twice before you come here and display your uncouth nature. Now swerve!!

Gbam!! Confirmed mad man ,stay tuned n don't run oo,cos I've sent an ambulance to come pick u up.

If you check my thread,it's a question not an allegation all you needed to do was to give ur advice to d Lady.I know d Yorubas nd Hausas do dat but in dis case d guy is igbo.You Igbo guys aren't giving me answers dat I want instead u r paranoid.Abeg no be me start am oh.

Y not wait until the alleged igbo guy dumps ur friend and marry an igbo lady before bringing this up since u are so sure that ur friend will be dumped when it has not even happened simply because she Is yet to be proposed to by the igbo guy.

Who even told you that all relationship must lead to marriage?

splashbaby:
That you can't communicate but stoke a fight... I beseech you to speak up or hold your peace forever.

Am scared to argue with u ( not fight) cos ur DP describes u exactly.

Goan sleep tomorrow is school

whatx:


@Bigfrancis21

Trying to observe nairaland rules, else i would have rained it on you.

You don't have to justify your culture nor comment on every post you come across.

If you don't have real experience, hold your peace. Am from the ibo speaking part of delta state and also a victim of such relationship.

Even being from the igbo-speaking part of delta state did not help me, as the particular family in question told my girl that it will be over their dead body.

On hearing the news i took time to strategies how to tackle this challenge, but to my surprise the babe made a shocking revelation.
She told me that the mum has actually being informing her of one spare part dealer who is from Anambra who she wants her to marry (true story), and that she has visited the guy severally (ehn ehen?).

On hearing this people i change am for hear. WHAT DO YOU MEAN? WHAT NONSENSE? WHEN DID THIS HAPPEN? YOU VISITED HIM WITHOUT MY PERMISSION? Screaming at the top of my voice. I angrily went home that day from our meeting joint.

To be fair with her, she later called and tired to calming me down asking; "what do i do"? By then i have already Googled the dude from the names she gave me (serious under cover sh#t). And my people Wetin i see nor help matters oh, the guy already has a car and am still using my most trusted two leg slabaquin.
I told her to follow her heart, which is the most stupid advice i have ever given. I tried analysing it for her as a wafi man,
- you Stick with me we try make it in life together, i graduated top in my department, a chartered accountant, currently doing my msc in accounting, though no job yet but tomorrow MAY be better.
- you go with them, married the guy within the next two years, and thing may blossom between you two.
I decided to ask her one question which i didn't get the answer till date- do you love him? She replied that he is a cool guy (ukpabiokpabio okpokicha, cool guy).

I discharge her that day thinking say my qualification go save me and thus decided to give her the silent treatment. Two weeks later she finally broke the silence with an outright personal invitation for me to their wedding (i die stand) this is a girl i have dated for the past 12 consecutive months, no break. See Wetin first silent treatment bring me, i almost poisoned my friend who gave the silent advice.

Well, that's about my experience with an Anambra babe, she is now married with one issue, leaving happily.

So bigfrancis21, i do not give what i don't have, this is my true story. That our forefathers are corrupt does not mean you should be corrupt, that everybody is going left does not mean you should go left (check ur boko alert before you move oh), that ever tribe is tribalistic dies not been you should be.
Further revelation from her on the negative pressure she received from her parents and siblings (whom i chat and play with every visit)was so shocking that i didn't even bother to go discuss with any of her family members.

I tort i was igbo until i met a lady from across the niger. just one bridge made me realised that there is difference between IGBO and IBO. Today, if you referred to me as IGBO i might slit your throat.

ADVICE: tell your friend to ask the guy directly if he is serious, thereafter discuss marriage possibility. If you must be a relationship ref, you have got to be good in what you are doing. Life is too short for wasting around.

PEACE OUT

Bro, your problem was because you were POOR!
Call a spade a spade and face the truth.

From the family's perspective, they needed to secure her financial well-being which you can't guarantee.
If you had played your card well and promised her marriage, she would have waited for you, after all, you have potential to make it in life.

kelvin100:


Is Anita an Igbo?
Was she accepted easily or not in the same family?

Now that asks a question about Lola's character!

Bros, I don't think you know the whole story. When did Paul Okoye marry Anita? Wasn't it after their mum passed away?

Was their union formalised when their mum was alive?

When did Peter Okoye marry Lola Omotayo? Wasn't it after he lost his mum?

If her character was so bad, how come he opened his eyes and had 2 children with her....

laudate:


ok, don't even go too far please read the comment of waternogetenemy, bigfrancis1, PoorUgly and so many others like him, before you come back here to start reciting your "it is not a norm" jingle.....

So because a few folks in your family married outside Alaigbo, you want to now prove that this is the standard practice for the remaining 30 million Nd'Igbo that live in Nigeria....hehehe... You should be trying to convince your fellow Igbo brothers that have sworn not to marry people from other tribes, not me.

I am laughing in Greek!

Its a norm that Igbos marry outside of their tribe. A few folks in my family married outside of Igbo, this trend is also present in almost every Igbo family I know. So whats your point?

Ok for starters, I'm Igbo in case.... My question is why are igbos here getting upset about what people from other tribes are saying here? We igbos dont even love ourselves so why should we expect same from outsiders? I feel so much shame when I see Igbos themselves bashing each other based on where one person is from in igboland There is so much hate amongst us in the first place..Such a shame. #imdone #letmestop

bigfrancis21:


Igbo bashing has become quite a common thing in Nigeria such that it has become normal to bash Igbo on every single thing, even on things that are meaningless.

You created this thread to ask why Igbo prefer to marry from their tribe. Are you really serious? This is a question you opened this thread for looking for 'answers'? Would you have opened this very thread in the first place had a Yoruba or Hausa guy been the one who preferred to marry from their tribe? Yes or No? Why would a Yoruba parent reject a non-yoruba suitor, and that will not be an issue. In fact, such action is justified. A Hausa parent will do the same and no dust will be raised about it. But when an Igbo parent does the same, then its a big deal. It is a serious issue that calls for serious attention and criticism, then you begin to get tags like ''Igbos are 'tribalistic'', 'they are 'selfish'', it is an 'Igbo problem' e.t.c. Minor issues that aren't issues when done by other tribes become a serious issue when Igbo is involved.

I look around me, majority Ibibios marry within the Ibibio tribe, majority Hausas marry within Hausa, Yoruba within Yoruba, why should the Igbo marrying within themselves even be a question in the first place? Despite the level of inter marriage between whites and blacks here in the US, majority whites marry within whites, chinese within chinese, blacks within blacks, and you're going to sit there and tell me that it is a problem when Igbos prefer to marry Igbos?? Like seriously??

I get your point about love being the most important factor between 2 people from different tribes and there are marriages between Igbo men and non-Igbo women however majority Igbos don't need to look outside for love when they can find it within themselves. The same love you mentioned as important, Igbo men get it from within the tribe. Why look outside? What about culture preservation and values? Why should Igbo preferring to marry from within even be an issue in the first place when other tribes are doing the same? Is the creation of this thread even justified in the first place?

Igbo people are tribalistic, they are evil, they love money, yet you want to marry them? Seriously?

Tomorrow you're going to open another thread asking 'Why do Igbo people speak Igbo?' Like seriously??

Take it easy bro!!! Nobody is hating d igbos. We are all ONE

laudate:


Bros, I don't think you know the whole story. When did Paul Okoye marry Anita? Wasn't it after their mum passed away?

Was their union formalised when their mum was alive?

When did Peter Okoye marry Lola Omotayo? Wasn't it after he lost his mum?

If her character was so bad, how come he opened his eyes and had 2 children with her....

They married when they were ready not because their mum passed away.
Was there issues with Anita? Yes or No before or after their mum passed on?

Tell me something I don't know

oneeast:
We are special people. We do not marry inferior people like you.

Probably an Anambra girl has dumped u in the past now is time for you to cry and whine.

We are not ordinary..so next time u want marry go and look for ordinary people like you.

In Anambra we marry ourselves because we understand what marriage is about and not your useless girls that sleep around without home training.

Our girl are of high quality and not quantity.

That's my brother right there.

I have told them that Igbo girls are the best women in the world but they don't want to believe until this topic get to CNN

#TeamAnambra

byrron:


Y not wait until the alleged igbo guy dumps ur friend and marry an igbo lady before bringing this up since u are so sure that ur friend will be dumped when it has not even happened simply because she Is yet to be proposed to by the igbo guy.

Who even told you that all relationship must lead to marriage?

Can you give your daughter or younger sister this same advice?

Just asking.

Mrbigman1:


Am scared to argue with u ( not fight) cos ur DP describes u exactly.

Goan sleep tomorrow is school

I frightened you son.... Lol Hahaha. Olodo...you can't even make complete sentence without making mistakes. I wonder the school that trained you. Don't quote me again if you don't have any meaningful thing to discuss...so empty

Guys wats all this fuss about, if we start arguing about issues of inter ethinic or tribal marriages more enemity will be created amongst us. There's no reason to be generalistic in our conclusions, OP every one is not d same and clearly shud not be used as basis to judge others. For me am in d west buh I can't marry a girl dat is not ibo simply because I prefer ibo girls dats it.

J12:


Its a norm that Igbos marry outside of their tribe. A few folks in my family married outside of Igbo, this trend is also present in almost every Igbo family I know. So whats your point?

Read my previous post again. It is there in black & white.

J12:


Its a norm that Igbos marry outside of their tribe. A few folks in my family married outside of Igbo, this trend is also present in almost every Igbo family I know. So whats your point?

My point has been made, but you have refused to see it because of the strange mindset that you have.

It is NOT a norm within Alaigbo, that Igbo people marry outside their tribe. It is the exception. Chikena! So deal with it.

A lot of other tribes also marry within their tribe. To each man, his own.

Blitz888:
Anambrarians can't do without their mums... Don't blame us.

CORRECT!!!!!

punta:
I don't know if anyone already mentioned this since I couldn't read all 12 pages of previous comments;

IF YOU ARE NOT FROM ANAMBRA

MARRY ONE

MAKE ONE A FRIEND AN IN-LAW.....OR ANYTHING!!!


YOU NEED TO HAVE THE ANAMBRA EXPERIENCE IN THIS LIFE

WE ROCK!!!!!!!!

Uwa mu uwa asaa, m ga abu onye Anambra!

yes nne okwu gi dara uda

kelvin100:


They married when they were ready not because their mum passed away.
Was there issues with Anita? Yes or No before or after their mum passed on?

Tell me something I don't know

Oh, they had millions, had dropped hit singles, played to sold out concerts at home & abroad and could afford to live in luxury before their mum passed away. So why didn't they marry these girls, when she was still alive?

There were issues with both ladies, now.. How come the guys were now suddenly 'ready', after they lost their mum who had opposed their relationships in the first place??!

laudate:


Oh, they had millions, had dropped hit singles, played to sold out concerts at home & abroad and could afford to live in luxury before their mum passed away. So why didn't they marry these girls, when she was still alive?

There were issues with both ladies, now.. How come the guys were now suddenly 'ready', after they lost their mum who had opposed their relationships in the first place??!

Mikel had millions since he was a teen. Why is he still unmarried?

kelvin100:


Mikel had millions since he was a teen. Why is he still unmarried?

Ask him. I am sure you know Mikel's address...

We were talking about P-Square oh, in case you have forgotten. Don'T digress.

I can't marry a non Igbo and have not dated any, not that they are not good, in my office there many Igbos,yuroba, few awusa's and other nigerians, I relate with my co-workers perfectly, I want my children to be able to write and also speak Igbo fluently

marieclare:
Ok for starters, I'm Igbo in case.... My question is why are igbos here getting upset about what people from other tribes are saying here? We igbos dont even love ourselves so why should we expect same from outsiders? I feel so much shame when I see Igbos themselves bashing each other based on where one person is from in igboland There is so much hate amongst us in the first place..Such a shame. #imdone #letmestop

Some Igbos are good no doubt... To find the good one is the problem... They behave alike. I kept on telling them that since independent Igbos have been singing the separatist song...they seem never to be at peace with everyone.. Now they are still at it... Na only them... It shows something must be fundamentally wrong with them to fancy genocide and treason as a way of life.

They consistently draw hates to themselves by arrogantly extolling falsehood. People will never trust them because they don't care about what they think concerning their bad behavior...

laudate:


Ask him. I am sure you know Mikel's address...

We were talking about P-Square oh, in case you have forgotten. Don'T digress.

I asked you because you used 'millions' to qualify when one is ready to marry.

Do you even know what marriage is by-the-way or you think it's something one just jump into because he made some money?

Ikenna94:
Guys wats all this fuss about, if we start arguing about issues of inter ethinic or tribal marriages more enemity will be created amongst us. There's no reason to be generalistic in our conclusions, OP every one is not d same and clearly shud not be used as basis to judge others. For me am in d west buh I can't marry a girl dat is not ibo simply because I prefer ibo girls dats it.

God bless you for speaking your mind. Come here and collect a royal handshake, jare.

When you find your Igbo chic call me, so I can follow you for the Igba nku.

Kevdee4reel:
Should I do a video and post here to explain why?

I'm from anambra and maybe a well illustrated explanation will give us a better understanding.

If una gree, please like. A certain amount of likes will instigate me.

I no dey like put up pix or videos online so i'll most likely wear a mast like ndi boko perhaps.....or not

Hahahahaha. I've beeen trying to stay away from this thread but I just couildnt resist this. LMAO. This dude wants to wear a MAST!!! Lol

Guy your face go begin dey find network o. Lol.