make sure it has nothing to do with sickle cell or genetics.

U people shud be more closer to GOD, it happened to someone I knw,she got married 2011 and she has been having miscarriage more than 10times but she has delivered now.GOD will do urs too this year

biiibi:
Am goin tru d same right nw.av had it 4 times in less than 2 yrs...d last gynea I met told me it's more spiritual than physical as he is a pastor and has spent 27yrs in service [medical line]..@ poster,prayer is d key when all hopes are lost on recurrent blighted Ovum pregnancies...afer a while, i met wt another doctor and was told if we eventually go separate ways we wld both give birth dat it may likely b as a result of wht we both are producing ...stil on stilll,its still strange to me cos dis is africa...God's will b done....

27yrs of experince and he had to relate it to 'spiritual problem'?!

The other one actually advised you to part ways with your hubby?

I'm highly disappointed in both!

@worriedhusband. please i want you to understand that a lot of couples are going tru this, but plz worry not because many are those dt dont have d next opportunity to conceive again.

plz my advice is this

1. Do not allow this to wear u n ur wife cos this also can terminate pregnancy ( not easy though)

2. Please Allow ur wife to rest for some time, yes please and during d resting period seek medical n spiritual help. plz note be careful dt d best spiritual help u can get is from yourselves. Avoid sins n seek d mercy of God as a couple breaking all evil convenants against you. Desperation abt spiritual cud compound issues plz b very careful.

3. Plz b happy n make ur wife happy too. plz introduce to pregnancy thread on health forum here on nairaland, we are a family giving helping shoulders to one another

I wish u luck as ur take the steps dt finally make u a Father n ur wife a Mother

cacali:
My dear my heart goes out to you. Seeking the gift of a child is one of d hardest things a couple can go thru. I know cos I was there for many years. But turn to God in prayer, with Him nothing is impossible. For my last baby, I was told at 5 weeks, that I would loose the pregnancy. All I did was just hold on to God. I had a team of 3 gynaes on my case and they all told me that the development of my child was a miracle. During ante-natal none of them could hear the baby's heartbeat, but I always felt her movement. At exactly 36 weeks I had a CS and my baby was born, hail & hearty.

Please also let or wife's body heal properly. For me I think 5 pregnancies in 2.5 years is not going to be easy on her. Just continue to pray, trust God and see a good gynaecologist. Is your wife on any injections once she is pregnant? I remember my doc started mine at 5 weeks till I was 3 months and it was every week. God grant or hearts' desire.

Thanks. I know He is on our case too.

I have a possible solution but it must be after the op answer some specific questions which might be too private to discus in public

worriedhusband:
Dear Nairalanders,

My heart is very heavy as I write this. I'm a member of this forum but I purposely created this username for this issue as I want to remain anonymous. Im not the type that discuss my problems in the public but what is happening is beyond me and I need your help.

My wife and I got married May 2012 and I was the happiest man on earth on that day. Many prayers were offered concerning our fruitfulness and not in our slightest imagination did we think that we will have problem with having children. As God will have it my wife missed her period the following month and did pregnancy test to confirm and it was positive. Our joy knew no bound. I immediately gave her “holiday” from any form of domestic activities. She immediately registered for ante-natal. She has been attending the ante-natal for about 8 weeks when the doctor decided it was time to do the ultrasound. The ultrasound was done and it was discovered that the fetus was measuring a lesser length than it should measure, 5 weeks or thereabout. Also the heart beat was not seen. The doctor said the pregnancy was not viable.

It was a very sad day for both of us but I managed to console her, we even went to another hospital to confirm but the same result was given. She later went to the hospital for evacuation of the pregnancy.

To cut the story short, we have had four other pregnancies that the fetus did not develop. The fetus will always develop to maximum of 7 weeks and stop developing. She has taken Progesterone injection so many times without any significant result. I’ve researched a little bit and the result I found was recurrent miscarriage. This has been a great concern for us and I'm always afraid whenever wifey is pregnant that the same thing will happen (what should be a thing of joy for us has now become a nightmare).

The pain she goes through at each evacuation is something that brings tears to my eyes and I sometimes wish she is not even pregnant so we will not go through the same cycle.

My fellow Nairalanders, please help us out, any medical advice or other things we can do to overcome this challenge will be appreciated. Please if you have gone through this before or have any information that can help kindly offer it, don’t just read and go on. We belief in our God and we focus on Him as the doer of all things but we need medical or any other advice (nothing fetish) that can help.

We live in the Southwest (Not Lagos).

My wife is now 30 while i'm 34 Years old.

I'm sori about d pains u r both going through, I smell fertility here n will advice U get a very good gynaecologist to handle dis and pls, don't mistake medical for spiritual

biggjoe:
My sister in law and the husband had the same problem. Theirs lasted for about 4 years before they successful birthed one lovely chap they named Kamsi on October 23, 2013.
They didnt have to do anything spectacular to get it right. Though they have gone to so many prayer houses and doctors and taken many drugs but what appeared to have worked was that they simply stopped sex immediately allowed the lady to have an extensive bed rest in the first 12 weeks from when she took in. When I said bed rest, I mean BED REST! The type that the woman just lies on the bed and hardly do anything. No, walking about, carrying things, cooking, sweeping, walking about and infact practically doing anything. Even that is not an easy task but they had to do it.
Miscarriages are painful. My own wife miscarried about 7 weeks ago and the evacuation part appeared to be the most painful part.

May G*d console you and your wife with beautiful kids.

TALK TO GOD,HE ALONE HAS THE SOLUTION.U SHOULD GO DOWN ON UR KNEES IN PRAYER.

Dear Op,

Only rhesus factors comes to mind.

God will see you through.

Try saving enough to fly her out for a proper check up.

biiibi:
Am goin tru d same right nw.av had it 4 times in less than 2 yrs...d last gynea I met told me it's more spiritual than physical as he is a pastor and has spent 27yrs in service [medical line]..@ poster,prayer is d key when all hopes are lost on recurrent blighted Ovum pregnancies...afer a while,i met wt another doctor and was told if we eventually go separate ways we wld both give birth dat it may likely b as a result of wht we both are producing...stil on stilll,its still strange to me cos dis is africa...God's will b done....

madam may God Almighty bless you with children,it saddens my heart to see things like this, oooooooh God of Abraham I crying onto you with every tear drops rolling down from my eyes as I'm typing this for the ladies facing this conceive and give birth if truly you are the God who promised my mother of a child after r giving birth to me 22yrs ago...lord my God I don't care any form of medical issues touch this ladies body as you health the woman with issue of blood.my lord my God who my help come from give the barren the best of child that is worth every single delay they suffered and give them a great health to watch watch the children grow

idu1:
kingtom

king tomtom

KanwuliaJara:
Trying too hard!
Give it a break!
The woman's body and mind need to heal!

So on point! Op please let your wife rest for now while you seek for solution! Seriously that woman has gone thru a lot!

.

Go and see a gynaecologist

In as much as u were told to seek good doctor, I will advice u to see a good man of God for counseling n prayers together with this I guess u will soon have a testimony.

donbuchi1:
I am touched by your experience. What are the doctors saying about the root causes? Because something is definitely wrong somewhere. 1st maybe a mistake, 2nd maybe a coincidence. How do you explain 3rd, 4th and 5th. I am worried you waited this long. The doctors must be saying more useful things, if you ask me. Do you till have your parents and parents-in-laws alive? What are they saying or doing?

Two things are involved:

1. health issues with you or madam (she needs close examination).

2. Hand of the evil ones.

On health issues; I will always recommend: Parklande Specialist Hospital - Hospitals/Clinics/Maternity
Address: 13, Razaq Balogun Street, Off Adebola Street, Off Adeniran Ogunsanya, Surulere, Lagos, Lagos
Phone:0803 333 0721

Ask to speak to Dr. Orebanjo. He is british trained OB/GYN and very good. He's got other friends of like experience. He is a consultant to Reddington Hospital (which might too expensive). Let him or any other doctor of your choice see both of you even before conception. Do you get it?

There is NOTHING GOD CANNOT DO. I decided to write because you said nothing fetish. If you had, I would only have prayed. I don't know which church you worship. Not interested anyway. I am a Catholic but will recommend Mountain of Fire. Make out a week both of you and attend their week long deliverance session. You need to invade the devil's camp violently. I have testimony. You won't spend much, just a bed space majorly depending on your pocket.

You have to trust in God's divine grace and saving power... Peace to you.

he has said it all.
my only addition is let your wife's body rest very well then pray before conceiving again. if you have the time visit RCCG redemption camp. i know the God of Adeboye will do it. he has promised us 70,000 babies and i know yours is there go and get yours now. it is well with you.
Be strong in the lord.

u hv tried human doctors yet nothing changed, why dnt u try d supernatural doctor(GOD) and see if dere would b no changes.I will advice u go meet a real man of God to pray for u koz it cud b a spiritual problem designed to put unhappiness in ur home. I assure u its going to change for gud after an encounter wit God.
God bless u

worriedhusband:
We belief in our God and we focus on Him as the doer of all things but we need medical or any other advice (nothing fetish) that can help.

Keep the faith bro. Don't let you spirit be quenched. There is a lot that you can do;standing in the gap...just like Isaac.

Isaac prayed to the LORD on behalf of his wife ... Genesis 25:21. God awaits your intercession.

You two should eat more "ewedu" (don't ask me why because I don't know but you'll thank me later). Nothing fetish about it.

God is able.

Here is my take and advise:

Did they ever do genetic analysis on the previous products of conception?
If genetic anomaly is picked up, u both mayb required to see a genetist for chromosomal analysis to ascertain if either or both of you do carry a genetic anomaly that may predispose to these happenstances.
Other possibilities have been highlighted partly or wholly. These includes amongst others, lack of luteal support which the progesterone helps with until the placenta is big enough to take over.
Antiphosphospholipid antibodies or hypercoagulative states which oral aspirin or clexane injections can help with.
I want to believe your wife has had an ultrasound to ascertain endometrial thickness and presence or absence of uterine lesions.
Have you had seminal fluid analysis done as well and the need to give up things you ingest such as coffee or cigarette amongst other which may impact on the quality of sperm cells produced.
As a lot of posters in some way may have alluded to, PRAY hard and ask those you trust to join you in it.
I'm a Doctor in SA and these are just some quick assessment done as part of ongoing work up .

@ Op
Am sorry to hear about your situation. I have people close to me that went through the same issue even with IVF, the pregnancy did not go pass 8wks.
I will try to itemize my recommendations
1) Draw closer to God as He can work wonders
2) Do not blame your wife or yourself
3) Do not let family and friends give you bad advice and recommendations. It is only you and your wife that knows where the shoe pinches
4) Go and see a perinatalist and fertility doctor for pre-conception counseling
5) Talk to your ob/gyn for HSG test, rhesus factor (The HSG could reveal fibroid, since she gets pregnant easily it cannot be an issue of blocked fallopian tubes. If she has any blockage, the HSG will clear it)
6) Your wife might need to do a D&C (Dilation and curettage is a procedure to remove tissue from inside your uterus. Doctors perform dilation and curettage to diagnose and treat certain uterine conditions — such as heavy bleeding — or to clear the uterine lining after a miscarriage or abortion. This is also used to clear out polyps from the uterine lining.
7) Your wife needs to start taking folic acid tablets even if she is not yet pregnant. This has helped a lot of people
Take things easy. Do not get yourselves worked up. Have it in mind that you married your wife because you love her and children are added blessing. You did not marry your wife to make babies.
Above all the love an unity between yourself and wife should not diminish, she feels the pains more than you do.

Wish you all the best.

@ Op
Am sorry to hear about your situation. I have people close to me that went through the same issue even with IVF, the pregnancy did not go pass 8wks.
I will try to itemize my recommendations
1) Draw closer to God as He can work wonders
2) Do not blame your wife or yourself
3) Do not let family and friends give you bad advice and recommendations. It is only you and your wife that knows where the shoe pinches
4) Go and see a perinatalist and fertility doctor for pre-conception counseling
5) Talk to your ob/gyn for HSG test, rhesus factor (The HSG could reveal fibroid, since she gets pregnant easily it cannot be an issue of blocked fallopian tubes. If she has any blockage, the HSG will clear it)
6) Your wife might need to do a D&C (Dilation and curettage is a procedure to remove tissue from inside your uterus. Doctors perform dilation and curettage to diagnose and treat certain uterine conditions — such as heavy bleeding — or to clear the uterine lining after a miscarriage or abortion. This is also used to clear out polyps from the uterine lining.
7) Your wife needs to start taking folic acid tablets even if she is not yet pregnant. This has helped a lot of people
Take things easy. Do not get yourselves worked up. Have it in mind that you married your wife because you love her and children are added blessing. You did not marry your wife to make babies.
Above all the love an unity between yourself and wife should not diminish, she feels the pains more than you do.

Wish you all the best.

I believe with God all things are posible, so ma brother free your mind from fear and trust in God for he wil meet you at the point of your need.

sleak:
Here is my take and advise:

Did they ever do genetic analysis on the previous products of conception?
If genetic anomaly is picked up, u both mayb required to see a genetist for chromosomal analysis to ascertain if either or both of you do carry a genetic anomaly that may predispose to these happenstances.
Other possibilities have been highlighted partly or wholly. These includes amongst others, lack of luteal support which the progesterone helps with until the placenta is big enough to take over.
Antiphosphospholipid antibodies or hypercoagulative states which oral aspirin or clexane injections can help with.
I want to believe your wife has had an ultrasound to ascertain endometrial thickness and presence or absence of uterine lesions.
Have you had seminal fluid analysis done as well and the need to give up things you ingest such as coffee or cigarette amongst other which may impact on the quality of sperm cells produced.
As a lot of posters in some way may have alluded to, PRAY hard and ask those you trust to join you in it.
I'm a Doctor in SA and these are just some quick assessment done as part of ongoing work up .

The challenge we have here is where to do all those tests. She actually did some and the result came out good but i m sure many of the above tests have not been suggested by any doc. I don't smoke, drink or take coffee and the last seminal fluid analysis I did was ok. Please if you know where we can carryout these tests kindly let me know. Thanks so much.

noperson:
@ Op
Am sorry to hear about your situation. I have people close to me that went through the same issue even with IVF, the pregnancy did not go pass 8wks.
I will try to itemize my recommendations
1) Draw closer to God as He can work wonders
2) Do not blame your wife or yourself
3) Do not let family and friends give you bad advice and recommendations. It is only you and your wife that knows where the shoe pinches
4) Go and see a perinatalist and fertility doctor for pre-conception counseling
5) Talk to your ob/gyn for HSG test, rhesus factor (The HSG could reveal fibroid, since she gets pregnant easily it cannot be an issue of blocked fallopian tubes. If she has any blockage, the HSG will clear it)
6) Your wife might need to do a D&C (Dilation and curettage is a procedure to remove tissue from inside your uterus. Doctors perform dilation and curettage to diagnose and treat certain uterine conditions — such as heavy bleeding — or to clear the uterine lining after a miscarriage or abortion. This is also used to clear out polyps from the uterine lining.
7) Your wife needs to start taking folic acid tablets even if she is not yet pregnant. This has helped a lot of people
Take things easy. Do not get yourselves worked up. Have it in mind that you married your wife because you love her and children are added blessing. You did not marry your wife to make babies.
Above all the love an unity between yourself and wife should not diminish, she feels the pains more than you do.

Wish you all the best.

Thanks

My brother, I share in ur pains. U need to see a gynaecologist for a detailed evaluation. Ur wife has recurrent first trimester miscarriages which has various causes such as luteal phase deficiency, anti-phospholipid syndrome, etc. Progesterone is given in cases of luteal phase deficiency but I don't think ur wife has that. Unfortunately, I don't think we have facilities to diagnose anti-phospholipid syndrome in Nigeria; the ones I've seen were those whose samples were taken abroad including South Africa. Most importantly, the specimens gotten from the evacuations should have been subjected to histopathological analysis: This might have given away the diagnosis and ur wife treated accordingly. My advice is to see a gynaecologist for detailed clinical evaluation. It's well with ur family. God bless u

It's a good to know your Holding up to God who's the Author and d Finisher of our faith, Continue in Prayers God will answer your prayers, he's d Greatest physician, Stick together with your Wife, Comfort her, your in dis together. ...One day all of dis will be Over.

worriedhusband:
Dear Nairalanders,

My heart is very heavy as I write this. I'm a member of this forum but I purposely created this username for this issue as I want to remain anonymous. Im not the type that discuss my problems in the public but what is happening is beyond me and I need your help.

My wife and I got married May 2012 and I was the happiest man on earth on that day. Many prayers were offered concerning our fruitfulness and not in our slightest imagination did we think that we will have problem with having children. As God will have it my wife missed her period the following month and did pregnancy test to confirm and it was positive. Our joy knew no bound. I immediately gave her “holiday” from any form of domestic activities. She immediately registered for ante-natal. She has been attending the ante-natal for about 8 weeks when the doctor decided it was time to do the ultrasound. The ultrasound was done and it was discovered that the fetus was measuring a lesser length than it should measure, 5 weeks or thereabout. Also the heart beat was not seen. The doctor said the pregnancy was not viable.

It was a very sad day for both of us but I managed to console her, we even went to another hospital to confirm but the same result was given. She later went to the hospital for evacuation of the pregnancy.

To cut the story short, we have had four other pregnancies that the fetus did not develop. The fetus will always develop to maximum of 7 weeks and stop developing. She has taken Progesterone injection so many times without any significant result. I’ve researched a little bit and the result I found was recurrent miscarriage. This has been a great concern for us and I'm always afraid whenever wifey is pregnant that the same thing will happen (what should be a thing of joy for us has now become a nightmare).

The pain she goes through at each evacuation is something that brings tears to my eyes and I sometimes wish she is not even pregnant so we will not go through the same cycle.

My fellow Nairalanders, please help us out, any medical advice or other things we can do to overcome this challenge will be appreciated. Please if you have gone through this before or have any information that can help kindly offer it, don’t just read and go on. We belief in our God and we focus on Him as the doer of all things but we need medical or any other advice (nothing fetish) that can help.

We live in the Southwest (Not Lagos).

My wife is now 30 while i'm 34 Years old.

I dnt know if smone has mentioned this before me.pls,wat is ur wife's blood group?if she is a negative,then that's d problem.there is an injection which should be taken after every miscarriage or delivery.She should go for a test if she is nnt sure of her blood group.
I have a friend who had same issue.she had 3 miscarriages before she realised d problem but today she has a beautiful baby girl.I pray God answers u speedily.All d best.

Like everyone else said
Go see a good gynaecologist (though you said you've been doing that).
Pray incessantly.

Why don't you try adopting a child?

Hi worriedhusband,

Sorry about ur losses. I am confident that the good God will replenish all abundantly to his glory. From experience, these are possible causes;

*Auto immune disorders, e.g. antiphospholipid antibodies, etc. In this case, a lab evaluation is required.

**Erythroblastis fetalis caused by rhesus incompatibility if ur wife is rhesus negative while you are rhesus positive. So if she is carrying a rhesus positive fetus and she is already sensitised by previous pregnancy or abortion( even from previous relationships, YES!), her allo antibodies will react against the fetal red blood cells and terminate the pregnancy. So in this case,a lab evaluation will check ur rhesus factors.

***Threatened Abortion possibly from STIs... again test! Test!

****Anembryonic gestation from the implantation of a blighted ovum (or poor quality non- viable embryo possibly contributed by your sperm...YES! It isn't all about her). In this case, a hormonal assay is required to ascertain her FSH/LH level which is usually high in blighted ovum patients, then ur sperm analysis: quality, quantity and motility should be ascertained.

*****Chromosomal abnormalities in the resultant embryo. In this case, genetic testing will be conducted to know if there is a chromosomal abnormality which usually do not permit pregnancy progression( a natural way of nature to take care/control of the universe)

******Uterine dysfunction in terms of integrity of the uterine wall, presence of uterine fibroids, production of progesterone and hCG at early pregnancy, etc. In this case, hormones progesterone and HCG levels should be tested in the lab, ultrasound scan should indicate a clear picture of the integrity of the uterine walls, presence or absence of fibroid or abrasion from repeated or 'bad' abortions, etc.

******Unknown aetiology. Yes, in some cases, after detailed investigations, the exact cause remains unknown.

I hope I have been able to summarise the possible differential diagnoses. So now, what you should do is to see a fertility expert who will then recommend the required tests for you.
In the meantime, abstain from unsafe sex to avoid pregnancy now as her body (uterus/womb) needs time to recover from all the repeated D n C.
Now,she should embark on folic acid and vitamin B complex supplementation in the interim and continue way into the next pregnancy(at the right time when u must have seen a fertility specialist )

I hereby recommend the BRIDGE CLINIC, ODUDUWA RD, GRA,IKEJA ,LAGOS. It is a tested and trusted fertility clinic with an avalanche of fertility experts to help. They will recommend the required tests and the good thing is that the have a sound in-house laboratory to handle your tests. If there is a need for further tests not available in Nigeria, they ll fly ur samples to South Africa at NO additional cost. It is better than beating about the bush going to quacks or mere inexperienced who will not tell you that they cannot handle ur case but will be out for your money. Google up for exact contact details.

GOODLUCK!
Baby dusts to u.

Check my post above for where you can carry out the tests. Good luck!
Share ur babi(es) pix with us soon.

worriedhusband:


The challenge we have here is where to do all those tests. She actually did some and the result came out good but i m sure many of the above tests have not been suggested by any doc. I don't smoke, drink or take coffee and the last seminal fluid analysis I did was ok. Please if you know where we can carryout these tests kindly let me know. Thanks so much.

Medical tests are good enough but the strength of your faith as well as that of your wife determines it all.
Just keep believing and NEVER LOSE HOPE. The very minute you lose hope, then even the best gynecologist wouldn't be able to help. The Lord is your strength.