Having read several posts on why you see many unmarried single ladies @ 30 and above,a salient point is the OVERBEARING INFLUENCE of Married Men on the life of single ladies,Using Lagos as a case study most single ladies 25 and above dated or is dating a married man,They squander money on these ladies cos they know marriage is not in picture..I don't know who to blame ...The married man dating single lady or the single lady enjoying the wealth and company of married men..The recent case involving one SilverBird TV pregnant Lady who was reportedly stabbed to death by her Married ManFriend comes to mind..May her Soul Rest in Peace..Amen

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Shiningmama:
Hmmmmmmmm!

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E be like say u know wetin dey but u no wan talk abi...Make I ask you as a married woman who will you blame? Say something now o

Simply blame the devil. But wait that groundnut shaped head man who carry money go spend on one chekereke girl outside whereas his wife dey manage garri tomato salt oil yam plus cloth to keep him family in one peace, men take style wicked shaa

it is single ladies that are having negative influences on married men. There are the ones that dress unclad to office, church e.tc. There are the ones that are after married men. You go to a eatery, they bug you. You drive, they flag you down to ask for lifts, you dress good, they approach you for directions. In-fact they seduce you with all sort of things. So blame them single ladies, not married men.

bennyrazz:
it is single ladies that are having negative influences on married men. There are the ones that dress unclad to office, church e.tc. There are the ones that are after married men. You go to a eatery, they bug you. You drive, they flag you down to ask for lifts, you dress good, they approach you for directions. In-fact they seduce you with all sort of things. So blame them single ladies, not married men.

Pyschological Seduction?

Married men...negative influence on single women? How ?
Why should any adult's choices be blamed on another adult's influence. There's no gist here at all. Why is the op looking for who to blame? Does that change anything?


Singles and married have been doing things since forever and the causative factors and catalysts for such relaionships will always be something to debate....

youngalex:
Pyschological Seduction?

exactly

bennyrazz:
it is single ladies that are having negative influences on married men. There are the ones that dress unclad to office, church e.tc. There are the ones that are after married men. You go to a eatery, they bug you. You drive, they flag you down to ask for lifts, you dress good, they approach you for directions. In-fact they seduce you with all sort of things. So blame them single ladies, not married men.

Hmmmmm, don't shift the blame to single ladies alone. Some married men have no self control or respect for their wives because they disturb even the modestly dressed girls not forgetting most of them deny been married and also don't wear their rings (PH men).

stunningjudy:

Hmmmmm, don't shift the blame to single ladies alone. Some married men have no self control or respect for their wives because they disturb even the modestly dressed girls not forgetting most of them deny been married and also don't wear their rings (PH men). :(

do they disturb you?

bennyrazz:
do they disturb you?

Yes and it's annoying

stunningjudy:

Yes and it's annoying

it is a very good thing for men to disturb you but it also depends on the kind of men you attract. If you are attracting married men and not single men, then you need to go and wash your head in the river

bennyrazz:
it is a very good thing for men to disturb you but it also depends on the kind of men you attract. If you are attracting married men and not single men, then you need to go and wash your head in the river

I attract both

Of course the married men are a negative influence. They are the ones that chase women 90% of the time. They are the ones who believe they have the right to cheat but women cannot. They are the ones who flash money and material stuff at their faces because they know thats what these girls want. They are the ones who are to keep the vow of being faithful to their wives of which they are failing woefully. They do not allow these girls to concentrate on their studies, be focused and independent. They are the ones making girls more and more greedy. Everyone is blaming the ladies but seriously what are the married men doing with these girls? why are they chasing them? why cnt they be faithful? These married men are the enemies of you younger men/bachelors because they will turn your ladies to prostitutes and leave them for you to marry. you younger men will suffer it by sharing these ladies with these men. Y'all have got to drop this 'Man must cheat' becauuse in the end, you will suffer for it. Married women should stop blaming the ladies and focus on their husbands. its your husbands that cnt keep their d1cks in their pants. We single ladies dey our own jeje.

Married men, bad influence on single ladies? Where do these imbeciiles crawl out from sef? Married men will chop freshj kpomo till Jesus comes, if he comes and that's the cycle of life. OP, take a look around the world, men will always seek out fresher booty. It is the demand of nature and you know you can't cheat nature.

Sophyrocks:
Of course the married men are a negative influence. They are the ones that chase women 90% of the time. They are the ones who believe they have the right to cheat but women cannot. They are the ones who flash money and material stuff at their faces because they know thats what these girls want. They are the ones who are to keep the vow of being faithful to their wives of which they are failing woefully. They do not allow these girls to concentrate on their studies, be focused and independent. They are the ones making girls more and more greedy. Everyone is blaming the ladies but seriously what are the married men doing with these girls? why are they chasing them? why cnt they be faithful? These married men are the enemies of you younger men/bachelors because they will turn your ladies to prostitutes and leave them for you to marry. you younger men will suffer it by sharing these ladies with these men. Y'all have got to drop this 'Man must cheat' becauuse in the end, you will suffer for it. Married women should stop blaming the ladies and focus on their husbands. its your husbands that cnt keep their d1cks in their pants. We single ladies dey our own jeje.

Abeg make we hear word. This your campaign no get direction. Single ladies love the attention and benefits they derive from dating married men. Don't come here like they date these men under duress. Married women should face their home and ensure that their men's balls stay drained and dry and then we'll see how many men will be left to seek therapy elsewhere

because the married men don't have the balls to say no, abi?

bennyrazz:
it is single ladies that are having negative influences on married men. There are the ones that dress unclad to office, church e.tc. There are the ones that are after married men. You go to a eatery, they bug you. You drive, they flag you down to ask for lifts, you dress good, they approach you for directions. In-fact they seduce you with all sort of things. So blame them single ladies, not married men.

aflyingbird:
because the married men don't have the balls to say no, abi?

The balls to say no to seduction? *dies. NL will not kill me

stunningjudy:

I attract both

well thank God for your own cuz some women are wishing to be like you.

aflyingbird:
because the married men don't have the balls to say no, abi?

the temptation is more than what they can bear.

Well to all men who can not say no to single ladies who are pretty and seductive.... Your daughters will be so pretty and Married men too will run after them and they too will be carried away and won't be able to say no..
Be that man you want your son to be, and be that man you want your daughter to marry. Same goes to the Ladies, be that woman you want your daughter to be and that lady you want your son to marry.. Chikena

Timbuktou:
Married men, bad influence on single ladies? Where do these imbeciiles crawl out from sef? Married men will chop freshj kpomo till Jesus comes, if he comes and that's the cycle of life. OP, take a look around the world, men will always seek out fresher booty. It is the demand of nature and you know you can't cheat nature.

21st century women - they want rights but no responsibility.

coogar:


21st century women - they want rights but no responsibility.

Tell me about it.

in other words, you men are weak with no self-control, right?
your reply below = YES

it's ridic how you pin the blame on single ladies but don't find fault with the married ( key word: MARRIED ) men who choose to run after these single ladies instead of walking away , going home to their wives & kids. but like i asked , they have not the balls to say no? you responded with a NO with this your comment below . thanks for proving my point

bennyrazz:
the temptation is more than what they can bear.

aflyingbird:
in other words, you men are weak with no self-control, right?
your reply below = YES

it's ridic how you pin the blame on single ladies but don't find fault with the married ( key word: MARRIED ) men who choose to run after these single ladies instead of walking away , going home to their wives & kids. but like i asked , they have not the balls to say no? you responded with a NO with this your comment below . thanks for proving my point

this thread is on FP, read the confessions of an ex prostitute www.nairaland.com/2204864/how-slept-prominent-pastors-ministers

Really, I've always blamed married men that cheat especially the ones with really nice, faithful and good looking wives at home. I don't understand why they can't just be faithful to their wives and why they have to go after single girls. When I talk to the opposite sex, they justify it by saying it is acceptable because they are men and it can't be avoided. This has really made me scared of marriage cos its everywhere now, wives are even accepting it as a norm.

I have however seen the way single girls chase after married men. Its alarming, I have friends that do it and there's this particular one that does basically married men. She even takes pride in the fact that their wives chase her or call her to warn her. They do it with no conscience at all and when I ask them how they would feel if they were in the shoes of those women the say "God Forbid".

It goes both ways. Both Married Men and Single girls that date them are to blame.

Funny thing is Karma is no longer fair. The fact that you didn't date a married man as a single girl doesn't mean one girl won't date ur husband.