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Re: How To Be Single And Happy by tameera(f): 9:38am On Mar 27, 2015
stinggy:


Slept all day again today?

Nah....I was busy

preparing for exams and I had assignments to finish..
BTW u don turn me to miss sleep abi :-/
Re: How To Be Single And Happy by stinggy(m): 10:28am On Mar 27, 2015
tameera:


Nah....I was busy

preparing for exams and I had assignments to finish..
BTW u don turn me to miss sleep abi :-/
But you are tongue
Re: How To Be Single And Happy by tameera(f): 1:24pm On Mar 27, 2015
[quote author=stinggy post=32052687]
But you are tongue[/quote

I'm not joor BTW how was your night
Re: How To Be Single And Happy by stinggy(m): 3:28pm On Mar 27, 2015
tameera:
I'm not joor BTW how was your night

Fine, it turned to morning before I could shut my eyes undecided
Which exams are you preparing for?
Re: How To Be Single And Happy by tameera(f): 3:57pm On Mar 27, 2015
stinggy:


Fine, it turned to morning before I could shut my eyes undecided
Which exams are you preparing for?

Actually started.
Re: How To Be Single And Happy by stinggy(m): 4:09pm On Mar 27, 2015
tameera:


Actually started.
All the best dear. You need all the concentration you can get, get off this space and read tongue
Re: How To Be Single And Happy by harrysterol(m): 6:03pm On Mar 27, 2015
Mods don't tell me you all plan to relegate this topic to the bin? You don't want the public to get proper orientation?
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Re: How To Be Single And Happy by Nobody: 6:20pm On Mar 27, 2015
But being single for so long mite b sumhow o......2015 nid a babe[color=#990000][/color]
Re: How To Be Single And Happy by Nobody: 6:22pm On Mar 27, 2015
Im single but not really happy,i really want to be in a relationship but these women though...i dont trust em
Re: How To Be Single And Happy by Boxer007(m): 6:22pm On Mar 27, 2015
harrysterol:
Being single is not anything to be ashamed about in our age!Being single at any age can be challenging in a world that seems to place so much importance on finding the love of your life and becoming a couple. The whole world seems to be geared up to support you in this quest.There is very little support given to those who are consciously choosing to be spend time alone, learning to enjoy their own company and the creativity it sparks. There is always a wrong perception to un-partnered people which looks ridiculous to me,especially since more and more people are realising that the partnerships they formed early in life, have failed to pass the tests of time and they themselves are now living the single life. Here are five tips for making the most of being single.

1. Relax
Your singledom will not last a lifetime. Well, it will if it is meant to but this is a very rare karma. The worst thing you can do is panic and think you have to find someone immediately or your life is over. This air of desperation is by far the most debilitating energy to bring into a new relationship with yourself or with anyone new for that matter. It makes you blind to obvious red flags, signs to wrong choice and puts you in all kinds of compromising situations.
So once again - take a breath. Be happy grin to have been given this special opportunity to get to know yourself grin Look at it this way — if you are uncomfortable spending time alone with yourself, what makes you think anyone else will feel comfortable spending time with you? This can be quite a challenge to someone that has continuously filled up their lives with someone else only to discover that they really don't know or like themselves at all. Having a relationship with yourself is exactly like having a relationship with someone else. You have to be supportive, caring, understanding, and yes, you have to learn to listen and communicate with yourself and your inner guidance. Sometimes the only way to get you to listen to yourself is to force this "time alone" upon you.

2.Give yourself a chance
Being happy alone does not happen overnight especially if you are a recovering codependent. There will be times that you feel like you're invisible, no one will ever love you, you're wasting your life, your life is passing you by... and a whole lot of other negative self talk. The best thing to do is to take yourself for a walk or — even better — on a date. Learn how to cheer yourself up. The better you get at being alone, the better you will be at being in a relationship. For some it is extremely difficult to cater to your own needs. Are you one of these people that will happily cook if someone is over at your place but cook noodles if your alone, or cook fried rice for your girlfriend while you sip garri if alone? Make the effort to cook for yourself. Seriously, this is one of the most self loving things you can do for yourself. Cook yourself something new each week, each day even. You deserve it!

3.Take charge of your reality and give up all that envy
Stop worrying about everyone else around you getting into relationships, and thinking that you need to as well. All those happy couples in movies and TV shows are the fabrications of Hollywood,Nollywood,bollywood and all the "woods" you can think of, writers designed to sell tickets and get high TV ratings. Real couples have messy lives—they fight, leave the bathroom dirty and steal the remote from each other. Give up those unrealistic fantasies of your 'soulmate', and notice how most people around you are just regular folk - good people, but not magical heroes who fix each others' lives. And stop thinking the unimaginable

4.Realize that you are still lucky and fortunate. Many people around the world are either: chronically ill, homeless, living in poverty, starving, fleeing from warfare, and have no personal freedoms due to dictatorships. If you think you are not lucky because you are single, think again!. People in those aforementioned conditions have it harder than you! (However, if you unable to feel happy in spite of recognising your luck, you may need to meet with a counsellor to discuss the possibility that you have clinical depression or a similar illness) I can offer you a counselling if you wish wink
5.Meet new people Not necessarily for romantic reasons, just to expand your support community. If you are consciously attempting to stay out of relationships for a designated time period, you will still need people to share your life with. Friendships are paramount. Where would we be without our friends? Truly alone. No friends? Are you friendly? Do you make an effort to say hello and meet new people? Perhaps you need some help with overcoming shyness. It is always us that separates ourselves from others. Take responsibility for who you are or are not attracting into your life and make the necessary changes to attract some solid friends. No Mr n Mrs tidy alone my guy stinggy knows better

Above all Become an optimist, This is a trait that helps you whether you are single, married, divorced or widowed! Keep a gratitude diary and every night think of 3 things you are grateful for. Find the silver lining in everything throughout your day, and savor little pleasures. You'll live longer, make it through tough times more smoothly, and even avoid the common cold more often!


Being single and Gay is Greater.
Re: How To Be Single And Happy by Boxer007(m): 6:23pm On Mar 27, 2015
Sceintist have created a new pill that makes all men get pregnant thru our annnus. This is so wonderful
Re: How To Be Single And Happy by iiichidodo: 6:23pm On Mar 27, 2015
And you wonder why we enjoy our bachelorhood watching Ophrah Winfrey Show and Top Gear in the nuude?..
Re: How To Be Single And Happy by Nobody: 6:24pm On Mar 27, 2015
During the time of President Obasanjo, Nigerian Artists
sang songs like;
•'Nigeria jaga jaga' by Idris,
•'Food no dey,brother water no dey'by African China,
•'you don hit my car' by Tony Tetula,
•'we go flog politicians koboko,•Dem just dey do us
ojoro' by Oritse Femi, Because there was so much
Hunger and Corruption everywhere,
During GEJ's tenure, Our Artists are singing songs like
•'chop my money' and Testimony byP square,
•show you the money' by Wizkid,
•'Emi Omo Baba Olowo' by Davido,
•'Emi ni baller' by Miss Kedike,
'Limpopo' by Kcee,
•'Bank Alert' by Illbliss,
•'Godwin' by Koredo Bello,
This simply Means that hunger don reduce....
Please Please and Please don't take us back to Egypt
when we are almost at the promise land...
Oga GEJ Surulere while Buhari Pullover,
VOTE FOR CONTINUITY...........
Re: How To Be Single And Happy by ehis05(m): 6:24pm On Mar 27, 2015
cashqueen1:
y do guys like being single....sm peepz see it as loneliness sha


Dats hw most of d guys get numerous girls as girlfriends...y d girls b telling d real single guys am in a relationship...most guys dnt like been single buh its beta dat way...dan having som1 complicate d whole issue...
Re: How To Be Single And Happy by AJOT99(m): 6:25pm On Mar 27, 2015
Nice!
Re: How To Be Single And Happy by Profezzor: 6:28pm On Mar 27, 2015
Good write up
Re: How To Be Single And Happy by Nobody: 6:31pm On Mar 27, 2015
OP, ma heart bleeds for ur soul, go get a lyf o
no one shud be infected by this kinda post... strive to get married!
Re: How To Be Single And Happy by edgyslim: 6:33pm On Mar 27, 2015
harrysterol:
my nigga looking for sincere friends since time immemorial grin

Bros I don laff tire. Free d guy abeg.
Re: How To Be Single And Happy by Bowaley17(m): 6:34pm On Mar 27, 2015
No 5 is true... Kudos OP
Re: How To Be Single And Happy by ijecks(f): 6:42pm On Mar 27, 2015
beautiful
Re: How To Be Single And Happy by harrysterol(m): 6:43pm On Mar 27, 2015
Boxer007:



Being single and Gay is Greater.
gay shocked no be me and you o
Re: How To Be Single And Happy by SuperSuave(m): 6:44pm On Mar 27, 2015
sexylogan:




yup.
Can't you see someone else is agreeing with me that #5 really makes sense?
but how? He posted it at 12:13 and you replied at 12:14 undecided
Re: How To Be Single And Happy by harrysterol(m): 6:45pm On Mar 27, 2015
Profezzor:
Good write up
thanks
Re: How To Be Single And Happy by harrysterol(m): 6:47pm On Mar 27, 2015
vimi:
OP, ma heart bleeds for ur soul, go get a lyf o
no one shud be infected by this kinda post... strive to get married!
am not infecting anybody only making a valid point that relationship is not an ultimate, you can still be happy even when single
Re: How To Be Single And Happy by harrysterol(m): 6:48pm On Mar 27, 2015
ijecks:
beautiful
thanks Dearie

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Re: How To Be Single And Happy by rudebouy: 6:49pm On Mar 27, 2015
Dis is so on-point.
Re: How To Be Single And Happy by Vesselofmercy: 6:52pm On Mar 27, 2015
Time for personal evaluation and appraisal!
Re: How To Be Single And Happy by simdam500(m): 6:54pm On Mar 27, 2015
No romance topic should make fp till Sunday abeg... undecided
Re: How To Be Single And Happy by docconceptscom: 6:57pm On Mar 27, 2015
some people like deceiving their self

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