Please friends what do i do? .I really need to move on, your honest advice is needed
Please fellow Nairalanders i need your honest advice on this whole drama.

I have a girlfriend whom i dated for a year, during that one romantic year we were best of friends, lovers, Romeo and Juliet name it, but we never had a single misunderstanding that lasted for more than an hour. Both of us remain fidelity to each other to the best of my knowledge and no single issue of cheating or suspect was recorded all through this romantic period. But all of a sudden she call it a quit two weeks after my graduation with the reason that she wants to be alone but due to the love i have for her i decide to beg her and persist in begging her even when i have done nothing wrong to her or offend her in anyway. The most painful part of it is that she keep telling me that we cannot be and that if she marry me, that she will HURT ME, so after some time i decide to move on with my life. For two years now that we separated i have stay away from Girls because her taught can’t go away from me, i see her as the only best woman in the world

Now i have finished my service and i want to get serious with any relationship i hope to be, but she won’t stop calling me on phone every now and there TAGGING ME HER FRIEND but not her love am not comfortable with friend zone at this stage in life, at times i will also call her and we spend time on phone, though am still applicant. Now each time she call me i will be destabilize with whatever am doing and keeping thinking of her. I can’t even get close to some other girls because of her taught in me. I love this girl that losing her look as if i ve lose everything on earth. I have warn her many a time to stop calling me but she refuse insisting that she is my friend that she can’t stop calling .

How do i let her out of my life so that i can move on with my, stop her calls and any form of communications from her, am in pains seeing my love put me in a friend zone . Please friends what do i do? .I really need to move on, your honest advice is needed

Op your write up could do with a lot of editing..as for your problem honestly been there before and it hurts but the first thing you have to do is cut off all form or sources of communication i know its hard heck I'm sure you have her number off head but you have to stop don't pick her calls don't reply texts just stop cus she's only keeping u around incase her current rltshp hits the rocks..get busy with something movies or books I'd advise seasonal films...spend less time alone and be with friends just find something to distract urself it will take time but ud learn to get over it and if you lucky someone who deserves u is just around the corner..good luck

Change Your number..gaskia

stan241:
Op your write up could do with a lot of editing..as for your problem honestly been there before and it hurts but the first thing you have to do is cut off all form or sources of communication i know its hard heck I'm sure you have her number off head but you have to stop don't pick her calls don't reply texts just stop cus she's only keeping u around incase her current rltshp hits the rocks..get busy with something movies or books I'd advise seasonal films...spend less time alone and be with friends just find something to distract urself it will take time but ud learn to get over it and if you lucky someone who deserves u is just around the corner..good luck

Bro thank you so much for your piece of advice, i will try just that and i pray it work this time

I won't say I understand how you feel.. Because I've never been in your shoes before and I don't intend to, but really how hard can it get to see that she's using you, many girls want to have a loving boyfriend and at the same time the sweetest ever male best buddy.... But it doesn't work that way.... Girls by default are manipulative and you just have to see that she's manipulating you.

1.Block her number.
2. If she calls you with another number, block it
3.If you don't have an app that blocks phone numbers, go and download it
4.If you don't have a phone that can accommodate a phone number blocking app, then anytime she calls with an unknown number, once you pick and hear her voice. Cut the call
5. Keep cutting until she gets the message that you would rather date a snake than date her

Dude.... You have to take charge of your life... Don't allow anybody, woman or man to make you a shadow of yourself...if you continue like this, when you get that super cool job, you won't be able to concentrate and give it your best effort because you're busy thinking about some overly manipulative idiiot of a girl who wants to eat her cake and have it.

Deuces!

Linzo:


Bro thank you so much for your piece of advice, i will try just that and i pray it work this time

it sure will bro and whenever you feel the urge to call her again log in to nairaland and read the advise all over again..cheers

Igwevalentine:
Change Your number..gaskia

I have thought of that but the issue for now is that i have used my number in all my applications and currently am at the last stage of recruitment with 3 banks so it will be difficult to lose my lines

No amount of advice will work,, if u dnt decide to ma u-turn urself..!

Work on urself.. Make a decision.. Move on.. and NEVER look back.. Be a Man..!!

seconded

InZA:
I won't say I understand how you feel.. Because I've never been in your shoes before and I don't intend to, but really how hard can it get to see that she's using you, many girls want to have a loving boyfriend and at the same time the sweetest ever male best buddy.... But it doesn't work that way.... Girls by default are manipulative and you just have to see that she's manipulating you.

1.Block her number.
2. If she calls you with another number, block it
3.If you don't have an app that blocks phone numbers, go and download it
4.If you don't have a phone that can accommodate a phone number blocking app, then anytime she calls with an unknown number, once you pick and hear her voice. Cut the call
5. Keep cutting until she gets the message that you would rather date a snake than date her

Dude.... You have to take charge of your life... Don't allow anybody, woman or man to make you a shadow of yourself...if you continue like this, when you get that super cool job, you won't be able to concentrate and give it your best effort because you're busy thinking about some overly manipulative idiiot of a girl who wants to eat her cake and have it.

Deuces!

Thanks, ya i have a phone that blocks number from calling but am thinking i should send her a test that i dnt need her communications in any form and then block her line

Linzo:


Thanks, ya i have a phone that blocks number from calling but am thinking i should send her a test that i dnt need her communications in any form and then block her line

Don't send a text.... Block her now now.. Sending a text is still a subtle reflection that you care about her opinion... So block her already. Let her try to call you and hear the app tell her "stupiid girl, the owner of this line has blocked it, go get a life"

Linzo:


Thanks, ya i have a phone that blocks number from calling but am thinking i should send her a test that i dnt need her communications in any form and then block her line

And datz z how you will continue to block every lady that breaks up with you in future..?? Tell them not to call you or come your way againg..??
U nid to handle this matter as a Man,, dnt be over-shadowed by love..
Maybe u still nid to read ma prev comment again..

timijoseph01:

And datz z how you will continue to block every lady that breaks up with you in future..?? Tell them not to call you or come your way againg..??
U nid to handle this matter as a Man,, dnt be over-shadowed by love..
Maybe u still nid to read ma prev comment again..

Thanks for your encouragement bro

I hate such ladies really. I hav one currently goin tru hell in my hands coz she played games wit my emotions wen I was a learner. I will teach her a bitter lesson
@op, if I were u, I will nt block her, get hold of ur emotions, control urself! Use dat biatch as a play tin until u get urself another gf, then blow it up in her face!
"I've got a gf now and I dnt want to cheat on her"

@ jenams, i would have love to play along but am not kid anymore, i want a serious and steady relationship.

When she dumped u,she probably had someone who she wanted to kick it with, and friend zoning u might be a way for her to keep tabs on u,so dat she gets u easly wen her boo lets her down.i say forget her completly,why must u b someone's second best,wen u be someone's only best out there.try as much as possible to get her of yo mind and start dating other ppl.even if its not for serious relationships,just go out on dates and have fun.eventually u wil meet a good demsel who will love u with all her being,and u will also feel de same and forget abt this girl does nt seem to adore u enough

this is called emotional torture.. she knows how she feels but doesn't want to date you and she still wants you around as a friend.. girls can be so mean .

I had a girl dat wanted to do the same thing to back on school. I was so into this girl dat it took me a long time to get over her. now I've moved on I'm meeting other girls.


op move on and meet other pipo. I think one of the reasons why your feeling it much is cuz you haven't gotten a job yet. trust me when u get busy it comes easy

Nigga ur too soft.

Grow some balls....... Huge ones.
Can't you see that girl is manipulating you




Make I no swear for you o, you hear me

InZA:
I won't say I understand how you feel.. Because I've never been in your shoes before and I don't intend to, but really how hard can it get to see that she's using you, many girls want to have a loving boyfriend and at the same time the sweetest ever male best buddy.... But it doesn't work that way.... Girls by default are manipulative and you just have to see that she's manipulating you.

1.Block her number.
2. If she calls you with another number, block it
3.If you don't have an app that blocks phone numbers, go and download it
4.If you don't have a phone that can accommodate a phone number blocking app, then anytime she calls with an unknown number, once you pick and hear her voice. Cut the call
5. Keep cutting until she gets the message that you would rather date a snake than date her

Dude.... You have to take charge of your life... Don't allow anybody, woman or man to make you a shadow of yourself...if you continue like this, when you get that super cool job, you won't be able to concentrate and give it your best effort because you're busy thinking about some overly manipulative idiiot of a girl who wants to eat her cake and have it.

Deuces!

I love Chris brown


Dont derail,I just did dat.....oops

ivyT:



I love Chris brown


Dont derail,I just did dat.....oops

I don't see how Chris Brown fits into this

she is capitalizing on your weakness.
only you can set yourself free,if she can't give you another chance then stop all communications with her and focus on your life.#its not easy but you can do it#

Linzo:
Please friends what do i do? .I really need to move on, your honest advice is needed
Please fellow Nairalanders i need your honest advice on this whole drama.

I have a girlfriend whom i dated for a year, during that one romantic year we were best of friends, lovers, Romeo and Juliet name it, but we never had a single misunderstanding that lasted for more than an hour. Both of us remain fidelity to each other to the best of my knowledge and no single issue of cheating or suspect was recorded all through this romantic period. But all of a sudden she call it a quit two weeks after my graduation with the reason that she wants to be alone but due to the love i have for her i decide to beg her and persist in begging her even when i have done nothing wrong to her or offend her in anyway. The most painful part of it is that she keep telling me that we cannot be and that if she marry me, that she will HURT ME, so after some time i decide to move on with my life. For two years now that we separated i have stay away from Girls because her taught can’t go away from me, i see her as the only best woman in the world

Now i have finished my service and i want to get serious with any relationship i hope to be, but she won’t stop calling me on phone every now and there TAGGING ME HER FRIEND but not her love am not comfortable with friend zone at this stage in life, at times i will also call her and we spend time on phone, though am still applicant. Now each time she call me i will be destabilize with whatever am doing and keeping thinking of her. I can’t even get close to some other girls because of her taught in me. I love this girl that losing her look as if i ve lose everything on earth. I have warn her many a time to stop calling me but she refuse insisting that she is my friend that she can’t stop calling .

How do i let her out of my life so that i can move on with my, stop her calls and any form of communications from her, am in pains seeing my love put me in a friend zone . Please friends what do i do? .I really need to move on, your honest advice is needed

Get a job.

That's what you need now and not her. Let the bold solely bother you now.

I don't paint words.

Oh bro!!! You have been bitten by a love bug. And if not checked, it could go straight to the bone marrow and.....

what you need now is an antidote. Tell yourself she is not the most beautiful girl in the world.
Tell your self that every thing in this world got spear part.

Tell your self that her brand is all love that if you search more you can see. Those are the antidote.

Then in terms of reality, tell her you are a busy man she should stop calling unless something serious. But I know you can't say a thing like that because I read where you were begging stupidly like she got diamond rubbed all over her body.

Please stop all this and move on. Keep her in the bin of the past

Here is a plan get a good female friend that can act as your girlfriend when she calls don't pick until the fourth time let your female friend pick the call and tell her you are busy that she should call back later. When she do call back pick it and tell her she is your new found love and she is not comfortable with the way she calls you. If she persist give the other girl the permission to insult her to stay away from you, nothing girls hate pass their fellow girls insult.

GinaKing:
When she dumped u,she probably had someone who she wanted to kick it with, and friend zoning u might be a way for her to keep tabs on u,so dat she gets u easly wen her boo lets her down.i say forget her completly,why must u b someone's second best,wen u be someone's only best out there.try as much as possible to get her of yo mind and start dating other ppl.even if its not for serious relationships,just go out on dates and have fun.eventually u wil meet a good demsel who will love u with all her being,and u will also feel de same and forget abt this girl does nt seem to adore u enough

That is what i observe, she really want to friend zone me to keep tab on me but i just ve to keep away from her and stop all forms of communications

jnrbayano:


Get a job.

That's what you need now and not her. Let the bold solely bother you now.

I don't paint words.

Thanks bro i think am really working hard towards getting a job and that is my number one priority for now

I had the same case,. When I travelled, she was seeinf another guy and having continuous sex with him. When I got back to Nigeria, she confessed. I live in Ibadan, she lives in Lagos. I made sure she used her money to always come to Ibadan to apologize and beg to continue our relationship, I always f*ck her mercilessly, after many months, I just showed her the way out of my life. Meaning that some women or ladies might be do bitchy and animalistic. Make up your mind as a man. There are lots of girls that are far better and qualitative more than her.

summerflame:
I had the same case,. When I travelled, she was seeinf another guy and having continuous sex with him. When I got back to Nigeria, she confessed. I live in Ibadan, she lives in Lagos. I made sure she used her money to always come to Ibadan to apologize and beg to continue our relationship, I always f*ck her mercilessly, after many months, I just showed her the way out of my life. Meaning that some women or ladies might be do bitchy and animalistic. Make up your mind as a man. There are lots of girls that are far better and qualitative more than her.

Guy ya understand you but it's not easy to move on, though I have decided to let go and so be it. Thanks man and God bless

Ucheosefoh:
Here is a plan get a good female friend that can act as your girlfriend when she calls don't pick until the fourth time let your female friend pick the call and tell her you are busy that she should call back later. When she do call back pick it and tell her she is your new found love and she is not comfortable with the way she calls you. If she persist give the other girl the permission to insult her to stay away from you, nothing girls hate pass their fellow girls insult.

I think that is a good idea I just have to get a female friend and divert my feelings

ivyT:



I love Chris brown


Dont derail,I just did dat.....oops

Lol

Bro, nothing is impossible. Be a man and make a decision. Stop putting yourself in an emotional bondage