2sExy1:
The OP really tried. My tolerance level for ladies has reduced honestly and I doubt I would last as much under such conditions.

mcdokwe:
I read a lot about how men who hit their partners are nothing but beasts, I nearly joined the bandwagon of accusers because I couldn't fathom how uncontrollable one's temper could be as to turn one's partner to a punching bag.

Don't get me wrong, I deeply regret I ever hit her, unfortunately that is one reason that apparently hold water as a reason for leaving even though she never gets to tell the whole story.

She had been a very good girl, and even till date, the only girl I have lost myself in love to. Yes, I have been a broke ass nigga and thankfully she could be a low maintenance lady.

She once told me how some of her stupid friends asked if I have hit her before obviously looking for shortfalls to convince her she shouldn't be dating me and how she proudly told them I hadn't for once.

In fairness to the truth, I learnt a lot from her and having her taught me how to treat my sister who was her age better.
At a point in her life, she had no genuine friend and would always moan to me how bad some friend or the other treated her and how she wasn't interested in their friendship anymore and I had to constantly remind her that people are different and so with their motives, I always encouraged her to try to understand such motives before writing them off.
I literally became her only friend and unfortunately shoved some people who could have been some sort of relief aside so much that we had just each other
Days became weeks and months and she conceived for me and a lot started changing about her. Maybe in her bid to feel acceptable, she got entangled with people she wrote completely off before, this wasn't a so much of a challenge because atleast she could whine less about them to me, her dress sense changed and she turned deaf ears to my appeal for explanation, I had to adapt to some of those challenges but unfortunately those friends became more valuable to her than myself even though we had a child coming and lived together, she shared less of her worries with me but would tell them even the minutest detail of our relationship which were frequently misrepresented maybe in a bid to gain sympathy which she eventually got. They explained my actions and inactions better than I could and she could go for days without talking to me so long as the meal was provides and the babies need met, she opted for a break anytime I told her of her upsetting attitude and the need to work on it, but would never tell me of her own misgivings towards me even when I plead so I could work on myself too, but would rather discuss unthinkable issues with her friends.

Fast forward to that particular day, a lady who I encouraged her to make friends with because of her distress and the feeling we could be of help to sent a text to her sim which happened to be on my phone saying she needs to know when I left the house so she could come over and I was wth! This is some one I brought in, someone whose coming means she is to fend from my toil, and I asked what it could be that I did that should warrant such. I sent her a text telling her never to bother coming anymore as I wasn't leaving the house that day anymore. She called her back and asked her only God knows what and my lady went up in frenzy insulting me not minding that a third party was there.
Minutes later the other girl stopped by to apologise stating that I misunderstood her text but my girlfriend continued the insult asking why she should bother to explain or apologise. After a while every other person left and she became apologetically cosy, well I shrugged her off knowing her being apologetic doesn't stop her from insulting me the next minute if she felt like, and true to my prediction, even while she was still being sorry, her words turned from being apologetic to outright insult, calling me unprintable names and how I am a hopeless orphan (I lost my dad the previous year and my mum is still very much alive and she is so lettered and knows what an orphan means) well I said something too of her family because I was hurt but could never match her with words and I made to leave the house in that fit of anger. But she locked the door and wouldn't let me. She turned apologetic again and then insulting, in that state all I could do was pity her because I couldn't imagine how someone could be so unstable, I was visibly frustrated and made to leave the house which she wouldn't have either and I had to forcefully remove her from the way. She came back hard on my, making for anything. That could be converted into a weapon, thankfully I was stronger and made her efforts futile. I pinned her to the ground with the intention to make her realise I am stronger than our love sessions where I played weak to let her have an upper hand so she could give up already, but the moment I released her a bit, she reached for my phone and smashed it on the floor repeatedly, I regrettably gave her some blows and because I didn't want it to continue, opened the door so a neighbour could come in a stop the fight. I later stormed out with the child and headed for a family who had rendered enough care to us and she later found her way there, I expected her to behave more in their presence but that was to wishful of me and unfortunately the ladies couldn't stop me as I gave her even deadlier blows but mehn, she never really got enough.

She was later forced into one of the rooms in the apartment and locked up with the baby.
After a while I walked to that point seeing how pitiful she looked asked her with tears in my eyes why she was acting the way she does to which she replied with a tone that could melt the devil's heart that she didn't know and was sorry. We packed up and went back home to the astonishment of all who saw us fight. Needless to say we made love that night after which she confessed she never knew I could hit her even after I was with her at the delivery room and declared no woman should be beaten by her man. She also owned up and apologised for pushing me to that point.

She also told me how a particular friend of hers who came in after the fight had told her not to have sex with me that night and all that.

The relationship lasted for a little longer without fights and she left while I was away for reasons still not clear to me, and looking back I regret that I ever let her pushing me to the point of hitting her but I still believe firmly that she deserved it.

Richy4:
You should know that nature gave women a weapon and that weapon is in their mouth.

Gabbyswit:
My dear brother you were in an abusive relationship, she abused you emotionally and you retaliated physically. I think you both need to take a break from your relationship and work out what is best for you. No woman deserves to be abused, and no man deserves it either.. You both were to work out your differences but you didnt, if you both eventually get back together you need to seek help because a lot has gone wrong in this relationship..

mcdokwe:
then I need an explanation for how I felt towards her that I find difficult with others

EggovinMma:



You can as well punch your mother.I am sure you will enjoy it.

yinkus4u2c:
You didnt love her genuinely

dinachi:

Now I can't believe you wrote this! So nature also gave men a weapon and bla bla bla....
Please let us always try to balance our advice.
Verbal and emotional abuse is as bad and evil as physical abuse! Both of them are guilty of abusing themselves. Both of them lacked self control, though I will blame the woman for aggravating the situation by blocking his exit and smashing his phone....

Gabbyswit:
My dear brother you were in an abusive relationship, she abused you emotionally and you retaliated physically. I think you both need to take a break from your relationship and work out what is best for you. No woman deserves to be abused, and no man deserves it either.. You both were to work out your differences but you didnt, if you both eventually get back together you need to seek help because a lot has gone wrong in this relationship..

femi4:
Why do women always do that....its either they seize your car key or lock the door

eph12:

A pity you don't still get the point of this thread.

yinkus4u2c:
You didnt love her genuinely

VickyRotex:
Teary eyes.... wipes tears.....

Okay the deed is done, so no advice is needed here right @ Op?


Well, people are unpredictable, even when you said no one man should raise his hand on a woman, you were pushed to do so.


But I still stand to say, irrespective of whatever she did, you shouldn't have given her a single hit....

I guess lots of her friends would have advised her to leave, cos you know the popular saying, that when a guy hits you once, he will forever hit you...


Dont hit a woman again no matter what, rather build up the courage to take her to a rehabilitation centre, no matter how crazy she acts.

_{Remember one man said we got 21 million ehmmmmm psycho's in Naija. Anyone could be one.}

Amefrica:
You can always control your anger/temper. Just breathe in with your mouth and out with your nose repeatedly - the anger build-up will surely leave your body. It's really simple!

I'm still saying and standing on it, nothing would ever make me raise my hands against a lady. No matter how provoked I get.

dinachi:

Now I can't believe you wrote this! So nature also gave men a weapon and bla bla bla....
Please let us always try to balance our advice.
Verbal and emotional abuse is as bad and evil as physical abuse! Both of them are guilty of abusing themselves. Both of them lacked self control, though I will blame the woman for aggravating the situation by blocking his exit and smashing his phone....

EggovinMma:
*sleep walks out of thread*



The more reason it's such a bad idea not to marry a live in gf as soon as she takes in.Marriage has a way of naturally help her reshuffle her friends.I am sure all the friends here are singless.

delugadou:
I blame u Bro. You should have forced her to get rid of those evil friends she had.
They were jealous of her joy & succeeded in destroying it now. Its not too late to make amends though.

Ladies don't know what's good for them. U gotta treat them like what they are (babies). U just need to see me whipping my bae. Yet she'll lay her life for me

Richy4:
I can't believe I read all these. Anyways bro. That was a mistake..
Please make sure it doesn't repeat itself. There is always an exit door close by when that anger is creeping in. You should know that nature gave women a weapon and that weapon is in their mouth.

She is an adult and has the mind of her own. You don't choose friends for your woman. Though I read between the line that she is a pushover kind of person. She trust easily. Just be nice. And may God give you guys peace. Because u deserve that

Ademusiwa1:
The bible says pray for your enemy. The people did not say, pray good prayer for your enemy.

It shall never be well with my enemy. My enemy shall never know no peace. May caterpillars kill my enemy.
May those who plot against me be kill by thunder. May poverty hit my enemy. May no good thing come to. My enemy. May the demon of hell be release against my enemy.

jcmaiah:
My type, I will leave her there for at least a week or two. Send her money and rest my head somewhere make those her friends come be her man. I no fit beat, cos once u do that after everything the word would be, "but u shouldn't have beaten her, she is a woman!".

dinachi:

Your Chicken pox poker marked face apart, the evil, rotten maggot infested puccy you carry about should be your main cause of concern, not spreading your stinking yellow teeth to make idiotically unreasonable comments in a public forum!
You stink! Carry the rotten graveyard between your legs away from here! It is because of fools like you that some women are losing respect everyday. You think your outdated way of thinking still suffices? Go back to kindergarten and learn the basics of human relationships. Stop being a curse to your generation!

Aystarz:

Live-in gf ..hmmmm.... Op, pls are you two married?

yinkus4u2c:



idc...hitting her and sayin she deserves it is just annoying.

i av no regard for men in dat class

yinkus4u2c:


ur inability to make clear n reasonable points without using abusive words shows how senseless u are...i dont blame u fool