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Re: The Good Wife By Nigeria Standards (pic) by Nobody: 4:30pm On Mar 19, 2015 |
It is the destiny of women to cook and clean. Please accept your nature and stop trying to ping with nokia 3310 ![]() |
Re: The Good Wife By Nigeria Standards (pic) by BABE3: 4:32pm On Mar 19, 2015 |
pickabeau1: I agree with damiso too and slimyem. The "problem" is very universal. Hollywood and Disney paint the white man as the "ideal modern man", and we believe it. The true picture of a typical western family is very different. the white man complains of his wife getting fat after babies. He also uses that as an excuse to cheat. the white woman too complains of being overwhelmed even with the availability of dishwashers, vaccum cleaners etc. a typical white male (young or old) still expects females to cook for him while he plays fifa '15. Like slimyem said, the gender equality thing is going in the wrong direction. The men are still stuck in their old ways/roles. They dont feel the need to change since its women that want equality anyways. But for gender equality to work in any setting, both parties have to actively change their ways. I don't see that happening anytime soon. ![]() We can force men to pay child support and outrageous divorce settlements. But can we force them to do dishes and help in the kitchen? |
Re: The Good Wife By Nigeria Standards (pic) by pickabeau1: 4:37pm On Mar 19, 2015 |
BABE3: Very apt... Ive always said it here, naija men bashing belies a bigger issue: lack of exposure about other ways of life beyond this shores but on these boards - only naija men cheat or abandon baby mamas ![]() Excepts from the article I quoted again "Gender inequalities 'rooted' Researchers said the survey results meant women would not achieve equal opportunities at work until their menfolk contributed more to looking after the home. "Gender inequalities in all areas are rooted in social structures but also in attitudes," said Professor Gillian Robinson, of the University of Ulster. "It is difficult to see how women will ever have the same opportunities in the labour market if equality at home is not achieved." In the survey, 1,800 men and women were asked about everyday chores, such as the laundry, cleaning, cooking, food shopping, looking after sick relatives and carrying out repairs. But men only made a significant contribution by mending faulty items around the house. At least two-thirds of women said it was usually them who carried out the other tasks, rising to 85 per cent for doing the laundry."
So many of our girls have bought it The largest consumers of video games products are white males in the 30s
Even marriage the tool of 'female domination' will soon die off when men see its not worth it anymore The potential for bankruptcy outweighs the reward |
Re: The Good Wife By Nigeria Standards (pic) by CSTR: 4:42pm On Mar 19, 2015 |
In this same Nigeria where most homes are led by over-worked, slaving men. Is it any wonder why we have far more widows than widowers.? The OP is an irredemable ignoramus. 2 Likes |
Re: The Good Wife By Nigeria Standards (pic) by Nobody: 4:55pm On Mar 19, 2015 |
The whole gender inequality is not only an African thing is a redundant point because feminism was created by the western world. If they were all championing equality, I doubt there will be a need for a feminist movement. This is a Nigerian forum, it only makes sense that most topics will be tailored to Nigeria and Africa. The people telling stories here or commenting on stories, are Nigerians sharing their Nigerian experience. Let's not act like Nigeria is on the same level as the US when it comes to gender inequality issues. 3 Likes |
Re: The Good Wife By Nigeria Standards (pic) by Nobody: 4:55pm On Mar 19, 2015 |
pickabeau1:Nna, eh. NL is blessed with the cream of the crop of society. No reported cases of divorces or domestic abuse of well-known users. We're from rock solid lineage and all have impeccable families. ![]() ![]() ![]() 1 Like |
Re: The Good Wife By Nigeria Standards (pic) by DollyParton1(f): 4:59pm On Mar 19, 2015 |
Timbuktou: You are just full of shīť. Thats the problem with people like you, you think its only when someone gets married and have kids that they can speak on issues like this. We watch people like you in the society, and we learn from the shït u pull with your family. Nigga go through ur posts again you sound like a slave master to your wife. 4 Likes |
Re: The Good Wife By Nigeria Standards (pic) by SirShymexx: 5:03pm On Mar 19, 2015 |
bukatyne: Those are just isolated case of selfish insecure men who are also control freaks. If you were to do the ratio, it’d probably 1:1000 or more. As a man, as you start having kids – the priority shifts from you to the kids, even if you view ya wife as a mere appendage. Obviously, with that – having a high-flying wife is more of security and back-up plan, should in case life happens to you. Life’s a roller-coaster – with ups and downs. Which means: you might be at the top today, and fall face flat tomorrow. You never know what the future holds regardless of how meticulously you plan for it. So, once you have a high-flying wife as a “security” – you know your children will always get the best regardless of what happens to you – and vice versa. The priority is always most about the children. Also, the world is so different right now that everyone needs a support system…and you can’t do it all by yourself, especially when kids are involved. The security/back-up plan is a necessity. So, just because a few backward men are like that – it doesn’t mean the overwhelming majority are like that. Most guys with careers go for women on the same level. Personally, I’ll never even get into a serious relationship with any chic that isn’t on my level. And even with that – I’ll always push her, the same way I push myself – to aim for the tops. Anyway, with the picture – all I can see is an utter weakling. And it’s in bad taste. |
Re: The Good Wife By Nigeria Standards (pic) by SirShymexx: 5:03pm On Mar 19, 2015 |
Justfollowit: You can never proffer proper solutions to an experience you're not acquainted with in real time, nor lived. I don't lead my life trying to be a woman - I deal with rules-of-engagement/standard(s) that govern both men and women in the society. And my role is to always play by those rules/standards - while maintaining mutual respect. The society is also not fair on me as a black man - but I've accepted it as my reality - why can't these black women do the same, rather than the unnecessary narcissistic/antagonistic behavioural patterns? The only thing I can do is hear their experiences of the females around me (my sisters, mum, and other chics I know). However, they play their roles the right way without complaints cos they understand what's at stake. And that means a lot of these bitter "crying freeman" having fundamental problems, either induced by their opportunistic choices or their backgrounds. You can't blame anyone for that - it's your cross, just learn to carry it lol. Even if I were to look at it from the female perspective – I’d see a people with more opportunities in the society than black men cos the society feels more comfortable around black women than black men. Also, who have more things to their advantage – they just don’t know to exploit them. There are dysfunctional families everywhere - not just Nigeria. A lot of folks were raised in broken homes out here, and they have moved away from that - and used it in making better choices as they progress in life. No excuse whatsoever. Anyway, wherever you find a backward society - it's a no-brainer that the women are also backward. Perhaps, Nigerian women need to focus on their backwardness and stop disturbing men who're trying to eke out a living and raise great children. Have you seen the documentary of the industrial revolution in the UK? Go watch that documentary and see British women working in factories with kids on their back – while also working as home-keepers doing all the chores whenever they’re at home. Those are great women right women right – not the lazy naija ones who whinge about mere chores. I believe these women ought to start from there, and help build the darn country, rather than crying everywhere. Isn’t it shocking that almost every Nigerian from her mid-30 and above is over-weight/obese? And Nigerian homes are always stuffy/scruffy with things hanging everywhere due to how lazy and dirty the women are? Darn!! I vowed to stay away from debates like this one. Anyway, what do you think about the utterly disrespectful/distasteful pic the OP posted, while portraying black men as crippled folks with broken spinal chord, who can’t stand on both feet? That’s some ridiculous joke taken too far, and the reason why I came on the thread. ![]() 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: The Good Wife By Nigeria Standards (pic) by Nobody: 5:06pm On Mar 19, 2015 |
SirShymexx: What you failed to consider is that the female gender was at a disadvantage for a long time. We still face oppression and are still seen as the inferior gender today. Your whole post was synonymous to a white man telling a black man not to march for "Black Lives Matter" but instead change the slogan to "White and Black lives matter" or "All lives matter". What I think of the picture? The picture clearly denotes what is expected of the woman in today's society. She has to be superwoman. The man wants a career oriented woman who cooks, cleans, irons, takes care of the kids, helps with homework and still have time to be a freak on his bed. 3 Likes |
Re: The Good Wife By Nigeria Standards (pic) by BABE3: 5:09pm On Mar 19, 2015 |
DollyParton1: I don't think there's anything wrong or unfair with the way timbuktou runs his family.... he pays all the bills; she does all the chores; she keeps most of her money to herself. Super fair! He can claim head-ship. The problem though is with the economy, most homes need the 2 hands on deck when it comes to providing. In this case, it's only fair they share the chores. But the men in these homes don't want chores at all. Any woman that puts up with that is a masochist. Like that woman in OP's picture, the excess baggage must be giving her orgasms. ![]() |
Re: The Good Wife By Nigeria Standards (pic) by freecocoa(f): 5:14pm On Mar 19, 2015 |
BABE3, how are you? |
Re: The Good Wife By Nigeria Standards (pic) by pickabeau1: 5:14pm On Mar 19, 2015 |
Timbuktou: ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() They have christened such "bondage sex" ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Re: The Good Wife By Nigeria Standards (pic) by SirShymexx: 5:14pm On Mar 19, 2015 |
Shollypopzz: Your argument for female gender is also applicable to the black/African race, with black men as the most affected. Look at it from a universal perspective and you'd see that black men are the most affected on the planet. Black women still have it better on the totem pole - reality. Nah, my post's synonymous with the civil rights movement, where all the disadvantaged folks on the planet marched together, and asked for universal change in scheme of things. We're both in the struggle together! ![]() Being a superwoman is what every black woman should endeavour to be. The mothers. Strong black woman was coined from superwoman virtues - be glad all these things are delegated to you, while the men work their socks off to put food on the table. It's not easy on these streets. |
Re: The Good Wife By Nigeria Standards (pic) by pickabeau1: 5:19pm On Mar 19, 2015 |
And you who knows better how is the fact that women have the short end of the stick when looking at proportion of chores generally even the working ones Rather than join the bandwagon of male bashing, why not see the progress which has been made and see how further strides can be obtained More guys are helping out in the home and the proportion of chores is increasing I have friends whose wives took time off for a MSC abroad and the house is not collapsing But NO.. its easier to just call the men useless aside the list of family members Shollypopzz: |
Re: The Good Wife By Nigeria Standards (pic) by Nobody: 5:22pm On Mar 19, 2015 |
Re: The Good Wife By Nigeria Standards (pic) by DollyParton1(f): 5:22pm On Mar 19, 2015 |
BABE3: Lol... u believe that ish.... he pays all the bills? He writes like he doesn't live in the same Nigeria. Insult men that needs their wives' support. I don't have tonbe married or have kids before I know what I want and what is right. 2 Likes |
Re: The Good Wife By Nigeria Standards (pic) by Nobody: 5:23pm On Mar 19, 2015 |
BABE3:Hehehe. Gracias mucho, senor. |
Re: The Good Wife By Nigeria Standards (pic) by pickabeau1: 5:24pm On Mar 19, 2015 |
Re: The Good Wife By Nigeria Standards (pic) by Nobody: 5:26pm On Mar 19, 2015 |
SirShymexx: I am not about to go into the "who suffered more during slavery" argument with you. One thing I'll say, is that the black man isn't the sole provider anymore. In fact, you all haven't been for a long time now. (If I were speaking as an AA) If you are doing 100% of the financial provision in your home, then I agree with you that your wife should take up responsibilities like cooking, cleaning and all that. 2 Likes |
Re: The Good Wife By Nigeria Standards (pic) by BABE3: 5:27pm On Mar 19, 2015 |
Re: The Good Wife By Nigeria Standards (pic) by freecocoa(f): 5:30pm On Mar 19, 2015 |
BABE3:Good to know. I'm alright, just kinda exhausted from cooking, cleaning and being an african woman. *yawns* Hubby and the kids are doing great. ![]() Been meaning to ask your take on feminism, mind sharing? |
Re: The Good Wife By Nigeria Standards (pic) by Nobody: 5:33pm On Mar 19, 2015 |
DollyParton1: He is not rich. He would rather endure a lower standard of living than contribute to household chores. As long as such "individualistic-killing" mindset isn't passed on to the kids, I am happy. He and and his wife have a right to adhere to gender roles as long as they do not train their children that way. 4 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: The Good Wife By Nigeria Standards (pic) by Nobody: 5:35pm On Mar 19, 2015 |
DollyParton1:You watch what? ![]() Come back at me when you're married for 6months you bloody reject virgin. You think being a man is moi-moi? Anyway, I don't blame you, you obviously had no examples to draw from. Fvck outta with your shallowness. And yes, it's a master-slave relationship between my wife and I. I'm her slave to provide and protect, she's my slave to keep our home and our brood and we love the arrangement so. And she's way more than anything your potential can hope to offer. 2 Likes |
Re: The Good Wife By Nigeria Standards (pic) by BABE3: 5:37pm On Mar 19, 2015 |
freecocoa: I don't even know. all I know is I'm anti-feminism on NL. ![]() In the real world, it's more complicated for me to hate or love it. |
Re: The Good Wife By Nigeria Standards (pic) by Nobody: 5:38pm On Mar 19, 2015 |
pickabeau1: I do not take part in "male bashing". I take part in society bashing; and that consists of males, females and any other gender. I concentrate my feminist energy on females, not males. |
Re: The Good Wife By Nigeria Standards (pic) by pickabeau1: 5:41pm On Mar 19, 2015 |
Shollypopzz: THEN You are an exception in these boards |
Re: The Good Wife By Nigeria Standards (pic) by freecocoa(f): 5:42pm On Mar 19, 2015 |
BABE3:Lol ![]() Okay then, what's your issue with the NL version? |
Re: The Good Wife By Nigeria Standards (pic) by Nobody: 5:42pm On Mar 19, 2015 |
pickabeau1:So, I've been told. Don't have a willing partner to practise with though. I might just rent some of the mgbekes on here. |
Re: The Good Wife By Nigeria Standards (pic) by kaboninc(m): 5:47pm On Mar 19, 2015 |
damiso: Only if our ladies will take a cue from this. |
Re: The Good Wife By Nigeria Standards (pic) by kaboninc(m): 5:48pm On Mar 19, 2015 |
Shollypopzz: ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Re: The Good Wife By Nigeria Standards (pic) by kaboninc(m): 5:52pm On Mar 19, 2015 |
Timbuktou: Who's then the Master sir? ![]() ![]() |
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