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Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by Nobody: 12:22am On Mar 21, 2015 |
Misogynist2014:j Because money in most cases is EVERYTHING I was referring to independence in all aspects of her life That is how you sound when you talk about women I know what you want You want a slave You can't have it both ways It is either she is a dummy or she is not You believe we are created to make you feel special Like I mentioned, I have met men like you I know how you think About traditional roles, Are you a Yoruba man? 2 Likes |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by Misogynist2014(m): 12:25am On Mar 21, 2015 |
Justfollowit:Yes |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by whytepawn1(m): 12:27am On Mar 21, 2015 |
Vickybee:your argument doesn't hold water. are you a marriage councillor or therapist ,if no then I think you haven't got enough justification to make such a comment. besides the fault could come from either of the two people in the marriage. 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by Nobody: 12:29am On Mar 21, 2015 |
Misogynist2014: This is the type of woman you want The one who wouldn't dare to walk out on you With any disagreement, you expect her to be the first to apologise You can bloody well ask her not to speak to her parents You can even seize her phone and she dare not complain If you both disagree, whether you are right or not- You expect her to go along with you Your meals must always be on time You don't mind asking her to touch her toes while you flog her She can't be tired to have sex, her job is to satisfy every of your needs She is just a mere human A tool for your own satisfaction Her mere existence to please every of your needs and wants 5 Likes |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by Nobody: 12:32am On Mar 21, 2015 |
Misogynist2014: You don miss road niyen Go back and read about the female roles in Yoruba They were submissive a little more than what is obtainable today But when comes to being insolent and damning men They would easily have a distinction It did not make them bad mothers Which is the most important thing |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by Misogynist2014(m): 12:34am On Mar 21, 2015 |
Justfollowit:You are writing things out of your own emotions, not mine. The more you continue, the more off-point you go. All I want is a woman that accepts me as her head and herself as my helper. Very simple. 3 Likes |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by Misogynist2014(m): 12:37am On Mar 21, 2015 |
Justfollowit:No, the most important thing is that they were humble and endurant, even when a lot of them could easily afford divorce. They knew their role. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by Nobody: 12:39am On Mar 21, 2015 |
Misogynist2014: Yeah, Lets use the stereotype I do emotion And I don't do emotion You definitely do not want to see that part of me So please don' use that stereotype on me at all I have read through more than 90% of your posts on Nairaland And your dp? Who are you kidding You think that is not what you want Yet you also think all that I have listed out can be justified Is it not you I know you You are not my first Misogynist And certainly you won't be my last That is what you will keep saying until it happens 2 Likes |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by Nobody: 12:44am On Mar 21, 2015 |
Misogynist2014: Can you see how you keep fooling yourself I know plenty old Yoruba women who had more than two husbands You know in Ibadan It was common practice for a woman to leave her husband and move in with their neighbour She may even decide to leave the neighbour and move to the next neghbour She wouldn't even fail to have children fro each of them By the time she is really old and the first husband dies She would move back to his house to mourn him Or they may decide to start living together again Would you like examples from other part of the Yoruba states Have you heard of the tale between Sango and Ogun 2 Likes |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by Misogynist2014(m): 12:44am On Mar 21, 2015 |
Justfollowit:Truth be told, women of nowadays can breed hatred, but if our forefathers treated our mothers well and allowed them to air their opinion and have a career, why shouldn't I? 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by Misogynist2014(m): 12:47am On Mar 21, 2015 |
Justfollowit:Gist me |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by Nobody: 12:49am On Mar 21, 2015 |
Misogynist2014: The way some men treat their spouses today can't be compared to how our forefathers treated them Some women nowadays can not even leave and when they decide to leave, they end up losing their children Whereas in that era most could leave whether their parents agreed to it or not They had less domestic work, you cannot compare what they had to do with what we have to do 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by ScaryLolu: 12:49am On Mar 21, 2015 |
Vickybee: |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by Nobody: 12:51am On Mar 21, 2015 |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by Misogynist2014(m): 12:52am On Mar 21, 2015 |
Justfollowit:Polygamy 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by Misogynist2014(m): 12:56am On Mar 21, 2015 |
Justfollowit:Then it is right to say the coming of the west is of disadvantage to women, even considering the huge worth placed on their body, all of which has been lost. |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by Cmanforall: 12:57am On Mar 21, 2015 |
kay29000: -Less time for courtship...(Check those that started dating in Uni n ended up being married, you never hear of divorce) -Not mature enough mentally & otherwise before marriage.... -Misunderstanding/incompatibility -Finance -Arranged marriage -Marriage based mainly on parental satisfaction/wealth... -Involving 3rd party in marriage #my1kobo |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by Nobody: 1:03am On Mar 21, 2015 |
Misogynist2014: Even with polygamy If they feared their husband so much They wouldn't pour sand or salt in his soup #rivalry# My greatgrandmother was an Ijebu woman She married her husband, also an Ijebu She was the 2nd wife According to my mum, he married her because the first wife was mean She was devil reicarnate Sometimes when she is angry She wouldn't serve him his food Did it changed when he married my greatgrqndmother It did but then sometimes she had to travel Oyo on foot to buy her goods Who cooked for him while she was away She died before the first wife And even at that old age It did not change anything- she will share her food when she feels like it Most of these men get punished for their mistakes while they were young The women that endured it made sure they paid them back when they were helpless This is not just mere words o You carry out the research yourself I laugh when people say women are more insolent No, they are not They simply could't wait like their mothers did Even most loving Mummy and Daddy relationships you see nowadays Try to observe and live with them for a couple of days and see how the man is being treated You go fear |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by Nobody: 1:07am On Mar 21, 2015 |
Misogynist2014: Yep Well, at least to me I would have loved to have that freedom of moving from one man's house to another I reject it 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by Cmanforall: 1:08am On Mar 21, 2015 |
Vickybee: Smh... I've known you to be making reasonable comments, but definitely, Not This! 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by Emirofsambisa1: 1:12am On Mar 21, 2015 |
Seriously, I blame GEJ |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by Misogynist2014(m): 1:16am On Mar 21, 2015 |
Justfollowit:I must say your mind games was working(not now) , because you painted a side of the story that nollywood have left behind or try not to portray with ancient times or we young generation think they were perfect, but we can't remove the fact that submission was not choice but necessity. They show this by kneeling down to serve food and using captivating words like 'olowo orimi' (my owner) We just can't ignore the thrills. Bye to the good times of yesteryears. |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by Misogynist2014(m): 1:19am On Mar 21, 2015 |
Justfollowit:Women have lost a lot of dignity. Do you agree? Did you read Eegun alare? 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by Nobody: 1:20am On Mar 21, 2015 |
Misogynist2014: I read Eegun Alare I can't remember Would you care to summarise or just point out something to jog my memory 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by Nobody: 1:23am On Mar 21, 2015 |
Misogynist2014: I never said they did not submit You need to go out there and observe what is really happening and what happened Because I have tales and I have witnessed some myself |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by Misogynist2014(m): 1:25am On Mar 21, 2015 |
Justfollowit:Do you remember when Ije Laarinaka's father saw his son's wife? What went through his mind? What exactly was he seeking to do with his son's wife? |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by Nobody: 1:26am On Mar 21, 2015 |
Misogynist2014: I am so ashamed of myself right now I don't remember I remember that name though |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by Misogynist2014(m): 1:27am On Mar 21, 2015 |
Justfollowit:Are you saying women are being oppressed by their spouses more than ever before? |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by Misogynist2014(m): 1:31am On Mar 21, 2015 |
Justfollowit:When he saw her, he said, Look at this yellow lady. After that, what came to his mind was how he could acquire her for a wife. I think that is a lot of respect, considering the fact that women are seen for sexual pleasure these days, thanks to the west. |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by Nobody: 1:37am On Mar 21, 2015 |
Misogynist2014: I think men have failed to adapt Women ave taken more roles that were no there in those days They have to work and yet they are also expected to do everything in the house They may not earn more but they worked as hard all the same To me I believe if the family setting can be changed to what we had in those days that is family members living all around you Either in the same compound or on the same street It would reduce the stress on the woman and she wouldn't need to ask her husband to mop up the living room because she is tired Till then, The modern woman is doing more than her ancestors had to do Therefore do not expect her to behave exactly like they had done 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by Nobody: 1:44am On Mar 21, 2015 |
Misogynist2014: I can't remember Yeah, that is quite honourable of him He is not going to use and dump her like a piece of shit |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by Misogynist2014(m): 1:56am On Mar 21, 2015 |
Justfollowit:You are right. Maybe second wife, maid(might be daily, which comes in evenin, bringing family members to live with you or being full housewife till the children come of age can help cos some duties aren't befitting for the male ego(except you are the meek type) as quarrels (marriage breaking) will surely emanate. |
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