A friend of mine has being dating a guy for some years now. She's not an Anambrarian. She's a very lovely lady,beautiful, kind, down to earth and she loves the guy so much.

I'm worried because the guy hasn't proposed and he is from Anambra state . I don't know if he'll eventually marry her because I've heard and I've seen a lot of people from Anambra state marrying from their tribe.

I need to know why they do that even when most times it's against their wish. What's your advice for her? Don't you think that the guy may eventually leave her for an Anambra Lady?

Thanks

Radoillo:
*sigh*

How many threads now on the issue of Igbos being too clannish when it comes to marriage?

Maybe I should also start a thread and talk about the two Yoruba girls I dated ( the first during my NYSC days in PH, the second while doing my Masters' in Birmingham) who both told me their fathers would kick me, an Omo Ibo,out of their houses if I dared to show up at their homes talking about marriage.

scantee:


don't say what ur not sure of, if I tell you what is happening here in Shell where yoruba dominated administrative positions, if I open up a bit you will melt, I only thank God I am ranked above all of them in my department so no room for shits.



reminder two of my elder brothers got married to yoruba ladies one from Ondo and other from Oyo.


during my Msc in Uni lag I met a gal by name Bisi we had an open relationship for few months when I wanted to take it to the next level she boldly told me that she would have love to be with my but her parents na no go zone with igbos, I asked her why, her response was damm funny. that her parents believes that igbo husbands used their wives for money ritual.


smh

donsheddy1:
To me, this is no big deal. My parents had no right to decide for me a life partner. I was dating an ijaw girl for 3 years and everybody in my family loved her so much. On the fourth year we were making plans for my marriage and in that same year she got pregnant for my friend. As usual she said it is the devil. I had no choice than to leave her with the devil. Now my parents are now bringing in the logic y we don't leave our teritory when we wanna get ourselves a wife. But the choice is still mine to make not theirs okay?

CHM11:

Delta/Urhobo
Served in a PPA with 15 corpers, 11 were igbos and it was hell for the 4 of us non igbos.

megacity:
The Igbos are of Jewish descent, a royal and peculiar people. Traditionally, Jews weren't supposed to marry gentiles....

My cousin dated this anambra Guy for 6 yrs,she dated d guy wen he had nothing,yet she was still with him only for this guy to get money he told my cousin dat "my mother said I shud marry from my tribe".meanwhile he claimed he loved her.y didn't he define d relationship from d onset instead of wasting her time. Come to think of it y will a Man not be able to make his own choice nd decisions for a life partner,I believe he knows nd understands her better than his mother does to know if she'll make a good life partner.it's high time grown up men not boys or babies speak for themselves.Any man who does this kind of thing will face God's punishment for life.

mrtimycc:

Ur attitude to them must have been very disgusting! Deltans stingy die! Even at the slightest thing

chillingbabe:
Most caring my A.ss, you can't change the fact that an Anambra guy Will NEVER marry a gal dats not from his state..Was Lola accepted easily into the okoye's family? Go and google wat transpired before she was finally accepted,MumuMugu like you..
The only igbo guys that can marry outside there state are guys from IMO,ABIA,ENUGU and DELTA(ibo) ..Stop being pained niccur!

oneeast:
You have said the fact! But your name sound un-Anambran!

My cousin dated this anambra Guy for 6 yrs,she dated d guy wen he had nothing,yet she was still with him only for this guy to get money he told my cousin dat "my mother said I shud marry from my tribe".meanwhile he claimed he loved her.y didn't he define d relationship from d onset instead of wasting her time. Come to think of it y will a Man not be able to make his own choice nd decisions for a life partner,I believe he knows nd understands her better than his mother does to know if she'll make a good life partner.it's high time grown up men not boys or babies speak for themselves.Any man who does this kind of thing will face God's punishment for life.

ak47mann:
you are very correct,in london here am going for a seminar in university of london is about igbo womanhood. Apparently in the olden days igbo women was running most of the business activities in igboland they basically controls the economy. Igbo women can marry another woman is still practice till today no other tribe does that in nigeria but in the bible you can find such practices and culture, before the white man came and this is how they change the system and gave more financial power to igbo men, though during the Victorian time english people believes that women should stay at home and look after kids

UjSizzle:

I don't understand why they'll date for 6yrs and neither of them ever discussed their tribal 'barriers'. Who does that? Sometimes I think women like to punish themselves. I know a person who dated a guy for so long and then lost him to another woman for this same tribal issue. It's so common today it should be part of preliminary discussions once things begin to heat up between two people.
But to wait forever and cry foul later? Op should just tell her friend to discuss her fears (or lack of) with this guy. If he is from Anambra, then she has to talk about it.

bigfrancis21:



Biko, onye di ife a?

huntila:
Uzo don vex!!!!!!!!!!! Who's annoying my uzo?

huntila:
Nna ehhh. No vex.. Na uzolexis I wan quote

DonDiego:



Same here. I hate the Ifeanyi/Paul Adefarasin combination. But I hail the Emeka/Modupe Anyaoku combo.

Calculia:


See them...Have u ever seen an igbo man talk about marriage with yoruba lady, as vice versa with yoruba men handing their life saving? Even if u beg e no go happen.

Yorubas are the most tribalistic groups in Nigeria. That is why their women will never suffice. Their eye go still remain in igbo, even if the igbo guy marries a chinese woman. That chinese becomes most interesting. It is a complex issue

Shezhawt:
IRep anambra.... #sueme

VirginFinder:


It's ok.
However the scenario I dont fancy rarely happens.

You will agree with me that most Yoruba/Igbo intertribal marriages are between a Yoruba man and an Igbo woman.

Any Yoruba lady who marries an Igbo must have done so out of frustration/desperation after having waited in vain for a Yoruba suitor.

Egba(Abeokuta) ladies find no qualms in marrying non Yorubas especially ibos. I dont know why.

Ondo/Ekiti men marry ibo ladies a lot.

kekeoj15:
For the most part, I think most Ibos that replied this question are brainless (Now, they won't read all my notes, they will come after me as usual -mob mentality). The person that asked this question was referring to an Anambra man who happens to be a clan in Igboland, the person only needed to know why Anambra guys or ladies will "rarely" marry outside their clan. He/ She was not asking why Igbo is not marrying Yoruba or vice-versa. As usual, many of the Ibos will never read what was posted, all they will be looking for is a way to pull the Yoruba (Their perceive arch enemy) down even when it was apparent that some of the contributors clearly stated their tribes, Ibo will still rope them with the Yorubas and call them names, anyone could ask this question for Christs' sake. I have heard friends asking why Ekiti or Ondo will not marry an Ijebu, does thaimplies they are talking about the Yoruba not marrying outside their tribe? Please, stop promoting all these unnecessary hatred. We are all one in the eyes of God. Nobody is bashing the Ibos here, this should be a platform to correct the misinformation people might have about a tribe or people. Thank you.[color=#006600][/color]

prettymiss4433:
Well said.Dnt mind dem.

OpraMenu:
I DON'T MIND MARRYING FROM OTHER TRIBES IF ONLY SHE CAN COOK OFE AKWU, OFE EDE, OFE NSALA, OFE UDA, OFE NSU AKWU, OFE ACHI, OFE OWERRE, TYPICAL ENUGU PORAGE YAM, AFIKPO'S IKPA YI NKWUKWO AND THE REST.
COME TO THINK OF IT WHY DO OTHER TRIBES LIKE TO MARRY IGBO LADIES ?

somegirl1:



Does an Anambra person refusing to marry an Imo person make the Imo person less Igbo? or does an Imo person refusing to marry an Anambra person make the Anambra person less Igbo?

You can't use a single experience to judge not just one group but various groups of Igbos with different orientations.

kagel:



Those Anamberians HEEM! THEY HAVE EYE IN MONEY MOST OF THEIR POOR MEN PERSHES ARONUD LADIES FROM OTHER TRIBS OR STATE,
AND MOST OF THE FINE GIRLS FORCE THEM SELIES ON RICH MEN FROM OTHER STATE AND TRIBS SELFISHNESS. WHILE MOSE OF THIER RICH GUYS MARRIGE ARE BEEN DECIDED MY THEIR PARENT ESPECIALLY THEIR (MOTHER MAMA AYI SI)

bigfrancis21:


There are several Igbo ladies that dated Yoruba guys only to get dumped by the guy for a fellow Yoruba lady. Such happen constantly. These ladies didn't cry foul, they moved on with life. One particular Igbo lady I know is in her 40s today and single because she was dating a Yoruba guy in her early 30s for 4 years who promised her marriage, she was happy that she was finally going to get married and her prayer to have a husband was finally answered, only for the guy's mother to reject her because she is Igbo and her son followed his mother's advice. At 36 she was single and dumped, older with fewer prospects of marriage. Now she's in her 40s and she still isn't married yet.

I don't condone tribalism, whatsoever. What happened between the Igbo guy and girl happens constantly within Igbos, Yorubas and Hausas. Some Igbo people date only to separate years after. Same for Hausas and Yorubas. It happens steadily. It isn't unique if that happens between people of different tribes. It all depends on the guy. If he really wants it to happen, it would happen, believe me.

Now, answer me honestly. Had this guy in question been a Yoruba guy, for example, about to dump the girl, say an Igbo girl, would you have opened this very thread in the first place questioning why Yorubas prefer to marry Yorubas?