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Re: Please He Needs Matured Advice On His Relationship by bukatyne(f): 12:06am On Mar 19, 2015 |
@OP: Sad stuff What you feel is normal... when you commit yourself to a relationship, it is difficult to let go. You are human. I would advise you go visit her one more time and have a heart to heart talk with her watching her expressions. Ask her about your future plans. This discussion would determine If the relationship progresses or not. A poster also said they ended up getting married. You could ask him How it happened. Me thinks her parents have said no and she is also finding difficult to let go. It is best you cover all .bases So There is no I did not try hard enough feelings aka regret. It is well. |
Re: Please He Needs Matured Advice On His Relationship by Roland17(m): 4:46am On Mar 19, 2015 |
Depending on your plans for the future with your lady, it's important to be sure she still shares same level of emotion as you do, I really don't appreciate men making relationship decisions based off emotions, it's quite risky. If both of you are on same boat and still passionate about the future of the relationship, I would advice you summon courage, pay her parents a visit and have a chat with them, let them know your plans and what their reservations are about your relationship with their daughter.. Search yourself thoroughly, if truly you are not ready to get married or commit to the future very soon, do yourself a huge favor by walking away and allow her be. You are both dealing with torn emotions and decisions, I think she has moved on, her attitude shows she has progressed past you and this is the last stage of her getting over the whole situation..Sometimes in life, even when it feels right it might not be the best, sometimes it's best to walk away while you can, focus on your job and securing your future, you have to be pragmatic..if it is meant to be, I can assure you it would reappear afterwards..if not..life goes on. You are a man, don't dwell too long on a disappointments, face the challenges squarely, whatever comes out of it, make the best out of it.. Wish you all the best.. 1 Like |
Re: Please He Needs Matured Advice On His Relationship by Nobody: 6:41am On Mar 19, 2015 |
u gotta move on. |
Re: Please He Needs Matured Advice On His Relationship by Nobody: 8:21am On Mar 19, 2015 |
Thanks so much everyone, your comments have been of immense help, however I don't want to rush things. Reading through your comments yesterday gave me some momentum and drive to call it quit, but as I called her yesterday we had a heart to heart discussion and after I analyzed the whole situation it turned out that I'm partly responsible for the way things turned out. I believe I haven't been understanding enough because sometimes when I call her and she's acting cold she does ask me to call back but I always shout and make it an issue......and also I think what infuriated her was when I sent her a message about all the sacrifices I made just for her and all that she was like, I'm making it look as if She's not worth it and all that, we however ended the whole matter on a light note, she said she still loves me but doubt my love for her, I re-pledged my love for her and she did likewise. I just want to give it my best shot, I think if after now it doesn't work, then I'll be the fool to continue day dreaming........I appreciate all your messages that's why I decided to give an update....gracias!!! ciao!! |
Re: Please He Needs Matured Advice On His Relationship by Nobody: 8:43am On Mar 19, 2015 |
Bulkfella: Awwwwwwwwwww. True love. #sigh# All the best. ![]() 3 Likes |
Re: Please He Needs Matured Advice On His Relationship by pickabeau1: 9:10am On Mar 19, 2015 |
![]() ![]() ![]() why would u be shouting.... when the effort(constant begging, calls) is not commensurate with the reward (distance, parents issue) maybe a venture is not worth it Please notify us how it goes on this saga with your user name in the next 6 months I wish u d best Bulkfella: 1 Like |
Re: Please He Needs Matured Advice On His Relationship by Nobody: 9:23am On Mar 19, 2015 |
pickabeau1:Thanks so much! I'll do just that |
Re: Please He Needs Matured Advice On His Relationship by Ngokafor(f): 9:50am On Mar 19, 2015 |
Bulkfella: .....This is touching bro.. ..i wish you the best with your lady ![]() ... 2 Likes |
Re: Please He Needs Matured Advice On His Relationship by Ngokafor(f): 9:51am On Mar 19, 2015 |
Re: Please He Needs Matured Advice On His Relationship by Nobody: 6:49pm On Mar 19, 2015 |
Ave experienced this phase before the relationship is almost over, she's still holding for some weird reason other than love. But don't worry you will move on and see someone great or you will be alone trying to understand what went wrong, regardless time will move on. The same babe you think you can't imagine being without will one day be an occasional memory till it becomes a blur all the things you guys had together that represented happiness will be the memory you will hate the most. Nothing hurts more than love. Whatever you do don't think you were not good enough and also don't drown your sorrows with alcohol that's bad instead just drink alcohol. ![]() All the best from the god of alcohol |
Re: Please He Needs Matured Advice On His Relationship by Nobody: 6:50pm On Mar 19, 2015 |
Forgive my lack of punctuation am using a phone. |
Re: Please He Needs Matured Advice On His Relationship by cococandy(f): 7:12pm On Mar 19, 2015 |
Awww ![]() I hope it works out. Goodluck. Bulkfella: 1 Like |
Re: Please He Needs Matured Advice On His Relationship by bukatyne(f): 9:19pm On Mar 19, 2015 |
Bulkfella: Good luck bro 1 Like |
Re: Please He Needs Matured Advice On His Relationship by bukatyne(f): 9:21pm On Mar 19, 2015 |
pcguru1: Bro alcohol cannot fill the void. Drop the bottle, analyze What went wrong and don't be afraid to try again. It is well |
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