Sorry op

Dear brother! U do not have any problem or any cause to worry.
Are u are church goer or a christian. If u are church goer then get born again first. If u already are a christian and have received the holyghost, the pay your titht even if it is 1naira or $10million.
You renew your mind by not having faith in doctors theory and the devils lies. Then believe God and declare with all your heart that you have a child.
I want to pray for you.
Today in the name of Jesus, may the glorious light of the gospel shine upon your innerman. I declare by the power of the holyghost that you already have a baby in your wives womb and because I have spoken, no devouerer can take your baby in Jesus name Amen. Let me know as soon as the child comes. Glooooory

Let her travel to the US the moment she concieves again.

My sis lost 2 pregnancies until she travelled to the US where she finally had a boy

The were able to diagnose her problem and the simply gave her some drugs


Just be prepared to foot you hoapital bills in the US

@worriedhusband

From experience, this below is what works.
First of all, constant evacuation is a threat to the viability of future pregnancies
so if possible, avoid pregnancy for the next 6mths to 1yr. Next, once she gets
pregnant, avoid intercourse for completely in the 1st trimester at least. In our
case, even up to the 3rd trimester was a small price to pay compared to the joy
of delivering a cute healthy baby at the end.
Finally, going into panic mode by jumping from hospital to hospital and medicine to medicine
will make the matter worse.

Calm down and give it time. Use the 'abstinence' period to pray
It is well with you.

biggjoe:
My sister in law and the husband had the same problem. Theirs lasted for about 4 years before they successful birthed one lovely chap they named Kamsi on October 23, 2013.
They didnt have to do anything spectacular to get it right. Though they have gone to so many prayer houses and doctors and taken many drugs but what appeared to have worked was that they simply stopped sex immediately allowed the lady to have an extensive bed rest in the first 12 weeks from when she took in. When I said bed rest, I mean BED REST! The type that the woman just lies on the bed and hardly do anything. No, walking about, carrying things, cooking, sweeping, walking about and infact practically doing anything. Even that is not an easy task but they had to do it.
Miscarriages are painful. My own wife miscarried about 7 weeks ago and the evacuation part appeared to be the most painful part.

Xiadnat:


I am so sorry to hear of your misfortune. You are not alone I am sure. I am not a gynecologist, but I did have brief training in it.

There are a number of factors that could be contributing to recurrent pregnancy loss. You need to go to a fertility specialist or just a plain gynecologist and get a thorough workup. Factors range from hormonal imbalance, anatomic/structural, autoimmune. About 40% of all recurrent fetal loss are idiopathic or unknown. So, there might never be a medical solution for you. In this case, pray and wait. OR just try adopting or try surrogacy.

Have you heard of lupus anticoagulant? Antiphospholipid syndrome? Anticardiolipn? Just go and see reproductive specialist (or perhaps a GP): your doctor needs to get a thorough history from you wife and perform workup/exam/lab evaluation for her.

Best wishes. I say keep trying and believing though, albeit the cycle of pain is something else.

Thanks a lot

Could be Rh factor, The Rh factor can cause problems if your wife is Rh negative and her fetus is Rh positive. This is called Rh incompatibility. These problems usually do not occur in a first pregnancy, but they can occur in a later pregnancy.

moca:
@worried husband,buy enough megabytes.
U and ur wife should go tru from page one to the last of trying to conceive thread here.
There r cases like urs there and how they were treated and by whom.

Also,i suggest u give it a break for like 2yrs.
Let her body heal properly.

There is nothing spiritual about this abeg.
With competent hands u r good to go but first,stop trying.

Most people advocate allowing miscarriage to flow normal than evacuation cos some of our health professionals have rendered some women barren thru unhealthy evacuation.
There r things one take to induce labour and after that,go to hospital for proper antibiotics and scan. That way,u r sure d womb is not tampered with.
All d best.

Thanks, I will search for the thread or if you have the link kindly provide it.

Pls mix medicine with faith. Try and Visit MFM HQ yaba or MFM Prayer city. This doesn't mean you shouldn't still see a good Doctor. Do the two together. It is well.

It's a pity dear. Regarding the way you placed your request, it's obvious you're a christian. As a matter of fact what you need to do now is to fully commit it to God since medical solutions are proving abortive. You and your wife should go to God in prayers with faith and endurance. Be open to God(I mean confess to God all your sins) If the two of you staying together will hinder your openness to God, seperate yourselves but why not do it together since two of you are the same flesh. Seek spiritual counselling if you can but most importantly, pray pray and pray with faith. Your faith is the root. I will also be praying for you. God bless your marriage. Amen.

Evvilgenius:


Be strong OP, help is on the way..the situation is very redeemable.
Forget this Rhesus factor crap as its only if your wife is Rh +ve and has given birth to Rh -ve baby or carried such baby to term before.

There are various causes of unviable pregnancies. In a layman's language, an unviable pregnancy is a pregnancy that cannot form a normal baby and will ususally abort spontaneously (itself) and so is better terminated earlier so it doesnt cause grave complications.

Your wife needs a specialist (A doctor that has specialized in obstetrics nd gynaecology) for full medical workup and she needs to be as truthful nd detailed as possible in the responses she'll be giving.

Common causes of abnormal or unviable pregnancies in this environment are herbal concotions, drugs, diseases like diabetes mellitus (v. important), molar pregnancies etc so she really needs a complete workup.

Thanks

I would advise you and your wife to prayerfully make a decision to carry the pregnancy full term.

Here's a true-life story

A couple was told to terminate the pregnancy of the wife due to some bla bla bla... the woman said she had done this at-least 3 times before.
This time, she stood her ground and refused. The product is a very healthy 7 yr old boy.

What if she had terminated the pregnancy Can you imagine how she feels knowing the doctors might have been wrong previously??
I know this family, I know this little boy.

You seem like a Christian, "Who's report do you believe?"

Please send me a mail......I share in your pain

slightlyMad:
Let her travel to the US the moment she concieves again.

My sis lost 2 pregnancies until she travelled to the US where she finally had a boy

The were able to diagnose her problem and the simply gave her some drugs


Just be prepared to foot you hoapital bills in the US

Thanks but we are not bouyant enough for such trips we should be able to afford any procedure here in Nigeria if its not above board.

have u gotten the solution u seek for , if not allow her to rest and for her wound to heal properly then let her go for three days dry fasting before another pregnancy. With God all things are possible

Just hope on God.if u were frm my tribe my grandmum will give her sm leaves(herbs)to pump,then its over.we re in d era of medicals.so trust on God.

I would recommend seeking care at a Teaching Hospital, not just any hospital. Teachjing hospitals tend to be more thorough

My dear, i so much feel your pains.

Please while you look for a qualified gynecologist,

i will advise that you and your wife organised a repentance/deliverance prayer (if possible with a vigil) can confess to each other in the process
para venture there is any hidden agenda or any of u had done something funny in the past (can be your relatives also)
Make it a foundational prayer and try to be truthful and open to each other. Take note of your dreams/events during the prayer period.
You can equally decide not to see yourselves during that period.

Whereby both of you cannot do the above together, you can go for repentance/deliverance prayer at any good church of your choice, but remember to be truthful in all.

Also do not toy with the advise of your gynecologist.

Good luck in advance!

@worriedhusband instant noodles is bad that's if she is a fan. best of lucks.... Source: http://pointblanknews.com/pbn/news/10-ways-instant-noodles-can-kill-you/

Our God is awesome, pls follow the advice and go for mfm weekly deliverance

worriedhusband:


Thanks

You're welcome sir.

She should go and see a gyneacologist, preferably in a teaching hospital.. Specialists are quite expensive to see in a private setting. She may hv to go through some lab investigations to identify d cause. Better she goes before she conceives again incase some preconception medications would be needed. all d best.

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author=Lobeez post=31481857]

My dear you don't just advise someone to take rhogam just like that,
even if she is RH-, she would need to do a direct and indirect combs
test to determine if she has been sensitized especially due to the fact
that she has had several miscarriages. If she is sensitized, then I'm
sorry there may be nothing a rhogam injection can do. she would have to
keep trying till she gets a baby of the same blood group as the father,
that way, the RH factor wont be a problem.

My advise, please visit a qualified fertility expert and do some reading
of your own. and oh lest I forget, Pray also

I'm not a doctor pls[/quote] hmm wt all ds grammar i find it hard believn u're nt doc!

chiomaabigail:

Once she takes in again, take her to the hospital so that the doctor can do her zip-up (that is sowing her womb) Once she is close to her due date, she can go back to the hospital so that it can be losed. I have seen a woman with the same issue with ur wife and she did exactly what i told you, now she has two kids. I stay in Port Harcourt and they do it Save a Life Hospital. Above all, put ur trust in God.

That is for women who have loose/weak cervix. i.e they always go into premature labour because the cervix starts to dilate too early. It doesn't work for failure to thrive pregnancies.

@OP, my firth thoughts were Rhesus Factor but that is after she has had a child. Maybe there is some kind of hormonal imbalance. Go to a reputable gynecologist. Someone recommended Parklande but i feel the man is getting too old. There are so many other ones in Lagos. I don't know about other states in Nigeria.

Please is there any hospital at Ibadan where someone can have the Rheus factor test done or we just have to go to Lagos?

EggovinMma:
Op, you are about to be a father.

Amen!

Pls try UCH , Ibadan prayerfull.
Peace !

Kelklein:
not a doctor... but I wlll advice you table this completely before God...the author and finisher of our faith...with HIM everything is possible.

Shut up! God is a perfect doctor

worriedhusband:
Dear Nairalanders,

My heart is very heavy as I write this. I'm a member of this forum but I purposely created this username for this issue as I want to remain anonymous. Im not the type that discuss my problems in the public but what is happening is beyond me and I need your help.

My wife and I got married May 2012 and I was the happiest man on earth on that day. Many prayers were offered concerning our fruitfulness and not in our slightest imagination did we think that we will have problem with having children. As God will have it my wife missed her period the following month and did pregnancy test to confirm and it was positive. Our joy knew no bound. I immediately gave her “holiday” from any form of domestic activities. She immediately registered for ante-natal. She has been attending the ante-natal for about 8 weeks when the doctor decided it was time to do the ultrasound. The ultrasound was done and it was discovered that the fetus was measuring a lesser length than it should measure, 5 weeks or thereabout. Also the heart beat was not seen. The doctor said the pregnancy was not viable.

It was a very sad day for both of us but I managed to console her, we even went to another hospital to confirm but the same result was given. She later went to the hospital for evacuation of the pregnancy.

To cut the story short, we have had four other pregnancies that the fetus did not develop. The fetus will always develop to maximum of 7 weeks and stop developing. She has taken Progesterone injection so many times without any significant result. I’ve researched a little bit and the result I found was recurrent miscarriage. This has been a great concern for us and I'm always afraid whenever wifey is pregnant that the same thing will happen (what should be a thing of joy for us has now become a nightmare).

The pain she goes through at each evacuation is something that brings tears to my eyes and I sometimes wish she is not even pregnant so we will not go through the same cycle.

My fellow Nairalanders, please help us out, any medical advice or other things we can do to overcome this challenge will be appreciated. Please if you have gone through this before or have any information that can help kindly offer it, don’t just read and go on. We belief in our God and we focus on Him as the doer of all things but we need medical or any other advice (nothing fetish) that can help.

We live in the Southwest (Not Lagos).

My wife is now 30 while i'm 34 Years old.

i feel sori 4 you.my only advice is to see a better doctor then tell you wife to stop eating noddles it causes miscariage as well & pray to god also.

worriedhusband:
Dear Nairalanders,

My heart is very heavy as I write this. I'm a member of this forum but I purposely created this username for this issue as I want to remain anonymous. Im not the type that discuss my problems in the public but what is happening is beyond me and I need your help.

My wife and I got married May 2012 and I was the happiest man on earth on that day. Many prayers were offered concerning our fruitfulness and not in our slightest imagination did we think that we will have problem with having children. As God will have it my wife missed her period the following month and did pregnancy test to confirm and it was positive. Our joy knew no bound. I immediately gave her “holiday” from any form of domestic activities. She immediately registered for ante-natal. She has been attending the ante-natal for about 8 weeks when the doctor decided it was time to do the ultrasound. The ultrasound was done and it was discovered that the fetus was measuring a lesser length than it should measure, 5 weeks or thereabout. Also the heart beat was not seen. The doctor said the pregnancy was not viable.

It was a very sad day for both of us but I managed to console her, we even went to another hospital to confirm but the same result was given. She later went to the hospital for evacuation of the pregnancy.

To cut the story short, we have had four other pregnancies that the fetus did not develop. The fetus will always develop to maximum of 7 weeks and stop developing. She has taken Progesterone injection so many times without any significant result. I’ve researched a little bit and the result I found was recurrent miscarriage. This has been a great concern for us and I'm always afraid whenever wifey is pregnant that the same thing will happen (what should be a thing of joy for us has now become a nightmare).

The pain she goes through at each evacuation is something that brings tears to my eyes and I sometimes wish she is not even pregnant so we will not go through the same cycle.

My fellow Nairalanders, please help us out, any medical advice or other things we can do to overcome this challenge will be appreciated. Please if you have gone through this before or have any information that can help kindly offer it, don’t just read and go on. We belief in our God and we focus on Him as the doer of all things but we need medical or any other advice (nothing fetish) that can help.

We live in the Southwest (Not Lagos).

My wife is now 30 while i'm 34 Years old.

I don't know y,but something in me doesn't just belif in impotence,rather I call it delayed child bearing.most times nothing may be wrong with the said couple.
My aunty experienced such for complete 13years (just imagine the number of miscariages that must have taking place in 13years )an doctors kept saying nothing was wrong with both,today ,just two years ago she had the most wonderful twins.
My take,just trust God and keep praying
Secondly,I had of a particular natural therapy on a radio program called "wives round table" on inspirationFM,its aired on Thursdays by 8pm..had a lady gave testimony on how she conceived just this past week,the office is at ojuelegba,u can just search the program on twitter or Facebook-wivesroundtable.goodluck!

worriedhusband:
Dear Nairalanders,

My heart is very heavy as I write this. I'm a member of this forum but I purposely created this username for this issue as I want to remain anonymous. Im not the type that discuss my problems in the public but what is happening is beyond me and I need your help.

My wife and I got married May 2012 and I was the happiest man on earth on that day. Many prayers were offered concerning our fruitfulness and not in our slightest imagination did we think that we will have problem with having children. As God will have it my wife missed her period the following month and did pregnancy test to confirm and it was positive. Our joy knew no bound. I immediately gave her “holiday” from any form of domestic activities. She immediately registered for ante-natal. She has been attending the ante-natal for about 8 weeks when the doctor decided it was time to do the ultrasound. The ultrasound was done and it was discovered that the fetus was measuring a lesser length than it should measure, 5 weeks or thereabout. Also the heart beat was not seen. The doctor said the pregnancy was not viable.

It was a very sad day for both of us but I managed to console her, we even went to another hospital to confirm but the same result was given. She later went to the hospital for evacuation of the pregnancy.

To cut the story short, we have had four other pregnancies that the fetus did not develop. The fetus will always develop to maximum of 7 weeks and stop developing. She has taken Progesterone injection so many times without any significant result. I’ve researched a little bit and the result I found was recurrent miscarriage. This has been a great concern for us and I'm always afraid whenever wifey is pregnant that the same thing will happen (what should be a thing of joy for us has now become a nightmare).

The pain she goes through at each evacuation is something that brings tears to my eyes and I sometimes wish she is not even pregnant so we will not go through the same cycle.

My fellow Nairalanders, please help us out, any medical advice or other things we can do to overcome this challenge will be appreciated. Please if you have gone through this before or have any information that can help kindly offer it, don’t just read and go on. We belief in our God and we focus on Him as the doer of all things but we need medical or any other advice (nothing fetish) that can help.

We live in the Southwest (Not Lagos).

My wife is now 30 while i'm 34 Years old.

My dear my heart goes out to you. Seeking the gift of a child is one of d hardest things a couple can go thru. I know cos I was there for many years. But turn to God in prayer, with Him nothing is impossible. For my last baby, I was told at 5 weeks, that I would loose the pregnancy. All I did was just hold on to God. I had a team of 3 gynaes on my case and they all told me that the development of my child was a miracle. During ante-natal none of them could hear the baby's heartbeat, but I always felt her movement. At exactly 36 weeks I had a CS and my baby was born, hail & hearty.

Please also let or wife's body heal properly. For me I think 5 pregnancies in 2.5 years is not going to be easy on her. Just continue to pray, trust God and see a good gynaecologist. Is your wife on any injections once she is pregnant? I remember my doc started mine at 5 weeks till I was 3 months and it was every week. God grant or hearts' desire.

worriedhusband:



Amen. If God can do it I will surely comeback here with full pictures I promise.

Is so sweet to trust in Jesus ,Just to take him at his words, Just to rest upon his promise,Just to know thus saith the lord.There shall be no barren!!! he will do it.Trust him

It's so sad that you have to go through this but I suggest that if you have the financial means, seek help in hospitals abroad. Try the likes of Cairo, Dubai or India.
I pray that all will come to pass. All the best.

thats the symptoms of "RHESUS FACTOR" which is caused by blood group not matching dat of ur wife....pls ask ur doctor he'll explain better. by the way take heart ok