BuddhaPalm:


It didn't happen. I won't even talk about it.

Sexual expression is as normal as your urge to feed. And as amoral as breathing.

If he's in his late teens, and doesn't have his own girl(s). I'll teach him how to get girls.

And out of curiosity, what related bible verse could you possibly quote?

Man, I love your wits! I doff my cap for you. But lemme guess you're an aspiring father.

ohaleoghene:




while there are a lot of verses which speak on sexual immorality. getting girls isn't the solution. what happen to abstinence? what about helping such child to build a new interest ?

It depends largely on how old the child is... Remember the 'old' dog, and 'new' tricks.

Lol i will flog that demon out of him befor it destroys him..den i wil take him to see our priest and tell the reverend father to advice him on the dangers of such...den after dat, he wil go for confession and confess it.... Den i wil ask him to open up to me as to what made him to be doin dat.... Wether its pressure, or him bein to shy to talk to girls.. Or wether he has ths crush for reading porn...

Flog him? Wow!
When will this inhuman trend stop in Nigeria? Haba!
Take a look at the global environment, countries that permit flogging, and the ones who don't ...which of the two produces greater youths?
Yet we believe in this crude and dumb tradition!

EfemenaXY:


So many pretentious prudes on here

Pray do tell, @OP, what's wrong with it? Or the "dangers" associated with it? You think telling the child all of the highlighted stuff isn't more than enough to knock down their self-esteem and make them feel abnormal about themselves?

Ignorance kills more than deadly diseases. In response to your question, I as the child, would be more shocked to have you as a parent.

While in the desert, if rain falls for three days consecutively, you should be shocked!
Good things also get us shocked.

Wetin u dey derive frm d topic "self servicing " self? everytime u put it here self servicing, see we do av other things we can av our opinions on like: education, religion, politics, job creation, d different sectors of d economy, n other topics dt one cn learn frm n influence one's perception positively .

Knowing that he hates to see my tears;I would go on my knees before him and cry,hold his hands and talk to him about the dangers.

There are no such dangers as addiction to self servicing and nobody loses interest in the opposite gender due to self servicing.



And it's ok. There is nothing wrong with it.

Wrong sir, self servicing CAN become an addiction and I know this because I know someone who now prefers to self-service than have sex with the opposite sex

There are no such dangers as addiction to self servicing and nobody loses interest in the opposite gender due to self servicing.



And it's ok. There is nothing wrong with it.

Wrong sir, self servicing CAN become an addiction and I know this because I've seen someone who now prefers to self-service than have sex with the opposite sex

ohaleoghene:




me just think the addiction part is worrisome. it might stop the child from developing other interest and will always want to be alone.

u r right. To much of it would make him/her always wanting to b alone.

ottizz:
I will rather have him do it than go outside to impregnate a girl. Nothing wrong with it as long as it does not consume him. I did it, and I am happily married with kids.

Having 13 likes and 4shares isn't enough to justify ur lame thinking bad dad. Dude u r a bad dad to ur children, very lame thinking coming from a supposed father

emmahjosh:
I think the topic is: if u caught ur child not son.so many comment was emphasized on son.

it's so because girls always detach demselves frm diz kind of topics

jany:


you spoke my mind

it's so because girls always detach demselves frm diz kind of topics

BuddhaPalm:


It didn't happen. I won't even talk about it.

Sexual expression is as normal as your urge to feed. And as amoral as breathing.

If he's in his late teens, and doesn't have his own girl(s). I'll teach him how to get girls.

And out of curiosity, what related bible verse could you possibly quote?

And if it's your daughter, and no guy is strafing her yet,
you will love-vendor her out to be strafed, right?

smh

I will react angrily by flogging him or her and later educate him or her on the need to abstain from such act. Also,I have to encourage him or her to fervently study the Bible and pray too. Finally,I won't cease to be praying for his or her deliverance from masturbation.

Female teens don't usually self service at that age.
(93% sure) but this generation is wacky so I'm not a 100% sure.

Anyway, if I see my kid self servicing (*pause to swallow spit) I'll say - Honey, you are doing it wrong! You could hurt yourself! Let me call your father!

I believe it is sinful and in the bible. Masturbation, not pouring inside a woman... name it. God killed a man (Onan) because of it and I have d bible scripture. Genesis 38:8-10

There are no such dangers as addiction to self servicing and nobody loses interest in the opposite gender due to self servicing.



And it's ok. There is nothing wrong with it.

I believe it is sinful and in the bible. self-service, not pouring inside a woman... name it. God killed a man (Onan) because of it and I have d bible scripture. Genesis 38:8-10

BuddhaPalm:


There are no verses, in the bible, that talk about masturbatíon.

And on another note, sexuality is not immoral. Yes, there could be a state of excess - as with anything. So there should be moderation.

Even too much oxygen can kill you. Yes, oxygen.

Society has evolved to maintain order, so preaching abstinence and imposing sexúal restrictions on people is was a way to check kids from popping out babies with reckless abandon. And adults, from not causing too much strife by banging other people's spouses.

For the first reason, we now have something called condoms.

New interest you say? Lol.

Interest is such a weak word, really, to describe one's compulsion. It is called sex drive for a reason.

Here's what the dictionary says drive means: "urge or force (animals or people) to move in a specified direction", "an innate, biologically determined urge to attain a goal or satisfy a need."

Determined urge. Force. Innate.

Your son's sex drive is not a passing fancy. It is a force of nature, like gravity or magnetism, seeking expression. It cannot be wished away.

I believe it is sinful and in the bible. self-service, not pouring inside a woman... name it. God killed a man (Onan) because of it and I have d bible scripture. Genesis 38:8-10. Until biblically proven wrong I won't think otherwise.

jaedee:



I believe it is sinful and in the bible. self-service, not pouring inside a woman... name it. God killed a man (Onan) because of it and I have d bible scripture. Genesis 38:8-10. Until biblically proven wrong I won't think otherwise.

God doesn't kill people.

Don't believe everything you read in the Bible...

andromida:


How does self service affect self esteem?

It seems most pple here, going by their comments see nothing wrong in s.s.
What comes to ur mind before u venture into it. What goes on in ur mind or what do u use as a medium of self servicing? When u are done and go out to the crowd how do u feel, does it affect ur psychology? This are the questions you should seek responds for.. I started self s. Since age 10 and stopped at 29 even when I was married so I can tell u that everything is bad about S.S. Don't be deceived, get ur ward through it before the seed germinates and grow into a destroying agent in his/her life

BuddhaPalm:


God doesn't kill people.

Don't believe everything you read in the Bible...

Hey! Shush b4 u blaspheme n get urself into trouble. U beta read d bible n believe it. And freaking stop decieving christians cos u r a buddist and kindlyy respect my religon as I respect urs please. Maturity is key abeg!!!

I'd be relieved if I catch him. Cause trust me, if he can pull it off without being caught, then he can sell my house and shop at idumota without my knowledge.
P.S I'm a full blown Igbo man, and I'd leave it to my wife to worry about unimportant things like my child masturbatin.
N.B it will be my business if he's 70, still living in my house and masturbatin in a church while receiving the communion.
P.S.S I hope this post annoy the uptight ones who take everything too seriously.

I can't believe that some of you an archaic mentality and outlook. Deploying ignorant and unreasonable parenting methods. Anachronism comes to mind.
I feel sorry for your kids.

SS is normal. It's NATURAL. Nature/God gave us these urges. Having an urge is not a sin. It's as natural as being hungry. Suppressing that urge/drive, usually have adverse effects.

Seriously, who here can honestly say they've NEVER EVERYTHING SS?

jaedee:


I believe it is sinful and in the bible. self-service, not pouring inside a woman... name it. God killed a man (Onan) because of it and I have d bible scripture. Genesis 38:8-10

I bliv wrong scriopture o use. God killed Oman for another reason (evil intention). The real bible entry for this is what Jesus said about looking at a woman lustfully. If this causes masturbation that's sin; else its not. I remember masturbating when I couldn't solve some math problems well b4 15. My problem is has been porn and I'll keep fighting it hoping/praying everytime I have done the last of it. I am 24 and seriously vs sin in any form.

ottizz:
I will rather have him do it than go outside to impregnate a girl. Nothing wrong with it as long as it does not consume him. I did it, and I am happily married with kids.

So you will encourage your Son to work on the path of lust?
#ThinkRight!

seyiade50:



I bliv wrong scriopture o use. God killed Oman for another reason (evil intention). The real bible entry for this is what Jesus said about looking at a woman lustfully. If this causes masturbation that's sin; else its not. I remember masturbating when I couldn't solve some math problems well b4 15. My problem is has been porn and I'll keep fighting it hoping/praying everytime I have done the last of it. I am 24 and seriously vs sin in any form.

The scripture use is not wrong. How can God take His time and create plenty tiny semi-humans(sperm) in you and u waste it and u say its not wrong. I guess u will also say Lev 15-16+ no apply too bah. Smh. P.S I am a lot older than u so that shd count for a lil more knowledge of lifes issues abi... Lol. Bottomline it is a sin.

jaedee:


The scripture use is not wrong. How can God take His time and create plenty tiny semi-humans(sperm) in you and u waste it and u say its not wrong. I guess u will also say Lev 15-16+ no apply too bah. Smh. P.S I am a lot older than u so that shd count for a lil more knowledge of lifes issues abi... Lol. Bottomline it is a sin.

Sir you know more of life I won't argue. But I will disagree with your idea of waste. So ur saying that those morning u wake up and find u urinated some semen overnight will also count as sin against you? Semen is absolutely not human. When you urinate or sweat or stuff like that; surely they contain genes (which, according to you, are also humans unc).

seyiade50:

Sir you know more of life I won't argue. But I will disagree with your idea of waste. So ur saying that those morning u wake up and find u urinated some semen overnight will also count as sin against you? Semen is absolutely not human. When you urinate or sweat or stuff like that; surely they contain genes (which, according to you, are also humans unc).

Plus sir a christian should know that the life of man is not really the body but the spirit. Hahaha if you were to use every sperm developed in your body to make children sire; the world nogo contain dem.

jaedee:


The scripture use is not wrong. How can God take His time and create plenty tiny semi-humans(sperm) in you and u waste it and u say its not wrong. I guess u will also say Lev 15-16+ no apply too bah. Smh. P.S I am a lot older than u so that shd count for a lil more knowledge of lifes issues abi... Lol. Bottomline it is a sin.

Again the leveticus chapters you quoted. I started reading em. I already know they don't apply also even before going far. To start with God has written his law in the heart of man so u know what is sin and what is not. Further if u want to go the way of the isrealites, I don't know if u have sufficient wealth to pay for all the sacrifices for what has now become mundane things for us. What is the greatest commandment? I believe Jesus Christ already answered it in the bible. Maybe you should read more on JESUS sire.

seyiade50:

Sir you know more of life I won't argue. But I will disagree with your idea of waste. So ur saying that those morning u wake up and find u urinated some semen overnight will also count as sin against you? Semen is absolutely not human. When you urinate or sweat or stuff like that; surely they contain genes (which, according to you, are also humans unc).

Ok 1.) I'm a woman 2.) I didn't say genes r human o I said sperm are semi humans. If genes put in eggs could produce a human I'm sure cloning wd hav bn in existece by now. And 3.) Leakage n waastage r 2 very different things. I no wan comment on this post again. Everyone has their own opinion abt where they think the "morality line" shd b drawn n I respect urs but it doesn't change my view. It is a sin dat is up there with abortion murder n so on... That's what I believe.