edwife:


Anyone can be infected by STIs as long as you are actively sexual,even when faithful.Some STIs are spread by contact with infected blood or MouthAction.

ATOB:


Are you the saviour of the world of girls?
Whats your business with her.

babyosisi:


There is something called adoption

folaberinjo:
so why looking for more trouble?

tivta:
Rokiatu and single mothers hope you have heard?
Make sure you read the post very well.
Religion and society has made it easier for a man to be polygamous. Like the bible says in Isaiah 4:1 And in that day seven women shall take hold of
one man, saying, We will eat our own bread, and
wear our own apparel: only let us be called by thy
name, to take away our reproach. That's for the christians, as for the muslims, you already know they support 4 wives.
In summary what am saying is the days of monogamy is coming to an end cause weather you like it or not, ITS A MANS WORLD...

freecocoa:
I didn't bother reading it but all I know is that, polygamy is selfish, simple.

Ilekeh:
An even more important question is why are these women staying married to cheating men who masquerade themselves as polygamist?

lastpage:
We all jump to conclusions because we dont actually examine the "problem"!

1.) Was man (humans) actually created to be monogamous?
If we were created from that "bang" it mustn't be just a single or small bang..... it must be "banging repeatedly" (joke)

It appears to me, that having more than one mate during a life time, is the innate behaviour of "most" males, even amongst lower animals?
Why do we think "man" should be an exception to this general rule?

2.) Despite "Western ideas" about marriage, Western marriages have failed to succeed at monogamy, as many of them have more than one wife/husband, during their life time!
Why is there a quest and desire to "kpekus" more than one man or more than one woman.... in the life span of a humanbeing? (Serial Monogamy)
Now, you might argue that "divorce and re-marry" is not monogamy but think deeper and you will see that it is actually a worse-form of polygamy as some men/women are rendered "used" ...and it does not really favor a woman to serially marry and re-marry over and over again.
It is just a "legal solution" that deals with the problems associated with "inheritance".... but it does not change from the "practice and fact" of polygamy.

3.) Listening to the Women's day celebration message, facts show that there are more girls in schools nowadays, more women around, more female child births..... more and more women everywhere

Now, l may be wrong but l guess it is the dream of most if not all women, to one day, settle down with their own husband?
if all these women decide to take "one man" to each self, ............or put in the corollary, if all the men decide to take just one woman out of all these women, for themselves...WHAT HAPPENS TO THE TONS OF WOMEN LEFT UNMARRIED ...and who desire to marry and have a family of their own? Tough luck for them, abi?

4.) Is it actually a "Christian Sin" to marry more than one wife?
I have read about "implied statements" like "keep the marriage bed holy" and stuffs like that but l have never seen it anywhere, (except the ADVICE for a "titled christian" to be the husband of one wife. That is specifically addressed to the "tilted" Christian.) where it is said that Polygamy is a sin!
From Abraham the father of nations (if it was a sin, Sarah would not even dream of the idea ...and Abraham would not even concede to it, to marry a second wife), to David the "Apple of Gods eye", to Solomon whom God gave a "blank Cheque to ask for ANYTHING" .... just to mention the THREE MOST-LOVED MEN BY GOD, in the Bible, who were Polygamous and it never stopped or impeded their relationship with God!
So, are we more Holy than any of these three? Abegi, watch your side o!

Now, there is an element of selfishness in Polygamy [/b]and not surprisingly, it is the same woman (once she can hook a husband for herself), who thinks what befalls her fellow woman as regards getting married is NOT HER BUSINESS!
Like a "prize" a woman wants to keep her her husband to herself ONLY.... No Sharing!!

[b]But instead of women accepting that the "selfishness" is about them, they shift the blame on the men!
They say the man that wants to marry more than one wife is selfish, huh?


BTW; What works for the white man "culturally", may not work for the African man because the "cultural values" that we embrace may be/ is different!
What a white woman values most in a marriage is not necessarily what a Nigerian woman will value the most, in her own marriage!
same with the comparisons of white men and African men!

So, instead of Africans being forced to embrace the ways of the white men as "better", why dont they for once, embrace our own ways... or do we still think we are inferior in EVERYTHING, even in marriage values?

In summary, l think what ever "pleasure or woes" that is found in a polygamous marriage... is also found in some monogamous marriage.... just that the "enemy chosen' may be different!
Just name it, from STI's, to hate, envy, avarice, jealousy, murder, e.t.c.... if it is not the other wife, it is the husbands sister or the Mother-in-law, e.t.c

Okay now, if my wife reads this post, she would start a "big discussion" tomorrow!

Lastpage!

lastpage:
We all jump to conclusions because we dont actually examine the "problem"!

1.) Was man (humans) actually created to be monogamous?
If we were created from that "bang" it mustn't be just a single or small bang..... it must be "banging repeatedly" (joke)

It appears to me, that having more than one mate during a life time, is the innate behaviour of "most" males, even amongst lower animals?
Why do we think "man" should be an exception to this general rule?

2.) Despite "Western ideas" about marriage, Western marriages have failed to succeed at monogamy, as many of them have more than one wife/husband, during their life time!
Why is there a quest and desire to "kpekus" more than one man or more than one woman.... in the life span of a humanbeing? (Serial Monogamy)
Now, you might argue that "divorce and re-marry" is not monogamy but think deeper and you will see that it is actually a worse-form of polygamy as some men/women are rendered "used" ...and it does not really favor a woman to serially marry and re-marry over and over again.
It is just a "legal solution" that deals with the problems associated with "inheritance".... but it does not change from the "practice and fact" of polygamy.

3.) Listening to the Women's day celebration message, facts show that there are more girls in schools nowadays, more women around, more female child births..... more and more women everywhere

Now, l may be wrong but l guess it is the dream of most if not all women, to one day, settle down with their own husband?
if all these women decide to take "one man" to each self, ............or put in the corollary, if all the men decide to take just one woman out of all these women, for themselves...WHAT HAPPENS TO THE TONS OF WOMEN LEFT UNMARRIED ...and who desire to marry and have a family of their own? Tough luck for them, abi?

4.) Is it actually a "Christian Sin" to marry more than one wife?
I have read about "implied statements" like "keep the marriage bed holy" and stuffs like that but l have never seen it anywhere, (except the ADVICE for a "titled christian" to be the husband of one wife. That is specifically addressed to the "tilted" Christian.) where it is said that Polygamy is a sin!
From Abraham the father of nations (if it was a sin, Sarah would not even dream of the idea ...and Abraham would not even concede to it, to marry a second wife), to David the "Apple of Gods eye", to Solomon whom God gave a "blank Cheque to ask for ANYTHING" .... just to mention the THREE MOST-LOVED MEN BY GOD, in the Bible, who were Polygamous and it never stopped or impeded their relationship with God!
So, are we more Holy than any of these three? Abegi, watch your side o!

Now, there is an element of selfishness in Polygamy [/b]and not surprisingly, it is the same woman (once she can hook a husband for herself), who thinks what befalls her fellow woman as regards getting married is NOT HER BUSINESS!
Like a "prize" a woman wants to keep her her husband to herself ONLY.... No Sharing!!

[b]But instead of women accepting that the "selfishness" is about them, they shift the blame on the men!
They say the man that wants to marry more than one wife is selfish, huh?


BTW; What works for the white man "culturally", may not work for the African man because the "cultural values" that we embrace may be/ is different!
What a white woman values most in a marriage is not necessarily what a Nigerian woman will value the most, in her own marriage!
same with the comparisons of white men and African men!

So, instead of Africans being forced to embrace the ways of the white men as "better", why dont they for once, embrace our own ways... or do we still think we are inferior in EVERYTHING, even in marriage values?

In summary, l think what ever "pleasure or woes" that is found in a polygamous marriage... is also found in some monogamous marriage.... just that the "enemy chosen' may be different!
Just name it, from STI's, to hate, envy, avarice, jealousy, murder, e.t.c.... if it is not the other wife, it is the husbands sister or the Mother-in-law, e.t.c

Okay now, if my wife reads this post, she would start a "big discussion" tomorrow!

Lastpage!

babygirlfl:


Women are not more than men in Nigeria.

Sunymoore:

Continue deceiving yourself..

Enegod:
A man dealing with multiple women, will definitely need to know how to control the secretion of his spèrm. "Busting nuts
all day every day" will hurt him greatly.

The sperm is his life-force, and every time he ejaculatès, he loses a great amount of nutrients like Zinc. If he doesn't replenish himself correctly, he will end up having health problems..

blessedvisky:
mehn what a long article. too long . however what I know is that you must be a very strong and probably mean person in order to maintain two women in the same house. Fighting, envy, jealousy, animosity and so many unhealthy practices emanate from polygamous homes. the man Sef no go get peace of mind. So y bother??

#TEAMONEWIFE

FrancisTony:
Any Christian man that supports polygamy is a bloody hypocrite.

If you say Polygamy is an African Tradition, it's safe for you to remain a pagan and continue practising it. Stop spoiling the word "Christianity".

My 2cent...

FrancisTony:
Any Christian man that supports polygamy is a bloody hypocrite.

If you say Polygamy is an African Tradition, it's safe for you to remain a pagan and continue practising it. Stop spoiling the word "Christianity".

My 2cent...

MKO4ever:


And seven women shall take hold of one man in that day, saying, “We will eat our own bread and wear our own clothes, only let us be called by your name; take away our reproach.”

taiocol:

Christianity is a religion of hypocrites. Deal with it. All(almosst) the great you guys celebrate in the Bible are polygamist

rokiatu:
what do I have to do with this?

FrancisTony:

Isaiah 4:1.
That "seven women" would seek to be called by the name of "one man" is a clear evidence of polygamy (polygyny) in the Bible, even in prophecy such as this passage. Of course, though, the situation described in this prophetic verse is not all that positive.
A rather small minority, however, does view that verse as a "literal" prophecy, foretelling of a time when women might out-number men, seven-to-one.
Howbeit, most Bible-believers see that verse, instead, as a negative prophecy, regarding the churches of God seeking to "do their own thing".
According to the verse, the seven women are arrogant women. Their only motivation for marrying the man is to use him. They only want to be CALLED by the man's name, only so as to take away their reproach, their shame. But they still arrogantly want to do things their own way. They want to provide their own things their own way.
This, of course, does NOT present an image of the type of wives that Bible-believing men would want to marry! It certainly does not describe marriage within the Biblical marriage-model of Ephesians 5:22-25.
Given, as the majority of Bible-believers believe, that this prophecy is an image about arrogant churches (rather than "literally" about arrogant women wanting to marry a polygamist), this passage presents a "wake-up call" for all Bible-believers.
Namely, the "seven women" are understood as being churches who only want to be CALLED by the name of Christ, to be His brides. They only do so in hopes of having their fruitless shame (as per sin) removed, even though they still arrogantly want to do things their own way.
They want to feed themselves their own bread, instead of being fed on the bread of Christ.
They want to clothe themselves in their own apparel, instead of being clothed in the righteousness of Christ.
While there is reasonable debate among many as to whether the similitude of the "seven women" in Isaiah 4:1 is connected directly with the "seven churches" of Revelation chapters 2 and 3, many still agree, nevertheless, that Isaiah 4:1 is a negative prophecy concerning arrogant churches. It is the foretelling of seven churches wanting to marry Christ who do so only with a selfish motive to seek to have His salvation (i.e., to be CALLED "Christian", to be CALLED by His Name) but while, at the same time, still wanting to be doing things their own way, to stay in their sin. They want to be CALLED "Christian" but they do not want to BE Christian, in ALL their ways, "in spirit and in truth".

SAMBARRY:
When I see people like you I know there's still hope for Nigeria.a country filled with pseudo religious yet godless people. Tufiaaaaaaaaa
as usual always misconstruing the Bible to make senseless point
you actually remind me of the movie"a few good men" actually going extinct

tomzman:

I dey tell you! I once led a group of people back in school. There were about 8 ladies in the group. Mehn those ladies almost ran me mad. An issue that would take the guys less than 2 minutes to agree upon, the ladies can drag that same issue for over an hour and still not come to a reasonable conclusion. Each of them would want so many different things and I as the leader had the herculean task of trying to find a balance so that we could move forward. That was when I began to wonder how men with 2, 3, 4 or more wives cope. Omo, na #TEAMONEWIFE o. One trouble is enough.

FrancisTony:

Understand bible before opening your putrid hole.
Judiaism is different from Christianity.

2 corinth 5:17 said that old things have passed away. We are therefore a new creation in Christ.

Those men practised Judaism not Christianity.

Input:

You see your selfishness, by the time everyman takes extra the population will greatly reduce

FrancisTony:

I'm not best of a Christian, sef. I'm a deist/agnostic.

I just love exposing hypocrisy of Christian men. They filter the one that suits them.

Polygamy suits them but bible is against it and they won't hestitate to say Feminism is evil.

They are bunch of hypocrites.

FrancisTony:

Isaiah 4:1.
That "seven women" would seek to be called by the name of "one man" is a clear evidence of polygamy (polygyny) in the Bible, even in prophecy such as this passage. Of course, though, the situation described in this prophetic verse is not all that positive.
A rather small minority, however, does view that verse as a "literal" prophecy, foretelling of a time when women might out-number men, seven-to-one.
Howbeit, most Bible-believers see that verse, instead, as a negative prophecy, regarding the churches of God seeking to "do their own thing".
According to the verse, the seven women are arrogant women. Their only motivation for marrying the man is to use him. They only want to be CALLED by the man's name, only so as to take away their reproach, their shame. But they still arrogantly want to do things their own way. They want to provide their own things their own way.
This, of course, does NOT present an image of the type of wives that Bible-believing men would want to marry! It certainly does not describe marriage within the Biblical marriage-model of Ephesians 5:22-25.
Given, as the majority of Bible-believers believe, that this prophecy is an image about arrogant churches (rather than "literally" about arrogant women wanting to marry a polygamist), this passage presents a "wake-up call" for all Bible-believers.
Namely, the "seven women" are understood as being churches who only want to be CALLED by the name of Christ, to be His brides. They only do so in hopes of having their fruitless shame (as per sin) removed, even though they still arrogantly want to do things their own way.
They want to feed themselves their own bread, instead of being fed on the bread of Christ.
They want to clothe themselves in their own apparel, instead of being clothed in the righteousness of Christ.
While there is reasonable debate among many as to whether the similitude of the "seven women" in Isaiah 4:1 is connected directly with the "seven churches" of Revelation chapters 2 and 3, many still agree, nevertheless, that Isaiah 4:1 is a negative prophecy concerning arrogant churches. It is the foretelling of seven churches wanting to marry Christ who do so only with a selfish motive to seek to have His salvation (i.e., to be CALLED "Christian", to be CALLED by His Name) but while, at the same time, still wanting to be doing things their own way, to stay in their sin. They want to be CALLED "Christian" but they do not want to BE Christian, in ALL their ways, "in spirit and in truth".