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Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by Nobody: 2:01am On Mar 21, 2015 |
Misogynist2014: That is your problem, you can ADAPT Or you could reach an agreement with your wife Why would a woman hold off her career except if clearly she wanted to Do you think it is that easy to go in and out of job market What about HER career How many family can conveniently afford a maid The idea of second wife is common among Muslim families in UK But still I don't fully support it Because what if she does not want to share her husband |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by thekingsreturn(m): 2:03am On Mar 21, 2015 |
1. Communication: most of the couples nowadays don't talk to each other as they are suppose to do. they refuse to communicate with one another. 2. Trust: most of the couples does not trust one another. 3. Courtship after marriage: the way couple lives after their wedding change, because they don't continue the courtship after their wedding. 4. Endurance: most of people nowadays can't endure anything and it's affecting our lives negatively. 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by profayita: 2:32am On Mar 21, 2015 |
what i feel is dt ds days.pple get married 4 wrong reasons:age,money,beauty etc.till after marriage b4 eyes clear.then wahala comes. Happy marriage is a union of two good forgivers. Both mustn't seek after perfection . 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by Nobody: 3:08am On Mar 21, 2015 |
Marriage is a means to an end, and not an end in itself. Most people enter into marriages for the short haul and thus plans/goals/preparations are in this light. Seriously those aren't marriages but hambuger unions.before one get married ask yourself can I tolerate this person for life etc In a nutshell OP marriages isn't what fails but the people that think they are into it, but in something else completely strange and different. |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by ttmacoy: 3:24am On Mar 21, 2015 |
Getting married for the wrong reasons e.g. social or family pressure Lack of trust in the marriage Lack of communication in the marriage Lack of respect for one another Refusing to leave your family to become one with your spouse thereby opening the door to interference from other parties. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by bee444: 3:27am On Mar 21, 2015 |
Lots of opinions here. What we now have is reverse - education. Women now know too much. And you know what they say about people who "know" too much! You can't even advise these bunch anymore. They all have ready made answers to everything. Humility is no more and talking too much is now seen as boldness and independent. Put a little money in any ladies hand, she'll instantly become a control freak. They no longer follow the teachings of the Bible and would rather copy and paste western ideas to their brains. Their relationship with water and soap is becoming more expensive, hence their aggressiveness. Women now wants to dominate and do the talking in a relationship. These things kills relationship and marriage fast than boko haram. If you wanna stay longer than the five years margin in your marriage, the logic is just simple.... feed me, fuvk me abd shut the fuvk up. Men wants food, seex and silence. Learn these things and y'all be aiit. 5 Likes |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by 360command: 3:42am On Mar 21, 2015 |
thistopic:I am tired of your pornographic picture you display |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by Ikengawo: 4:09am On Mar 21, 2015 |
Venom104:LMMFAAAOOOO |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by Nweike1: 5:13am On Mar 21, 2015 |
donsteady:u just summarized the situation well |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by KingsleyCEO: 5:38am On Mar 21, 2015 |
D rate at which marriages collapse now is assuming a social status symbol in our society. In no-time, people will be throwing divorce parties and invite friends n well-wishers to celebrate their divorce anniversaries; they will choose aso-ebi, hire a hall and popular musicians & what have you. Even a question like "So when are u getting divorced?" will become common. If u know u can't handle the weight & pressures of marriage, pls remain single. If u don't know what marriage is all about, pls remain single until u do. If u are getting married because of the things u desire or hope to gain from the other person pls remain single. If u know u can't be faithful, remain single. If u can't endure insults from one another, pls remain single. If u can't forgive one another's wrongs, pls remain single. If u can't place ur spouse above every other human being, pls remain single! Don't get married out of desperation. "All my friends are getting married" is d most foolish reason to get married! If u desire a successful home, but ur choice of friends are forces not to reckon with, think again. Be very mindful of where you go for advices, Many would give, but not many mean well! Guys, if u know u can't put ur wife ahead of ur ego, pls remain single till u're mature. Ur wife is your priority and EVERYTHING else including u, comes last. You are d teacher, d guide, d bodyguard, d role model - u are not a deity or God. So do not expect to b worshiped. U need respect, earn it by being responsible! Ladies, if u know u can't be submissive pls don't go into marriage so u're not turned to a punch bag! If u know u can't stand being corrected, pls remain single. Mr/Mrs I know it all!!! Ladies check ur domestic scorecard - if ur score is 0, pls stay in ur parents' house! People, pls make ur marriages work. Marry for love, marry ur friend, put God 1st. 3 Likes |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by jantavanta(m): 5:50am On Mar 21, 2015 |
The first marriage has become a mere coming of age ceremony for ladies. It is done to please parents and respond to social pressure. Nobody cares if the marriage lasts, all they want is to come and eat rice. |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by Zikkie(f): 5:58am On Mar 21, 2015 |
Justfollowit: Intelligent! 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by Nobody: 6:12am On Mar 21, 2015 |
Thunder fire each and every man that quoted me on this thread. Y'all didn't see that the first point raised by dude above me is anti-feminism/woman but choose to attack me for airing mine. Bunch of hypocrites. 3 Likes |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by idupaul: 6:35am On Mar 21, 2015 |
Vickybee: I like U |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by Nobody: 6:37am On Mar 21, 2015 |
lack of Communication and Understand |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by muutbiz(m): 6:42am On Mar 21, 2015 |
My People let us stop blameing one another. The problem is not the Male or the female folk, evident on the kind of cases we have witnessed on Nairaland lately. The problem is that in the last days knowledge will increase and the activites of the devil will be so high. So who ever listened to him at that point in time becomes vulnerable. Remember all the point listed are his deposits, feeding u gradually overtime only waiting to crystallize. Like the woman who threw her husband from the window because of money. its not a gender thing, the husband would have thrown the wife also. Remember its both of them that the devil has been feeding. The aim is death, activities that guides our do and donts now needs to be balanced by moderation and patience. Like the incidence that happened in the UK that a russian teenage girl and a mexican teenage boy whose father was a rich politician met at a party for the first time and they where romancing themselve at the balcony before they both fell down and died. Let us stop blameing and start loving. Lets guide all our actions with fairness, equity, justice and fair play. Above all love your neighbour as yourself. With this two the world will be a better place for we all. |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by ImBae(f): 6:53am On Mar 21, 2015 |
Men blaming women, Women blaming men...blah blah blah 2 Likes |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by Misogynist2014(m): 6:55am On Mar 21, 2015 |
Justfollowit:Can two walk together unless they agree? I think it is more about communication and appreciation. Maybe if women reference (are humble and obedient) to men that do the dirty jobs at home, maybe chores that look unmanly can even be a source of fun to the man, fun which he will live to relish for ages. |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by Tunsboy17(m): 7:02am On Mar 21, 2015 |
kay29000: END TIME |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by dein77(m): 7:03am On Mar 21, 2015 |
A lot of reasons. .. Marrying for the wrong reasons. Top much expectations. Pride and foolishness, especially from the male folks. Intolerance and impatience from both camps. . Men expecting their wives to be robot and without brains. Third party interference. ..... Lack of steady communication; communication is the live wire of every home. You don't pray, you become spiritually weak. You don't communicate with your spouse; you may fall apart. Failure of leadership from the husband. Lack of wisdom from both parties. 6 years and still waxing on....no be by my power... |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by femi4: 7:05am On Mar 21, 2015 |
Vickybee: |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by Nobody: 7:10am On Mar 21, 2015 |
Vickybee:little girl, see the way u are insulting people here like u can open ur mouth to say so in real life. U could have just stated ur point and left instead of the curse word. U really got a lot of growin up to do. I blame the internet for allowing children like u open ur mouth and spew rubbishh. I only feel sorry for ur bf, that's if u have any. 3 Likes |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by linusbnn(m): 7:11am On Mar 21, 2015 |
Vickybee: As u fine like dis,nai u dey cause "thunder fire" u must be a local gurl 2 Likes |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by Edusouls(m): 7:13am On Mar 21, 2015 |
Vickybee:you see the what we are just talking about, how women of nowadays are so untaimed and very impossible to be..look at the kind of abuse and provocative word that an untaimed wild animal like you use openely on social media, and thus you are a potential future wife for some man, if u abuse him this way in his home,kassallah never start for the marriage?the high rate of divorce is mainly caused by this generation of disaster women.. 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by Nobody: 7:13am On Mar 21, 2015 |
linusbnn:fine ke! That's induced beauty of beauty without brains (BWB) 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by Edusouls(m): 7:14am On Mar 21, 2015 |
duperola:yees it is true ma guy.. |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by Peejayybold(f): 7:23am On Mar 21, 2015 |
Cos they don't understand why they should marry |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by linusbnn(m): 7:23am On Mar 21, 2015 |
lrguru: Bro, I tire for small small girls nowadays oooo,dem dey wan copy men activities,but failed to know when nd where to display such copied atitude/action....Thunder fire you can be a playful insult among paddies nd we laugh over it,not cumin here to show her level of reasoning...too childish 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by Nobody: 7:29am On Mar 21, 2015 |
linusbnn:personally I was shocked to see such comin from a lady, it shows lack of home training and illiteracy. How can a sane person use such word on a forum like this knowin fully well there are intellectuals here and cos of her rare privilege of havin access to the internet makes her feel she has the right to open her guts anyhow. I only pray her situation improves, cos any man who marries the one is headed for destruction in 365 days 2 Likes |
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