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Re: How To Be Single And Happy by Boxer007(m): 6:59pm On Mar 27, 2015
harrysterol:
gay shocked no be me and you o


why not hon, I will f*** you good. Are you shy to try it out? It will not hurt
Re: How To Be Single And Happy by driand(m): 7:00pm On Mar 27, 2015
And wer r d bloody feminists? This should console ya after mastubating..
Re: How To Be Single And Happy by harrysterol(m): 7:00pm On Mar 27, 2015
simdam500:
No romance topic should make fp till Sunday abeg... undecided
because election wan hold we go kill ourselves? undecided
Re: How To Be Single And Happy by wman(m): 7:11pm On Mar 27, 2015
I'm single and happy. Don't need this. cool





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Re: How To Be Single And Happy by Nobody: 7:11pm On Mar 27, 2015
Still single
Re: How To Be Single And Happy by simdam500(m): 7:14pm On Mar 27, 2015
harrysterol: because election wan hold we go kill ourselves? undecided

Because election wan hold, if my babe need me tonight. I go ignore her cheesy
Re: How To Be Single And Happy by harrysterol(m): 7:15pm On Mar 27, 2015
simdam500:


Because election wan hold, if my babe need me tonight. I go ignore her cheesy
imagine o cheesy cheesy. U no serious
Re: How To Be Single And Happy by lovely17(m): 7:16pm On Mar 27, 2015
hmmmmmmm Thanks op I have learnt this formula a long time ago
Re: How To Be Single And Happy by Fkforyou(m): 7:34pm On Mar 27, 2015
Nice write up, but sometimes it can very hard to apply these rules when loneliness has overwhelmed you.
PS: Am not single.
Re: How To Be Single And Happy by chiogoezubem(f): 7:38pm On Mar 27, 2015
Yeah, nice advice/points there.
Re: How To Be Single And Happy by Nobody: 7:40pm On Mar 27, 2015
OK undecided
Re: How To Be Single And Happy by stan241(m): 7:42pm On Mar 27, 2015
Its hard at first(that's if the relationship meant something to you), boring afterwards but if you get past the boredom without doing anything stupid, being single can be quite fun cus you living for yourself yea sure it gets lonely sometimes but with the number of pretty cool sesonal movies out there and work, I've learnt to be happy for me...really nice write up op
Re: How To Be Single And Happy by 1miccza: 8:01pm On Mar 27, 2015
Nice one Op thumbs up....
Re: How To Be Single And Happy by juliusocean(m): 8:03pm On Mar 27, 2015
I've been single for 4yrs nw my tecno is my gf believe me it sucks....
Re: How To Be Single And Happy by harrysterol(m): 8:11pm On Mar 27, 2015
aflyingbird:
OK undecided
who the annoy u na angry
Re: How To Be Single And Happy by john4aguero: 9:18pm On Mar 27, 2015
harrysterol:
Being single is not anything to be ashamed about in our age!Being single at any age can be challenging in a world that seems to place so much importance on finding the love of your life and becoming a couple. The whole world seems to be geared up to support you in this quest.There is very little support given to those who are consciously choosing to be spend time alone, learning to enjoy their own company and the creativity it sparks. There is always a wrong perception to un-partnered people which looks ridiculous to me,especially since more and more people are realising that the partnerships they formed early in life, have failed to pass the tests of time and they themselves are now living the single life. Here are five tips for making the most of being single.

1. Relax
Your singledom will not last a lifetime. Well, it will if it is meant to but this is a very rare karma. The worst thing you can do is panic and think you have to find someone immediately or your life is over. This air of desperation is by far the most debilitating energy to bring into a new relationship with yourself or with anyone new for that matter. It makes you blind to obvious red flags, signs to wrong choice and puts you in all kinds of compromising situations.
So once again - take a breath. Be happy grin to have been given this special opportunity to get to know yourself grin Look at it this way — if you are uncomfortable spending time alone with yourself, what makes you think anyone else will feel comfortable spending time with you? This can be quite a challenge to someone that has continuously filled up their lives with someone else only to discover that they really don't know or like themselves at all. Having a relationship with yourself is exactly like having a relationship with someone else. You have to be supportive, caring, understanding, and yes, you have to learn to listen and communicate with yourself and your inner guidance. Sometimes the only way to get you to listen to yourself is to force this "time alone" upon you.

2.Give yourself a chance
Being happy alone does not happen overnight especially if you are a recovering codependent. There will be times that you feel like you're invisible, no one will ever love you, you're wasting your life, your life is passing you by... and a whole lot of other negative self talk. The best thing to do is to take yourself for a walk or — even better — on a date. Learn how to cheer yourself up. The better you get at being alone, the better you will be at being in a relationship. For some it is extremely difficult to cater to your own needs. Are you one of these people that will happily cook if someone is over at your place but cook noodles if your alone, or cook fried rice for your girlfriend while you sip garri if alone? Make the effort to cook for yourself. Seriously, this is one of the most self loving things you can do for yourself. Cook yourself something new each week, each day even. You deserve it!

3.Take charge of your reality and give up all that envy
Stop worrying about everyone else around you getting into relationships, and thinking that you need to as well. All those happy couples in movies and TV shows are the fabrications of Hollywood,Nollywood,bollywood and all the "woods" you can think of, writers designed to sell tickets and get high TV ratings. Real couples have messy lives—they fight, leave the bathroom dirty and steal the remote from each other. Give up those unrealistic fantasies of your 'soulmate', and notice how most people around you are just regular folk - good people, but not magical heroes who fix each others' lives. And stop thinking the unimaginable

4.Realize that you are still lucky and fortunate. Many people around the world are either: chronically ill, homeless, living in poverty, starving, fleeing from warfare, and have no personal freedoms due to dictatorships. If you think you are not lucky because you are single, think again!. People in those aforementioned conditions have it harder than you! (However, if you unable to feel happy in spite of recognising your luck, you may need to meet with a counsellor to discuss the possibility that you have clinical depression or a similar illness) I can offer you a counselling if you wish wink
5.Meet new people Not necessarily for romantic reasons, just to expand your support community. If you are consciously attempting to stay out of relationships for a designated time period, you will still need people to share your life with. Friendships are paramount. Where would we be without our friends? Truly alone. No friends? Are you friendly? Do you make an effort to say hello and meet new people? Perhaps you need some help with overcoming shyness. It is always us that separates ourselves from others. Take responsibility for who you are or are not attracting into your life and make the necessary changes to attract some solid friends. No Mr n Mrs tidy alone my guy stinggy knows better

Above all Become an optimist, This is a trait that helps you whether you are single, married, divorced or widowed! Keep a gratitude diary and every night think of 3 things you are grateful for. Find the silver lining in everything throughout your day, and savor little pleasures. You'll live longer, make it through tough times more smoothly, and even avoid the common cold more often!

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Re: How To Be Single And Happy by Kingsasian(m): 9:41pm On Mar 27, 2015
Wow! Op u are very very right. I am currently observing the points listed especially 1,2,3&4 but 1 & 2 especially. I can't remember the last time I felt lonely because I am surrounded with new friends especially the female folks.
Re: How To Be Single And Happy by Eniqurl(f): 10:09pm On Mar 27, 2015
OKAY
Re: How To Be Single And Happy by simdam500(m): 10:14pm On Mar 27, 2015
harrysterol: imagine o cheesy cheesy. U no serious

cheesy cheesy Fact bro.

Never doubt a nigga undecided
Re: How To Be Single And Happy by harrysterol(m): 10:21pm On Mar 27, 2015
Kingsasian:
Wow! Op u are very very right. I am currently observing the points listed especially 1,2,3&4 but 1 & 2 especially. I can't remember the last time I felt lonely because I am surrounded with new friends especially the female folks.
u welcome
Re: How To Be Single And Happy by harrysterol(m): 10:21pm On Mar 27, 2015
john4aguero:


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how many bottles grin
Re: How To Be Single And Happy by john4aguero: 10:25pm On Mar 27, 2015
harrysterol:
how many bottles grin
5 will be okay for a start. grin grin
Re: How To Be Single And Happy by Jhappy(f): 10:38pm On Mar 27, 2015
U made my day! Tank u so much 4 d wonderful post.
Re: How To Be Single And Happy by professore(m): 11:51pm On Mar 27, 2015
You tried
Re: How To Be Single And Happy by ejirostephen(m): 6:40am On Mar 28, 2015
Being in a relatnship for more dan 4y d years. Do all d thinkin, shopping, stress and everythn for her... den suddenly d mum started persuading her negatvely against me due to tribe. As smart as she is she had to fal for her mum rada dan fallin for me.. I let go of her and evrytn abt her.. dnt wan bad memories deleted her fbuk, LinkedIn, watsapp, viber etc. For d first time in 4yrs my bank acct nw hld a million plus, I can spnd woreva I want to spnd, be wer eva I feel lyk wtout stress. Relatnships are gud very gud but mhen! For ppl lyk me, d pluses off being single far outweighs d minuses. One day am gonna get married dough but dt doesnt change d fact dt marriage remains *A necessary evil* tnx for d piece man, I agree wt al d points. Hapy voters day.
Re: How To Be Single And Happy by harrysterol(m): 6:47am On Mar 28, 2015
Jhappy:
U made my day! Tank u so much 4 d wonderful post.
ur welcome
Re: How To Be Single And Happy by harrysterol(m): 6:49am On Mar 28, 2015
ejirostephen:
Being in a relatnship for more dan 4y d years. Do all d thinkin, shopping, stress and everythn for her... den suddenly d mum started persuading her negatvely against me due to tribe. As smart as she is she had to fal for her mum rada dan fallin for me.. I let go of her and evrytn abt her.. dnt wan bad memories deleted her fbuk, LinkedIn, watsapp, viber etc. For d first time in 4yrs my bank acct nw hld a million plus, I can spnd woreva I want to spnd, be wer eva I feel lyk wtout stress. Relatnships are gud very gud but mhen! For ppl lyk me, d pluses off being single far outweighs d minuses. One day am gonna get married dough but dt doesnt change d fact dt marriage remains *A necessary evil* tnx for d piece man, I agree wt al d points. Hapy voters day.
I like this phrase
Re: How To Be Single And Happy by MacMaster01(m): 7:55am On Mar 28, 2015
nanauju:
Being single is that time u need to fall in love with yourself. U definitely won't break ur own heart...talking from my own experience
sounds true but also sad cry
Re: How To Be Single And Happy by Guidette(f): 5:45pm On Mar 28, 2015
@harrysterol thanks for this post. Some thing I needed.
Re: How To Be Single And Happy by harrysterol(m): 6:18pm On Mar 28, 2015
Guidette:
@harrysterol thanks for this post. Some thing I needed.
your welcome, am happy you got something useful from the. Post

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