kilokeys:
i imagine a scenario where she overpowers u.. beats u to pulp, dislocates ur knee with pestle remove two teeth with frying pan..

u would still never admit ur wife beat u, would u?


u go form accident

^^^And when his best friend sees him afterwards (sporting a black eye.....hobbling on crutches, and with bandages and POP all over) he'll shout in horror and ask: 'Damn dude! What happened.....Did you get hit by a truck!?'

Animals , aren't you 5 times stronger that her. ? If a guy beats me next time I plan to poison him with Rat poison, one gram in the egusi soup make him poo his dodolo out . Not joking

rationalmind:
I saw this thread (https://www.nairaland.com/457400/why-husbands-beat-wives) earlier and noticed how ladies claim it's unacceptable for a man to beat a woman under any circumstance.

How about a scenario where the wife raises her hands to beat the husband? Yes, I'll beat that devil out of my wife if and only if she ever raises her hand to beat me first.

You're being irrational, a beating (and certainly not a heavy one) will only be warranted after she ignores a prior warning. BTW, I hope you don't marry a woman stronger than you.

There's this thin man that got married to a very fat woman...they do quarrel on daily bases but not to the stage of engaging in physical combat before their neighbours interferes. One thursday afternoon,an arguement ensued between then,they were shouting at themselves,threating to kill each other. The landlord and some neighbours tried getting in,but the door was locked. Suddenly we heard a cry and groan of the man shouting for help,the woman has hit the man with turning stick(orogun) on the head and he felled down,and she started hitting the turning stick on his two elbows and knees till she break the four joints,the man couldnt raise his hands and legs again...na so e clear for her eyes come dey shout for help come open door....d man used more than 6months for hospital

rationalmind:
I saw this thread (https://www.nairaland.com/457400/why-husbands-beat-wives) earlier and noticed how ladies claim it's unacceptable for a man to beat a woman under any circumstance.

How about a scenario where the wife raises her hands to beat the husband? Yes, I'll beat that devil out of my wife if and only if she ever raises her hand to beat me first.

If it's a sane country by now, u will be behind bars....... Or are u among the 21 million.............?

Guys are not smilling!

Chrisbenogor:
rationalmind my friend lol. No let marriage dribble you, make you no come dey chop slap dey smile like Ray J. LMAO!

Chop slap from who?

oghenetega100:
Something is seriously wrong with you, it's a long list but I will just mention a few, you are insecure, weak, with serious inferiority complex, just to mention but a few.

Stop projecting yourself on people

SAVEDBABA:
wow.but shey u don marry

Why you wan know?

debrihachi:

I do hit my bf and he doesn't hit back. ...... If u can't hit ur mother u should never hit ur wife

My mother respects me and won't hit me.

And keep hitting your boyfriend, time will tell.

kilokeys:

some edo/delta babes go do u strong thing.. no b film trick..
u go just dey endure d beating.. hmmm hmmm abeg.. hmmm.. so that neighbours no go hear u

Oya beat her well well

haryomikun:

Abeg, hit like if you think rationalmind jilted elantraceey while in school

KoloOyinbo:


As an Irishman I was raised NEVER to hit a woman. If she raises her hand to me I will ward off the blows as best I can. Elsewise as a REAL man I can take anything she can muster!

In our culture only a GAY or a COWARD would strike a woman.

I appreciate some African cultures are different but all cultures have their positive AND negative points and on this particular issue I much prefer my own.

The alternative encourages violence against women which we see all too often.

I was once told of a woman who hit the husband with a pestle while he was asleep in the middle of the night because the man had done something during the day which really infuriated her.

Yes, I've never beaten a woman too but I won't hesitate to do it if situation warrants it

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ibrokola:

There's nothing rational about your mind!

You must really think your opinion of me matters.

UyiIredia:


You're being irrational, a beating (and certainly not a heavy one) will only be warranted after she ignores a prior warning. BTW, I hope you don't marry a woman stronger than you.

A prior warning not to hit or a warning after an initial hit?

A LOT OF MUMU MEN AND SUPID GIRLS ON NAIRALAND:
IF SHE BURNS YOUR CERTIFICATE NKO>? mumu will never lay his hand on a woman
IF SHE BEAT U NKO? mumu man will say I will walk away
WHAT IF SHE INSULTS YOURS MOTHER? mumu man will say I will walk away
IF SHE BEATS YOUR MOTHER NKO > mumu will walk away and send her packing
IF SHE REFUSE TO PACK NKO? mumu will keep malice wit someone who beats him or his family.

BEATING MY WIFE IS THE LAST THING I WILL EVER DO BUT IT IS STIL ON THE LIST.
EVEN IF ANOTHER MANS WIFE SLAPS ME UNDULY, I WILL REPAY IN KIND. Then either her husband beats me up or I will beaT HIM UP. Either way, I will still stand by my actions. I will happily go to prison for returning a soldier's wife's slap.
I wonder where una put una balls...

Can we stop being hypocrites on nairaland?

A woman raises her hand against a man? And some here are talking about someone being a man? In some communities, she is stoned.

Any woman that raises her hands against a man has lost any dignity of being treated "like a woman".

I would simply hire a lady to do the honours-while i watch. That's if im fighting the idea of giving her a decent RKO.

incrediblestev:
People need to get real and stop arguing as if they were some robot with no feelings...... Some women are violent and only calm down when they get an equal or more violence in return. Only a disrespectful woman will get angry to the point of slapping or hitting a man. I have seen a woman slap a man and even spat on him during an argument.

It is so easy for men who have never been recipients of violence from such women to come out here and preach about not hitting a woman no matter what, that's a lie. 90% of male folks will respond equally at least to a woman that slaps or hit them out of provocation, we are all feeling human beings, it is only Natural to act in this same manner.

The preaching should be that nobody, be you man or woman should slap or hit anyone in provocation, no matter how bad it is...... Just as a man is expected to work away in a charged atmosphere, so should a woman do too. Any argument that seeks to suggest that even if a woman hits a man it is wrong for the man to respond back is hypocritical and playing to the gallery.....

i have never had to hit any woman that did not hit me even in the face of provocative comments, but I have had to respond in equal measure to a lady that pointed her fingers at me, pulled my trousers and asked me to do my worst, I shoved her and got a resounding slap that got me seeing stars that say get that bitch, the result was an equally reassuring thunderous slaps that reminded her that I could actually inflict even more violence on her than she can on me..... Everyone that witnessed the whole thing go down supported me because I had been tolerant enough to the point of empowering the foolish girl. Again, if a woman attacks me and expects me to just cowl in fear of not being seen as a woman beater then she is in for a big disappointment cos I won't hesitate to respond to her gesture. Na so.

Some people have not been in abusive relationships before and that is why they keep yapping. A woman who gets violent with you once and goes free will most likely repeat it. There are no absolute circumstances in life, the prevailing conditions will determine your course of action. You would never kill someone, but if push came to shove and somebody gotta go, you bet that person ain't gon' be you.

For the ladies here, grow up folks. Your reasoning is just pure evil. A lot of you would never tolerate your brothers going through the same in the hands of another woman. Fact.
We all need a great level of restraint in our lives to coexist peacefully, but that doesn't mean that a man should become a doormat.

debrihachi:

I do hit my bf and he doesn't hit back. ...... If u can't hit ur mother u should never hit ur wife

Babe, sorry enh! But you are dating a wuss!

ekiloui:


Oga why should your wife be beating you? Are you married to the female mike tyson or something? How many women can actually beat up their husbands.

If you like beat your wife to death because u want to show how much of an animal can be. That's your biz

No real man will beat his wife and that's the simple truth...instead he'll hold her off from beating him

the hypocrisy in your posts is so silly
*if a woman slaps a man he should calm her down(because its just a slap)
*if a man slaps a woman,( he is an animal and the woman should pack and leave)

*No real man will beat is wife( but you didn't tell us what a real woman will never do)



*a man that slaps a woman does not respect her (a woman that slaps a man " its just slap" )

let me give you a piece of advice, "do to others what you will have them do to you"
in ethics:that's the golden rule
am sure even the bible/God tells you this.

ma'am don't advice someone not to slap you when you slap him
don't expect someone not to slap you when you slap him
if you see me on the street,try slapping me for telling all this and I will give you back the gift in very pleasant manner
now my turn
a woman that slaps a man is an animal and not real a woman
no woman should slap a man, no matter what.
men be careful before you choose a wife, any atom of violence from her, leave and don't look back whether children are involve or not,( but don't forget to return favour before leaving )

kestolove95:
If my wife. Raise ha hands. On me...I will just leav d house and come back at nyt...by den d devil go don leav her..may. God not let me raise on on ma wife

what is this? U be gbewu dani I swear

Justfollowit:


Sir, do you believe that men and women are equal

Certainly equal in rights. But each behave in certain ways. A gentleman gives a seat to a lady on a bus and holds door open for her etc.

This is in recognition of her femininity and does not detract from her equality.

To strike a woman like some coward or a gay (scratch her eyes out, pull each others hair and have a cat fight ) does not diminish anyone's equality but destroys that half-mans masculinity!

If my Father (God rest his soul) ever thought that I had struck a woman he would turn in his grave and wonder what kind of sick creature he had sired!

rationalmind:


I was once told of a woman who hit the husband with a pestle while he was asleep in the middle of the night because the man had done something during the day which really infuriated her.

Yes, I've never beaten a woman too but I won't hesitate to do it if situation warrants it

Well it may be acceptable where you are from but in my culture you would be rightly shunned thenceforth as not fit for decent society or the company of real men.

rationalmind:


I'm wondering what makes you feel I'm not yet married

Finish her den. If u don marry nko. My dear der are oda solutns ok nt beatn devil outta her.

Goldienana:

Finish her den. If u don marry nko. My dear der are oda solutns ok nt beatn devil outta her.

Correct! There ARE many other solutions! A real man would use then rather than actually strike his wife/gf. The very idea fills me with disgust.

A Naija gf once slapped my face. I did nor retaliate but simply went quiet finished our meal left her home (as a gentleman should) and did not call again. In three days she was crying and apologising!

I did not mind the face slap (I deserved it ) but she yabbed on me too much! A man can take a slap from a woman unless there is something wrong with them.

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ekiloui:


Oga why should your wife be beating you? Are you married to the female mike tyson or something? How many women can actually beat up their husbands.

If you like beat your wife to death because u want to show how much of an animal can be. That's your biz

No real man will beat his wife and that's the simple truth...instead he'll hold her off from beating him

............madam, i don't know you, neither do i know your marital status. I don't believe in b***sh-t advice. I hv been with my wife for 14yrs now. I have seen different marriages at work and one of the evils i have seen is wives who ride their husbands. I thank God that this issue of discussion is a non issue in my home, because from the begining the right foundation was laid.
What many women don't see and realize is the battering of a man's esteem, respect and all that qualifies him as a man, is what a woman's tongue does when she lashes him with it. The scars on the outside are easier to heal than those on the inside! Have you seen a thoroughly beaten woman before? That is just a little representation of how a man looks on the inside after being battered by his wife!
I think there was a post less than a month ago on the.NL about a wife who stabbed her husband to death after less than a year of marriage. It was said she had stabbed him before. There was no reporting he was beating her, she simply felt she was in charge! So he's gone, and she's in prison. I guess if she was on this forum, she would be ranting: " No real man will beat his wife and that's the simple truth...instead he'll hold her off from beating him[/b]". Infact if i might add, "[b] he should even allow her to stab him!"
I don't beat my wife, but one look from me is enough!
Many of the single ladies, try to bring the control they had as spinsters into marriage. It might work for a while, but watch it, your husband is not just the head of the home, but your head!
If this is too much to accept, then i advice you don't get married!
You are here on a forum everybody talking their own, enter the marriage first and then know how far.....hmmm,.....i dey laugh!
God help us all.
***...by the way, a slap is not a gift to be kept, but one to be returned with profit........***

It is better à man ask me to leave his home than beat me up.up.Just jejely pack my things go drop for mama papa house, say you no marry again .

KoloOyinbo:


Certainly equal in rights. But each behave in certain ways. A gentleman gives a seat to a lady on a bus and holds door open for her etc.

This is in recognition of her femininity and does not detract from her equality.

To strike a woman like some coward or a gay (scratch her eyes out, pull each others hair and have a cat fight ) does not diminish anyone's equality but destroys that half-mans masculinity!

If my Father (God rest his soul) ever thought that I had struck a woman he would turn in his grave and wonder what kind of sick creature he had sired!

You are just contradicting yourself

In simple term:

You will not lay a hand in a female because she is fragile.

If I were a man and a lady hits me. I will teach her the lesson her parents have failed to instill in her. If she thinks she can raise her hands anyhow because we are equal or because it would be demeaning to my sex to retaliate, she is in for a shock. She should be ready to understand one fact- you do not hit someone who is naturally stronger than you and expect him to ignore it because he is a man.

I do not get how you being Irish makes you a perfect gentleman. Like Oyinbos o not hit their wives or what...