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Re: When Did We Become So Tolerant Of The Other Woman? by taiwoflb: 4:07pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
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Re: When Did We Become So Tolerant Of The Other Woman? by ebonylady4real(f): 4:10pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
shitshappen: I am a Christian, I believe in the bible as the word of God. And Jesus as the son of God.
I know the problem with our society was the day we accepted the white man's way of life, don't get me wrong. It is not in the blood of an African man to be with one woman. Centuries of practicing polygamy is now having a toll on us. We want to be faithful, we want to show you we love you, and the kids we had together with you. But sometimes we also want to be with the other woman, they complement you. You are not perfect and we know that , that other woman sometimes make your own imperfections easy to bear. Ask me one thing I want to change about christianity, it is that dictate of one man one woman. Now you know why I said I'm a Christian who believe in bible,who believe in christ Jesus. I might be wrong, I might be right. I just know that men are not hot-wired to be with one woman, check the Patriarchs dat makes women not hot-wired to be with one man balance? 7 Likes 1 Share |
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Re: When Did We Become So Tolerant Of The Other Woman? by Nobody: 4:11pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
akinsadeez:
lemme look at this from an African perspective.
Considering the bolded, it seems we now indulge in a form of historical revisionism. What I mean is that during the times of our fathers and grand fathers, the other woman as you have termed it, wasn't actually just 'the other woman', she was the other wife or wives. Back then our fathers not only dated other women, they often married them and the whole house still lived harmoniously. My grandfather for example, had 4 wives and it was the accepted norm then. But now when we look back with our rose tinted glasses, we assume, like you have done that having other women has always been an unacceptable practice which is now being tolerated rather than the opposite.
In fact, I would posit that the so called paradigm shift has actually been the vilification of the 'other woman'. Education and religion has now made us to see a one man one woman marriage as sacrosanct and any woman outside that union as the devilish meddlesome interloper. This was never part of the values our mothers had in the African setting.
See eh, I love people who know their culture. You really hit the nail on the head. This poster is obviously one who watches CNN and MTV and is now talking.. 2 hot orijin for you.. #nolight 8 Likes |
Re: When Did We Become So Tolerant Of The Other Woman? by itops(f): 4:14pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
akinsadeez:
lemme look at this from an African perspective.
Considering the bolded, it seems we now indulge in a form of historical revisionism. What I mean is that during the times of our fathers and grand fathers, the other woman as you have termed it, wasn't actually just 'the other woman', she was the other wife or wives. Back then our fathers not only dated other women, they often married them and the whole house still lived harmoniously. My grandfather for example, had 4 wives and it was the accepted norm then. But now when we look back with our rose tinted glasses, we assume, like you have done that having other women has always been an unacceptable practice which is now being tolerated rather than the opposite.
In fact, I would posit that the so called paradigm shift has actually been the vilification of the 'other woman'. Education and religion has now made us to see a one man one woman marriage as sacrosanct and any woman outside that union as the devilish meddlesome interloper. This was never part of the values our mothers had in the African setting.
some men will always refers to there forefathers due to their unrepentant cheating attitude. AFRICAN SETTING KOR!, AMERICAN SETTING NI !!! abeg, peace out. 3 Likes |
Re: When Did We Become So Tolerant Of The Other Woman? by Precious91(m): 4:15pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
whatever value you place on yourself is what is placed on you 3 Likes |
Re: When Did We Become So Tolerant Of The Other Woman? by Truckpusher(m): 4:15pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
SLIDEwaxie: Question: when did we become so tolerant of the other woman
Answer: since you started fuckin the his money.
You see, there is a general saying among my fiends and I....
If a poor man raises his hands at his wife, she won't allow him bring the hand down on her before she packed her bags and say it's over. Reason? "he wanted to start beating me"
But if a rich man slaps his wife, she will refuse to leave...reason? "I'm staying because if my kids"
Well, we all knw d factor.
I dare tell my gf I'm a cheat, or I cheated even though I do, because she doesn't give a fucck at all. She feeds herself and almost won't even ask for my help. She is working and she is ok.
But most ladies eat from the guy's palm, and they still wanted a total respect? I dnt think it works both ways; u gotta stick to one
Is there any gain in treating your woman like a trash because she eats from your palm? What if it is the other way round , would you feel good about it? 19 Likes 1 Share |
Re: When Did We Become So Tolerant Of The Other Woman? by mmsen: 4:18pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
OP, I think you know why.
Such women are in it for the money - both the wife and the LovePeddler. |
Re: When Did We Become So Tolerant Of The Other Woman? by akinsadeez(m): 4:19pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
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Re: When Did We Become So Tolerant Of The Other Woman? by brownlord: 4:20pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
SLIDEwaxie: Question: when did we become so tolerant of the other woman
Answer: since you started fuckin the his money.
You see, there is a general saying among my fiends and I....
If a poor man raises his hands at his wife, she won't allow him bring the hand down on her before she packed her bags and say it's over. Reason? "he wanted to start beating me"
But if a rich man slaps his wife, she will refuse to leave...reason? "I'm staying because if my kids"
Well, we all knw d factor.
I dare tell my gf I'm a cheat, or I cheated even though I do, because she doesn't give a fucck at all. She feeds herself and almost won't even ask for my help. She is working and she is ok.
But most ladies eat from the guy's palm, and they still wanted a total respect? I dnt think it works both ways; u gotta stick to one
Bar man, sama this guy one Heineken. 2 Likes |
Re: When Did We Become So Tolerant Of The Other Woman? by Juzzybabe(f): 4:20pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
SLIDEwaxie: Question: when did we become so tolerant of the other woman
Answer: since you started fuckin the his money.
You see, there is a general saying among my fiends and I....
If a poor man raises his hands at his wife, she won't allow him bring the hand down on her before she packed her bags and say it's over. Reason? "he wanted to start beating me"
But if a rich man slaps his wife, she will refuse to leave...reason? "I'm staying because if my kids"
Well, we all knw d factor.
I dare tell my gf I'm a cheat, or I cheated even though I do, because she doesn't give a fucck at all. She feeds herself and almost won't even ask for my help. She is working and she is ok.
But most ladies eat from the guy's palm, and they still wanted a total respect? I dnt think it works both ways; u gotta stick to one
Hummm...and you think that is the reason y she won't blink an eye if u cheat U should be worried rather than boastful. When u marry her,u will understand better. 1 Like |
Re: When Did We Become So Tolerant Of The Other Woman? by MizMyColi(f): 4:20pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
SLIDEwaxie:
I dare tell my gf I'm a cheat, or I cheated even though I do, because she doesn't give a fucck at all. She feeds herself and almost won't even ask for my help. She is working and she is ok.
But most ladies eat from the guy's palm, and they still wanted a total respect? I dnt think it works both ways; u gotta stick to one
Waowzest! What a Gf! So because she works and she's okay.....she's become an emotional robocop who can take any form of shiii without giving a fvck Waow Bro Either you just lied, or life has so screwed you both. No offense bro.Excuse me, the fact that you have more to spare, and others (your woman in this case) can benefit from, doesn't give you the right to become a control, ego-maniacal person....who expects nothing but subserviency from their partner. There's nothing that you have that isn't given.
It's not guys I blame though. As long as our ladies see nothing wrong in the act of living through a man, especially financially.... Well, it's a clear case of Gobe. 10 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: When Did We Become So Tolerant Of The Other Woman? by Temmytea70(m): 4:20pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
mollysteeze: Over the years, in what is a total paradigm shift from the values a lot of our mothers had (well at least some), the "other woman" has now become tolerable. I am not sure when along the way it happened, and no one remembered to send me a memo but it appears to now be the norm.
I always have some nagging urge to blatantly say "No babe, it is downright unacceptable", when my friends broach me on this subject, but you end up being the friend who likes to break up homes because she's not married yet. People say if I was in those shoes I would feel differently.
Well Maybe.
However, no matter how much shame I would feel, I knew myself before I got married, my values remain my values, knowing my self-worth is what shapes every corner of my life and that is the core of me. To change now or later would be to deny who I have been for 26 years. While I am never an advocate for divorce, I have realized people do not change overnight.
A year back, my friend's boyfriend told her he was confused who to pick between her and two other girlfriends. Well she fought for "her man". Trouble is today they are married, and he's still seeing one of the other girls, who he has now rented an apartment for in Nigeria, and he's here half the year.
I've realised, the people who complain about there husbands or fiance throwing some other woman in their face mostly had an inkling they were cheats while they were dating. They were the ones who fought of five other girls to get their man. But the question is, if when you were dating there were five of you, why do you think today he would be satisfied with one. I have no doubt in my mind, everyone has an idea of things their partners are capable of in their subconscious, the trouble is a lot of us convince ourselves to believe some other truth that better suits our wants.
My mama has taught me, life is too short to jump into something you can't tolerate all your life, the sole reason for sharing your life with someone and giving up your freedom should be because they make you happier than anyone else in the world. Do not compromise your values or one day you would wish you had not.
But then, on the flip side, if you like smelling some other girls perfume on your man and having your kids run into daddy and "Aunty Bintan, the side chick" at the hotel near their school then go right ahead. Summary pls |
Re: When Did We Become So Tolerant Of The Other Woman? by Cullinane: 4:21pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
The day Nigerian women start adding value to "their" man's life instead of being a source of constant burden, then this will change. And no, giving birth to his children is not enough. 7 Likes |
Re: When Did We Become So Tolerant Of The Other Woman? by akinsadeez(m): 4:23pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
itops:
some men will always refers to there forefathers due to their unrepentant cheating attitude. AFRICAN SETTING KOR!, AMERICAN SETTING NI !!! abeg, peace out. Ma'am, no be fight o. lolz. You can always disagree with me nah, just take it easy. But you know, you have not disputed my point. She implied that during the time of our mothers, there was nothing like side chick which I disagreed with. If you feel I am wrong, give us your own facts to support her point. shikena. 5 Likes |
Re: When Did We Become So Tolerant Of The Other Woman? by alphaconde(m): 4:24pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
OP jUST DE RAKE |
Re: When Did We Become So Tolerant Of The Other Woman? by Nobody: 4:24pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
african women don suffer, chai!... 1 Like |
Re: When Did We Become So Tolerant Of The Other Woman? by brownlord: 4:24pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
Truckpusher: Is there any gain in treating your woman like a trash because she eats from your palm?
What if it is the other way round , would you feel good about it? Pray never to be in this position bro. If she use to set the table for your meal, the moment she start contributing most of the money at home, trust me you start going to the kitchen to get food yourself, gradually she start telling you to boil water before you could say jack, ye don dey wash her clothes. Be wise sir 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: When Did We Become So Tolerant Of The Other Woman? by MizMyColi(f): 4:24pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
akinsadeez:
Hmmmmmm. But being a side chick doesn't mean you r not being celebrated, y'know. We men have the capacity to celebrate multiple women at the same time. We have so much celebration to give. lol Besides the side chick can still graduate into the main chick with a bit of luck. Go give this sermon to some un-emancipated, dull, unrepentantly dumb, I-do-not-know-what-I-want-from-life chic 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: When Did We Become So Tolerant Of The Other Woman? by Nobody: 4:25pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
SLIDEwaxie: Question: when did we become so tolerant of the other woman
Answer: since you started fuckin the his money.
You see, there is a general saying among my fiends and I....
If a poor man raises his hands at his wife, she won't allow him bring the hand down on her before she packed her bags and say it's over. Reason? "he wanted to start beating me"
But if a rich man slaps his wife, she will refuse to leave...reason? "I'm staying because if my kids"
Well, we all knw d factor.
I dare tell my gf I'm a cheat, or I cheated even though I do, because she doesn't give a fucck at all. She feeds herself and almost won't even ask for my help. She is working and she is ok.
But most ladies eat from the guy's palm, and they still wanted a total respect? I dnt think it works both ways; u gotta stick to one
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Re: When Did We Become So Tolerant Of The Other Woman? by Cruxader(m): 4:25pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
Una no get choice nw....female plenty pass male for thz era oo....oko won l'ode oo |
Re: When Did We Become So Tolerant Of The Other Woman? by uzolexis(f): 4:26pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
shitshappen: I am a Christian, I believe in the bible as the word of God. And Jesus as the son of God.
I know the problem with our society was the day we accepted the white man's way of life, don't get me wrong. It is not in the blood of an African man to be with one woman. Centuries of practicing polygamy is now having a toll on us. We want to be faithful, we want to show you we love you, and the kids we had together with you. But sometimes we also want to be with the other woman, they complement you. You are not perfect and we know that , that other woman sometimes make your own imperfections easy to bear. Ask me one thing I want to change about christianity, it is that dictate of one man one woman. Now you know why I said I'm a Christian who believe in bible,who believe in christ Jesus. I might be wrong, I might be right. I just know that men are not hot-wired to be with one woman, check the Patriarchs That's why there is something called making sacrifices 4 ur partner. Do u think women don't like having more than 1 man too or that women r "wired" to be with only one man If u want 2 get married, stick 2 what it entails, 1 man, 1 wife or don't even do it at all, afterall marriage is not compulsory. Whatever is worth doing is worth doing well. 8 Likes |
Re: When Did We Become So Tolerant Of The Other Woman? by Nobody: 4:26pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
SLIDEwaxie: Question: when did we become so tolerant of the other woman
Answer: since you started fuckin the his money.
You see, there is a general saying among my fiends and I....
If a poor man raises his hands at his wife, she won't allow him bring the hand down on her before she packed her bags and say it's over. Reason? "he wanted to start beating me"
But if a rich man slaps his wife, she will refuse to leave...reason? "I'm staying because if my kids"
Well, we all knw d factor.
I dare tell my gf I'm a cheat, or I cheated even though I do, because she doesn't give a fucck at all. She feeds herself and almost won't even ask for my help. She is working and she is ok.
But most ladies eat from the guy's palm, and they still wanted a total respect? I dnt think it works both ways; u gotta stick to one
Do you sincerely believe in this BS There are countless women out there enduring the abuse from their poor husbands. You need to get in touch with your society 5 Likes |
Re: When Did We Become So Tolerant Of The Other Woman? by Nobody: 4:28pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
SLIDEwaxie: Question: when did we become so tolerant of the other woman
Answer: since you started fuckin the his money.
You see, there is a general saying among my fiends and I....
If a poor man raises his hands at his wife, she won't allow him bring the hand down on her before she packed her bags and say it's over. Reason? "he wanted to start beating me"
But if a rich man slaps his wife, she will refuse to leave...reason? "I'm staying because if my kids"
Well, we all knw d factor.
I dare tell my gf I'm a cheat, or I cheated even though I do, because she doesn't give a fucck at all. She feeds herself and almost won't even ask for my help. She is working and she is ok.
But most ladies eat from the guy's palm, and they still wanted a total respect? I dnt think it works both ways; u gotta stick to one
May God bless your life,.......some gals will ask you money 4 everything including satchet water, then how on earth wud you earn my respect, I go jst kip u 4 banging sake 4 Likes |
Re: When Did We Become So Tolerant Of The Other Woman? by Nobody: 4:28pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
akinsadeez:
lemme look at this from an African perspective.
Considering the bolded, it seems we now indulge in a form of historical revisionism. What I mean is that during the times of our fathers and grand fathers, the other woman as you have termed it, wasn't actually just 'the other woman', she was the other wife or wives. Back then our fathers not only dated other women, they often married them and the whole house still lived harmoniously. My grandfather for example, had 4 wives and it was the accepted norm then. But now when we look back with our rose tinted glasses, we assume, like you have done that having other women has always been an unacceptable practice which is now being tolerated rather than the opposite.
In fact, I would posit that the so called paradigm shift has actually been the vilification of the 'other woman'. Education and religion has now made us to see a one man one woman marriage as sacrosanct and any woman outside that union as the devilish meddlesome interloper. This was never part of the values our mothers had in the African setting.
I pity the woman that is going to end up with you 2 Likes |
Re: When Did We Become So Tolerant Of The Other Woman? by jauntty: 4:29pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
Another Side chick thread.
Anyway...this will not change anything. There Shall Always be Main Chics and side Chics. That's how this world works.
One guy's Main chic is Another guy's side Chic.
Most Side Chicz are even more loyal...They know their place, they know the Value they r deriving and are comfortable there. 5 Likes |
Re: When Did We Become So Tolerant Of The Other Woman? by iPopAlomo(m): 4:29pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
The side chick... perfect model for women...
No nagging... no worries... 1 Like |
Re: When Did We Become So Tolerant Of The Other Woman? by ocheejemb: 4:30pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
mollysteeze: Over the years, in what is a total paradigm shift from the values a lot of our mothers had (well at least some), the "other woman" has now become tolerable. I am not sure when along the way it happened, and no one remembered to send me a memo but it appears to now be the norm.
But then, on the flip side, if you like smelling some other girls perfume on your man and having your kids run into daddy and "Aunty Bintan, the side chick" at the hotel near their school then go right ahead. Lol..paradigm shift? trend? LOOOL. No be today my dear girl. |
Re: When Did We Become So Tolerant Of The Other Woman? by Owliver(m): 4:30pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
SLIDEwaxie: Question: when did we become so tolerant of the other woman
Answer: since you started fuckin the his money.
You see, there is a general saying among my fiends and I....
If a poor man raises his hands at his wife, she won't allow him bring the hand down on her before she packed her bags and say it's over. Reason? "he wanted to start beating me"
But if a rich man slaps his wife, she will refuse to leave...reason? "I'm staying because if my kids"
Well, we all knw d factor.
I dare tell my gf I'm a cheat, or I cheated even though I do, because she doesn't give a fucck at all. She feeds herself and almost won't even ask for my help. She is working and she is ok.
But most ladies eat from the guy's palm, and they still wanted a total respect? I dnt think it works both ways; u gotta stick to one
You deserve a planet with your name crested on it. Nice one now see the pic attatched 1 Like |