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Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by onadana: 11:13pm On Mar 20, 2015 |
Your post was presented as if that is the norm.A few divorce by people close to you does not mean it is the trend.People must divorce....people must marry. 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by koyyess: 11:15pm On Mar 20, 2015 |
1.People marry for really ridiculous and selfish reasons. 2.People don't know what marriage is all about. They view it as some kind of societal obligation/competition. A particular radio station threw a question out to listeners on what age a man/woman is to consider getting married. A male caller said for a lady, she should be 28+ and for a guy, he should be 32+ be cause marriage is for mature people. Though I believe age is no guarantee for maturity but I agree with that caller. At those respective ages, both sexes know what they want, they are more exposed, they have a better understanding of what marriage entails, their priorities in life becomes clearer, there's little room for childish games and can handle situations maturely. Statistics also proves that couples who wed 'late' are more likely to have successful marriages compared to others. People should consider these facts. . Divorce rates have nothing to do with western influence or education. I say this because even in those days, old female folks were getting married for up to 4..5 times. The means to promulgate such lifestyle was not there. We have that now and we are pointing fingers at the wrong places. People need to be more analytical in their reasoning. 4 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by Nobody: 11:19pm On Mar 20, 2015 |
Tallesty1:Ahneg elp me ask ham oo '` `°•.¸¸.•°``°``°•.¸¸.•° |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by Nobody: 11:19pm On Mar 20, 2015 |
Misogynist2014: Hmmmm Interesting But it is too weak You do care I have met men like you I laugh when you talk I don't even try to argue Because the only power you would ever hold over someone would be your wife and your daughters 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by DoroPussy: 11:21pm On Mar 20, 2015 |
On Point ! TheRainmaker1: 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by Nobody: 11:22pm On Mar 20, 2015 |
Vickybee: If this is your only reason, please do not get married - at least not now. Instead of getting angry/mad at me, you can ask me why. 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by cbrass(m): 11:23pm On Mar 20, 2015 |
Misogynist2014: Honestly women Are Just.....Well Let's Thank God for them. Am The only Male with 3 sisters And My mum....When They start Like This I Just Have To be very matured And extraordinary ly tolerant. 4 Likes |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by Karleb(m): 11:25pm On Mar 20, 2015 |
Vickybee: May thunder in anticipation fire the next individual that'll tell me that Feminism is not an anti-man scheme! 2 Likes |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by RedBororo(m): 11:26pm On Mar 20, 2015 |
Many marriage this days are arrangements. A man is ready to marry they get a wife for him |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by cbrass(m): 11:27pm On Mar 20, 2015 |
Lizabeth25: Yes joh... Have made Some cash And Still making Some cash through The internet So It's a Good thing To Use It. I Just Want To think most couples Didn't Just prepare for This thing Or probably because They lack tolerance for each other |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by komek(m): 11:27pm On Mar 20, 2015 |
All these let-me-ask-my-pastor kinda of marriages that exists these days are bound to crash under 5yrs. 3 Likes |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by cbrass(m): 11:28pm On Mar 20, 2015 |
Karleb: You Don vex o |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by Nobody: 11:28pm On Mar 20, 2015 |
Hmm, well. So many reasons are responsible as mentioned in many comments. But I'll just like to add dat knowing abt temperaments (with dia strengths and weaknesses, turn up and turnoffs) can really help in relationships of any kind. Many of us think we knw ourselves when we really don't have an inkling about what caused us(and others around us) to transit from childhood into d adulthood personality we now have. It may suprise you that many intellectuals still unconciously believe everybody thinks like them. However I have discovered over a long time dat knwing abt temperaments helps make an introvert a better person than it does to extroverts. 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by Misogynist2014(m): 11:29pm On Mar 20, 2015 |
Justfollowit:That is no little power my dear . If my wife is the submissive type, I need not assert any masculine power, but if she's the arrogant type, she will be fed up. Trust me. 4 Likes |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by koyyess: 11:30pm On Mar 20, 2015 |
Edusouls:Another truth. |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by Misogynist2014(m): 11:33pm On Mar 20, 2015 |
pussyaddict:I think the solution to a lot of break ups is a coin. A lot of relationships (now that women are growing in arrogance), partners find it hard to be the first to apologize, maybe a toss of coin is the solution. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by mekybabe1: 11:34pm On Mar 20, 2015 |
That's because the first five yrs of marriage are the most difficult. Getting to know the true nature of ur spouse, finance issues etc. 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by gabicon: 11:34pm On Mar 20, 2015 |
the misconception of infatuation for love. many think that love is a feeling, (which most times fade away averagely within the first two years of marriage) love is not a feeling its an ACT. we as human beings are subject to certain needs and our survival depends on these needs same goes with marriage each partner has certain needs and unless these needs are met their union no matter how they feel is heading for the rocks. the word action is gotten from act keeping a marriage is taking actions that may or may not be convenient just to please ones spouse. another big problem is the I phenomenon when a marriage is all about one of the partner the other feels left out, to have a successful marriage you have to give up the I's for the us. and finally a lot of nigerians have resorted to worshiping money instead of God there is a statistics that shows that 50% of marital problems are monetary in nature. the only way to learn how to love unconditionally is by loving God unconditionally we like it or not money answereth all things but doesn't redeem most things. Marriage is no cheap talk its hard work its a wonder how people use 20 years of their life to prepare for a career and 6 months to prepare for a lifetime process (marriage) |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by TV01(m): 11:34pm On Mar 20, 2015 |
kay29000: Marriage is all about Foundation! Foundation!! Foundation!!! And - right from courtship - it should be entered into with understanding & foresight. OP, let me ask you a question; (you have seen a number of marriages close too you crash) You were best man at two weddings that failed to make 5 years. Be honest with us, did you not see that either one or both of the couples involved were not ready or right for marriage? If so, what did you do? If not what business do you have being best man? And even with hindsight you still can't see what wasn't right? TV 2 Likes |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by PoorUgly(m): 11:41pm On Mar 20, 2015 |
kay29000: ASK GOOGLE!!!
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Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by Nobody: 11:43pm On Mar 20, 2015 |
Vickybee: Look, if ur father or brothers or any man who raised you was hard and tough on you or you've gone through some kinda of hardlife from men, being a feminist further make you unattractive to caring men. Some ladies, as a matter of reality have gone through some hardlife that makes dem see men as monsters. If ure 1 of such u should seek God or a psychologist to help u handle d effect of such hardship on you. D problem is not the men. The problem is ur wrong perception of who men are. Just a piece of advice 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by fatherlyplayer: 11:46pm On Mar 20, 2015 |
Money:A situation were d wife is gainfully employed N d husband is jobless watch that marriage carefully its is heading to sambisa forest. Some of d ladies of nowadays can not handel d role of a breadwinner with there BIG mouth. 2 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by tellwisdom: 11:52pm On Mar 20, 2015 |
Dyt: How far..your yansh still big? 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by Nobody: 11:52pm On Mar 20, 2015 |
Misogynist2014: Lol. That's true. That's a real point. But d phobia for "he/she'll think I'm a fool or a weakling if I apologize 1st" maybe why ppl aren't adopting d coin method 3 Likes |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by Nobody: 11:53pm On Mar 20, 2015 |
Misogynist2014: If men can find it difficult to submit to God Much less a fellow man like themselves That share most of their vulnerabilities if not all You are a joker A woman that would put up with you must have self-esteem issues No woman, who know her worth, who she really is, who came from a normal family,who is independent and whose mere sneeze commands respect would put up with a man like you A woman should be submissive but not according to your definition 3 Likes |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by Karleb(m): 11:57pm On Mar 20, 2015 |
cbrass: Egbon, I dey vex! Imagine some ladies telling me last week that Feminism is this, it's that and so on. What is there monicker sef. Now see that fungus infested fellow yarning nonsense! 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by efonat(m): 12:03am On Mar 21, 2015 |
Didn't they (women) see that before courting? Or they were carried away by material things leaving out what they should have observed in d man? Dyt: 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by efonat(m): 12:09am On Mar 21, 2015 |
My advise to men is to look out for this kind of women. They re destructive. I wonder what churches this days preach on marriage. I bet u guys if u re ready, u better start attending a living church and leave all this Americana churches. They preach chaff, derail people and take their money. same advise goes to the women. Justfollowit: 3 Likes |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by nkemdi89(f): 12:12am On Mar 21, 2015 |
A friend of mine marriage barely survived five months because of failure from the husband to replace her Iphone 5 that got stolen on their wedding day. 1 Like 2 Shares |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by Misogynist2014(m): 12:15am On Mar 21, 2015 |
Justfollowit:Maybe its your perception of me that make you see my view point as master and slave, I definitely don't want a dummy as wife, neither will I ever marry your so called 'independent' wife. My wife must be dependent on me, not necessarily think as I think, but her thinking must be convergent with mine. Every man wants a sense of ownership, a sense of possesiveness. That's all I ask for and that is what and who MY wife must be. P.S. Why do women tag financial oppulence as 'independence'? How do they correlate? 4 Likes |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by hensben(m): 12:17am On Mar 21, 2015 |
Vickybee:Shey u don start 2 Likes |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by efonat(m): 12:22am On Mar 21, 2015 |
Its simple ladies want to marry a rich dude while men want to marry an azonto babe. Not minding character. 3 Likes |
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