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Do You Help Your Ex Wife? by onila(f): 8:52pm On Mar 21, 2015 |
I heard Nigerian men rarely help their ex wives especially when he married again because his new wife will be jealous My father still takes care of my mother even tho they have been divorced like for ever at the moment, my mother is helping my father do one of his site business in another state pple always praise my father and say what hes doing is rare even tho he married again |
Re: Do You Help Your Ex Wife? by darisgod(m): 8:54pm On Mar 21, 2015 |
Ummmm Am here to learn |
Re: Do You Help Your Ex Wife? by henribj(m): 8:54pm On Mar 21, 2015 |
okay, thanks for the added information after your question very educative 2 Likes |
Re: Do You Help Your Ex Wife? by Nobody: 8:59pm On Mar 21, 2015 |
[s]I send money to my broke Ex boyfriend once in a while, I feel indebted sort of cos he was nice but I still broke up with him.[/s] Onila hope this adds value to your thread 2 Likes |
Re: Do You Help Your Ex Wife? by Allureoftheseas(m): 9:13pm On Mar 21, 2015 |
firstEVA: Confirm mbeke girl. |
Re: Do You Help Your Ex Wife? by Nobody: 9:15pm On Mar 21, 2015 |
Allureoftheseas:believe the story at your own risk, mgbeke boy |
Re: Do You Help Your Ex Wife? by AODT(m): 9:18pm On Mar 21, 2015 |
I don't see anything wrong with giving a helping hand when it is needed and this is irrespective of the person in need. I will gladly render any assistance I can offer if she needs it and come to think about it, it takes alot of courage and humility for an ex to come back to you asking for help. If you don't help, what are you? 1 Like |
Re: Do You Help Your Ex Wife? by Ewuro4: 9:29pm On Mar 21, 2015 |
Your case is an exception. So yes it's true, they rarely help their exes. Besides, Licking your own vomit is not an easy pill to swallow esp in Nigerian society, the man is already moved on and the woman, bitter and angry for the most part. And the concubines ? Another drama chapter entirely But yes for the sake of the kids, you gotta do what you gotta do. it's alright I guess. Things are changing. My Caucasian friend have shared custody with her ex , even though she hates his guts and cusses him out every now & then . they are in good terms and always on same page when it comes to their kids. This is actually a good topic to discuss OP. |
Re: Do You Help Your Ex Wife? by cococandy(f): 9:36pm On Mar 21, 2015 |
Onila he's only doing what the law would require him to do if it were a working system. Are you guys not kids afterall? |
Re: Do You Help Your Ex Wife? by onila(f): 9:48pm On Mar 21, 2015 |
cococandy:in Nigeria nothing like child support nothing like divorce settlement in Naija I know many Nigerian women who are stranded because of this they have no choice to stand by their feet without their husband despite being married to a rich man before its sad, something has to be done |
Re: Do You Help Your Ex Wife? by henribj(m): 9:56pm On Mar 21, 2015 |
yeah women should stop f..king depending on the man to foot all the bills shey the woman no go school nii? her certificate na for decoration she no get business sense nii? make she start up a business because she born pikin for the man and then they divorce mean say the man go turn father christmas on top her matter? if she no fit train the kid/s make she hand am over to the man case closed |
Re: Do You Help Your Ex Wife? by onila(f): 10:14pm On Mar 21, 2015 |
henribj: will you give her divorce settlement or dump her without nothing, like most Nigerian men |
Re: Do You Help Your Ex Wife? by henribj(m): 10:31pm On Mar 21, 2015 |
onila: would you advise i give her divorce settlement if she is guilty and her actions are the reason for the divorce? |
Re: Do You Help Your Ex Wife? by ireneidiva(f): 12:17am On Mar 22, 2015 |
henribj:Seconded. He should just support his kids. He owes his ex wife nothing! |
Re: Do You Help Your Ex Wife? by coogar: 12:23am On Mar 22, 2015 |
onila: he helps your mother because of you & your siblings. even though they are separated, he would always be involved in what would benefit you & his other kids with your mother. he's doing what every sensible father does - i don't think it's rare. 5 Likes |
Re: Do You Help Your Ex Wife? by cococandy(f): 12:57am On Mar 22, 2015 |
We are talking about supporting your kids and you're saying spending on the man. Depending on him for what? To take care of his kids? Is he doing the woman a favor by helping to provide for the kids they birthed equally? henribj: |
Re: Do You Help Your Ex Wife? by Ewuro4: 1:05am On Mar 22, 2015 |
cococandy: I think you're getting it wrong. OP isn't talking about child support but providing for the woman personal needs after separation ( Alimony) Read the OP again. #Deadbeats only ignore their kids wellbeing after divorce. Nigerian men are in minority. |
Re: Do You Help Your Ex Wife? by henribj(m): 1:06am On Mar 22, 2015 |
ireneidiva: thank you ja re na wa o, so if na say the woman use love portion hold me for work, and my eyes come clear later on after which i decide to divorce am, make i still give am divorce settlement join? no nah, that one mean say i dey encourage am for job well done, the love portion never clear completely for my eyes be that. |
Re: Do You Help Your Ex Wife? by henribj(m): 1:11am On Mar 22, 2015 |
cococandy: please calm down, its too early in the morning to get worked up yeah sure i will support and provide for my kids but what i will not tolerate is for the ex wife to sit back, fold her arms, cross her legs, and just be depending on me cos of say she born pikin for me na im be say she just chook pipe/hose for my a..hole and just dey suck out all my brain matter |
Re: Do You Help Your Ex Wife? by onila(f): 1:24am On Mar 22, 2015 |
henribj: My mother is doing a manz job @ the moment shes sand filling a whole river shes the only woman on that site, standing under hot sun everyday she is not siting down chopping money My father wld never give his current wife that kind of job |
Re: Do You Help Your Ex Wife? by henribj(m): 1:27am On Mar 22, 2015 |
onila: hold on a minute lemme understand your comment are you saying your mom is supervising the site? or your mom is a laborer at the site? |
Re: Do You Help Your Ex Wife? by onila(f): 1:29am On Mar 22, 2015 |
henribj:supervising lol |
Re: Do You Help Your Ex Wife? by cococandy(f): 1:33am On Mar 22, 2015 |
henribj: I'm very calm mister. |
Re: Do You Help Your Ex Wife? by henribj(m): 1:38am On Mar 22, 2015 |
onila: does your dad not pay your mom for the supervising job? besides he no fit use him current wife run this package nah a lot of 9ja men don't want their wife knowing the amount/quantity of assets they own |
Re: Do You Help Your Ex Wife? by henribj(m): 1:38am On Mar 22, 2015 |
Re: Do You Help Your Ex Wife? by cococandy(f): 1:39am On Mar 22, 2015 |
Ok Ewuro4: |
Re: Do You Help Your Ex Wife? by cococandy(f): 1:40am On Mar 22, 2015 |
henribj: No question |
Re: Do You Help Your Ex Wife? by onila(f): 1:40am On Mar 22, 2015 |
henribj:you have too thats how it shld be u Nigerian men can get away with child support, divorce settlement in Naija abroad, its a must whether shes guilty or not |
Re: Do You Help Your Ex Wife? by henribj(m): 1:48am On Mar 22, 2015 |
cococandy: were you able to get a conclusive line on the spirit world thingy? am a bit curious about it as well |
Re: Do You Help Your Ex Wife? by henribj(m): 1:50am On Mar 22, 2015 |
onila: if i hear say a guilty woman for abroad will get away with divorce settlement are you telling me that if my wife cheats on me, and i am able to provide conclusive evidence of her cheating/adultery, that the court will go ahead to ask me to provide her divorce settlement? that is impossicant |
Re: Do You Help Your Ex Wife? by onila(f): 1:51am On Mar 22, 2015 |
henribj: his wife knows his assets naa, igbo woman cant dull like that my step mother is igbo my mother gives him all the money, she gets from the job my father gives her enough chopping money already my father is happy, he can finally do business with someone who wldnt cheat him when my father does business with pple, they usually dupe him he has suffered for years my mother started working for my father of recent, for like 4 years now before she was doing nothing but he still took care of her if my mother shld eventually cheat on him, at least the money enter his children hand so its not that bad it stays in my family but I know, she wldnt do that she loves him and will want his business to do well |
Re: Do You Help Your Ex Wife? by cococandy(f): 2:00am On Mar 22, 2015 |
henribj:Not at all. You know how it is. All conjecture no proof. |
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