christinauju:
OP as long as the feelings stays....I'v got a nigga who's bn hanging on for me for the past 4yrs now and I'm still not convinced about him buh he's still crushing despite the distance....so its up to you.



....If you feel she's worth the time and stressstill stand strong,buh if she's not worth it just check elsewhere jare.

ideology:

God bless bluesam, Justfollowit

Am very disappointed with men that reason this way. And I won't be surprised if op has another lady somewhere.

benideey:
I really don't have the luxury of time to wait when I am trying to be friends with her and she dare punishes my feelings with repulsive acts.

I will just let her be and move on; no sentiments. I can't stoop for a girl. I do always feel you can't be friends or lovers with everyone! I really don't fancy when a lady is forming for the universe. I prefer when friendship happens naturally like if we meet at workplace, within the neighbourhood, in groups and co.#NO TIME,MOVE ON....you may probably be missing out if she keeps delaying!

Enegod:



Life is too short to waste any of it trying to go where you aren't wanted. If you have to woo a woman for so long, it just means that she is not interested in you,
and you are too dense to realize it..

Adaeze003:
All that's on my mind is how some guy I just met 2 weeks ago ll ask me to be his gf n I'll jump right in . That's like first date stage, getting to know him stage.

Op, why do you think the "2 weeks" girls didn't last?

Anyhoo... she said she aint ready so if you don't want the friendship you can leave. no be by force...

It's amazing how guys on here are claiming "3 weeks" "no time at all" seriously? 3 weeks of knowing someone? Or 3 weeks of wooing? Like you knew her b4 the three weeks right? If not then that's just a cheap lie. Sighs...

kendrick9:
if u show her the money then u probably won't need to wait too long..
Money talks, bro

ALKARULEZZ:
me don hang boot since the days of Solomon for dat ministry na

WORLDPEACE:

He has become a girl to you. And girls don't date fellow girls unless their lesbians. You will only want to date him when he is no longer your friend. Since he met you, you've probably dated four guys and he is still 'bestfriending'. And the friendship ends when you get married to someone you've known for only six months. You and him have not got the memo:
Boys and girls can't just be friends. Have you ever seen a tiger playing with a puppy?
May the lord open his eyes.

Raiders:
I met this beautiful girl last year on a public bus and she decided to give me her number. She is 22 years and a final year student of a major university. We have been texting and calling back and forth for the past 2 months and she told me she is single. I have been trying to woo her to be my girlfriend for over 2 months but she insist on us just been friends and she don't want a relationship.

I really like this girl and would love to date. but I feel like maybe she don't want to date me so yesterday I told her we should end our friendship because if she feels that am not good enough to date her then we shouldnt remain friends. I really don't want to waste another month trying to win her heart and later find out that she end up with another guy.

My last 2 previous relationships too me less than 2 weeks to woo my previous girlfriends so I am kinda surprise that after 2 months of trying to win her over she still insist on not dating me. At first, I thought maybe she was playing hard to get but I think 2 months is long enough.

My questions to nairalanders is how long should a guy try to woo a girl before giving up and moving on?

Aystarz:

Calm down nau. U just carry the matter put for head as if na u the brother dey woo sef. Be civil pls....Advice he asked for, not insults.

Raiders:
I agree with you that 2 months is a long time to woo a girl. This is why I decided to end our friendship and told her to stop calling and texting her. I think it takes a girl less than a day to decide if they would date a guy or not but some girls just like playing hard to get.

Justfollowit:

What is with the sense of entitlement y'all keep showing? Because you guys are friends automatically gives you a 5- star into her life.

What if you are really not good enough for her? When did it become a moral sin or crime not to date someone because the person is simply not good enough

She has her own aspirations, dreams and likes, if she thinks you do not fit into any , zoom off and let her be.

Have you also failed to consider the fact that maybe she doesn't like you in that manner. You can't threaten someone to like you, it is either she does or she doesn't. Don't sweat it

And You write as if you haven't ignored many women out there who stylishly showed interest but you ignore them because they are not good enough for you.

You cannot have it both ways

Her response was in good faith. If you look take it is as such and if you don't na your wahala be that

Justfollowit:


You know
With sincerity, I have never seen such stupid display of attraction except when Nigerian men. If it is not mutual, it isn't.

But they would rather drag it for the rest of their lives.

As for me, I take drastic measures.
I hate being nagged on decision which are wholly personal and subject to my sole discretion.

If these women are actually fronting, make it blunt to them. And all them to holla when they age ready. Easy peasy

christinauju:
OP as long as the feelings stays....I'v got a nigga who's bn hanging on for me for the past 4yrs now and I'm still not convinced about him buh he's still crushing despite the distance....so its up to you.



....If you feel she's worth the time and stressstill stand strong,buh if she's not worth it just check elsewhere jare.

gimakon:
Guys definition of wooing is, meet a girl today ask her out she does like she's hard to get and next, his meat rod is inside her. After that,they become strangers again. So question is, when u mean woo, are u wooing to keep her or wooing to make her woe unto a man... these days sum guys day make babes day suffer us good boys

ideology:

Am a Nigerian but I felt disappointed with the Op's mindset.

The thought that the lady is still very young is just enough to give it time.

What do some folks really want from a relationship?
Is it child's play?
have fun and move on at will …

If op is my son, I'll ground him for a week

christinauju:
OP as long as the feelings stays....I'v got a nigga who's bn hanging on for me for the past 4yrs now and I'm still not convinced about him buh he's still crushing despite the distance....so its up to you.



....If you feel she's worth the time and stressstill stand strong,buh if she's not worth it just check elsewhere jare.

christinauju:
OP as long as the feelings stays....I'v got a nigga who's bn hanging on for me for the past 4yrs now and I'm still not convinced about him buh he's still crushing despite the distance....so its up to you.



....If you feel she's worth the time and stressstill stand strong,buh if she's not worth it just check elsewhere jare.

Justfollowit:


You see they will date for years (not court o), the relationship wouldn't be anything other than bf/gf.

When she is ready to get married, she will open a a thread on Nairaland to ask us some silly questions. By that time he has already found some other JJC who he would refer to as the perfect wife material

Truckpusher:
Bro , they've perfected and changed that game plan.
They will keep you close enough with enough hope that one day your dreams will come true, but the truth is she's keeping you as a backup just incase the old guy starts jonsing they will now run into your arms and you'll be feeling like a king that just conquered a territory without you knowing that you've been on the reserve bench.

Justfollowit:


You know
With sincerity, I have never seen such stupid display of attraction except when Nigerian men. If it is not mutual, it isn't.

But they would rather drag it for the rest of their lives.

As for me, I take drastic measures.
I hate being nagged on decision which are wholly personal and subject to my sole discretion.

If these women are actually fronting, make it blunt to them. And all them to holla when they age ready. Easy peasy

PiperAlpha:

You shouldn't have asked her to stop calling you bro. Just cut communication....that's all. Get busy in real life. I bet you will never have any cause to chase a lady for 2 months. 30 minutes is ok for me.

sweetcocoa:
You know, most times, the problem is actually with the women(most of 'em), you hear them say they are not interested, whereas all they want, is the dude to chase further.

I can't entirely blame them though, as they grew up hearing or even seeing, that "men" don't value women who show interest on time, therefore, these women keep "forming" not interested till they feel it's time, because of this, it's hard for the guys to tell, if she's really not interested or just playing hard to get.

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sweetcocoa:
You know, most times, the problem is actually with the women(most of 'em), you hear them say they are not interested, whereas all they want, is the dude to chase further.

I can't entirely blame them though, as they grew up hearing or even seeing, that "men" don't value women who show interest on time, therefore, these women keep "forming" not interested till they feel it's time, because of this, it's hard for the guys to tell, if she's really not interested or just playing hard to get.