oloyolo:
This is hilarious.
Adon tell all this NL girls make dey no dey listen to all this feminist
Most of them ar not married some married and divorce
And then come to advice u on how to make a man respect u yet they unmarried

Here is a word from the wise

Respect is not forced it is earned by doing the right thin
It is how u treat any thin that u threat every tin and men know this

Those thins feminists say ar just gimmicks they ar theories forget the logics behind it
They ar imaginary thins on how men should behave they ar not actually how men really behave

Hehe a desperate g don collect am from u the funny thin is that u might be more of good behavior than this girl but she played her cards right


Bae u just lost

But here is the bright side


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This has nothing to do with feminism please, feminism doesn't say you can't help your man do chores,so long as he can do same for you.

Feminism is about everyone being treated with the same amount of respect, I don't know why you lot attribute every bad thing to Feminism, educate yourself biko.

classicB:
He said this after a prolong chat that am not a wife material. He said I dnt display the attribute of one, what I.dnt understand is that must a gf act as a wife even when she isn't? Just to prove she's a wife material

lols. U need a lot to learn. But seriously ur not a wife material. U should be ashamed of your for even posting this thread on nairaland. Na ur type be the flexing type. U never dey think on how to settle down sef.

oshaosha2014:


The reason why I am not comfortable with my gf washing my clothes is because she has offered to do it without me pestering her. Since she could ordinarily show the willingness to do it, I know iam not going to have any problem with her in that area when I marry her. However, in ur own case, proving to me that you cannot wash my clothe, giving reason as to why you cannot do it, we will not fight, but am recording ur actions for final verdict - whether I can marry u or not. To me, I feel it is a natural thing for a woman to keep the home in good shape, which includes her bf/hubby clothes.

Are you kidding me? I am your girlfriend not your wife. Why would you insist I wash your clothes? that's ridiculous. So your decision to marry me would be based on whether or not I agree to wash your clothes? Then I can boldly say you need a washing machine not a wife.

VenusBetty:
why didn't he marry you? since you have all the materials needed.

dt the first guy didnt appreciate her doznt mean her nxt guy wont. . So dnt discourage her. . .

so NL girls know Better thing like this



well op to me what I believe is one can't do more his/her Brian .....
What u know is what u know jawe me no blame you oooo its just you and only just you



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CoCoLav:


Are you kidding me? I am your girlfriend not your wife. Why would you insist I wash your clothes? that's ridiculous. So your decision to marry me would be based on whether or not I agree to wash your clothes? Then I can boldly say you need a washing machine not a wife.

My type will never ever force u, but I will be observant. And my type knows the home is yours to manage, that is why in our courtship I will observe if u can do that.

CoCoLav:


Are you kidding me? I am your girlfriend not your wife. Why would you insist I wash your clothes? that's ridiculous. So your decision to marry me would be based on whether or not I agree to wash your clothes? Then I can boldly say you need a washing machine not a wife.

simply English u no sabi read and understand metcheew

CoCo indeed

classicB:
Thank you all. Am not a lazy girl I just dnt want him to see everything he listed as HIS EXPECTATIONS

Fixed. If you cant do any of his aforementioned expectations during courtship,be rest assured of huge problems in your relationship with time.
Either with him or with his family.We are Africans not Europeans (i get a white german in my family that prepares soup for her oga ,my relation,even does his laundries so kini big deal?).
The essence of courtship is to observe compatibility between two adults of opposite sex.Change or face the consequences of your choices.

zizibabe1:



NNE,SERIOUSLY,THERE ARE NO HARD AND FAST RULES TO THIS GAME.WHEN I STARTED DATING MY HUSBAND,HE HAD THIS HIS IN PORT HARCOURT BABE WHO WOULD COME WITHIN THE WEEK,DO HIS LAUNDRY,CLEAN HIS HOUSE,NEARLY SCRUB THE POP CEILING (LOL!) SERIOUSLY,PRACTICALLY CLEAN UP THE PLACE SO MUCH THAT WHEN I COME OVER AT CLOSE OF WORK ON FRIDAY ,EVERY WHERE WAS SPECK AND SPAN.ME,ON THE OTHER HAND HAD MADE UP MY MIND THAT I WON'T WORK HARD AGAIN FOR ANY RELATIONSHIP BC WHAT WILL BE WILL BE.AT LAST,WE ARE MARRIED NOW AND I DONT THINK HE HAS A PROBLEM WITH MY HOUSE KEEPING ABILITIES! THIS IS TRUE

Your case is one in a million. Your hubby simply doesnt deserve that kinda girl.

I don't understand you op. How can you wake up without laying the bed you slept on? are you serious? You just carry your bag and go when you are not a dirty pig? Shame even let you post this here for us to see. You don't even sweep kwa. Smh.

My sister if you lay the bed and sweep it won't belittle you before him. Thank your God he is even saying it now, what he had waited and then dump you after many years?

Dear your man loves you IMO that's why he opened his mind to you and the best you can do is to adjust your ways biko.

Seven pages of comments and no one was able to discern the FAKENESS of both the OP and the story. No wonder Buhari is running for president. And newly released data show about 21M suffering mental issues. Think, folks.

On the other hand, one could actually comment on the story but not before acknowledging that it's fake to begin wth. This is how Andyblaze became famous before anyone knew what he was up to. Pathetic.

missjenna:
Op what I don't understand is why you posted this here.
Do you derive some sort of weird pleasure in showing people your flaws and short comings?
Or don't you know that what you did was wrong?

Of course no guy would tolerate a lazy lady. So you go to his house and you still expect him to cook for you?
The fact that he said you don't wash his clothes means that you have never even tried to wash his clothes for once.

Despite the fact that I am an advocate for women rights and gender equality, I believe that there are things that women are obliged to do.
You don't even lay the bed you slept on? Definitely, any man would be annoyed by this. Its spells laziness and immaturity on your part. It also shows that you are not an organized person

Op this guy loves you an he wants to marry you, that is why he is saying all this. The best you can do for yourself is change.
Prove to him that you have changed so that he doesn't leave you for another woman
Thanks

Well said.............

vjsmiles:
NO OFFE?NSE BUT HE IS RIGHT....

IF ALL THOSE THINGS HE MENTIONED ARE TRUE THEN BAE YOU AINT EVEN A HOUSEGIRL MATERIAL...
ONCE AGAIN NO OFFE?NSE

Gbam

CoCoLav:


Are you kidding me? I am your girlfriend not your wife. Why would you insist I wash your clothes? that's ridiculous. So your decision to marry me would be based on whether or not I agree to wash your clothes? Then I can boldly say you need a washing machine not a wife.

I don't allow my girl to do all except cooking . but she always insist on doing them and still do some when am not around . ur intent matters a lot.

franciskaine:
No! But one shouldn't be single all through his/her lifetime. Are you a celibate?

For the time being, yes.

Trinxie:
Ehyah, sorry...I don't know much about guys tho buh it seems like the guy sef get wahala He wan chop all the entitlement of a husband finish. U're a girlfriend not wife...buh u have your own ijogbon too. At least when you're leaving his place u can just try to make things look neat like u were not in his house at all(like clean up a little). The habit should follow you everywhere has a lady whether bf's house or not.

You sound intelligent though with your comments


Keep it coming

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vjsmiles:
NO OFFE?NSE BUT HE IS RIGHT....

IF ALL THOSE THINGS HE MENTIONED ARE TRUE THEN BAE YOU AINT EVEN A HOUSEGIRL MATERIAL...
ONCE AGAIN NO OFFE?NSE

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Trinxie:
Ehyah, sorry...I don't know much about guys tho buh it seems like the guy sef get wahala He wan chop all the entitlement of a husband finish. U're a girlfriend not wife...buh u have your own ijogbon too. At least when you're leaving his place u can just try to make things look neat like u were not in his house at all(like clean up a little). The habit should follow you everywhere has a lady whether bf's house or not.

are u in the same league?

TheRainmaker1:


If he misses you so much, why aren't you guys back together?

You did all of those things, yet you guys still broke up.

You can cook and clean and wash and nurse and....all of that, yet a man will marry who he wants to marry.

I'm not saying women shouldn't do any of those things if they really want to do them (I don't allow any woman do my laundry...no way; I do it myself), but I'm against doing those things because you think it will make you more acceptable to a man!

Whoever u are God bless u. You see how fake and useless people can be. Do u no how many trouble some women can cook and clean. Do u no how many nymphos can wash clothes. We all keep making the same mistake over and over again. Most girls do all this things to look acceptable even though they refuse to do house chores in their own house. This is also what a pastor told me that this life he has noticed the woman who pretends the most is the one that gets wifed. One major thing in choosing a life partner is getting someone who compliments u and cutting your coat according to your size. We are not perfect. Background of a spouse matters a lot. A girl that comes from a comfortable home where she does nothing has no business marrying a guy who wants his wife to do all house chores. There will always be conflict in such marriage cus she did not grow up doing those things. It is almost impossible to change a behaviour u grew up wiv. Behaviour and habit are two different things. I no of a couple that toothpaste almost broke their home. The guy grew up managing things. A poor guy. His wife wasn't so rich but lived an affordable life. When they got married, the guy liked to press d paste from the tail while the wife pressed the paste from anywhere. The guy said she was wasteful in everything. While d guy was just so so conservative. It started causing friction. Those two are not compatible and that's the simple truth. Another problem they had was in sharing meat. The girl takes 2 or 3pieces. My guy is used to one piece. This couple were not poor. They were doing well for themselves but that life he grew up wiv is still affecting his reasoning. I no a lot of rich people today from terribly poor backgrounds. They still exhibit some very funny characters. Rich people from poor backgrounds are different from rich people from Humble background.

Whatever lifestyle we have is not gonna change over night. This op will probably end up deceiving the guy into thinking she has changed but will not keep up wiv that facade after marriage. That will be the beginning of your problems.

zizibabe1:



NNE,SERIOUSLY,THERE ARE NO HARD AND FAST RULES TO THIS GAME.WHEN I STARTED DATING MY HUSBAND,HE HAD THIS HIS IN PORT HARCOURT BABE WHO WOULD COME WITHIN THE WEEK,DO HIS LAUNDRY,CLEAN HIS HOUSE,NEARLY SCRUB THE POP CEILING (LOL!) SERIOUSLY,PRACTICALLY CLEAN UP THE PLACE SO MUCH THAT WHEN I COME OVER AT CLOSE OF WORK ON FRIDAY ,EVERY WHERE WAS SPECK AND SPAN.ME,ON THE OTHER HAND HAD MADE UP MY MIND THAT I WON'T WORK HARD AGAIN FOR ANY RELATIONSHIP BC WHAT WILL BE WILL BE.AT LAST,WE ARE MARRIED NOW AND I DONT THINK HE HAS A PROBLEM WITH MY HOUSE KEEPING ABILITIES! THIS IS TRUE

I understand you.Truth is what works for you may not work for another person. People are different.

madeinnigeria:
Why should your bf not husband expect u to cook, wash and do other chores for him? Very soon he will ask you to get pregnant for him without him being ur husband..anyway its the way u present yourself ppl will treat u..who knows whether you ask him to perform husband duties too...y won't he complain about bedspread when u cannot sleep in your own house....u guys are still in a relationship for christsake...visit and go to ur house.. Or better still get someone dat reasons well

The OP's boyfriend reason's well(based on the info we have), what's wrong in sleeping over at a bf's house, especially if she expects that the relationship will lead to marriage? How do you bond with someone if you can't spend time together doing stuffs like laundry and cooking?

What you lot don't seem to know, is that, a man will respect you because you deserve it and respect yourself, not because you think it's beneath you to help him out where necessary.

classicB:
He said this after a prolong chat that am not a wife material. He said I dnt display the attribute of one, what I.dnt understand is that must a gf act as a wife even when she isn't? Just to prove she's a wife material

but give the German juice nah

oshaosha2014:


My type will never ever force u, but I will be observant. And my type knows the home is yours to manage, that is why in our courtship I will observe if u can do that.

Of course, courtship is about observing your future spouse...that's the whole essence of courtship but you cant base a woman's managerial capabilities on her refusal to wash your clothes. My point is, if she decides to do it voluntarily...fine but you should not insist like it is your right and conclude she is not a wife material just because she refused to wash your clothes, I find this really amusing.

There are more important qualities to look out for in a partner btw. Of what use is a woman who would not give you peace but washes your clothes every day?

Pamcrest:
Op, don't mind d guy....he's just lookg for excuses n subtly lettg u know yr stand ......he won't marry u.....period!
Any man keen on marrying u will be happy pampering u, not complaining abt everything!
My humble submission

This is a perfect way to remain unmarried until you are 68 years old.
If they check you, you wash and clean everything in your guy's house including his boxer's.
pamper kò, pamper ní.

so after pampering you and marrying you and you can't keep the home, what will be his gain? sex?

smh

VenusBetty:
why didn't he marry you? since you have all the materials needed.

You could clearly see the ex misses those traits.Dont be surprise the Ex would still be supporting the lady when the need arisesdespite not been married to her.It happens.

classicB:
He said this after a prolong chat that am not a wife material. He said I dnt display the attribute of one, what I.dnt understand is that must a gf act as a wife even when she isn't? Just to prove she's a wife material

but u give him the German juice nah what else

TDstarr:
smh nigerian girls will never change.......marriage is justa piece of paper, dats what i tell my girlfriend everyday.......its still the same me and her in the same house.....unless she is trying to use house work to tie me down of wish i can conviniently employ a house help or date anoda chick.....but the most annoying part is she doesnt make the bed.....men my mum will just kill her.....she seems like d lazy type

Bros i wish i pay NTA.AIT DSTV, to broadcast this msg of urs to alot of our sisters out there.....

Interesting thread

@OP:

I would say you should have learnt the kind of person your guy was/is and values he hold dear before engaging in a relationship.

Did your guy ever visit you in your house... if yes, how did you treat him?

While I dated my hubby, we cook and clean in each other's house... I am a guest in his house and he is in mine so we treated each other well in our houses. Till date, there are some chores I don't fancy doing which he picks up and there are some stuffs I know he wouldn't do etc.

While we visited, we helped each other with chores and everything....

Anyways, different strokes for different folks

If you are still interested in the guy, discuss with him and meet him halfway

If you are no longer interested in him, use this as a lesson for the next guy