My dear no body will ever give a better solution dis cus all hv der diffrents but 4me I will advise u 2take your tym nd study her well nd try 2understand why she is doin dat nd try 2talk 2her tnx[color=#006600][/color]

pretydiva:
leave him let him keep deceiving himself. Dats y he is stil searching4love

Lols... #holds laugh... I see

I guessed you take her to a marriage council

Dragonking:


If it was the other way round and the man beats the woman will you be saying all these? If not, then am correct..you are a hypocrite..

I thought men are the stronger vessels? Why does this little abuse from a lady sounds difficult to you.

searching4love:


Back off and dont try to advice me cos

No, your wrong. I wasnt gonna advice you...

searching4love:




My matter dey always make you wet I'm sure you're self servicing now MUMU

You have so much hatred for women. You always say the wrong things that's why. ode

Don't quote me next time if you don't have something meaningful to tell me...mind your business. Thank you and God bless.

Dragonking:


Keep deceiving yourself...several ladies have even confessed hitting their men or husband even on this forum and you are here making a joke out of it...mtchheeew

searching4love:



Na my matter go kee many of you. Ugly hoes

If you have a sister consider a hoe and if you don't then consider your future wife a hoe.

bokom:
2. Mynd44: Quote Post

Err.....

Can you get a temporary separation or outright divorce?

This is the same thing I will tell a woman whose husband hits her


We have a strong business together. We both play a big role in the company and the company is here in Nigeria.... She cant do her part of the job if we are divorced. Also for the record. she loves me so much, just that she wants it to be just me and her alone...no family or friends around

Guy, if i go advice U.
Ur wife is asking too much. She would never have met you if your brother did sponsor your monkey aszzz 2 Europe, she would never know U if Ur mum had not given birth to U. That's all I can say. Think for yourself

missjenna:
Op, I read your post and I have to say that I am sorry you found yourself in this situation.

First of all, the fact that you have endured through the beating and you have controlled yourself from hitting back all this while shows how responsible and mature you are. I wonder how many Nigerian men would let their wives hit them and they wouldn't hit back. Irrespective of her race.
Having said that, I think from everything you wrote, your wife is only annoyed because of the fact that you are giving financial assistance to your brother

Op, let me ask you this question, how huge is the money that you are disbursing to your family. Perhaps its a bit too much and hence your wife finding fault.
I believe you and your wife should sit together and talk things through.
Explain to her why you have to help your brother. Tell her that if not from the help your brother rendered to you, you wouldn't have met her in the first place

Your wife is a business minded woman. She believes the business won't grow as it is supposed to, if you keep on giving money out
I think you and your wife should sit down and plan your spending
You should agree on the amount of money you would dissipate to your family
I think she should understand

I also believe your wife gets angry because of the fact that you don't inform her before you give money to your people
You both run a partnership business with the same account number so its best you inform her before lending out money

Op I believe your wife loves you and you love her equally. Please don't let this issue lead to any problem in your marriage.
Your wife is hot tempered and you should talk to her. Caucasians tend to respond to talks
Sit her down and advise her to improve on herself. She can be better person.

Op, I hope I helped.
I wish you success in both your marriage and business.

Thanks and God bless

confirmento. Bar man, please serve this lady 2 bottles of pure water and okin biscuit..

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Wow! This is why I will always prefer my naija babes to all these whites and molatas....the way they reason is not the same way as ours, I can't live with em in the same house talkles of marrying them, ike ha adirom nwanne

bokom:
Hello Guys

My name is UD (not real name), a Nigerian and i am married to European who is 10 years older than me. We met in Europe but got married in Lagos.

Well, after our marriage, we always have family issues and fights like every other couple, but the problem i am having with my wife is that any time we are having our small misunderstanding, she always gets physical.. Initially, its just a small slap to my face and some nail scratching on my body here and there. And when this started in Europe, i will always try to walk away or hold her hands to calm her down, but seems the more i take the beatings, the more courage and bold she becomes in always hitting me during an argument or small misunderstanding with her.

Recently, we both came back to Nigeria for a business we brought down from Europe, and since we started living in Nigeria, i couldn't hold myself any longer as i have tried so in so many occasions to avoid hitting her back, but at a point i couldn't take it any more and i had to hit her back! though not so hard, but like oyibos, her skin where i hit her turned purple color and the next day everybody at our office was looking at me like the devil himself and a woman beater... I felt very very bad that i swore never to touch her again!

But last night she came all out for me again, hitting me, throwing lamps and whatever at me, and i lost it again and had to hit her! This time a bit hard! Please what am i supposed to do because i don't feel good after this fights especially when i have to hit her back.

And some of you might ask, why are we always fighting Well, i happens to be the bread winner in my family, but my wife doesn't understand why i should give money to my brother to help him in his business or pay for a new home for my mum. She said my family is too lazy and they should go and fend for themselves. My family is all i had and i feel obliged to help them even as i have a joint business venture with my wife and we run same account, thus finds out anytime i give them money. My brother was the one who helped and paid for my studies in Europe when his business was moving fine...now i feel i have to support him too because he has some problems with his business, but my oyibo wife will not hear of it and thus leads to our fighting and she getting physical with me..

Please guys, advise me what to do if you are in my shoes...only matured advises needed. Thanks

You should seriously consider becoming an ex-husband unless your wife don winsh you

I think the best thing is for you and your wife to maintain your joint biz acct and separate personal accts. You can decide on a salary or allowance each month for each person.

That way you can use your own share for what you want without any complaint. You wife's behavior is typical of white people. If you understand that, I believe you can find a way to cope with her behavior without resorting to fights all the time.

Try to make her understand your side of the story, but please don't hit your wife for any reason. Walk away when the atmosphere is heated, it doesn't mean you are weak.

TrishaP:

I thought men are the stronger vessels? Why does this little abuse from a lady sounds difficult to you.

Okay, you agree that men are stronger vessels...so why are you all fighting for equality with men, when it is obvious that men are stronger and superior as you said?.

As long as you ladies try to equate yourself with men, then you should get equal punishment when it is the ladies that is at fault..

sholikay:
confirmento. Bar man, please serve this lady 2 bottles of pure water and okin biscuit..

No, why not I do you the pleasure
Mama Amaka, give this guy I Noreos biscuit and 2 kulikuli

Don't worry, I will pay

pastorKosiso:
Don't quote me next time if you don't have something meaningful to tell me...mind your business. Thank you and God bless.

If you don't have anything sensible to say then STFU..

She is from another culture, lean to avoid what she don,t like, ask her questoins wen ever she is at u, questions like 1. Wen will u ever stop dis, what pleasure do deriv in heatin me or sleeping me, Is dis how u are, Is dis how we are goin to continue. yes dat is it she is not a child she will think about it.

Your wife is beating you, and you are here asking what you should do. If she were to be Nigerian, u won't be asking that question, as u would have beaten the hell out of here the first time She tried to give u a light slap on your face. But because she is a snow bunny, she gets a free pass.
Next time she slaps one side, abeg turn the other side for her to balance biko. Be a true follower of Jesus.

Are you a Christian? If yes, look for a Deliverance Church and introduce yourself and your wife to the pastor, and be commited to God, tell the pastor your matrimonial situation. Your wife needs a deliverance. Please, don't kick her to the curb (Don't listen to people telling you to Separate or Divorce her) . You and your household have to worship the Lord for peace to reign, know the is manipulator. You guys should pray together, because Family that prays together stays together. Peace of the Lord be with you and your household and Jesus loves you.

Hahaha. Like you guys are engaged in some sick a.s.s spanking fetish. Anyway.

Important though. She co-owns your business. Even though you are the principal she has every right to co-direct the finances and question your expenditure. As a couple this is even more pertinent. What you can do is either formalise everything and seperate yourselves, your wallets from the enterprises' so you are both on a salary or dividend then you can spend yours as you care (ex-paternal responsibilities). Alternatively you can set up another business to accomodate your 'extra-marital affairs'. But not on company time oh. Hahahaha.

bokom:
2. Mynd44: Quote Post

Err.....

Can you get a temporary separation or outright divorce?

This is the same thing I will tell a woman whose husband hits her


We have a strong business together. We both play a big role in the company and the company is here in Nigeria.... She cant do her part of the job if we are divorced. Also for the record. she loves me so much, just that she wants it to be just me and her alone...no family or friends around

And do u want that? No family and no friends? Really? And don't say its because she is oyinbo. No I think she just wants to be in control of your life.

LyfeJennings:


Guy, if i go advice U.
Ur wife is asking too much. She would never have met you if your brother did sponsor your monkey aszzz 2 Europe, she would never know U if Ur mum had not given birth to U. That's all I can say. Think for yourself

@OP. Make sure you reflect on these words....



Deeply...

osmosis2015:
Are you a Christian? If yes, look for a Deliverance Church and introduce yourself and your wife to the pastor, and be commited to God, tell the pastor your matrimonial situation. Your wife needs a deliverance. Please, don't kick her to the curb (Don't listen to peohple telling you to Separate or Divorce her) . You and your household have to worship the Lord for peace to reign, know the is manipulator. You guys should pray together, because Family that prays together stays together. Peace of the Lord be with you and your household and Jesus loves you.

Lawd!!!! Deliverance from what?

Dragonking:


Okay, you agree that men are stronger vessels...so why are you all fighting for equality with men, when it is obvious that men are stronger and superior as you said?.

As long as you ladies try to equate yourself with men, then you should get equal punishment when it is the ladies that is at fault..

I used that "stronger vessels" because that's what you guys use to term yourselves.

If guys are exactly that "stronger vessels" they called themselves then i don't see how this matter should be difficult to solve.

babico:
Which cops naija cop?

Yes o or better still Rapid Response Squad

bokom:
Hello Guys

My name is UD (not real name), a Nigerian and i am married to European who is 10 years older than me. We met in Europe but got married in Lagos.

Well, after our marriage, we always have family issues and fights like every other couple, but the problem i am having with my wife is that any time we are having our small misunderstanding, she always gets physical.. Initially, its just a small slap to my face and some nail scratching on my body here and there. And when this started in Europe, i will always try to walk away or hold her hands to calm her down, but seems the more i take the beatings, the more courage and bold she becomes in always hitting me during an argument or small misunderstanding with her.

Recently, we both came back to Nigeria for a business we brought down from Europe, and since we started living in Nigeria, i couldn't hold myself any longer as i have tried so in so many occasions to avoid hitting her back, but at a point i couldn't take it any more and i had to hit her back! though not so hard, but like oyibos, her skin where i hit her turned purple color and the next day everybody at our office was looking at me like the devil himself and a woman beater... I felt very very bad that i swore never to touch her again!

But last night she came all out for me again, hitting me, throwing lamps and whatever at me, and i lost it again and had to hit her! This time a bit hard! Please what am i supposed to do because i don't feel good after this fights especially when i have to hit her back.

And some of you might ask, why are we always fighting Well, i happens to be the bread winner in my family, but my wife doesn't understand why i should give money to my brother to help him in his business or pay for a new home for my mum. She said my family is too lazy and they should go and fend for themselves. My family is all i had and i feel obliged to help them even as i have a joint business venture with my wife and we run same account, thus finds out anytime i give them money. My brother was the one who helped and paid for my studies in Europe when his business was moving fine...now i feel i have to support him too because he has some problems with his business, but my oyibo wife will not hear of it and thus leads to our fighting and she getting physical with me..

Please guys, advise me what to do if you are in my shoes...only matured advises needed. Thanks

two people can't walk together unless they agree to do so. u need to discuss with ur wife and make her see reasons why u need to help ur family. and the help should not be for ur family alone, u should also help her family too. send money to her parents and brothers too. what is good for the goose is also good for the gander.

u don't have to spend the money without her knowledge.

if she objects to helping both sides of ur families, maybe u can find a way to get a loan for ur brother to establish a business for him outside the business fund.

i wish u the best

searching4love:


I SUGGEST YOU DRUG HER DRINK THEN TIE HER TO YOUR CAR IF YOU HAVE ONE THEN DRAG HER AROUND AN UNTARED ROAD TILL SHE'S GIVES UP. IF SHE COMES TO A SECOND LIFE, SHE WILL LEARN TO RESPECT MEN

YOUR COMMENT SHOWS THE REASON WHY YOU'VE NOT SEEN THE LOVE YOU ARE SEARCHING FOR!

lonngmann:


You didn't add...and those that will quote you

oh yea.....no vex, I go add am next time. I know say na your category be dat one.

crixlight2:
I laugh in minion way... get 4 pairs of punching glove.. two for you ant two your igor wife.. just settle d score kia kia

life and direct,my man your head dey dia

bokom:
Hello Guys

My name is UD (not real name), a Nigerian and i am married to European who is 10 years older than me. We met in Europe but got married in Lagos.

Well, after our marriage, we always have family issues and fights like every other couple, but the problem i am having with my wife is that any time we are having our small misunderstanding, she always gets physical.. Initially, its just a small slap to my face and some nail scratching on my body here and there. And when this started in Europe, i will always try to walk away or hold her hands to calm her down, but seems the more i take the beatings, the more courage and bold she becomes in always hitting me during an argument or small misunderstanding with her.

Recently, we both came back to Nigeria for a business we brought down from Europe, and since we started living in Nigeria, i couldn't hold myself any longer as i have tried so in so many occasions to avoid hitting her back, but at a point i couldn't take it any more and i had to hit her back! though not so hard, but like oyibos, her skin where i hit her turned purple color and the next day everybody at our office was looking at me like the devil himself and a woman beater... I felt very very bad that i swore never to touch her again!

But last night she came all out for me again, hitting me, throwing lamps and whatever at me, and i lost it again and had to hit her! This time a bit hard! Please what am i supposed to do because i don't feel good after this fights especially when i have to hit her back.

And some of you might ask, why are we always fighting Well, i happens to be the bread winner in my family, but my wife doesn't understand why i should give money to my brother to help him in his business or pay for a new home for my mum. She said my family is too lazy and they should go and fend for themselves. My family is all i had and i feel obliged to help them even as i have a joint business venture with my wife and we run same account, thus finds out anytime i give them money. My brother was the one who helped and paid for my studies in Europe when his business was moving fine...now i feel i have to support him too because he has some problems with his business, but my oyibo wife will not hear of it and thus leads to our fighting and she getting physical with me..

Please guys, advise me what to do if you are in my shoes...only matured advises needed. Thanks

U c!! mst Nigerian ladies will nt Hv d mind to hit u.Oyibo Oyibo u see.Wat hppn to our black sweet chicks!!

By d way Dat woman is evil,if after ur brother helped u n she refused to see Dat!!den she Dnt deserve u.

If I was d one,I CULD show ha Why I am a man,no b Nigeria I will beat ha den bring doctor for ha!!beat ha again I paid doctor bills!!!by the tym I finish if she see my brother she will b running to cook food n Evn help my brother without telling Mi.

Guy Let me tell u,Dnt over pet woman is dangerous,Let office Ppl see u anyhow afterall sum of dem r slipin wit deir Huz help.

My advice wen Eva she need beating Dnt hesitate to Gv it to ha,afterall u Hv to train ha,moreover u paid on ha head.

Evn if she will Tke u to police go,Cuz ur cumin bck in secs!!

Please op if u Hv a woman Dat Lik fighting Dat wants to marry am interested!!!!!!!!