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This is great

They shouldn't Believe in money cos of love

Telling your man your dirty pasts can also be dangerous. Things such as the number of boy friends you had, how many times you have had abortions etc.

fuuucking evil biitchh...so the woman should not bail the family in times of trouble? go Bleep yourself you useless she-devil.

Seriously? Don't go sourcing for money for the family? This is so sexist.

For love eh?

#Don't depend on his WILL regardless how appealing it looks now, have something going for you, have your own artorney and do your own WILL and Retirement Plan.

Nobody knows tomorrow. Afterall we are all Humans.

Miami11:


What do you mean, going below standards?

Maybe she wanted to say going above standard as in living above your means.

TRUE talk

From ur small mind i guess. this is trash


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Don't f.uck another man to get money for your husband/fiancee. If he finds out,he's gonna dump your sorry ass. My opinion though.

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freecocoa:
Seriously? Don't go sourcing for money for the family? This is so sexist.

I think babyosisi meant well. Thousands of ladies have been put in very compromising situations while trying to source (borrow) funds for the family.. Like she rightly quoted some had to give their bodies... However I think it is more appropriate to say women should be very careful from whom the borrow money. Two years ago I urgently needed some money. Despite being of huge financial help to my mother-inlaw I still could not bring myself to ask her the money.. I felt so shy and definitely had to use my wife. I could also use my wife to get money from my mum with ease.Lol

grandlexuz:


I think babyosisi meant well. Thousands of ladies have been put in very compromising situations while trying to source (borrow) funds for the family.. Like she rightly quoted some had to give their bodies... However I think it is more appropriate to say women should be very careful from whom the borrow money. Two years ago I urgently needed some money. Despite being of huge financial help to my mother-inlaw I still could not bring myself to ask her the money.. I felt so shy and definitely had to use my wife. I could also use my wife to get money from my mum with ease.Lol

Okay but the fact that these things happen doesn't mean women shouldn't try to help if they can.

If a woman decides to give her body, then that's on her, not on the family problems, women have common sense and should use it.

freecocoa:
Okay but the fact that these things happen doesn't mean women shouldn't try to help if they can.

If a woman decides to give her body, then that's on her, not on the family problems, women have common sense and should use it.

Yeah very true.. Every man values and cherishes a woman that helps in times of financial difficulties. Marriage is about two becoming one. What affects the tail, affects the head! That is why I ended my note by narrating how my wife had to borrow on my behalf. I remember 26 years ago when my paternal grand mother died it was my mum who sourced the loan that was used for the funeral arrangements!

P.s. By the way do you need transport fare?..Lol

babyosisi:
Drop out of school to marry
Never never never do that
Marriage is not the zenith of life but the beginning of a new phase.Going in without the ability to provide is not advised.This message is particularly relevant to the ones marrying men overseas,I have seen that happen,the papers come through and you abandon your education to go to Obodo Oyibo.It is a foolish thing to do,many have regretted it.A bird in hand is worth two in the bush.

Bad mouth your family to your fiancé/husband
If you have already done so,don't beat yourself up.Learn from it,marriage sometimes can be like a law court,whatever you say can be used against you when you least expect it.Apply wisdom.even if your parents hate your husband or fiancé with a passion,don't reveal the extent or relay their words verbatim.You may eventually marry him but the man will never forget how they felt about him and the painful things they said.

Share secrets of your friends with your man
There is a code of friendship that cannot be broken.If a friend for instance has confided in you with certain deep secrets that will show her in a bad light,please keep it to yourself,including certain utterances that are unwholesome,don't share.there are some things you must take to your grave.I learned this the hard way.I had a friend that was fond of talking ill of Nigerian men and I shared those stories years ago,my husband remembers it till this day and doesn't like her much for that.

Compare your situation with that of others even in light hearted humor
When you compare your household with that of others,you are basically telling the man he is not man enough.Be content with what you have and strive together towards doing better.Many young marriages go through strain especially financial strains.Be patient and hope and pray for a better tomorrow,the earnings usually increase as the years go by.

[b]Tell your family details of your marital challenges
Very common with young marriages especially for people from a close knit family.Unless your life is in danger,shut your mouth.If you must unburden your heart,find a trusted friend,your pastor's wife,a deaconess in church, a wise auntie,anyone but your mom and siblings.They will never forget the stories you told them and will always view your husband through those prisms long after the issues have been resolved.A third party non relative is preferred.

Go sourcing monetary help for the family
Allow the man to do it.you put yourself in vulnerable positions as a female by going out to beg or borrow money for the family if such need arises.Don't take on the role of a rescuer in the marriage.There are some things you should allow the man take the lead in and this is one of them.
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grandlexuz:


Yeah very true.. Every man values and cherishes a woman that helps in times of financial difficulties. Marriage is about two becoming one. What affects the tail, affects the head! That is why I ended my note by narrating how my wife had to borrow on my behalf. I remember 26 years ago when my paternal grand mother died it was my mum who sourced the loan that was used for the funeral arrangements!

P.s. By the way do you need transport fare?..Lol

You couldn't be more right, I grew up seeing my mum contribute and help raise money for the family when my dad was having financial difficulties, if anything, it made their bond and love wax stronger.

Good woman your mum is, we should be careful what we feed women on here.

Lol, I'm not walking out of your life na.

Ewuro 4 come and explain this post wellu o.

I have never thought of this.

Go sourcing monetary help for the family
Allow the man to do it.you put yourself in vulnerable positions as a female by going out to beg or borrow money for the family if such need arises.Don't take on the role of a rescuer in the marriage.There are some things you should allow the man take the lead in and this is one of them.


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xup there! Sourcing for fund shouldn't be the exclusive reserve of the man. Emergencies, distress and unforseen circumstances plague relationship, marriage and cant be exhonerated. Whoever salvage that is good for both.

braine:
Anyone telling "secrets" a lady or man that is in a serious relationship should know that the partner knows about the "secrets" too. Thats how it works.

lol, its true o

These are not hard and fast rules. The application depends on context

sobmos:
Don't f.uck another man to get money for your husband/fiancee. If he finds out,he's gonna dump your sorry ass. My opinion though.

Very true. This is the extreme part of the last point which a lot of people are disagreeing with. I think a wife should only go borrowing if the husband has tried first and failed. Once you a married lady ask friends or collegues or family members or church members for help,they conclude that your husband is not providing and the gossip that may follow is unthinkable. Talking from experience.

Amuga:
Well said op. I went to see a friend some months ago and there was this lousy lady there discussing about her family down to every detail, how much the husband gives to her, the kind of sex styles her husband enjoy, how he is the one that prepare the soup and she only cook white rice or make eba.
I couldn't help but tell her "hello you are disrespecting your husband.

I'm scared of dating girls that talks a lot, the moment I find out my system shuts down.

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babyosisi:
Drop out of school to marry
Never never never do that
Marriage is not the zenith of life but the beginning of a new phase.Going in without the ability to provide is not advised.This message is particularly relevant to the ones marrying men overseas,I have seen that happen,the papers come through and you abandon your education to go to Obodo Oyibo.It is a foolish thing to do,many have regretted it.A bird in hand is worth two in the bush.

Bad mouth your family to your fiancé/husband
If you have already done so,don't beat yourself up.Learn from it,marriage sometimes can be like a law court,whatever you say can be used against you when you least expect it.Apply wisdom.even if your parents hate your husband or fiancé with a passion,don't reveal the extent or relay their words verbatim.You may eventually marry him but the man will never forget how they felt about him and the painful things they said.

Share secrets of your friends with your man
There is a code of friendship that cannot be broken.If a friend for instance has confided in you with certain deep secrets that will show her in a bad light,please keep it to yourself,including certain utterances that are unwholesome,don't share.there are some things you must take to your grave.I learned this the hard way.I had a friend that was fond of talking ill of Nigerian men and I shared those stories years ago,my husband remembers it till this day and doesn't like her much for that.

Compare your situation with that of others even in light hearted humor
When you compare your household with that of others,you are basically telling the man he is not man enough.Be content with what you have and strive together towards doing better.Many young marriages go through strain especially financial strains.Be patient and hope and pray for a better tomorrow,the earnings usually increase as the years go by.

Tell your family details of your marital challenges
Very common with young marriages especially for people from a close knit family.Unless your life is in danger,shut your mouth.If you must unburden your heart,find a trusted friend,your pastor's wife,a deaconess in church, a wise auntie,anyone but your mom and siblings.They will never forget the stories you told them and will always view your husband through those prisms long after the issues have been resolved.A third party non relative is preferred.

Go sourcing monetary help for the family
Allow the man to do it.you put yourself in vulnerable positions as a female by going out to beg or borrow money for the family if such need arises.Don't take on the role of a rescuer in the marriage.There are some things you should allow the man take the lead in and this is one of them.


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freecocoa:
Seriously? Don't go sourcing for money for the family? This is so sexist.

There were about 7 points on the thread and you choose to focus on one for the purposes of criticism,neglecting the context or the other 6?
You are fasting become an expert in cherry picking
Tsk tsk tsk