My brother, I really feels ur pain so much but one thing I know and which I want u also 2 believe is that EVERYBODY MUST pass tru one challenge or d other at a point in time but with faith and steadfatness, God will see us tru...As you are going 4rm one doctor 2 another, NEVER 4get or Abandon d GIVER and SOLVER of ALL PROBLEMS; GOD ALMIGHTY, because no single leave can drop without His Knowledge....As u look 4 SOLUTION MEDICALLY, NEVER LEAVE OR UNDERRATE THE POWER OF SPIRITUAL SOLUTION.....I WISH U SUCCESS IN UR JOURNEY OF LIFE WITH UR WIFE AS I WISH MYSELF...INSHA ALLAH...AMIN

Op, i can only imagine your pain and that of your wife. I have a close friend who had to endure this for over 3 years until she finally visited the states. It was discovered that her thyroid glands had issues and was the reason behind the frequent miscarriages. Really pathetic that non of the hospitals she visited here in naija could think out of the box. Well, good thing was she was placed on medication and it eventually resolved all. Today she has 2 kids.

You can read up more on the effects of either hypo/hyper thyroidism and also have your wife's own checked out.

In all, I pray it works out well for you sooner that you think. God bless!

lighternote:
Check my post above for where you can carry out the tests. Good luck!
Share ur babi(es) pix with us soon.

Ok. Thank you.

kalimera101:
Like everyone else said
Go see a good gynaecologist (though you said you've been doing that).
Pray incessantly.

Why don't you try adopting a child?

We've not considered adoption and I think its too early to beging to consider that. I'm sure my God will do it I just want them early when I'm capable both physically and economically to raise them well. Thanks though.

worriedhusband:
Dear Nairalanders,

My heart is very heavy as I write this. I'm a member of this forum but I purposely created this username for this issue as I want to remain anonymous. Im not the type that discuss my problems in the public but what is happening is beyond me and I need your help.

My wife and I got married May 2012 and I was the happiest man on earth on that day. Many prayers were offered concerning our fruitfulness and not in our slightest imagination did we think that we will have problem with having children. As God will have it my wife missed her period the following month and did pregnancy test to confirm and it was positive. Our joy knew no bound. I immediately gave her “holiday” from any form of domestic activities. She immediately registered for ante-natal. She has been attending the ante-natal for about 8 weeks when the doctor decided it was time to do the ultrasound. The ultrasound was done and it was discovered that the fetus was measuring a lesser length than it should measure, 5 weeks or thereabout. Also the heart beat was not seen. The doctor said the pregnancy was not viable.

It was a very sad day for both of us but I managed to console her, we even went to another hospital to confirm but the same result was given. She later went to the hospital for evacuation of the pregnancy.

To cut the story short, we have had four other pregnancies that the fetus did not develop. The fetus will always develop to maximum of 7 weeks and stop developing. She has taken Progesterone injection so many times without any significant result. I’ve researched a little bit and the result I found was recurrent miscarriage. This has been a great concern for us and I'm always afraid whenever wifey is pregnant that the same thing will happen (what should be a thing of joy for us has now become a nightmare).

The pain she goes through at each evacuation is something that brings tears to my eyes and I sometimes wish she is not even pregnant so we will not go through the same cycle.

My fellow Nairalanders, please help us out, any medical advice or other things we can do to overcome this challenge will be appreciated. Please if you have gone through this before or have any information that can help kindly offer it, don’t just read and go on. We belief in our God and we focus on Him as the doer of all things but we need medical or any other advice (nothing fetish) that can help.

We live in the Southwest (Not Lagos).

My wife is now 30 while i'm 34 Years old.

while drs are doing their best to help you. You have to figure out ways to help yourself too. The journey is not an easy one. It can be frustrating and very hard on your woman. I believe you are a caring husband but you still need to do more to fight her fears and to have a stress free life. I know you love her but the love should surpass romeo and Juliet. rolling my eyes now. buy her gifts continue buying her gifts. it shouldn't be seasonal. aways help her in home chores expecially the kitchen work, do it together with her and end it with a passionate kiss. While the going seems tough never forget to tell her how much you love her. women are moved with what they hear. cuddle her and always play with her hair and massage her face. take her out, continue to take her out. Always have a romantic bathwater with her. While doing all these things abstain from sex to give her body time to recover and for you to also have quality sperm that can break an egg and give you identical twins. for that period fill your home with worship songs.

cheers

lighternote:
Hi worriedhusband,

Sorry about ur losses. I am confident that the good God will replenish all abundantly to his glory. From experience, these are possible causes;

*Auto immune disorders, e.g. antiphospholipid antibodies, etc. In this case, a lab evaluation is required.

**Erythroblastis fetalis caused by rhesus incompatibility if ur wife is rhesus negative while you are rhesus positive. So if she is carrying a rhesus positive fetus and she is already sensitised by previous pregnancy or abortion( even from previous relationships, YES!), her allo antibodies will react against the fetal red blood cells and terminate the pregnancy. So in this case,a lab evaluation will check ur rhesus factors.

***Threatened Abortion possibly from STIs... again test! Test!

****Anembryonic gestation from the implantation of a blighted ovum (or poor quality non- viable embryo possibly contributed by your sperm...YES! It isn't all about her). In this case, a hormonal assay is required to ascertain her FSH/LH level which is usually high in blighted ovum patients, then ur sperm analysis: quality, quantity and motility should be ascertained.

*****Chromosomal abnormalities in the resultant embryo. In this case, genetic testing will be conducted to know if there is a chromosomal abnormality which usually do not permit pregnancy progression( a natural way of nature to take care/control of the universe)

******Uterine dysfunction in terms of integrity of the uterine wall, presence of uterine fibroids, production of progesterone and hCG at early pregnancy, etc. In this case, hormones progesterone and HCG levels should be tested in the lab, ultrasound scan should indicate a clear picture of the integrity of the uterine walls, presence or absence of fibroid or abrasion from repeated or 'bad' abortions, etc.

******Unknown aetiology. Yes, in some cases, after detailed investigations, the exact cause remains unknown.

I hope I have been able to summarise the possible differential diagnoses. So now, what you should do is to see a fertility expert who will then recommend the required tests for you.
In the meantime, abstain from unsafe sex to avoid pregnancy now as her body (uterus/womb) needs time to recover from all the repeated D n C.
Now,she should embark on folic acid and vitamin B complex supplementation in the interim and continue way into the next pregnancy(at the right time when u must have seen a fertility specialist )

I hereby recommend the BRIDGE CLINIC, ODUDUWA RD, GRA,IKEJA ,LAGOS. It is a tested and trusted fertility clinic with an avalanche of fertility experts to help. They will recommend the required tests and the good thing is that the have a sound in-house laboratory to handle your tests. If there is a need for further tests not available in Nigeria, they ll fly ur samples to South Africa at NO additional cost. It is better than beating about the bush going to quacks or mere inexperienced who will not tell you that they cannot handle ur case but will be out for your money. Google up for exact contact details.

GOODLUCK!
Baby dusts to u.

Thanks so much. I will chek them.

hi, I perfectly understand what u n ur wife is going through. I can tell u its not normal and it needs God intervention. though u are not in Lagos BT if u can make it to Lagos, I would introduce u to my church where God does mighty works and a solution ground. its liberationcity.if u have a strong dcoder, u can watch live service on liberation city channel, then u can decided whether its worth coming to Lagos. u can contact me on 08055358839

Can you go for a full medical check-up?
Secondly I have a female friend that passed through this kind of miscarriage on more than five different occasions. It was solved via a doctors help. I think they tied her womb or something. She gave birth to her first female child last year and this year february gave birth to a male child. She didn't even allow the first to clock a year before the second one came in. I would love to help but I don't know how to talk to her on this if she might give you the solution she proffered on hers,though I may tell her husband to link you guys up. You can flash me on this number and I promise to call you back 08020752978.

Dear worriedhusband,
i have been married since 1st quarter of 2012. unfortunately i had this same experience but not for this long as my wife had a miscarriage about 5 months after our wedding.
i started asking questions at any hospital we visited or from the doctors relatives/friends i have.
something that really stood out during my ordeal in questioning nature, was the fact that almost 60% of the adults i interacted with had encountered similar incidents of miscarriage. but no one could explain why...of course there were loads of medical excuses for this which i am not refuting.
However, God sent my Father-in-law to me, who explained the possible situation/solution and admitted that he suffered similar fate with my mother-in-law (my wife's mom). he was able to overcome this when an elderly relative intervened and took his then pregnant wife far away from him, and the baby stayed.
the solution to the problem as he advised was, from the 2 month of pregnancy... STAY AWAY FROM SEX, from the 6th to 8th month, you can continue having sex, for this too is encourage for smooth delivery. you see my brother, at this stage, some cervix, virginal or womb are not strong enough to handle any disturbance (trusting during sex), pls this is my theory and speculation.
i have another brother-in-law (married to my wife's sister), he had the same issues, until of course advise was given to him on how to handle this.
my brother, my advise might sound funny as it was based on elderly and non-scientific speculations , trust me, i found it priceless. it is not asking much other than avoid sex for a while to see if that will work as a solution.
As i speak to you, i am blessed with a cute prince who is almost 2 yrs old and of course by the special grace of Allah, the 2nd one is on the way.
remain blessed and good luck.

Please, kindly try to do this as devil will not want you to; from the day1 of the next conception both of you should keep confessing Exo 23:26 till delivery b'cos every situation/problem has it's solution in the word of God. You will surely laugh at last, feel free to reach on bbm22095D56.

I am so touched by this. Oh I felt for U̶̲̥̅̊ guys, but I believe my God can do all things. Pls d time that dis issue happens is it @ 7wks or 8wks. If U̶̲̥̅̊ notice dis alwaz occur @ a particular time.(D same time). Then I will advice U̶̲̥̅̊ da̶̲̥̅̊† after seeing d Gyneacologyst engage in a serious prayer and make sure ur wife alwaz anoint her womb at all times against all evil assault. God will put joy in ur house .(Amen)

Ruthiegeorge:
I Ǻ♍ a licenced nurse nd presently in midwifery programme in Abia state university. Pls tell ur wife to go for rhesus factor test. If she is rhesus negative then she needs to take a drug called.Rogam. Its sold for like 18k or more. I don't know if its the trade name of the drug but that's what she needs.

Please, don't prescribe drugs without conducting a test.

OP, please try the different suggestions here but if after that a miscarriage still occurs and you still haven't gotten a firm diagnosis from the doctors here , I'll suggest you save money and go to the US or UK. It's dangerous for her to keep getting pregnant and having miscarriages and even psychologically it's going to have an effect on her. Without a firm diagnosis there can be on effective treatment , the root cause has to first be discovered otherwise the doctors are just shooting in the dark.

Pls guys what happened to the Dijola thread? I can't find it

I agree with the spiritual bit, have you two looked into your past?

loganx:
Dear worriedhusband,
i have been married since 1st quarter of 2012. unfortunately i had this same experience but not for this long as my wife had a miscarriage about 5 months after our wedding.
i started asking questions at any hospital we visited or from the doctors relatives/friends i have.
something that really stood out during my ordeal in questioning nature, was the fact that almost 60% of the adults i interacted with had encountered similar incidents of miscarriage. but no one could explain why...of course there were loads of medical excuses for this which i am not refuting.
However, God sent my Father-in-law to me, who explained the possible situation/solution and admitted that he suffered similar fate with my mother-in-law (my wife's mom). he was able to overcome this when an elderly relative intervened and took his then pregnant wife far away from him, and the baby stayed.
the solution to the problem as he advised was, from the 2 month of pregnancy... STAY AWAY FROM SEX, from the 6th to 8th month, you can continue having sex, for this too is encourage for smooth delivery. you see my brother, at this stage, some cervix, virginal or womb are not strong enough to handle any disturbance (trusting during sex), pls this is my theory and speculation.
i have another brother-in-law (married to my wife's sister), he had the same issues, until of course advise was given to him on how to handle this.
my brother, my advise might sound funny as it was based on elderly and non-scientific speculations , trust me, i found it priceless. it is not asking much other than avoid sex for a while to see if that will work as a solution.
As i speak to you, i am blessed with a cute prince who is almost 2 yrs old and of course by the special grace of Allah, the 2nd one is on the way.
remain blessed and good luck.

Thanks. All advice are Welcome. I appreciate.

worriedhusband:
Dear Nairalanders,

My heart is very heavy as I write this. I'm a member of this forum but I purposely created this username for this issue as I want to remain anonymous. Im not the type that discuss my problems in the public but what is happening is beyond me and I need your help.

My wife and I got married May 2012 and I was the happiest man on earth on that day. Many prayers were offered concerning our fruitfulness and not in our slightest imagination did we think that we will have problem with having children. As God will have it my wife missed her period the following month and did pregnancy test to confirm and it was positive. Our joy knew no bound. I immediately gave her “holiday” from any form of domestic activities. She immediately registered for ante-natal. She has been attending the ante-natal for about 8 weeks when the doctor decided it was time to do the ultrasound. The ultrasound was done and it was discovered that the fetus was measuring a lesser length than it should measure, 5 weeks or thereabout. Also the heart beat was not seen. The doctor said the pregnancy was not viable.

It was a very sad day for both of us but I managed to console her, we even went to another hospital to confirm but the same result was given. She later went to the hospital for evacuation of the pregnancy.

To cut the story short, we have had four other pregnancies that the fetus did not develop. The fetus will always develop to maximum of 7 weeks and stop developing. She has taken Progesterone injection so many times without any significant result. I’ve researched a little bit and the result I found was recurrent miscarriage. This has been a great concern for us and I'm always afraid whenever wifey is pregnant that the same thing will happen (what should be a thing of joy for us has now become a nightmare).

The pain she goes through at each evacuation is something that brings tears to my eyes and I sometimes wish she is not even pregnant so we will not go through the same cycle.

My fellow Nairalanders, please help us out, any medical advice or other things we can do to overcome this challenge will be appreciated. Please if you have gone through this before or have any information that can help kindly offer it, don’t just read and go on. We belief in our God and we focus on Him as the doer of all things but we need medical or any other advice (nothing fetish) that can help.

We live in the Southwest (Not Lagos).

My wife is now 30 while i'm 34 Years old.

PLEASE GO TO LORD'S CHOSEN AT IJESHA. TRY AND SEE PASTOR MOUKA AND TELL HIM THIS YOUR HEART TOUCHING STORY.

AND SEE WHAT WILL HAPPEN.

PLEASE DON'T CALL THIS SUGGESTION BLUFF.

JUST TRY IT AND THANK ME LATTER.

GOD BLESS YOU!!

Hello,
Kindly go to MFM church for counseling. If you have faith your problem will be forgotten issue.

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My girl friend had similar problem but after everytin,she delivered recently.according to her Doctor,he said it was caused by hormonal imbalance..let ur wife see a specialist

Chai, see advice. You're suffering from recurrent pregnancy.

Have you tried the following:

Baby Aspirin to reduce blood clots
Clexane also does the same, thins the blood.
Progesterone Injection not the vaginal suppository, the injection goes straight to the blood stream.
Steroids incase your wife's immune is killing the embies, wife needs to be on this till week 12 of pregnancy.

Can't think of more but check on past post on infertility where I talked about immunes.

Hope this helps but it could also be male factor but your wife keeps on getting pregnant so not really sure if it's from your end as you're getting embryos.

What you can do:

How does your wife feel when it happens? Sore throat? Feverish? Cold? If she feels this way then her Immunes might be killing of embryos.

See a gynaecologist and see if you can be prescribed the above medication.

bro so much sori.i kno hw u feel.evil people ar at work.u need prayers.just fast 4 about 2 weeks 6 to 6.but u must leave in a holy life.

You need to visit a reputable gynae hospital for proper diagnosis. Had a friend who went through very similar experiences like yours. Had 6 miscarriages in three years . Turned out it was rhesus factor. Her and husband's bloodgroup was incompatible or so. Soon as problem was identified,treatment was commenced and to the glory of God,the children came in thereafter. May God help you solve yours too.

The question is wat is ur blood group and wat is ur wife blood group?If u are rhesus positive and ur wife is rhesus negative or vice versa, then dat will be a tip we can use to find solution.

Justfollowit:



Bla bla bla

Does the above sound like a spiritual attack to you?

you dont have to pick on me for giving my own opinion to smone who needs it and has already apreciates it madam.

It is well with you and your wife in Jesus name. I join my faith with yours and believe that the lord that makes the impossible possible will visit you and turn your tears into joy.

There s nothing beyond God. Had similar experience. Ours was termed blighted ovum. Twice was evacuated. then the 3rd preg according to their result again was heading towards that dxn. we angrily left d clinic and decided to wait for 3 months before starting ante natal. to God b d glory everything was succefl. had a smooth gestation period though had a fresh still birth which only God Can explain. but d baby was healthy. (think is placenta abrupt ion shortly after I was induced. To God b d glory have 2 now. 2013 2014. 6yrs of marriage. u will surely overcome. just keep d faith. never give up

My dear, there's nothing prayer cannot do. seek the face of God and He'l reveal where the problem is coming from.It might not even be anything medical. God is your strength. just have faith and praise Him always

Ruthiegeorge:
I Ǻ♍ a licenced nurse nd presently in midwifery programme in Abia state university. Pls tell ur wife to go for rhesus factor test. If she is rhesus negative then she needs to take a drug called.Rogam. Its sold for like 18k or more. I don't know if its the trade name of the drug but that's what she needs.

I believe this nurse. My aunt always takes this drug before conceiving but failed to do so before she took in for her 3rd child,like your wife,she had to do evacuation around the same time. When she came to lagos,I follwed her to a pharmacy where she got the drugs. At that time,it was 15k. As of today,she's got a fourth child. But before you buy any drug,do so only with a good recommendation.

foluks24:
Get the book WOMAN THOU ART LOOSED by Dr D.K olukoya.the bible says we shd nt b ignorant of d devices of d crafty

This book really helped me throughout my pregnancy and I brought forth a baby girl safely. @worried husband, I believe u need to seek medical help but candidly speaking , you and ur wife need great and serious deliverance.Kindly visit MFM Prayercity for a week long deliverance.I can bet it with you that u will testify.The name Jesus is above all names and he is the Great Physician.He can heal all wounds. Also, visit any MFM bookstore and buy the book "Prayer Rain".Repent from any known sin and fast, pray and do personal vigils with your wife.It works.I had almost similar experience but today it has turned to a testimony.

OP, I really feel for you. All shall be well. Send me a mail : zeezee148@yahoo.com let me link you with a Professor/HOD of Obstetrics&Gyneacology of a teaching Hospital in the South Western Nigeria. Shalom.

You have to try not to sleep with your wife for the first 3 months of her pregnancy. Secondly, maybe her womb is hot that the baby can't stay longer than it does so she needs take sumthing. Happened to my cousin nd there is no english medicine for it. She was given herbal and after 3 months of taking it, she conceived nd the baby stayed nd was born last year October. Thirdly, pray to God as there is nothing he cannot do. Good luck