In our nigerian society ,physical abuse is recognized but often times emotional abuse isn't

While some batterers are usually also emotionally abusive,emotional abuse can exist without the spouse ever laying a finger on the other.

This is a comprehensive list of emotional abuse culled from an online site

Couples should recognize that this is not acceptable behavior and should not become a pattern in the home

These signs are




Humiliating or embarrassing you.

Constant put-downs.

Hypercriticism.

Refusing to communicate.

Ignoring or excluding you.

Extramarital affairs.

Provocative behavior with opposite sex.

Use of sarcasm and unpleasant tone of voice.

Unreasonable jealousy.

Extreme moodiness.

Mean jokes or constantly making fun of you.

Saying “I love you but…”

Saying things like “If you don’t _____, I will_____.”

Domination and control.

Withdrawal of affection.

Guilt trips.

Making everything your fault.

Isolating you from friends and family.

Using money to control.

Constant calling or texting when you are not with him/her.

Threatening to commit suicide if you leave.


http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2014/10/13/21-warning-signs-of-an-emotionally-abusive-relationship/

^^
Yes, simple. Stay away from marriage. Its not the ultimate.

MizMyColi:
Could you please proffer a way forward?

Chrystover:
^^
Yes, simple. Stay away from marriage. Its not the ultimate.

Not really, stopping marriage will stop abuse. Most abuse - a greater amount of - takes place in non-marital domestic relationships. Marriage remains the saferst form of relationship for women and children - and by extrapolation men.


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Chrystover:
^^
Yes, simple. Stay away from marriage. Its not the ultimate.

The truth is that a lot of these things would have been manifesting gradually BEFORE the marriage
It is rare that someone just wakes up one morning after marriage and starts to do all this

Most of these things listed above are what we exhibits even before marriage self

noted

babyosisi:
In our nigerian society ,physical abuse is recognized but often times emotional abuse isn't
While some batterers are usually also emotionally abusive,emotional abuse can exist without the spouse ever laying a finger on the other.
This is a comprehensive list of emotional abuse culled from an online site
Couples should recognize that this is not acceptable behavior and should not become a pattern in the home

These signs are




Humiliating or embarrassing you.

Constant put-downs.

Hypercriticism.

Refusing to communicate.

Ignoring or excluding you.

Extramarital affairs.

Provocative behavior with opposite sex.

Use of sarcasm and unpleasant tone of voice.

Unreasonable jealousy.

Extreme moodiness.

Mean jokes or constantly making fun of you.

Saying “I love you but…”

Saying things like “If you don’t _____, I will_____.”

Domination and control.

Withdrawal of affection.

Guilt trips.

Making everything your fault.

Isolating you from friends and family.

Using money to control.

Constant calling or texting when you are not with him/her.

Threatening to commit suicide if you leave.


http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2014/10/13/21-warning-signs-of-an-emotionally-abusive-relationship/

How any woman can take this shaitza is beyond me. Humiliating/embarasssing me?

Or just emotional abuse, period. It's more annoying than upsetting sef

babyosisi:
In our nigerian society ,physical abuse is recognized but often times emotional abuse isn't
While some batterers are usually also emotionally abusive,emotional abuse can exist without the spouse ever laying a finger on the other.
This is a comprehensive list of emotional abuse culled from an online site
Couples should recognize that this is not acceptable behavior and should not become a pattern in the home

These signs are




Humiliating or embarrassing you.

Constant put-downs.

Hypercriticism.

Refusing to communicate.

Ignoring or excluding you.

Extramarital affairs.

Provocative behavior with opposite sex.

Use of sarcasm and unpleasant tone of voice.

Unreasonable jealousy.

Extreme moodiness.

Mean jokes or constantly making fun of you.

Saying “I love you but…”

Saying things like “If you don’t _____, I will_____.”

Domination and control.

Withdrawal of affection.

Guilt trips.

Making everything your fault.

Isolating you from friends and family.

Using money to control.

Constant calling or texting when you are not with him/her.

Threatening to commit suicide if you leave.


http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2014/10/13/21-warning-signs-of-an-emotionally-abusive-relationship/

anyone who has any of these traits should either not get married or be ready to change and be determined to treat his/her partner the way he/she will like to be treated.

For those saying not getting married is the solution, in all sincerity, can you take any of these from anyone?

The solution is simple.................if you can't take it, do not give it. If you're abusive yourself, you don't have the right to complain about abusive partner.
Do unto your spouse what you want him to do unto you.

And if you're not abusive, but so unlucky to get married to one(which is rare anyway), then, you have the right to find your way out to regain your sanity and your self esteem.may God help us all.

Spot on!

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shadelek:

and 22 forcing you to lick his natural stick ( na sweet Abi na orange)

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I mean gej till 2019

greatgod2012:

anyone who has any of these traits should either not get married or be ready to change and be determined to treat his/her partner the way he/she will like to be treated.
For those saying not getting married is the solution, in all sincerity, can you take any of these from anyone?
The solution is simple.................if you can't take it, do not give it. If you're abusive yourself, you don't have the right to complain about abusive partner.
Do unto your spouse what you want him to do unto you.
And if you're not abusive, but so unlucky to get married to one(which is rare anyway), then, you have the right to find your way out to regain your sanity and your self esteem.may God help us all.

Thanks for that. There's always that warning sign before getting wedded. Mutual respect for each other helps alot.

Pweetyradiance:
and 22 forcing you to suck his natural stick.

Thank God I read this with my eyes closed

Making the big leagues again ?


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Ishilove:

How any woman can take this shaitza is beyond me. Humiliating/embarasssing me?

You assume it is only women that experience that?

SmooshCHN:
Thank God I read this with my eyes closed

haha u will make a wonderful blind man then.

Lool Op, then we are all abusers. Though I agree with some points, I think some are just sometimes reactions to an unpleasant situation. Take myself for e.g, when he hurts me, my initial reaction is a loaded silence. And it will persist till he realizes his mistake. That's not emotional abuse naa
My humble submission

agabaI23:
You assume it is only women that experience that?

Sadly majority of abusers are men
Statistics ( like hips ) don't lie

GEJTHEONE:
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This is an emotional abuse to we GMB supporters. OP I'm going to court.

Sad

Pweetyradiance:
haha u will make a wonderful blind man then.

Sadly I was but your post opened my eyes. Thanks to you.

D last one is funny...............threat to commit suicide means -1 problem for Nigeria